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Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by cr7lomo: 11:59pm On Jan 28, 2020
IcraveLove:


I won't be sorry if it happens, he deserves it.

Really...but if it's the woman that cheated , she does not deserve to b killed shey ??

Women and double standards sha

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Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by younglleo: 12:00am On Jan 29, 2020
Youngkingjaey1:
This story long o

But the story sweet sha

Tell her the truth and if she did not forgive you
Run away for your life.
Mk your case no be like mayram

But free Toto dey sweet
Chai #100 will have save you from this mess you put yourself into


Jst 2 Andrew's grin grin grin
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by daewoorazer(m): 12:00am On Jan 29, 2020
Jeffmonti:
My concern is



You see, every disappointment is a blessing and vice versa....

Your number one problem which obviously you’re blind to is that you see your legit gf as a saint, like she’s the best and you’ll never find someone else like her....what if she’ll make your life a living hell after marriage? Also she could be the one to make you a wealthy and successful man....it goes both ways

My advice is tell her bluntly and give her space to think about it...give her 2 months. If she wants to continue after that, she should let you know..but make sure you tell her that if she’s willing to continue with you, she must sign a treaty that she won’t use this unfortunate event against you now nor in the future...

If she disagrees to continue with you, do DNA and pay child support while you look for another girl to marry...


One love bro

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Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by SpartanKing: 12:01am On Jan 29, 2020
Unrated900:



My brother Lola was rude cos the guy says took off the pregnancy
At first lola wasn’t rude naaa
No woman will take the works please terminate he pregnancy and still
Laughs at you
Think am
Naa bro
You're right! But, a humble person is always humble, even at the point of death!
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by Isoduwa(m): 12:01am On Jan 29, 2020
That's your personal problem my guy

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Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by luminouz(m): 12:02am On Jan 29, 2020
iammiracle1:


Why shut him up? He speaks the truth sometimes we play games with our destiny and it shouldn't be so, OP obviously has a bright future by hooking up with a vindictive girl like Lola who doesn't even know what she wants how do you think his life would be? Can you live comfortable knowing you have a kid somewhere you ain't been a father too? What if if Lola pushes it up a notch by been a pest, stalking and disgracing him all around? How many young, vibrant girls want to marry a man with a kid (not a celebrity)? Its rare, same thing happened to my snr coz all the young girls he hooked up with only ate his cash and ran, he ended up with an older woman who in turn maltreated and demeaned his first child, today he is in pains if only he made better choices...

How hard can it be for him to disappear na?

You keep talking as if he is the only one to blame? The girl knew the consequences yet she went ahead, for someone with wealthy folks like that,she is asking for 150k to abort? Did u notice how she stepped down when he was stubborn? She knew he was weak minded that was why she was manipulating his ass by threatening him,even after collecting his 100k?

Why are you folks not opening ya eyes to see?

If he had damned her and her shiit, she would have stopped disturbing him.

My advice?

I dont even think she is fuqin pregnant!!!! Let her bear the audio child first naaaaa.
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by samisj4real(m): 12:03am On Jan 29, 2020
OP, Allow her born the pikin fess.

After that go meet her pastor explain every to am, make e be say na her pastor call her break the news & tell the pastor to help you plead.

That's if you're a CHRISTAIN though.
Many good women tend to have great respect for their pastors.
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by luminouz(m): 12:03am On Jan 29, 2020
Amdoyin:
You definitely don't want to lose your girlfriend. Is it? Are you sure the side chick is pregnant?? Have you taken her to the hospital on your own to confirm if she is trully pregnant . I guess there is no pregancy anywhere, she only wanted to milk you dry since she knew you are financially buoyant. How on earth will she demand 150k to terminate a pregnancy and the fact you sent 100k and some forces still spring up called for concern. Tell your girlfrd the whole scenario and ask for her forgiveness, if she loves u, she will sure 4give you and help fight the fight. Calm down and tell the lady to go give birth. Call her bluff... You will never hear anything from her again. Note: your girlfrd might gaga with you when she's informed of the mess, if she does, stick to your decision with the belle lady. You need peace of mind jare...


Somebody with sense!!!
Thank you for using ur logical reasoning faculties bro.

Everyone just dey use emotions dictate shiit!!! undecided
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by splendour7(m): 12:03am On Jan 29, 2020
seems you have already gotten enough advice...let me just save mine for another post mbok..

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Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by daewoorazer(m): 12:05am On Jan 29, 2020
luminouz:


How hard can it be for him to disappear na?

You keep talking as if he is the only one to blame? The girl knew the consequences yet she went ahead, for


Calm down babanla grin

Na the main gf get wealthy folks
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by luminouz(m): 12:05am On Jan 29, 2020
Hostingserver:




OP, first I would want to know if you are genuinely sorry for your actions,or you down because kasala wan bust.
Alright fine,let's agree you bleeped up real good.
If you want to commit more mistakes please don't make the mistake of not telling your woman.
She is your woman for God sake, tell her.
Yes U seriously need to let her know.
You have messed up big way already, you will only be making matters worse by keeping it away from her because she would definitely find out someday and the heartbreak will not just be about you impregnating another girl but that you could keep such away from her.
Trust me,she will not kill you nor leave you and even if she leaves you, just move on,real women hold on especially when the man is genuinely sorry.

And please if you want to tell her, don't be alone with her o,we don't want to read of another beautiful lady sentence to great beyond.

Another bla bla bla!!!

Always emotional,never logical.
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by SpartanKing: 12:05am On Jan 29, 2020
IcraveLove:
Please break up with your girlfriend and focus on your baby mama.
The RUDE baby mama?
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by luminouz(m): 12:06am On Jan 29, 2020
daewoorazer:



Calm down babanla grin

Na the main gf get wealthy folks


I get u babanla

The side chick get sister for Canada na(from the story)

All na big mudafucking bobo to milk the guy!!!

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Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by holysaint1(m): 12:09am On Jan 29, 2020
Champneys:


Ok.

This is wickedness at its peak. cry
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by samisj4real(m): 12:10am On Jan 29, 2020
If you choose not to tell your girlfriend before marriage as some has adviced, my brother it'll later end in bigger tears.

Shay you see The lady sentenced to death by hanging yesterday.

Learn from that story.

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Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by daewoorazer(m): 12:11am On Jan 29, 2020
luminouz:



I get u babanla

The side chick get sister for Canada na(from the story)

All na big mudafucking bobo to milk the guy!!!


Yea right, if na me, na me go look for doctor wey go do the procedure sef as per street level...
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by Enemyofpeace: 12:14am On Jan 29, 2020
chigoizie7:
When I have the strength, I will come back to advice you.

Meanwhile let me discharge this girl that came over, I no Bleep again. Your story touch me. Few minutes of ecstasy with lifetime regrets and guilts. I no get babe ooh.
especially with that your babe wey her body odour na follow come
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by LTRAVIS(m): 12:14am On Jan 29, 2020
You shouldn't have given her a dime, she won't remove it, she's scared that she might not get pregnant again.....ive seen this thing before, shell say she won't call but will end up calling you, you for just leave her, pack out and go somewhere else change ur sim, she would have removed it, if she saw that there was no way to contact you
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by luminouz(m): 12:16am On Jan 29, 2020
daewoorazer:



Yea right, if na me, na me go look for doctor wey go do the procedure sef as per street level...

That's why I'm saying he made a serious mistake. He didn't see the pregnancy results and when she agreed to collect 100k(after billing him 150k o), she was just threatening upandan. Street niggas would damn her and her tantrums. Notice how she came back to beg when he ignored her? She agreed to go and guyman no follow her to the clinic. He was busy signing NDA upandan. Where Dafuq is he going? Nigerian Defence Academy or what? He should have followed her to finish the job.

Now the girl has him by the balls and he is scared. I understand him sha.

I still dont believe that she is pregnant. For a girl whose people already agreed to take care of the baby and all,they seem pretty intent on fuqin his life up. Canada Aunty even had to call him herself to deliver the coup de grace.

Nawa o

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Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by Nobody: 12:16am On Jan 29, 2020
Don't tell your girlfriend anything until you confirm the baby yours...
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by Qadaffi2idiamin: 12:16am On Jan 29, 2020
Mheen u bleep..

But see.. Have it in mind you have your child I mean your own blood somewhere... Do anything to be part of your child's life even if secretly until about a certain age you have firm control over your woman..

Go buy that fridge sealotape grin use am seal your mouth.. Don't tell your woman anything and be careful on social media when you give publicity to your wedding...

Some things are better kept secret undecided
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by kingoviehenry(m): 12:23am On Jan 29, 2020
It's unfortunate, anyway never disclose anything to your girl. I would advise you to change location and all your social contacts. Then carry on with your fiancee. What will be will be.
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by stEmmy96(m): 12:23am On Jan 29, 2020
how are you sure there's a pregnancy I'm the first instance? because it seems the girl is only interested in getting money from you than having a baby. I'll advice you drive her down to the hospital yourself and conduct test to be sure because all might be plot to blackmail and exhort you... if it's true, wait for the baby to be born and conduct DNA, if it's yours, you can then inform your woman... free things are mostly poisons.

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Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by ahaika23: 12:25am On Jan 29, 2020
What works for one isn’t guaranteed to work for another. In situations like this, you hit the fuckit button and when the dust settles you will be fine again. Just do whatever your mind tells you to do! Peace man!
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by fynn12(f): 12:26am On Jan 29, 2020
Alaye change location move out from that apartment into another one in another state and live your cool life with the nurse

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Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by LTRAVIS(m): 12:26am On Jan 29, 2020
luminouz:


That's why I'm saying he made a serious mistake. He didn't see the pregnancy results and when she agreed to collect 100k(after billing him 150k o), she was just threatening upandan. Street niggas would damn her and her tantrums. Notice how she came back to beg when he ignored her? She agreed to go and guyman no follow her to the clinic. He was busy signing NDA upandan. Where Dafuq is he going? Nigerian Defence Academy or what? He should have followed her to finish the job.

Now the girl has him by the balls and he is scared. I understand him sha.

I still dont believe that she is pregnant. For a girl whose people already agreed to take care of the baby and all,they seem pretty intent on fuqin his life up. Canada Aunty even had to call him herself to deliver the coup de grace.

Nawa o

The guy mumu, he even said she has a bf, so the bf nor dae Bleep her, she's 27 since she didn't get pregnant and kept it, it's now she want to keep it...something is fishy...

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Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by ibietela2(m): 12:28am On Jan 29, 2020
Jeffmonti:
About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help!

This might turn out to be a lengthy read, please bear with me. The bashing and insults will be unnecessary as i have already told myself hurtful things a thousand times over.

So i am 29 and have a girlfriend who’s 25 we are both graduates; she’s a nurse and i am a practicing engineer and we’ve been dating for 3+ years now and preparations are underway to tie the knot this year God willing. Something happened last year, she suggested i move to a bigger apartment so that we can start buying household items and everything necessary to start a home as we are looking to get married soon which we did; i got a bigger place, met her parents she met mine. In a nutshell everything seems to be going well, we even started a business together and set to take on the future together before the devil struck (i take blames for my actions as i am not overly religious)

Around June last year, i met a girl (very fine girl) in the new area i moved to, although i have been seeing the girl around but one day as i was driving in i saw her hiding somewhere close to my compound avoiding the rain with her friends so i took them in until the rain subsided we exchanged contacts and started texting on WhatsApp a few days later. And soon after we started having sex (protected sex), prior to that time i never cheated on my girlfriend.

The sex continued, up to 2 times a week sometimes 3 as it was relatively easy as she lived very close and my girlfriend only visits on the weekend and never sleeps out (she’s from a very good and wealthy family with proper moral upbringing). Most evenings when return from work conji just do me one kind i don cross street other times she calls until we became comfortable having unprotected sex

So late October 2019, the new girl (I’ll call her Lola) texted me that’s she’s not feeling too well and i asked her to visit the hospital to run a test to know what to treat. She came back with a pregnancy test result proving she’s already 3 weeks pregnant, i was sure it was mine but i didn’t panic as she had a bf and i have my gf we were just for the sex at least that’s what we told each other.

So i asked her to remove the pregnancy, but got the shocker when she said she’s never going to remove the pregnancy that she’s 27 and have no desire to marry me or stay with me but she’s going to have the child. Omo my heart flipped. I begged her for like 3 weeks until she got mad and stopped taking my calls, she even moved away from her apartment. So i texted her and arranged a meeting, we sat down and discussed at length but she was still bent on keeping it, i got furious and told her i am not ready to be part of the child’s life if she’s going through with it as i see no reason why she wants to have my child when she knows we are NEVER going to be together, that was when she said she had already told her family that i am not interested in the child and they support her to keep it and let the child bear their family name. I discussed the matter with two friends a boy and a girl and the asked me to let her have the child first.

One month passed fast forward to early December, Lola called 6 times i was so shocked. I couldn’t take her calls. She texted that she’s ready to terminate the pregnancy since i am wicked and unconcerned she rained all manner of derogatory words but i was only concern with her decision to let go. I called and we agreed to meet the following day, I skipped work that day and met with her and her elder sister and elder sister’s friend. The sister and her friend were so mean but i was unmoved; i don already fuckup and ready to take anything to let it all go away because the knowledge of things will destroy my girlfriend.

So Lola entered my vehicle and we drove out, on our way to the hospital for her to terminate the pregnancy plus treatment she’ll take afterwards and for the damages i have caused her. She’s going to need 150k from me, i was furious and told her i don’t have that kind of money talk less of handing it over to her for something like this (i sure don’t know what i cost but i know it’s not up to 50k). She said if i don’t give her what she want she’s going to have the baby and that i should be thankful that she’s coming up with this that if she had listen to her friends advices she would have moved to my house with all sort of troubles (she was right) but i didn’t give in just yet. I dropped her off and ask her to have the child that am not going to give her the money as i don’t have it (I get the money sha).

So two days passed, she called again and after many arguments we agreed at 100k, made her to sign a NDA not to bother me again and all, I transferred her the 100k that night, she confirmed receipt and promised to go with it the following morning and that was the last I have heard or seen or her since then, until 3 weeks ago when another of her sister called from Canada and was asking if i am Me, that she’s been seeking my contact for a while now that Lola friend had to steal the number Lola’s phone and pass it to her as Lola has been hiding my phone number from the rest of the family and she doesn’t know the arrangement i have had with her but i should know that she’s having the child, she just thought i should know that i have a child somewhere when the baby eventually drops.

Knowing fully well that i am a shitty person to have done something terrible to myself and my girlfriend and all our future plans because of cheap sex, but I’ll be a more terribly bad person to have knowledge of a child somewhere and not be in his/her life. I called Lola but she didn’t take i texted her about her sisters call she called back to know who called and was furious, she ended the call (I guess to call her sister back) and called back again in about 20mins and asked me not to ever call her line again. I replied her text she should tell her family not call me as well. I have dodged to her apartment building a coupe times but she’s not been around for weeks as i was made to believe.

So i bought a ring to engage my girl few weeks ago but had to hold first to see how things play out, i can’t go ahead and marry my girlfriend with this kind of secret untold; that will be wickedness from the pit of hell and i still don’t know how to break it to her, it will destroy her.

I jokingly painted a similar scenery to my girlfriend; her response was: she will not marry me because if she does she will kill me in my sleep. That everybody is expecting us to get married this year, she now have high respect from her family because of me and this kind of thing happens both of us will die. Omo fear catch me.

Fellow Nairalanders, this is my predicament please advice a stupid brother. Insults are welcome as I hope to pick a thing or two from your comments. MODs please push this up biko.

How can you be doing just SEX and you didn't do condom or withdrawal method?

Just let your babe know about Maryam who will die by hanging.

I would suggest that you don't allow your babe know until after the marriage.

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Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by ibietela2(m): 12:29am On Jan 29, 2020
superfitsez:
abeg guys,stop lamenting....focus on yourself,. make money, forget about ladies now,

Did he tell you he doesn't have money? This is how you push people into MAKE MONEY QUICK QUICK
Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by KunSegzy100(m): 12:29am On Jan 29, 2020
Jeffmonti:
About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help!

This might turn out to be a lengthy read, please bear with me. The bashing and insults will be unnecessary as i have already told myself hurtful things a thousand times over.

So i am 29 and have a girlfriend who’s 25 we are both graduates; she’s a nurse and i am a practicing engineer and we’ve been dating for 3+ years now and preparations are underway to tie the knot this year God willing. Something happened last year, she suggested i move to a bigger apartment so that we can start buying household items and everything necessary to start a home as we are looking to get married soon which we did; i got a bigger place, met her parents she met mine. In a nutshell everything seems to be going well, we even started a business together and set to take on the future together before the devil struck (i take blames for my actions as i am not overly religious)

Around June last year, i met a girl (very fine girl) in the new area i moved to, although i have been seeing the girl around but one day as i was driving in i saw her hiding somewhere close to my compound avoiding the rain with her friends so i took them in until the rain subsided we exchanged contacts and started texting on WhatsApp a few days later. And soon after we started having sex (protected sex), prior to that time i never cheated on my girlfriend.

The sex continued, up to 2 times a week sometimes 3 as it was relatively easy as she lived very close and my girlfriend only visits on the weekend and never sleeps out (she’s from a very good and wealthy family with proper moral upbringing). Most evenings when return from work conji just do me one kind i don cross street other times she calls until we became comfortable having unprotected sex

So late October 2019, the new girl (I’ll call her Lola) texted me that’s she’s not feeling too well and i asked her to visit the hospital to run a test to know what to treat. She came back with a pregnancy test result proving she’s already 3 weeks pregnant, i was sure it was mine but i didn’t panic as she had a bf and i have my gf we were just for the sex at least that’s what we told each other.

So i asked her to remove the pregnancy, but got the shocker when she said she’s never going to remove the pregnancy that she’s 27 and have no desire to marry me or stay with me but she’s going to have the child. Omo my heart flipped. I begged her for like 3 weeks until she got mad and stopped taking my calls, she even moved away from her apartment. So i texted her and arranged a meeting, we sat down and discussed at length but she was still bent on keeping it, i got furious and told her i am not ready to be part of the child’s life if she’s going through with it as i see no reason why she wants to have my child when she knows we are NEVER going to be together, that was when she said she had already told her family that i am not interested in the child and they support her to keep it and let the child bear their family name. I discussed the matter with two friends a boy and a girl and the asked me to let her have the child first.

One month passed fast forward to early December, Lola called 6 times i was so shocked. I couldn’t take her calls. She texted that she’s ready to terminate the pregnancy since i am wicked and unconcerned she rained all manner of derogatory words but i was only concern with her decision to let go. I called and we agreed to meet the following day, I skipped work that day and met with her and her elder sister and elder sister’s friend. The sister and her friend were so mean but i was unmoved; i don already fuckup and ready to take anything to let it all go away because the knowledge of things will destroy my girlfriend.

So Lola entered my vehicle and we drove out, on our way to the hospital for her to terminate the pregnancy plus treatment she’ll take afterwards and for the damages i have caused her. She’s going to need 150k from me, i was furious and told her i don’t have that kind of money talk less of handing it over to her for something like this (i sure don’t know what i cost but i know it’s not up to 50k). She said if i don’t give her what she want she’s going to have the baby and that i should be thankful that she’s coming up with this that if she had listen to her friends advices she would have moved to my house with all sort of troubles (she was right) but i didn’t give in just yet. I dropped her off and ask her to have the child that am not going to give her the money as i don’t have it (I get the money sha).

So two days passed, she called again and after many arguments we agreed at 100k, made her to sign a NDA not to bother me again and all, I transferred her the 100k that night, she confirmed receipt and promised to go with it the following morning and that was the last I have heard or seen or her since then, until 3 weeks ago when another of her sister called from Canada and was asking if i am Me, that she’s been seeking my contact for a while now that Lola friend had to steal the number Lola’s phone and pass it to her as Lola has been hiding my phone number from the rest of the family and she doesn’t know the arrangement i have had with her but i should know that she’s having the child, she just thought i should know that i have a child somewhere when the baby eventually drops.

Knowing fully well that i am a shitty person to have done something terrible to myself and my girlfriend and all our future plans because of cheap sex, but I’ll be a more terribly bad person to have knowledge of a child somewhere and not be in his/her life. I called Lola but she didn’t take i texted her about her sisters call she called back to know who called and was furious, she ended the call (I guess to call her sister back) and called back again in about 20mins and asked me not to ever call her line again. I replied her text she should tell her family not call me as well. I have dodged to her apartment building a coupe times but she’s not been around for weeks as i was made to believe.

So i bought a ring to engage my girl few weeks ago but had to hold first to see how things play out, i can’t go ahead and marry my girlfriend with this kind of secret untold; that will be wickedness from the pit of hell and i still don’t know how to break it to her, it will destroy her.

I jokingly painted a similar scenery to my girlfriend; her response was: she will not marry me because if she does she will kill me in my sleep. That everybody is expecting us to get married this year, she now have high respect from her family because of me and this kind of thing happens both of us will die. Omo fear catch me.

Fellow Nairalanders, this is my predicament please advice a stupid brother. Insults are welcome as I hope to pick a thing or two from your comments. MODs please push this up biko.
Bro you just have to tell her now, if she learns about it later it is going to be disastrous

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Re: About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help! by ibietela2(m): 12:33am On Jan 29, 2020
Jeffmonti:
My concern is what my girlfriend will do to herself, if she leaves I’ll have my self to blame and move on. if i have my way i will pay child support to for the child when he/she come out after a DNA test of course. But I’ll never marry a desperate woman. I was thinking of calling Lola on another phone and set up a meeting to let her i know I’ll pay child support. But not sure if i should wait for the child to be born first or just do it today. I have been really restless for many weeks.

Brothers learn from my demise abeg


Tell her the truth... If your babe was this sweet why were you fucking someone else

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