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Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by TonyeBarcanista(m): 5:45pm On Jan 29, 2020
By Tonyebarcanista

Most people falsely misconstrue Alpha males to be irresponsible men filled with arrogance and are disrespectful towards women. They misconstrue Alpha males with with cocky males.

Many also misconstrue guys that are body builders with nice physique to be alpha males. Some misconstrue wealthy and fierce looking men as alpha males. Some even misconstrue womanizers, famous or people of high status to be alpha males. While some alpha males may belong to the aforementioned groups, not all those groups are alpha males.

Who Is An Alpha Male?
An Alpha male is the real man. He is a man's man and a warrior. He is very confident and a stand-up guy. Irrespective of what you call him, he is a leader. He is the guy others look up to for motivation, inspiration, and often with a hint of jealousy. He is a man that knows what he wants, confident of himself and can't be tossed around. The alpha male knows his power as a man and doesn't use it as tool for oppression. He can't be manipulated by women, and this makes him attracted to women. He's the kind of man every woman want. The Alpha male is mentally and emotionally strong but kind. He is very Confident, yet humble, he assertive, yet gentle at times. He is very powerful, yet calm and tempered. He has self worth yet doesn't proud! He is the kind of man every man should be. He is the kind of man that every woman crave for and hold in high esteem.

Who Is A Beta Male?
Beta males are men that always seek to fit in. They are the typical human pleasers with little or no opinion. Beta males in relationship and marriages are the typical Mr Nice Guys that always bury their thought, desire and want so as not to offend their partners. They are typical followers that always seek to blend with the society. They are not stand alone guys as they are easily manipulated. Because of these traits, Beta males are often disrespected and controlled by their partners, the society, their church, families etcetera.

ALPHA MALES VS BETA MALES

1. In Relationship

Alpha males go for who and what they want, and are men with standards. When their partners err, they are not afraid to speak their mind, address the problem and speak up when the boundaries they set are crossed. They inform their partners on the effect of their ill informed, they tell their partners the consequences on the relationship and take action to ensure that the partner falls in line. Alpha males don't seek conflicts but are not afraid to tackle conflict head on. They are active and not passive

But Beta males don't have any standard nor boundaries that they hold sacred. They would rather endure and die in silence when their partners err because they are afraid of causing conflict in their relationship. The ones that speak up do so in form of a plea or nag. They are passive men that live with burden in their heart in their bid to maintain peace that they never get.

2. Gentlemen Vs Mr Nice Guys
Alpha males are polite, nice to others, respectful but respects themselves and aren't doormat; Alpha male will never allow anyone treat him like second fiddle no matter what. An Alpha male priories his own well-being, irrespective, he genuinely care about the needs of the people in his life and want the best for others. He does this not do this for validation, to gain attention or to be praised by people around him, he simply does it because it is the right thing to do. When an Alpha male doesn't agree with you, he tells you.

Beta males on the other hand may be nice, courteous etc, but they don't prioritise themselves. They are doormat, Yes-man. They are nice because they need the validation and they agree to a fault because they want to maintain the "Mr Nice Guy" tag.

3. Beta Males Are Bitchy, Alpha males Accepts or Change A Situation:
Alpha males takes responsibility for their lives. Once anything happens in their lives, an Alpha male seeks to do something about it. If an Alpha male finds his partner with another man, he takes action- whether to breakup with her or any other action. An Alpha male makes decision for himself; whether relationship, career or whatever.

But Beta males always look at someone to pass blame on. They don't take responsibility, they bitch over it. A Beta male will find his partner in an unpleasant situation with another man, he runs to his pastor, family or social media to bitch about it... Seeking their help to take action because "he doesn't want to act irrationally". He's a weak man! Simple!!!

4. Genuine Connection Vs validation
An Alpha male always seek genuine connection and friendship with their partners and people around them. They have no time for fake relationship. Alpha males don't seek anybody's validation to feel good. They are true to themselves.

Beta males are pretenders. They desire validation of their partners, friends and society to feel good about themselves. They are fake towards themselves and others around them because they suppress their true feelings for external validation.

5. Alpha males trust themselves to make decisions for their lives, Beta males follow popular opinion.

An alpha male may consult others before making decision, he evaluates the response he gets, and compare with what he had always wanted to do. If he still believe that his desires is the best for him ahead of popular opinion, he follows his mind, makes his decision and swim or sink with it without blaming others.

Beta males consults with people, he may or may not evaluate responses, but he follows popular opinion even if it doesn't tally what he really wants because of his conformist character. He is always ready to blame others should his decision not turn out the way he wishes.

I will stop here!

I remain TonyeBarcanista

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Betakeshi: 5:48pm On Jan 29, 2020
Ok

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Freddykrueger: 5:48pm On Jan 29, 2020
OP where do you belong undecided

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by TonyeBarcanista(m): 5:49pm On Jan 29, 2020
Freddykrueger:
OP where do you belong undecided
Of course, you should know where I belong

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Officialgarri: 5:54pm On Jan 29, 2020
Watch how many guys will come here to claim alpha males. But in reality and by their comments, you'd deduce they cannot live without a girl pushing them around.

There are so many topics I find on the romance section, especially by guys... swears, I had to stop visiting that section.

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by donstan18: 5:54pm On Jan 29, 2020
Hustle ooo!!


Make you get time to dey know wetin be Alpha make and Beta Male.

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by TonyeBarcanista(m): 5:54pm On Jan 29, 2020
Officialgarri:
sad
What is it na angry

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Nobody: 6:01pm On Jan 29, 2020
TonyeBarcanista:
What is it na angry



I been think say election don reach self, Alpha Male Party grin

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by TonyeBarcanista(m): 6:01pm On Jan 29, 2020
Officialgarri:
Watch how many guys will come here to claim alpha males. But in reality and by their comments, you'd deduce they cannot live without a girl pushing them around.
Most men these days are Beta males

There are so many topics I find on the romance section, especially by guys... swears, I had to stop visiting that section.
No be lie

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by TonyeBarcanista(m): 6:04pm On Jan 29, 2020
Jezyfreezman:




I been think say election don reach self, Alpha Male Party grin
Hahahha There is life beyond politics na...

Make we enjoy this one!

Awaiting your opinion

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by jamesversion: 6:12pm On Jan 29, 2020
Bla Bla Bla Bla Bla Bla Bla.
E be like dem don sack you for Akwa Ibom government.

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by healthserve(m): 6:13pm On Jan 29, 2020
Another perspective. Mature


Martinez39
Ericsmith
Ubunja
JohnnySpute

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Nobody: 6:14pm On Jan 29, 2020
Be a GAMMA male. Alpha + Beta = Gamma.

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Nobody: 6:16pm On Jan 29, 2020
TonyeBarcanista:

Hahahha There is life beyond politics na...

Make we enjoy this one!

Awaiting your opinion
Baba, according to the kind of thread that hit FP these days from romance section enh, I can say you are really on point, weak jiggaz everywhere creating pusxy thread and still asking on how to carry their B/S,... there's different btwn John wick & John weak, I don give up already wetin b my own self grin

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Nobody: 6:17pm On Jan 29, 2020
kecee99:
What about alpha gay grin
nah Taylor taperule dem go use mention ur jail sentence, no b only alpha gay, nah alpha f@ggrin

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by TonyeBarcanista(m): 6:23pm On Jan 29, 2020
Jezyfreezman:
Baba, according to the kind of thread that hit FP these days from romance section enh, I can say you are really on point, weak jiggaz everywhere creating pusxy thread and still asking on how to carry their B/S,... there's different btwn John wick & John weak, I don give up already wetin b my own self grin
Those threads humor me bro. Imagine someone reporting his mother and wife on Nairaland forum grin

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by TonyeBarcanista(m): 6:23pm On Jan 29, 2020
kecee99:
What about alpha gay grin
He is a Beta lesbian

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Nobody: 6:26pm On Jan 29, 2020
TonyeBarcanista:

Those threads humor me bro. Imagine someone reporting his mother and wife on Nairaland forum grin

2days ago I saw a thread about a man complaining about his wife not giving him sex and she always sleeps with the kids in their room and the dude also complained abt too much love and closeness his wife shares with his kids, fvcking ridiculousgrin

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by TonyeBarcanista(m): 6:28pm On Jan 29, 2020
Jezyfreezman:


I saw a thread about a man complaining about his wife not giving him sex and she always sleeps with kid and the dude also complained abt too much love and closeness with kids, fvcking ridiculous
And you begin to wonder what Nigeria Men are turning into! They keep behaving like teen girls

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Nobody: 6:31pm On Jan 29, 2020
TonyeBarcanista:

And you begin to wonder what Nigeria Men are turning into! They keep behaving like teen girls
I just weak, now I'm avoiding the romance section for good, make em no jazz me too with some sissy stories, grin

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by TonyeBarcanista(m): 6:57pm On Jan 29, 2020
donstan18:
Hustle ooo!!


Make you get time to dey know wetin be Alpha make and Beta Male.
Hahahaha

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by bukatyne(f): 7:01pm On Jan 29, 2020
justnock:
Be a GAMMA male. Alpha + Beta = Gamma.


Hahahahahahahaha!

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by bukatyne(f): 7:03pm On Jan 29, 2020
TonyeBarcanista:
By Tonyebarcanista

Most people falsely misconstrue Alpha males to be irresponsible men filled with arrogance and are disrespectful towards women. They misconstrue Alpha males with with cocky males.

Many also misconstrue guys that are body builders with nice physique to be alpha males. Some misconstrue wealthy and fierce looking men as alpha males. Some even misconstrue womanizers, famous or people of high status to be alpha males. While some alpha males may belong to the aforementioned groups, not all those groups are alpha males.

Who Is An Alpha Male?
An Alpha male is the real man. He is a man's man and a warrior. He is very confident and a stand-up guy. Irrespective of what you call him, he is a leader. He is the guy others look up to for motivation, inspiration, and often with a hint of jealousy. He is a man that knows what he wants, confident of himself and can't be tossed around. The alpha male knows his power as a man and doesn't use it as tool for oppression. He can't be manipulated by women, and this makes him attracted to women. He's the kind of man every woman want. The Alpha male is mentally and emotionally strong but kind. He is very Confident, yet humble, he assertive, yet gentle at times. He is very powerful, yet calm and tempered. He has self worth yet doesn't proud! He is the kind of man every man should be. He is the kind of man that every woman crave for and hold in high esteem.

Who Is A Beta Male?
Beta males are men that always seek to fit in. They are the typical human pleasers with little or no opinion. Beta males in relationship and marriages are the typical Mr Nice Guys that always bury their thought, desire and want so as not to offend their partners. They are typical followers that always seek to blend with the society. They are not stand alone guys as they are easily manipulated. Because of these traits, Beta males are often disrespected and controlled by their partners, the society, their church, families etcetera.

ALPHA MALES VS BETA MALES

1. In Relationship

Alpha males go for who and what they want, and are men with standards. When their partners err, they are not afraid to speak their mind, address the problem and speak up when the boundaries they set are crossed. They inform their partners on the effect of their ill informed, they tell their partners the consequences on the relationship and take action to ensure that the partner falls in line. Alpha males don't seek conflicts but are not afraid to tackle conflict head on. They are active and not passive

But Beta males don't have any standard nor boundaries that they hold sacred. They would rather endure and die in silence when their partners err because they are afraid of causing conflict in their relationship. The ones that speak up do so in form of a plea or nag. They are passive men that live with burden in their heart in their bid to maintain peace that they never get.

2. Gentlemen Vs Mr Nice Guys
Alpha males are polite, nice to others, respectful but respects themselves and aren't doormat; Alpha male will never allow anyone treat him like second fiddle no matter what. An Alpha male priories his own well-being, irrespective, he genuinely care about the needs of the people in his life and want the best for others. He does this not do this for validation, to gain attention or to be praised by people around him, he simply does it because it is the right thing to do. When an Alpha male doesn't agree with you, he tells you.

Beta males on the other hand may be nice, courteous etc, but they don't prioritise themselves. They are doormat, Yes-man. They are nice because they need the validation and they agree to a fault because they want to maintain the "Mr Nice Guy" tag.

3. Beta Males Are Bitchy, Alpha males Accepts or Change A Situation:
Alpha males takes responsibility for their lives. Once anything happens in their lives, an Alpha male seeks to do something about it. If an Alpha male finds his partner with another man, he takes action- whether to breakup with her or any other action. An Alpha male makes decision for himself; whether relationship, career or whatever.

But Beta males always look at someone to pass blame on. They don't take responsibility, they bitch over it. A Beta male will find his partner in an unpleasant situation with another man, he runs to his pastor, family or social media to bitch about it... Seeking their help to take action because "he doesn't want to act irrationally". He's a weak man! Simple!!!

4. Genuine Connection Vs validation
An Alpha male always seek genuine connection and friendship with their partners and people around them. They have no time for fake relationship. Alpha males don't seek anybody's validation to feel good. They are true to themselves.

Beta males are pretenders. They desire validation of their partners, friends and society to feel good about themselves. They are fake towards themselves and others around them because they suppress their true feelings for external validation.

5. Alpha males trust themselves to make decisions for their lives, Beta males follow popular opinion.

An alpha male may consult others before making decision, he evaluates the response he gets, and compare with what he had always wanted to do. If he still believe that his desires is the best for him ahead of popular opinion, he follows his mind, makes his decision and swim or sink with it without blaming others.

Beta males consults with people, he may or may not evaluate responses, but he follows popular opinion even if it doesn't tally what he really wants because of his conformist character. He is always ready to blame others should his decision not turn out the way he wishes.

I will stop here!

I remain TonyeBarcanista

The 'Alpha' qualities are qualities everyone need to develop to enjoy healthy relationships and lead quality lives.

So instead of Alpha male, we should talk about 'Alpha people'.

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Nobody: 7:24pm On Jan 29, 2020
healthserve:
Another perspective. Mature


Martinez39
Ericsmith
Ubunja
JohnnySpute


I think he said it all for the alpha males ... as for me i don't even knw where i belong becos i do things as "the spirit leads". another thing i notice is people around me like whatever i like buh whateva people like i just lost interest 4 it. maybe i belong to the "crazymales" grin.

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by healthserve(m): 7:25pm On Jan 29, 2020
ericsmith:



I think he said it all for the alpha males ... as for me i don't even knw where i belong becos i do things as "the spirit leads". another thing i notice is people around me like whatever i like buh whateva people like i just lost interest 4 it. maybe i belong to the "crazymales" grin.


Same as me crazy males. But I ain't gonna let any woman walk over me. Never

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Splinz(m): 7:27pm On Jan 29, 2020
Nice. smiley

However, no man can successfully develop and build on the Alpha path without first overcoming his insecurities. Also, only just a few will always find the Will power to stand up for their selves.

Regrettably and very sad, the majority are nothing but pussy-whipped niggurs and terrible relationship managers.

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by ForbesHomesNG(m): 8:10pm On Jan 29, 2020
Freddykrueger:
OP where do you belong :--\
Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Nobody: 8:13pm On Jan 29, 2020
Alpha male alpha male naso johnbull take turn Gay oh undecided

What do you people want?

Who said some are complaining, we good joor, reading sh*t online will just give you anxiety, I'm not saying information is bad, but I don't believe all either.

Just live your life, ain't no MF tell you how to do it right, they want you to join their Gay's club, that's their plan.

After they feed you with so much information it gets into your head, remember you life is a result of what you think on the most, most post in this section is too toxic for people in a healthy relationship honestly, I'm starting to see results from them and I have the power to stop them which is to stop reading stuffs from this section anymore, if you really want to grow you'll have to use this same energy on something more productive.


Alpha male wey no get money is that one an alpha male?

Without money sef that alone is so much insecurity on its own, so fix thing up man

People that post stuffs like this too post for validation, las las everyone is suffering from their insecurities grin

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Preshy561(f): 8:30pm On Jan 29, 2020
Well written, but all those qualities without money? Huh

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Re: Why Every Man Should Strive To Be An Alpha Male by Preshy561(f): 8:35pm On Jan 29, 2020
Splinz:
Nice. smiley

However, no man can successfully develop and build on the Alpha path without first overcoming his insecurities. Also, only just a few will always find the Will power to stand up for their selves.

Regrettably and very sad, the majority are nothing but pussy-whipped niggurs and terrible relationship managers.
Some of you who call your fellow guys pussy think it means weakness?
Something that strong enough to pull out a human being, undergo so many pressure and still bounces, a place you came out from, is what you think means weakness? It really shows you are a representative of such weakness.

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