Pavore9:
And your husband is clearly aware he is your ex?

Foodqueen:
Tell your husband that u are not comfortable with him around.

SifonAbasi:
I have told him. He said I shouldn't worry.
My husband promised to sponsor his edding whenever he wants to marry as an appreciation for all he did for me when I was single.
Just to please him, last year my husband awarded him a contract and that contract brought them together.

During my child's naming ceremony he was given our house address.

SifonAbasi:
Good morning friends.

Please how can I politely stop my ex from visiting my home?

Yesterday was the third time my husband returns from work to meet my ex in our house.

After the incident that happened between us, my ex started coming closer to my husband and they became distance friends.
My husband invited him to our child's naming ceremony and that was how he got to know our house.

Eversince then he has been visiting and I am not comfortable with it.
I told if he must come he should come when my husband is around.

Please what should I do?

SifonAbasi:
Good morning friends.

Please how can I politely stop my ex from visiting my home?

Yesterday was the third time my husband returns from work to meet my ex in our house.

After the incident that happened between us, my ex started coming closer to my husband and they became distance friends.
My husband invited him to our child's naming ceremony and that was how he got to know our house.

Eversince then he has been visiting and I am not comfortable with it.
I told if he must come he should come when my husband is around.

Please what should I do?

NwaAmaikpe:




You are such an ingrate.
Do you know how many of us that wish that our partners were cool with our exes.

You have the prospect of a 3some on a platter and here you are complaining about a gift from God.

NwaAmaikpe:




You are such an ingrate.
Do you know how many of us that wish that our partners were cool with our exes.

You have the prospect of a 3some on a platter and here you are complaining about a gift from God.

AFONAMARO:


I am still wondering why on earth your husband should be friends your ex, is your hubby insecure in anyway?

As for your question, simply tell your ex to stay away from your home and ensure to tell your hubby that you ain't comfortable with the idea of him coming to the house.

It's not every issue that requires counseling, counsel yourself at times

NwaAmaikpe:




You are such an ingrate.
Do you know how many of us that wish that our partners were cool with our exes.

You have the prospect of a 3some on a platter and here you are complaining about a gift from God.

SifonAbasi:
I have done all these and my husband told me not to worry. For my ex, I told him if he must visit he should come only when my husband is at home.

SHOPPERS:
Sometimes, men become so friendly with each other to the point of trusting way beyond what women can understand.

Though your ex is obviously overdoing things, your husband has grown to trust him and believes he won't dare do anything.

But your husband is ignoring the fact that as a lady, you lost your virginity to that same guy and can easily be swayed in a moment of flimsy passion.

You guys should stop tempting the devil. Okafor's law is real.

Stand up and explain to your ex himself that you don't find it convenient having him around. It's not that you don't trust him but seeing him around brings uncomfortable memories back and that is having bad effects on your thoughts.

Tell him to politely stay away and only ensure he comes at after verifying that your husband is at home.

Make him realize that you're not against his friendship with your husband as long as it doesn't extend to having him around when you alone are at home.

If he's sensible, he should understand and back off.

Even normal husband's friends are not supposed to come visit when he himself is not at home. It's a dangerous setup.

........

The guy might not even have anything in mind, but make him realize that it is making you uncomfortable.

Do this when next he comes around... At the gate. And turn him back on the way to his house.

NwaAmaikpe:




You are such an ingrate.
Do you know how many of us that wish that our partners were cool with our exes.

You have the prospect of a 3some on a platter and here you are complaining about a gift from God.

But this does not add up.
If x+10 = u ≤ 40%

Where 10 is your present spouse,
x is your ex
While you are u.
And u is less than in an optimal state.

Then what is y?

Y is simply that you did your ex bad.
He was a great guy but you schemed him away for your present husband out of greed and an addiction for cheating.

I know this because,
You feel sooooo uncomfortable with your ex around. You feel an indescribable amount of guilt each time you see him and it feels like you are staring at Karma in human garb.

For your husband to be that nice to your ex means that
Your husband knew you were cheating on your ex with him. He knows your ex didn't deserve that wrong, this explains why he feels obliged to set him up on life.

So it is either that he is a man of great conscience or a man who needs your ex as an ally to know the true you and decipher all of your trickery for him to feel this indebted to your ex.

Or even better.
Your husband and your ex may be gay and your ex is using this as his best revenge.

But one thing is certain.
You were two-faced and bad to your ex....this is why the bible says that the wicked runs when NOTHING is chasing them.

Get over it, what will be, will be because I've just found out that your ex wasn't really an ex but your best and most loyal patron in your Olosho days.
Water will surely find it's level.

Wisest101:
Madam
I guess you did not listen to the advice someone gave you some years back..i had to go back to your previous post, and I found little wisdom there.
Kindly go back and check..

He was giving you money while you kept on offering him sex. That's PROSTITUTION, but I don't have problems with that, it's common with you ladies.



Back to your issue.



MISTAKE ; When you were dating your husband, you made a mistake by not letting your him know about an unfulfilled agreement you had with one of your exes. This wouldn't have gotten to this extent had it being you told him.



AGREEMENT ; Your ex has every right to do whatever he's doing now because it was bargained and an agreement between you both, you took his money in an agreement to sleep with him, it doesn't matter if you are married or not, it's an agreement.



WAYWARDNESS ; You were a prostitute during your school days, sleeping with a man to get financial rewards is prostitution, waywardness, irresponsible and very bad. And you are now paying the price.



RISK ; You are married, if you sleep with your ex, you will regret it, he MIGHT end up blackmailing you with pictures, videos or proofs that you just slept with him, and with that he'll keep asking for sex from you.



STRANGE ; I'm yet to understand the kind of pussay you have that someone had to travel outside all to come back insisting he'll sleep with you even when you pleaded to refund him twice, this your pussay na Belgium made o.





ADVICE ; I might not be able to give you a good advice that will help resolve the issue, but I can give you an advice on how to remain on a safer side.



My dear. Don't fulfill that promise, don't do it.



Why? Because It's better to fail a promise you made out of desperation than to break the vows you made to your husband before the altar and loved ones.





KINDLY TELL YOUR HUSBAND. You can't handle this alone without falling astray, I know how hard it might seem for you to tell him, but just do it.

SifonAbasi:
I have told him. I even told him I'd go report to my ex's mother. My husband said he isn't stupid for allowing my ex to visit that I shouldn't worry about my ex.

OcVoice:


Madness on a psycho level