OcVoice:
Though I am not married yet, but I have been able to gather lots of experience(s) from friends and family members, and I'd like to share some.

1. Don't wait until you *hammer" or "blow" before getting married.

Find love first before money.

Any woman that can stay with you in your nothingness, will not be carried away when riches come. This doesn't mean you should be comfortable where you are. Continue to hustle and strive for a comfortable life. Look for a woman while you're at it, fall in love and marry. Both of you should build together.

I have seen lots of marriages that started with the guy having, but crumbled when he lost his job or business.


2. Don't spend so much on your wedding or marriage ceremony and then go back broke after the celebrations.

You need to find out very well about your spouse's culture and tradition....the list cost and all other expenses. Sit her down and have a heart to heart discussion about how much you're ready to part with. Don't go showing off like you're dangote's son. Cut your coat according to your cloth.
Let her understand that after the wedding, there are much more responsibility to be met.

I have this very close friend, who was a hustler and he made some cool cash. Then he met this girl from imo state and after a while, he decided to marry her.
At the lady's place(village), they brought out 5 different list, categorized into:

1. PHD list...........about 2 mil naira
2. MSc list..............,,. 1 mil naira
3. BSc list,...............,,. 800,000 naira
4. HND list,..............,,. 500,000 naira
5. OND/NCE list......,,. 250,000 naira

Not too sure about the exact amount though, but not too far from what's above.

To cut the story short, my friend spent over 1 mil naira on traditional marriage alone, including dowry, the food, the drinks, the list, the umu ada, etc. In fact, they brought out another issue: That the lady won't be allowed to do her trad cos they didn't bury their dad well. They didn't buy cow. My friend had to pay for that too.

Today, he's yet to do his white wedding, but he has started borrowing......even as little as 5k. A handsome, and good looking guy, now looks like a shop "boy boy".....with stress written all over his face. Business closed down.

I am not mocking him. I'm just advising us and even myself. You can't afford to spend so much on trad alone and then go broke. It's not wise a thing to do. Let's wake up guys. Let's wake up!

There are still ladies out there who are ready to marry you in your financial low level, as long as you are not lazy, you're ambitious, you're a hustler who wants to make something out of life.

Uyi168:
Why is everyone claiming marriage experts lately

OcVoice:



Today, he's yet to do his white wedding, but he has started borrowing......even as little as 5k. A handsome, and good looking guy, now looks like a shop "boy boy".....with stress written all over his face. Business closed down.

I am not mocking him. I'm just advising us and even myself.

Omar09:
I've got books on how to not get married.

CAPSLOCKED:


WHAT DO YOU NEED BOOKS FOR WHEN THERE ARE REAL LIFE REASONS EVERYDAY?