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Just Say No. by kokoye(m): 6:49pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
If someone asks you for a favor and you really dont wanna do it, just say No. Dont please other people at your own expense and then feel bad about it when you could have politely said No. And then, dont start blaming that person for inconviniencing you afterwards when you could have said No. They did not force you to say Yes. Bottomline, if you are not in a position to help, dont offer or accept to help. Because then you'll feel bad afterwards and make everyone around you miserable. Life would be much better if we lived this way. Just my two cents. |
Re: Just Say No. by kokoye(m): 6:51pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
I may have posted this on the wrong section - please move it where it needs to be . . since I cant. thanks |
Re: Just Say No. by ShyOne(f): 6:53pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
@ OP I love your two cents. I am "learning that right now." My fiancee is teaching me "how to say no." I have always helped even when I could not and then I would be unhappy or irritated with myself. I am learning how to do this without "feeling guilty." Thank you for your post. |
Re: Just Say No. by Nobody: 6:55pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
Very true. |
Re: Just Say No. by 190: 6:56pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
Nice username, Yield!!! |
Re: Just Say No. by Dsense(m): 6:58pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
op/ My kindness would never let me say that . . . . .Nowadays i'm trying to be the worst person ever to some pple cause of their attitute but still can't . . . . .I still have to help them out! |
Re: Just Say No. by livedit(f): 7:56pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
kokoye: A point well made kokoye. I'm not ashamed to admit that I use to be one of those always trying to help and lend a helping hand and then wonder why I was getting stressed out and upset. I realized that some people WILL take your kindness for weakness and KEEP coming back to you. Word from the wise my people! |
Re: Just Say No. by vivaladiva(f): 8:00pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
i love saying no |
Re: Just Say No. by MrsEve2(f): 8:04pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
Pastor Koyoke is in session. Let the church say AMEN! (passing around offering plate) We don't accept small bills either! |
Re: Just Say No. by kokoye(m): 8:04pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
Thanks for the responses. @ Dsense, it is OK to help people as long as you are OK with it and dont feel used. If you are going to feel used afterwards, Please say NO. ![]() Really, it is not everyone that will feel offended by being turned down. So we cannot assume someone will feel bad when you say No to them. What's worse for us to feel bad after offering a helping hand. If you say No and the person gets offended, they will get over it in 2 or 3 days max. But if you say Yes and feel used, you will and hate yourself for it and loathe the person you offered to help. |
Re: Just Say No. by Omolola1(f): 8:05pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
very hard 4 me, but i always try. . . |
Re: Just Say No. by kokoye(m): 8:06pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
Mrs, Eve: Eve, I never appointed you to be my usher . . .yet. I will collect my own money. Amen ![]() |
Re: Just Say No. by MrsEve2(f): 8:07pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
I don't want to be usher anyway! I want to be the deaconess because we get to screw the pastor behind the pulprit! |
Re: Just Say No. by kokoye(m): 8:14pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
oh damn! [i]eve[/i]il! |
Re: Just Say No. by Omolola1(f): 8:39pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
lmao! Eve az totally killed me |
Re: Just Say No. by Specialist900(m): 8:40pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
Mrs, Eve:Eve hmn |
Re: Just Say No. by Dsense(m): 9:18pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
op. You are right! Tell me wha't the meaning of your name ''Kokoye''? ![]() |
Re: Just Say No. by kokoye(m): 9:27pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
Kokoye is what some people call hispanics / south americans. |
Re: Just Say No. by Coolabbie: 9:29pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
@op i totally agree wit u. But most tyms its just difficult saying no since u dont want 2 hurt d odas feeling. Saying yes wen u dont mean it can make u feel resentful 2wards d oda person. |
Re: Just Say No. by Dsense(m): 9:39pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
kokoye:LOOOOOL ![]() Na nice name anyway ![]() |
Re: Just Say No. by freecocoa(f): 10:24pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
Saying no is really a problem for me xpecially when it comes to helping people,though i've realized that they use that as an advantage and always come asking for help even with things they shouldn't,i just hope i can learn to say no without feeling like a bad person. |
Re: Just Say No. by kokoye(m): 10:35pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
^^^ Try it and be free. ![]() |
Re: Just Say No. by jennifer74(f): 10:51pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
Poster, how would you deal with family members that don't take 'No' for an answer? |
Re: Just Say No. by kokoye(m): 11:16pm On Dec 22, 2010 |
^^^ will they force you?? that is where you learn to put your foot down . . . . . they will get used to it. |
Re: Just Say No. by Ladyjide(f): 5:03am On Dec 23, 2010 |
Hell NO!!! ![]() |
Re: Just Say No. by Nobody: 10:18am On Dec 23, 2010 |
It is not easy to say NO when they come at you like love-struck puppies |
Re: Just Say No. by chibenwa(m): 10:34am On Dec 23, 2010 |
well, very hard smtimes to say no.if u say no, u are hated,whe u say yes u end up hating urself. nawa. |
Re: Just Say No. by chikeorji123(m): 10:56am On Dec 23, 2010 |
l can't just say NO like that,rather l apply diplomacy patterns to say it ![]() |
Re: Just Say No. by MrsEve2(f): 11:07am On Dec 23, 2010 |
Update: I said no last night and was manhandled. |
Re: Just Say No. by iice(f): 12:11pm On Dec 23, 2010 |
Kokoye, preach on brethren ![]() My favorite word, i've been told is NO ![]() |
Re: Just Say No. by amurx(m): 12:23pm On Dec 23, 2010 |
Nice piece |
Re: Just Say No. by Vindy: 4:41pm On Dec 23, 2010 |
Do the little you can, it must not be no, |
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