Xisnin:

It is a common law marriage.

safarigirl:


By 'approval of the father" she clearly means customary marriage (traditional), she is not wrong. Not at all

UnknownQueen:



That's what I'm planning...he will be surprised what I'll leave behind.... May be he will come back to meet only buckets.... But I'm just afraid... What about the kids... I'm sure he won't attend to their needs again...

josite:
this is what is called a common law marraige ,though not officially contracted.it is a legal marriage and you need to approach the court for a proper divorce,not necessarily the high court .

What is Common Law Marriage: A Definition. A common law marriage is one in which the couple lives together for a period of time and holds themselves out to friends, family and the community as "being married," but without ever going through a formal ceremony or getting a marriage license.


Key Takeaways

Only nine states and the District of Columbia still recognize common law marriages.
People who meet their state's common law marriage requirements will be eligible for most of the financial benefits—including federal benefits—of a married couple.
Those who move outside a state in which they established a common law marriage should check with an attorney regarding their status after the move.
A formal divorce is necessary to end a common law marriage.

Legal Marriage

In many jurisdictions, getting married requires being wed by an ordained minister or other person who has recognized authority to carry out a legal marriage. This can be done either in a religious setting or in a non-denominational or secular setting such as a city hall or court house. Here, a marriage license is issued and officially recorded. In the U.S., most states require a legal marriage in order for spousal benefits such as filing a joint tax return, sharing financial accounts, and so on.
Common Law Marriage

A common law marriage, on the other hand, will recognize a couple as equivalent to legally married even if the couple never said their vows in a civil or religious ceremony and don’t have a marriage license. While states don’t have official rules on the books regarding common law marriage, there are certain conditions that have to be met for a couple to be considered married by common law. They must:

Be a heterosexual couple living together in a state that recognizes common law marriages.
Live together for a significant period of time. Although many people believe seven or 10 years is the requisite timespan, no state provides a specific timeframe for cohabitation.
Introduce themselves to friends, neighbors, and coworkers as a married couple, calling each other “my husband” or “my wife” and even using the same last name. Also, they must file a joint tax return and have joint bank accounts and credit cards.
Be of sound mind.
Not be married to someone else.

https://www.investopedia.com/financial-edge/0210/marriage-vs.-common-law-what-it-means-financially.aspx

Remijuice:
Please Forgive my Grammar.

A man and a woman living together as husband and wife with kid(s) but are not legally Married. That is, no Traditional or Court Wedding.

If one of them decides not interested in the Union, should he/she go to court before they are Separated?

Modified: If there is no Divorce Proceedings, what happens to the kids?

Dereformer:


A lady that enters into this kind of relationship is too cheap. Very very cheap girl.

That's my take.

UnknownQueen:


I'm in Ogun state......

Remijuice:
Please Forgive my Grammar.

A man and a woman living together as husband and wife with kid(s) but are not legally Married. That is, no Traditional or Court Wedding.

If one of them decides not interested in the Union, should he/she go to court before they are Separated?

Modified: If there is no Divorce Proceedings, what happens to the kids?

SUPERPACK:
Google Map can help out in this type of situation.

Summer65:


Thanks@McTobe

McTobe:
Do a little research, use google map and check the location of US Embassy, then check for hotels that are within 5-6kilometers from the embassy. I am sure you will see. Then check the hotels individually for their room reservations and rate. Good luck to your Granny . NB: I just did the check before suggesting it.

Liftedhands:
Since no bride price was paid and no legal documents to support the union, both can go their separate ways and kids BELONGS TO THE WOMAN. You can't eat your cake for free and still get takeaway

wirinet:

So you are saying about man that father's 3 children has no responsibility for the children once the man leaves the relationship to start another one?

funmisticqueen2:
there should be something like that for you state. I hope you have evidence that you contributed money for his business, including receipts

UnknownQueen:


I made the transfer 2 years ago from fcmb......

But when he making purchases, he was buying them in his name alone as usual...

MariyaFullata:
The way u entered into the union without involving anyone is the same way u can leave without involving anyone and trust me, no one will notice.

worworbabe:
I don't know the kind of desperation that makes women sleep with, move in with and have babies with men who did not find them valuable enough to marry.

Having babies won't keep a man, u no go hear.

Remijuice:

Ok
Just that I always read these PM News or something (all these Igando Customary Court). You will find out that most of the cases of Infidelity or Domestic violence before the Court, most of the people involved were never married legally before the court.
They would be like "he got me pregnant when I was 20 years old, he promised me he will take care of me bla bla bla".

Remijuice:
Please Forgive my Grammar.

A man and a woman living together as husband and wife with kid(s) but are not legally Married. That is, no Traditional or Court Wedding.

If one of them decides not interested in the Union, should he/she go to court before they are Separated?

Modified: If there is no Divorce Proceedings, what happens to the kids?

Remijuice:

What about the kids

UnknownQueen:

I'm presently going thru this...

We are married.... Registry, church traditional..

He wants me to pack and leave his house before or on March ending...

He said I can always come to check the kids, girl 5 years, boy 1 year 3 months.

He didn't talk about assets sharing.

He has a landed property and started work on it but not yet completed yet.
I invested almost 500k into the laundry business he has.... Bought Gen, geepee tank washing machine.... Irons, shop rent etc.

But he is asking me to leave just like that... If not he will cause a scene....

How do I go about this?

gouken2:
The way u entered into the union without involving anyone is the same way u can leave without involving anyone and trust me, no one will notice.

Remijuice:
Please Forgive my Grammar.

A man and a woman living together as husband and wife with kid(s) but are not legally Married. That is, no Traditional or Court Wedding.

If one of them decides not interested in the Union, should he/she go to court before they are Separated?

Modified: If there is no Divorce Proceedings, what happens to the kids?

DexterousOne:


WRONG

one who did not get married via the legal route (Civil or Customary) did not get married.

worworbabe:
I don't know the kind of desperation that makes women sleep with, move in with and have babies with men who did not find them valuable enough to marry.

Having babies won't keep a man, u no go hear.

Honeydenz:

You talk like a child. It's not all about valuable enough to marry. The question is where is the money? Do you know how much it takes to fund an introduction, traditional and white wedding? Not everyone has the money to sponsor a wedding that's why, it's not about value.