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Poll: Who decides the housing situation in the relationship?The Wife: 4% (1 vote)The Husband: 47% (10 votes) Whomever owns a home: 9% (2 votes) The Family: 33% (7 votes) I am a nomad: 4% (1 vote) This poll has ended |
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Housing And Relationships by MrsEve2(f): 9:36pm On Dec 25, 2010 |
Greetings! We know that in today's society women and men are sharing homes with roommates, living with parents, family members, or have their own house. We developed steady relationships with our significant others and then marriage united us forever. Who DECIDES the housing situation? In each regions, there are different housing customs that one's follow because of tradition. In some regions, a woman leave the family's home for the husband's familial home. Those traditions remain current while some withers away. If the woman does not provide children or submit to the rules of the man's home she is banished and something worse happens, you figure it out. Now the question for the MEN, would you leave your familial home and move into your wife's home? The question for the single guys, would you [b]SHACK[/b]with your girlfriend just to save money? In the West, women are owning their own homes and often time the men who do not own homes move in with the woman. Go to show how the tables are turn and one false move the man could be homeless. |
Re: Housing And Relationships by Osama10(m): 9:42pm On Dec 25, 2010 |
In the ideal setting the woman is supposed to move into the man's house and I stand by that. |
Re: Housing And Relationships by MrsEve2(f): 9:47pm On Dec 25, 2010 |
Why, Osama? |
Re: Housing And Relationships by Mygoldie(f): 9:48pm On Dec 25, 2010 |
it is more preferable that the woman move into the man's house,instead of the other way round,but it is different in the west though,cos some men move into their lady's house and when they have a fight,the men get their as s chucked out by the women,lol. funny but true. |
Re: Housing And Relationships by MrsEve2(f): 10:08pm On Dec 25, 2010 |
Yes, Mygoldie that is true. I asked Osama why he stand firm on the belief that the WOMAN should move in with the man. Here a curveball, what if the woman has a house BOUGHT AND PAID FOR? The man doesn't own a home and stayed with roommates. Do the woman leave her HOME to move into a house not bought and paid for? |
Re: Housing And Relationships by kaymoney2(m): 10:13pm On Dec 25, 2010 |
Mygoldie: @ Goldie for Some lazy azz that are still getting it for free or hoping to get somethings for free does that** Mr FOC ![]() ![]() |
Re: Housing And Relationships by Osama10(m): 10:20pm On Dec 25, 2010 |
Mrs, Eve: Like I said earlier on its the ideal thing that is the standard procedure. Al-tho I know in the west anything goes.As for me I can't move into a woman's apartment. |
Re: Housing And Relationships by MrsEve2(f): 10:22pm On Dec 25, 2010 |
Osama10: Aww! It the ego thing with men huh? Interesting. |
Re: Housing And Relationships by segzicres(m): 10:25pm On Dec 25, 2010 |
men that move into their spouse house are seen as lazy and un-ambitious here. and looking at it critically it's true. men usually want to own things and control things but un that kind of situation he can't say and do everything that he wants to. |
Re: Housing And Relationships by Osama10(m): 10:26pm On Dec 25, 2010 |
Mrs, Eve: Can you be with a man who has got no ego, I don't think you would like him. |
Re: Housing And Relationships by Osama10(m): 10:28pm On Dec 25, 2010 |
Mrs, Eve: Its like sleeping over at my in-laws house, I just can't do that. |
Re: Housing And Relationships by Carolece(f): 11:16pm On Dec 25, 2010 |
In today's world, women are stronger. Gone are the days when a woman had no choice but to shack with a man or move in his house upon marriage. We are given great opportunities, bigger jobs, bigger pay checks, so we are "equal" to men interms of income. Most of us do better because most of us know how to manage our monies, even though we may tend to be shopaholics as per the naked eyes. But infact, most men spend far more than women as they engage in more unecessary spendings, going out to parties, having expensive drinks, and having multiple families. (am derailing a bit I know) ![]() But in shacking, I did that with my last ex for 6 yrs, I collected rent from my home (nope, didnt split) but I contributed to bills, food and necessary spending thats to be done in the home. Today, people should have their own homes, because shyt does happen, if or when, or should I say when it does happen, you have yours to go back to. If I should shack in the future, its going to be @ my place, he cant be coming to my place and be talking loud, I have ALL control in that shyt. |
Re: Housing And Relationships by Chrisbenogor(m): 11:24pm On Dec 25, 2010 |
Carolece:When will women ever get it into their heads to stop fighting for "equality", men and women can never and will never be equal. This western idea has ruined marriages and homes in Africa, true if you find yourself in a situation where you have to shack with your girl to save costs and all that fine, but the primary role of a man is that of a provider. We all have roles to play in this world and we should do it without feeling degraded. |
Re: Housing And Relationships by Dsense(m): 11:26pm On Dec 25, 2010 |
OP. I wouldn't move into my wife's house if it's in my country ''Somali'' ![]() ![]() But outside nigeria i can move into her house, it's okay by me . . I wouldn't mind especially when facing a financial prb when we need to save money,In this situation i woudn't mind moving into her house . . . . .Afterall her assets are mine, vice and versa. |
Re: Housing And Relationships by Dsense(m): 11:28pm On Dec 25, 2010 |
Chrisbenogor:She's not an african. |
Re: Housing And Relationships by Carolece(f): 11:35pm On Dec 25, 2010 |
Chrisbenogor:Its scary the way some of these "tribal" people still live in today's world. Women have no say but to be a man's slave. All people are equal, man woman, try learn that by now and get into the civilized world. Women should wise up by now aswell. |
Re: Housing And Relationships by Dsense(m): 11:40pm On Dec 25, 2010 |
^^^You can join the wome race to castrate men ![]() |
Re: Housing And Relationships by Chrisbenogor(m): 11:44pm On Dec 25, 2010 |
Carolece:My dear there is no wising up here, I am not saying humans should be discriminated against, I am saying we have roles. One of the roles of a woman is to produce children and a man cannot do this. The man on the other hand traditionally has to provide for the woman, thus in a biological sense the man tends to be the "Head" of the home. Civilized world or not women can never and will never be able to do what a man does without ultimately sacrificing a lot, this is not tribal but common sense. I beats me how it escapes women. |
Re: Housing And Relationships by Carolece(f): 11:45pm On Dec 25, 2010 |
D-sense:I dont think yall need any help, as most of yall are hanging yourselves by the d!cks and balls already. Loosers! Most of you just hate when a woman is strong. Good Lord. |
Re: Housing And Relationships by Dsense(m): 11:47pm On Dec 25, 2010 |
^^^Yep we admit women are strong . . But on Bed only . . right ![]() |
Re: Housing And Relationships by Chrisbenogor(m): 11:52pm On Dec 25, 2010 |
Carolece:I gave you hard facts, what is there to hate about a woman bearing a child? Face it dear we are both fundamentally different creatures when it comes to the way we reason. You women like you have shown on this thread tend to make decisions based on emotions, most men think things through. The first and most important thing in the mind of a woman lying on her death bed is if she has raised her children well to the best of her ability not if she has won the world wrestling foundation. You may not like it but you cannot fight your anatomy. |
Re: Housing And Relationships by Carolece(f): 11:53pm On Dec 25, 2010 |
Chrisbenogor:Its clear you are stuck in the early 1800ths and in the bushes. |
Re: Housing And Relationships by Chrisbenogor(m): 12:00am On Dec 26, 2010 |
Carolece:ROTFLMAO Emotions Emotions ok lets make up, ![]() ![]() ![]() Tell me why you think I am wrong |
Re: Housing And Relationships by MrsEve2(f): 12:29am On Dec 26, 2010 |
Dsense, You want to move in with me? I have an extra room. ![]() |
Re: Housing And Relationships by Dsense(m): 12:33am On Dec 26, 2010 |
Mrs, Eve:We need to sign a deal stating . . . . . You don't have the right to chase me or ask me to pack outta the house. ![]() You have no right to tell me when to wash my clothes ![]() You have no right to tell me to wash your stinky undies. ![]() |
Re: Housing And Relationships by MrsEve2(f): 12:35am On Dec 26, 2010 |
I don't want you to wash my undies no way because [size=2pt]I don't wear any.[/size] |
Re: Housing And Relationships by DisGuy: 12:41am On Dec 26, 2010 |
Mrs, Eve: Who decides the housing situation? = condition na, like where work or business is located No, I wont leave my family home to move into wife's home= people move out of their parents house after uni so no need for that Yes I can shack in my girlfriends place to save money (if its closer to workplace) but I'll be paying the rent now- but no pets apart from gold fish |
Re: Housing And Relationships by Dsense(m): 12:42am On Dec 26, 2010 |
Mrs, Eve:lol . . .You don't any ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Housing And Relationships by MrsEve2(f): 12:45am On Dec 26, 2010 |
Why should I wear any Dsense? I believe in let natural things breaf. ![]() |
Re: Housing And Relationships by Dsense(m): 12:55am On Dec 26, 2010 |
^^^Ohhh gosh . . . .ROTFL ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Housing And Relationships by MrsEve2(f): 12:58am On Dec 26, 2010 |
He like un-obstructive access at all times when I let him. |
Re: Housing And Relationships by Dsense(m): 1:08am On Dec 26, 2010 |
^^^I see . . . He's gotten no choice ![]() ![]() |
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