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Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by eliabah12(f): 6:58pm On Mar 23, 2020
HelloHolla:
Good evening everyone, I've been a guest for quite a while, created an account cause I need advice from the audience.

How long should an engagement ring be worn for? I've been engaged since last year May (dated for 4yrs), my Fiance hasn't talked about proceeding to do introduction or marriage, it's like he just proposed to me because he felt like.

This man has refused to be on his own, his Grandma and 5 siblings (younger and older) live with him and he takes responsibility for them all, two of his siblings living with him also have their partners living with them. It's only a 3 bedroom flat. I feel like quitting the whole thing cause I don't feel comfortable going to his house. When I do, he wants me to cook for everyone which gets me strained.

With the look of things, he has no plans of moving out for them cause he rented the apartment, neither do they have intentions of moving out on their own, it's more like a family house. My period is two days late and I'm scared to the marrow.

Please advice me on what to do cause I can't live with him if they're still there after marriage, he's not even talking about marriage, I've not asked him yet so as not to sound desperate but why propose if you don't have plans of doing the next thing after a max of 6 months?

He's 31 and I'm 24

Thanks.
congratulations to the new Lord of the � ring
Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by PrimadonnaO(f): 6:58pm On Mar 23, 2020
@HelloHolla, I hope your period gets delayed for another three days. I hope you begin to feel all those pregnancy symptoms and become very fearful that you're pregnant.

Perhaps it would wake up your senses. Perhaps it's what you need to realise that you need to walk away from this relationship ASAP. 4 years already? 24 may seem young, but you're not marrying yourself. You walk away from this... and get into another for two years, and what if that relationship doesn't work out? You'll be 26. One whole year goes by and you don't meet anyone else you love. 27! cheesy This is how people get to 30 and find themselves still single and searching.

Better move on from that relationship, and let a more deserving man find you.

I'll be praying for you that you aren't pregnant. You just can't afford to be. Hahahahahaha.

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Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by smokeyupu(m): 7:00pm On Mar 23, 2020
Why not have patience till we confirm the end of COVID-19..... It is well
Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Yakade(m): 7:01pm On Mar 23, 2020
HelloHolla:


Thank you for the contribution, I accepted his ring because I thought he was going to "change" and perhaps, start living on his own, obviously, he doesn't look like he's moving anywhere, he has chased off other eligible suitors off me.
suitors oh Oluwa
Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Pain(m): 7:01pm On Mar 23, 2020
Sometimes Engagement Ring is a Hand Cuff and a License to Free Kpekus tongue
Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by kingsleybrave(m): 7:01pm On Mar 23, 2020
crackkhaus:

Women 100x better than you obviously.

Kill yourself...
Chisos.......... shocked shocked
I don't expect such from a fine girl like you.... That was too too harsh
Or are you a FEMINIST or single mother
Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Karmaisme(m): 7:01pm On Mar 23, 2020
dangotesmummy:
You remind me of the proverbial Yoruba addage about a man who doesn't want to move or work but wouldn't allow others to move or work and when those that are ready to work says he should leave the road for them,he will say no,I am not ready to work therefore nobody else should work


Does my little folklore teach you something? wink

The elders will say aboro lonsofun omoluabi,tobadeinu e, ADI odindin


Its " abo oro la n so fun omoluabi, to ba de inu e a di odindi" stop writing Yoruba with English.
Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Ifabernard(m): 7:02pm On Mar 23, 2020
He has succeded in turning u to LORD OF THE RING. goodluck
Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Em5(m): 7:03pm On Mar 23, 2020
UyaiIncomparabl:


No surprises here. Just like he is, is the way you are. I wonder who dates you people.

Bunch of walking, imbecilic narcissists.

A look at all your post topics tells it all. You are the imbecilic, unreal, fantasising freak that will hopefully wake up when it's already too late.
Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Nobody: 7:03pm On Mar 23, 2020
HelloHolla:
Good evening everyone, I've been a guest for quite a while, created an account cause I need advice from the audience.

How long should an engagement ring be worn for? I've been engaged since last year May (dated for 4yrs), my Fiance hasn't talked about proceeding to do introduction or marriage, it's like he just proposed to me because he felt like.

This man has refused to be on his own, his Grandma and 5 siblings (younger and older) live with him and he takes responsibility for them all, two of his siblings living with him also have their partners living with them. It's only a 3 bedroom flat. I feel like quitting the whole thing cause I don't feel comfortable going to his house. When I do, he wants me to cook for everyone which gets me strained.

With the look of things, he has no plans of moving out for them cause he rented the apartment, neither do they have intentions of moving out on their own, it's more like a family house. My period is two days late and I'm scared to the marrow.

Please advice me on what to do cause I can't live with him if they're still there after marriage, he's not even talking about marriage, I've not asked him yet so as not to sound desperate but why propose if you don't have plans of doing the next thing after a max of 6 months?

He's 31 and I'm 24

Thanks.
I will respond to your post when you see your period or confirm that you are pregnant.
Kindly update us on it.
Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Ibrahiimo(m): 7:03pm On Mar 23, 2020
SweetCunt97:
mix alabukun in sprite and drink, so as to stop his seed from taking root. Don't, if you wanna continue such life. But better don't come here complaining when shit hit d fan. You still got time to make things right.
Wetin my EYES no go see

Wetin my EAR no go hear

And a HUMAN being will MARRY this one

Wonders Shall Never End!!!

Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by MRV101(m): 7:03pm On Mar 23, 2020
You knew he's a family Man yet you accepted his proposal why not allow him take his time and balance things? Do you expect him to choose you over his family? What have you contributed towards the success of the relationship? Don't be a selfish ingrate. At 24 you should focus more on acquiring skills that will make you an independent woman in the future, there's More to Life than marriage. Thank you

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Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by ElonMosque(m): 7:04pm On Mar 23, 2020
LORD OF THE RINGS grin grin

HelloHolla:
Good evening everyone, I've been a guest for quite a while, created an account cause I need advice from the audience.

How long should an engagement ring be worn for? I've been engaged since last year May (dated for 4yrs), my Fiance hasn't talked about proceeding to do introduction or marriage, it's like he just proposed to me because he felt like.

This man has refused to be on his own, his Grandma and 5 siblings (younger and older) live with him and he takes responsibility for them all, two of his siblings living with him also have their partners living with them. It's only a 3 bedroom flat. I feel like quitting the whole thing cause I don't feel comfortable going to his house. When I do, he wants me to cook for everyone which gets me strained.

With the look of things, he has no plans of moving out for them cause he rented the apartment, neither do they have intentions of moving out on their own, it's more like a family house. My period is two days late and I'm scared to the marrow.

Please advice me on what to do cause I can't live with him if they're still there after marriage, he's not even talking about marriage, I've not asked him yet so as not to sound desperate but why propose if you don't have plans of doing the next thing after a max of 6 months?

He's 31 and I'm 24

Thanks.
Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Bbbwings: 7:04pm On Mar 23, 2020
sisisioge:
He wants to turn you to lord of the rings ni. Just talk to him about the whole thing.

Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by FanOfMyself: 7:05pm On Mar 23, 2020
Ladycewhy:
yes, I'm a harlot and I'm proud of myself. At least it's better than being a thief or a ritualist.
Oh, no wonder you know how to terminate a baby in the womb.
Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by dangotesmummy: 7:05pm On Mar 23, 2020
Karmaisme:


Its " abo oro la n so fun omoluabi, to ba de inu e a di odindi" stop writing Yoruba with English.
karoasho modi,karodi masho,kidi Masha .... you know the rest cool


My point has been made and those that have ears have heard what the spirit is saying to the church cool

Yoruba grammarian don't teach me nonsense cool
Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by 775chris(m): 7:05pm On Mar 23, 2020
REMOVE IT NOW I COMMAND YOU REMOOOVE IT
Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Nobody: 7:06pm On Mar 23, 2020
SweetCunt97:
mix alabukun in sprite and drink, so as to stop his seed from taking root. Don't, if you wanna continue such life. But better don't come here complaining when shit hit d fan. You still got time to make things right.


Hope you know the foetus is likely a month old? The seed has already taken root. If you want to advice, just be plain with it.
Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Stacyomolola(f): 7:08pm On Mar 23, 2020
NextD18 oh please shut up. All in an aim to support ur fellow male u ended up spilling trash,
is that the life u purpose for ur sisters, thats if u are unfortunate to have one.
Shes been a cook, washing machine and generally a househelp to his extended family, to make matters worst he's not even proposing marriage and u calling her a wannabe feminist.
May ur sisters end up as one, AMEN.
Such detrimental, unfortunate and unreasonable smeg head

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Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Nobody: 7:09pm On Mar 23, 2020
That guy may have the intention of getting married but family happened.
U have a nice man there.
What u need is to meet him in the middle.
Relationships is not "all about me".
Have u asked him how he is coping with all these people, the strain etc?
The way u talk to him will make him tell you what he is personally passing through even though he pretends all is well.
This is a wifey material and this guy will take note.
Trust me, such attitudes will make your man work harder to fastword the marriage ceremony.

And if his granny is living with them, he don't have to tell you to cook for you to do that whenever u visit.
U should curry the favour of that old woman, girl!
Only if u see that granny as your own granny too and don't think about the rest of the family members with them.
And why are u agitated he is taking care of his family?
He is watching u and have seen your actions which has made him to probably halt and rethink whether engaging you was a good idea.

We are always in a rush.

A typical Nigerian man don't play with his family.
U must know that. No matter how much he professes to love u,even if he is separated from them because of u, yrs down the line, he will embrace them again and u will be the odd one.
If u can't endure his family, then break the engagement.

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Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Enyimbamercedes: 7:09pm On Mar 23, 2020
When you are not Gollum
Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by ojsmscom(m): 7:10pm On Mar 23, 2020
don't marry all these girls that have not know what it means to look for husband.. if she has at least look for husband for a while,if you marry her she will do everything possible to stay calm with you.
Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by kingsleybrave(m): 7:10pm On Mar 23, 2020
UyaiIncomparabl:


I hope you'll learn to see that he's really not into you like that. A man who hasn't made plans to leave and cleave definitely has no business getting married. That he is 31 doesn't mean he's ready. You cook and tend to his family whenever you are around them, right? You'll do worse when you get married. You'll become head chef and senior nanny to his siblings and aging Grandmother.

Have a serious discussion with him, tell him to give you a time, set your own time too since you're the one whom the shoes hurts. If he still shows signs of unseriousness and unwillingness, then I see no reason why you shouldn't start extending your search outside. This is your future. Don't ruin it. The partner you marry is liable to make or mar you.

In the end, it's all your brunt to bear. Choose wisely now to avoid coming to the front page of Nairaland tomorrow seeking for marital advice.

Ladies, even if you date a douchebag, please endeavor not to marry that douchebag. Please, see it as an importance to marry a man that has sense. You're Queens and Queens do not eat debris nor settle for less. kiss

Thread wisely and carefully. smiley


Aswear you must b a FEMINIST..... And i Pity those you've misled and still misleading...... Go get a life.....
So even olosho na queen abi?
You better repent and give your life to Christ
Because with this your lifestyle you are not far from hell!!

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Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Archbishop88: 7:10pm On Mar 23, 2020
Quote me anywhere, with what you have said. The guy isn't ready and no matter what and what you ask him, he will only give excuse. You better thank your star that you are still 24. Remove his ring, throw it into lagoon and vet all the awaiting proposals. If you decide to wait for him till when he will be ready, you will only end to become family wife. A word is enough for the wise.

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Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Nobody: 7:11pm On Mar 23, 2020
SocialJustice:
My goodness, are you an orphan?

Are your parents aware you're in such a rubbish relationship?

Do you want to waste away your prime before you have sense?

Please give him his ring back and leave. How can you even accept engagement from a man that is the sole breadwinner of his family and lives in the same accommodation with them?

You better grow sense and leave that guy before you marry into slavery. Husbands are scarce but it is not enough to accept such a despicable relationship.

Please leave and never return. Should you ask him to send them out, then you will be starting a war that will definitely destroy you.

Hian! Musa will finally resign after seeing your matter.

A million likes.

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Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Bbbwings: 7:11pm On Mar 23, 2020
Chidonc:

No, don't judge her that way. Why should two of her boyfriend siblings be dependent on him and still have live in lovers, it makes no sense to me. I can't accommodate you then you bring your girl friend along. Besides she said he had given them money to start up their lives but instead squanders it on video games probably betting. The only siblings I can take care of are those in University I pay there fees and rent, apart from that, you are strictly on your own. You can never grow big if responsibility outweigh income.
I concur.
But my own no serious o, he lost a year cos of change of course.
The thing pain me gan.

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Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Karmaisme(m): 7:12pm On Mar 23, 2020
dangotesmummy:
karoasho modi,karodi masho,kidi Masha .... you know the rest cool


My point has been made and those that have ears have heard what the spirit is saying to the church cool

Yoruba grammarian don't teach me nonsense cool

Gbayi.
Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by HelloHolla: 7:12pm On Mar 23, 2020
Thanks everyone
My family's not aware of the living arrangement, I never told them cause I know they wouldn't support the union if they knew
I'm a graduate, I'm working and equally run a business, to everyone saying I want him to throw his family out, I don't know but how do you want me to be comfortable living with 34-40yr Olds? And they don't seem to be bothered about having a bearing in life, sorry but that's the highest height of irresponsibility, sometimes, he doesn't have money and I have to support him financially and shouldering his family's responsibility, I find that very awkward, I can take care of someone younger but definitely not a full blown adult.

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Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Miracle1991: 7:12pm On Mar 23, 2020
Did I hear you saying your period is 2days late?
You are fucking the Man like a dog and you still expect the man to show commitment? My sister you will even do the man good if you decided not to marry him.
Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by franchasng: 7:13pm On Mar 23, 2020
This generation is not a good time to give birth to a female child, I can imagine what parents feel about their daughters whom they spent time and resources training to be virtuous women, with the kind of guys we have today in the world, hmmm cry

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Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by teehex(f): 7:14pm On Mar 23, 2020
It's better to sound desperate than waste your years wif a man that isn't ready to do the necessary...plus u r 24, desperate shouldn't even be on the list of things u might sound to him.

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