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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by tsamson(m): 9:31pm On Apr 01, 2020
BiafranBushBoy:
Lol... Why crying...

Are you married to her?

Have you promised her marriage?

You time wasters...

What if she admits she has a guy to every toaster and you end up not marrying her?

Cry Cry baby... Lol

Bush, how far

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by hustla(m): 9:31pm On Apr 01, 2020
primesoccer:
You are very correct. Me trying to chat her more is just to get more evidence. She might spill more than she has done already. I don't think it's an act of weakness. I have the picture of the guy she said they're trying to work things out. I saved it immediately she sent it to me (the stranger) knowing fully well that she will do "Delete for All"



If na me be you - here's what I will do


- I will get as much evidence as possible
- I will open a new Microsoft account and upload all the evidence to my OneDrive account and send to my Email also
- I will tell my friends what happened and then we will all go out to drink it off and cool off
- I will not tell her i found out anything, no need for that and all other super story
- I will continue to enjoy free pekus
- I will find a serious girlfriend by the side and proceed with emotional detachment from my unfortunate ex
- Confront her with evidence and
- Break up at a location that is open - before she pour hot water for my head or nack me with juju grin
- Pick race

grin

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Awoleesu(m): 9:31pm On Apr 01, 2020
I was just wondering whether you registered the new SIM card with which you did chat her...
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Nobody: 9:32pm On Apr 01, 2020
Wetin Lizard dey find inside Termites Mound, anything wey him see na only him go take him head carry am.
As u aware now wetin u want us to do?!
Okay,Sorry ooo!!

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by papae1(m): 9:32pm On Apr 01, 2020
Lol grin grin grin
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Excuzeme: 9:32pm On Apr 01, 2020
primesoccer:
I will definitely meet her with the evidence. But I still want to continue chatting with her to get more info from her before I make the move.


Keep chatting her up, let her commit herself properly in a way that she cant deny it when you confront her with the evidence, later, later.
Truth is 97% of women cannot be trusted, it is in the nature of women to be untrustworthy, safe for a very small fraction who are Angels!

But l wonder why you men always feel bad when you experience this kind fo situation!
You should be dancing and thanking God that you have not made the greatest mistake of your life, by marrying another man's wife!
Imagine if you were married and she already has a child for you and she is denying you to another lover?
What will you do then?
She obviously does not value you one bit and is not inlove with you, at least not anymore.
Bleep her brains out while preparing your own move with another lady then dump her sorry arse. No dulling, just be smilling.

Go and do Thanks-giving in Church, kneel down and thank God that He opened your eyes (many Men are in your shoes but without a clue!)

but if love still continue to blind you, carry-on with her.

Na so jumping into Lagoon from 3rd Mainland Bridge and drinking Snipper dey take start.

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by babyfaceafrica: 9:33pm On Apr 01, 2020
etrange:
She might really love you. She's just not putting all her eggs in one basket. If you both of you break up, you'd easily move to the next girl while she waits and hopes another man would reach out to her. So I think she may not be serious with that guy but doesn't want to strike him out at once as she doesn't know your stance yet...

Just saying o!


She might really love you. She's just not putting all her eggs in one basket. If you both of you break up, you'd easily move.



Then she doesn't love him.. You can't love someone and double-date.. Only kids does that!!

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by jaxxy(m): 9:33pm On Apr 01, 2020
primesoccer:
I met my girlfriend about 2yrs ago and we've been doing pretty fine. Before we met, she was in an abusive relationship and she had to quit.

In trying to understand ourselves, we've had to agree and disagree on some things, which I believe is normal. I love her and she loves me too.

I won't say I have the cash, but I'm always there to support her when she has a very pressing issue. Aside that, I take her out, we go shopping, and lots more...

She is this type of lady that if you try to correct her (in a very respectful manner) she will just get angry and may not even talk to you for even 2 days. Anger is a big part of her life. I respect her a lot and have never used abusive words on her.

When we just met, she was kind. She hardly comes to see me without buying something, even if it's N50 corn...a gesture that I appreciate so much. About a year into the relationship, her character changed. She became somewhat stingy. But I didn't take it to mean anything because I hate to even depend on anybody for anything. It didn't stop me from supporting her and doing the much I can for her.

She doesn't ever allow me touch her phone. What she does now is that whenever I'm to see and spend time with her, she turns off her data. She rejects some calls when we are together. As someone who wants peace at all times, I've sat her down to tell her my observations and ask what the matter was. But she told me nothing was the matter.

So, I decided to buy a new SIM card. I started chatting her as a stranger. She chats with me (the stranger) till even 2am. She has opened up everything about herself to the stranger. Her name, where she's from, what she does, where she lives and lots more. I'm just wondering why someone who just chatted you today is already getting to know everything about you.

Now to the reason I opened this thread: she told the stranger guy that she isn't in any relationship. Though, she added that she just met a Guy last week through her friend and they are both trying to work things out. She even sent the picture of the new guy to this stranger.


I'm still wondering why she will do a thing like that. I'm not in her life to waste her time. She is very aware of that. I told her last December that we shall go see her people this year and seal everything, but she told me that we still have time and no need for the rush.

Personally, I had no reasons to suspect her of possibly cheating, but her actions when we are together made me get a new SIM card and started chatting her up anonymously.

On my part, I'm a guy that ladies even open up to me that they like me. They also say I'm very intelligent and all that. I'm very transparent to her. I don't hide nothing from her. I can leave my phone with her without any fear because I don't have anything to hide.

I've never had anything to do with any lady since I met her. I so much believe in keeping your body and soul to just the person you are with...whether relationship or marriage. If you can't do that, why not just tell the person that you are not interested again than going your way to deny the person before another guy.

Ladies and gents, why on earth will a man or woman do this to someone who had dedicated his or her all to you?

I will gladly welcome your contributions, including bashing...

Addition: I am business oriented. To make her depend less on any man for money, I have created a passive income source for her that generates about 20k for her monthly

Here’s the Truth: if u give diamonds to a pig it will still play with mud. It’s a pig that’s why.

2ndly I don’t see anything u shud like in the gal, who was in a abusive relationship bt yet has anger issues, doesn’t take correction, is smwhat stingy, mostly the negatives and to top it up a very cheap cheat. U need to get ur senses back.

Don’t be stupid inlove. This gal is out to waste ur time or make u miserable intentionally or unintentionally. It is guaranteed to happen by my assumption. Unless there are any good things about her u haven’t told us which I still doubt can counter the negatives I’ve heard.

U have found out what u want to know. Leave her immediately. Unless u just want to have fun bt have no serious relationship with that gal pls. Cheers

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by ekensi01: 9:33pm On Apr 01, 2020
You spoke my mind.

Come check me out now. I play with Ladied heart like die.

I don't reveal anything at all. B4 we started dating I've broke up in my heart.

Nice piece of advice
Obaman12:
Bro! You see?

You goofed up big time by showing her all your cards bro. Relationship these days are like card games. You don't display all your cards to your opponent to avoid being kicked off the game. You play it smartly with your head not with your heart.

Now, you're of no relevance to her again, and there's nothing that you'll do to gain that back from her. To her, she's just using u as a step up plan until she lands her target man.

In otherwords, you're on your own

All, I'll say now is, start searching for another girl that would keep ur hrt occupied at moment, after that dump her and move on. That's d only way to mk her feel d break up, don't let her break ur hrt, break hers first that's how you'll get to win on this bro. Outside it, it'll be an all-round win for her. So be smart and act fast.


Note: all these should be on code. Don't let her notice anysh*t as regarding ur intention towards her. Oya go win this bro grin

I made this same mistake bro, and now am a rebranded person.

Read on miseducation by Ubanja
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Chicastle: 9:33pm On Apr 01, 2020
chatinent:
You shouldn't be bothered; everyone is single still they get married (whether or not they are dating)!


Even some married ones still single ni

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Unrated900(m): 9:34pm On Apr 01, 2020
@OP she is your gal friend and not your fiancée

She must have seen a yahoo boy who pounds cash on her

Bro stay focus and move forward hustle legit ahead in a year she will come beg you if your pocket is full

By then she would turn to you side chick

Do this today and thank me after a year

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by tiswell(m): 9:35pm On Apr 01, 2020
primesoccer:
I met my girlfriend about 2yrs ago and we've been doing pretty fine. Before we met, she was in an abusive relationship and she had to quit.

In trying to understand ourselves, we've had to agree and disagree on some things, which I believe is normal. I love her and she loves me too.

I won't say I have the cash, but I'm always there to support her when she has a very pressing issue. Aside that, I take her out, we go shopping, and lots more...

She is this type of lady that if you try to correct her (in a very respectful manner) she will just get angry and may not even talk to you for even 2 days. Anger is a big part of her life. I respect her a lot and have never used abusive words on her.

When we just met, she was kind. She hardly comes to see me without buying something, even if it's N50 corn...a gesture that I appreciate so much. About a year into the relationship, her character changed. She became somewhat stingy. But I didn't take it to mean anything because I hate to even depend on anybody for anything. It didn't stop me from supporting her and doing the much I can for her.

She doesn't ever allow me touch her phone. What she does now is that whenever I'm to see and spend time with her, she turns off her data. She rejects some calls when we are together. As someone who wants peace at all times, I've sat her down to tell her my observations and ask what the matter was. But she told me nothing was the matter.

So, I decided to buy a new SIM card. I started chatting her as a stranger. She chats with me (the stranger) till even 2am. She has opened up everything about herself to the stranger. Her name, where she's from, what she does, where she lives and lots more. I'm just wondering why someone who just chatted you today is already getting to know everything about you.

Now to the reason I opened this thread: she told the stranger guy that she isn't in any relationship. Though, she added that she just met a Guy last week through her friend and they are both trying to work things out. She even sent the picture of the new guy to this stranger.


I'm still wondering why she will do a thing like that. I'm not in her life to waste her time. She is very aware of that. I told her last December that we shall go see her people this year and seal everything, but she told me that we still have time and no need for the rush.

Personally, I had no reasons to suspect her of possibly cheating, but her actions when we are together made me get a new SIM card and started chatting her up anonymously.

On my part, I'm a guy that ladies even open up to me that they like me. They also say I'm very intelligent and all that. I'm very transparent to her. I don't hide nothing from her. I can leave my phone with her without any fear because I don't have anything to hide.

I've never had anything to do with any lady since I met her. I so much believe in keeping your body and soul to just the person you are with...whether relationship or marriage. If you can't do that, why not just tell the person that you are not interested again than going your way to deny the person before another guy.

Ladies and gents, why on earth will a man or woman do this to someone who had dedicated his or her all to you?

I will gladly welcome your contributions, including bashing...

Addition: I am business oriented. To make her depend less on any man for money, I have created a passive income source for her that generates about 20k for her monthly
@Op,all this long story for a lady that isn't your legally married wife yet? You better dedicate your whole life to God and double your hustle.Your girlfriend needs a bad guy around her,you are the 'good guy" .It's too early to become a complainant in your relationship.

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by akilo1: 9:35pm On Apr 01, 2020
Op u and your girl friend story should park well, we are dealing with convik one 9 right now. We will come back to u when we are done

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Nobody: 9:35pm On Apr 01, 2020
Plot twist... she know say na you.

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by babyfaceafrica: 9:35pm On Apr 01, 2020
hustla:



If na me be you - here's what I will do


- I will get as much evidence as possible
- I will open a new Microsoft account and upload all the evidence to my OneDrive account and send to my Email also
- I will tell my friends what happened and then we will all go out to drink it off and cool off
- I will not tell her i found out anything, no need for that and all other super story
- I will continue to enjoy free pekus
- I will find a serious girlfriend by the side and proceed with emotional detachment from my unfortunate ex
- Confront her with evidence and
- Break up at a location that is open - before she pour hot water for my head or nack me with juju grin
- Pick race

grin

Not entirely a bad idea
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by sylve11: 9:36pm On Apr 01, 2020
CsRockefeller:
In Philosophy, it is said that Objectivity means talking from the view of the object.

Thats what I am going to try to do, no pity party, no emotions.

Sometime this year, I went for an interview and also met a host of other prospective candidates around, some of us were jobless, some already had jobs.

We began discussing about d pay, we speculated between 70 to 100k, I told them that it cant be more than a 70k given its the Chinese (very stingy persons). Amongst us was a guy already earning 150k somewhere, we scolded him, how can one attempt to leave a good paying job for peanuts, we warned him about the consequence of loosing his good job. He had his interview and quickly left, I felt he was so greedy, even if u want to leave a 150k job, it should be for a higher pay, his friend said he's fond of jumping from one interview to the other. With a pay of 150k, a lot of people would seat at that place for at least 2 years.

Man, the ordinary man has always been selfish, he seeks himself alone, remember Cain and Abel, Jacob and Esau, Absalom and David, David and Saul, the list is endless.

For a long time, I tried to convince myself that everything on earth doesnt revolve around Economics/Money/Status/Financial stability but I was wrong, as I get older I know better.

I dont want to make this longer than necessary, but if your financial position as they say in Accounting is not where your lady wants it to be enough for her to commit to u then, she is still in the market and when that guy comes with her bag of expectations, she will jump.

It is what it is, call them gold diggers, hoes, sluts, it is what it is, man seeks himself first, and don't forget that your country is the poverty capital of the world, everyone wants to escape it.

The 20k is something, there's a lady who would be happy with it, but not this one. People will continue to search for jobs, and partners that meet their financial expectations.

It is not ideal, it is not fair, it is not right in a suituation where human emotions are involved but is the World fair itself?

Cc: Primesoccer



Hmmmm cool
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Giant777(m): 9:36pm On Apr 01, 2020
Can you please shut up
24kmagic:
As a man, once you're able to fvck any girl you approached, you already won. All the calls, the efforts, the outings and the shoppings are all aiming towards sex. Shey you don fvck her? Oya breakup.

It's either you're damaging her kpekus or breaking her heart. If you're not doing any of these two things, you're the woman in the relationship.

For God's sake which man leaves his phone with a b!tch just because he wants to prove that he's faithful? What rubbish is that? It's a sign of "weakness." She should be the one doing that to prove that she's a wife material. Even if you don't have any side chick, you dare not let her know. In fact, you'll need to pretend that you have many girls disturbing you, if not she'll just rubbish you. Girls? Hmm

Finally, I can bet my left ball that money was the key factor you used in getting her. The way you kept stressing how you buy her this and that, shopping for this and that, I can say money was a major factor in getting her. Shey you don fvck her? Oya, leave her.

She's in for the cash, she doesn't like you like you think. Reason why I don't always succum to the make "make money and girls will follow you notion." Money will get you girls but it won't get you their loyalty. No girl turns down the idea of a man coming to meet her people except she doesn't love him, which is the case here.

Finally, I want you all reading this to know that "NO GIRL DESERVES A GOOD THING" and the earlier guys realise that, the better. That good thing you think she deserves, she doesn't deserve it because she doesn't want it.

What she wants and deserves are pain, cry, games, cheating, lies, manipulations, STDs, and every form of one discomfort or the other.

If you can do all these without laying a finger on her, you're EVERY GIRL'S DREAM MAN.

Forget what they say online

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Champneys: 9:37pm On Apr 01, 2020
primesoccer:
I met my girlfriend about 2yrs ago and we've been doing pretty fine. Before we met, she was in an abusive relationship and she had to quit.

In trying to understand ourselves, we've had to agree and disagree on some things, which I believe is normal. I love her and she loves me too.

I won't say I have the cash, but I'm always there to support her when she has a very pressing issue. Aside that, I take her out, we go shopping, and lots more...

She is this type of lady that if you try to correct her (in a very respectful manner) she will just get angry and may not even talk to you for even 2 days. Anger is a big part of her life. I respect her a lot and have never used abusive words on her.

When we just met, she was kind. She hardly comes to see me without buying something, even if it's N50 corn...a gesture that I appreciate so much. About a year into the relationship, her character changed. She became somewhat stingy. But I didn't take it to mean anything because I hate to even depend on anybody for anything. It didn't stop me from supporting her and doing the much I can for her.

She doesn't ever allow me touch her phone. What she does now is that whenever I'm to see and spend time with her, she turns off her data. She rejects some calls when we are together. As someone who wants peace at all times, I've sat her down to tell her my observations and ask what the matter was. But she told me nothing was the matter.

So, I decided to buy a new SIM card. I started chatting her as a stranger. She chats with me (the stranger) till even 2am. She has opened up everything about herself to the stranger. Her name, where she's from, what she does, where she lives and lots more. I'm just wondering why someone who just chatted you today is already getting to know everything about you.

Now to the reason I opened this thread: she told the stranger guy that she isn't in any relationship. Though, she added that she just met a Guy last week through her friend and they are both trying to work things out. She even sent the picture of the new guy to this stranger.

I'm still wondering why she will do a thing like that. I'm not in her life to waste her time. She is very aware of that. I told her last December that we shall go see her people this year and seal everything, but she told me that we still have time and no need for the rush.
Personally, I had no reasons to suspect her of possibly cheating, but her actions when we are together made me get a new SIM card and started chatting her up anonymously.
On my part, I'm a guy that ladies even open up to me that they like me. They also say I'm very intelligent and all that. I'm very transparent to her. I don't hide nothing from her. I can leave my phone with her without any fear because I don't have anything to hide.
I've never had anything to do with any lady since I met her. I so much believe in keeping your body and soul to just the person you are with...whether relationship or marriage. If you can't do that, why not just tell the person that you are not interested again than going your way to deny the person before another guy.
Ladies and gents, why on earth will a man or woman do this to someone who had dedicated his or her all to you?
I will gladly welcome your contributions, including bashing...
Addition: I am business oriented. To make her depend less on any man for money, I have created a passive income source for her that generates about 20k for her monthly

Ok
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Nobody: 9:37pm On Apr 01, 2020
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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Excuzeme: 9:37pm On Apr 01, 2020
etrange:
She might really love you. She's just not putting all her eggs in one basket. If you both of you break up, you'd easily move to the next girl while she waits and hopes another man would reach out to her. So I think she may not be serious with that guy but doesn't want to strike him out at once as she doesn't know your stance yet...

Just saying o!

Upon all the Op wrote (l told her we are meeting parents this year, l treat her nice, l am dedicated to her, etc) ............... see the silly excuse you still gave!

I hope and pray you are treated the same way so that we can also give you the same excuse.
No be curse o, na prayer.

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Nobody: 9:37pm On Apr 01, 2020
lol, my only problem is that recently, my morning erections takes a while to subside grin


No relationship goals, no girlfriends, I fit even manage 200 naira recharge card for two weeks on my personal line grin

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by lastclaire4(f): 9:38pm On Apr 01, 2020
primesoccer:
I met my girlfriend about 2yrs ago and we've been doing pretty fine. Before we met, she was in an abusive relationship and she had to quit.

In trying to understand ourselves, we've had to agree and disagree on some things, which I believe is normal. I love her and she loves me too.

I won't say I have the cash, but I'm always there to support her when she has a very pressing issue. Aside that, I take her out, we go shopping, and lots more...

She is this type of lady that if you try to correct her (in a very respectful manner) she will just get angry and may not even talk to you for even 2 days. Anger is a big part of her life. I respect her a lot and have never used abusive words on her.

When we just met, she was kind. She hardly comes to see me without buying something, even if it's N50 corn...a gesture that I appreciate so much. About a year into the relationship, her character changed. She became somewhat stingy. But I didn't take it to mean anything because I hate to even depend on anybody for anything. It didn't stop me from supporting her and doing the much I can for her.

She doesn't ever allow me touch her phone. What she does now is that whenever I'm to see and spend time with her, she turns off her data. She rejects some calls when we are together. As someone who wants peace at all times, I've sat her down to tell her my observations and ask what the matter was. But she told me nothing was the matter.

So, I decided to buy a new SIM card. I started chatting her as a stranger. She chats with me (the stranger) till even 2am. She has opened up everything about herself to the stranger. Her name, where she's from, what she does, where she lives and lots more. I'm just wondering why someone who just chatted you today is already getting to know everything about you.

Now to the reason I opened this thread: she told the stranger guy that she isn't in any relationship. Though, she added that she just met a Guy last week through her friend and they are both trying to work things out. She even sent the picture of the new guy to this stranger.


I'm still wondering why she will do a thing like that. I'm not in her life to waste her time. She is very aware of that. I told her last December that we shall go see her people this year and seal everything, but she told me that we still have time and no need for the rush.

Personally, I had no reasons to suspect her of possibly cheating, but her actions when we are together made me get a new SIM card and started chatting her up anonymously.

On my part, I'm a guy that ladies even open up to me that they like me. They also say I'm very intelligent and all that. I'm very transparent to her. I don't hide nothing from her. I can leave my phone with her without any fear because I don't have anything to hide.

I've never had anything to do with any lady since I met her. I so much believe in keeping your body and soul to just the person you are with...whether relationship or marriage. If you can't do that, why not just tell the person that you are not interested again than going your way to deny the person before another guy.

Ladies and gents, why on earth will a man or woman do this to someone who had dedicated his or her all to you?

I will gladly welcome your contributions, including bashing...

Addition: I am business oriented. To make her depend less on any man for money, I have created a passive income source for her that generates about 20k for her monthly

Why are u bored? Second question why should u throw in a test like that? My dear she is not your wife yet and dont demand loyalty when you have not married her. You have read stories here of people who dated their EX for five years and the guy came out to say we cannot marry.

It is only Jesus christ that is beyond every temptation. Even when he took the form of man and fasted 40 days and forty nights he had to command the devil to get behind Him. This is someone that has known no sin.

If you are not a Christian, I beg you with everything held sacred please dont throw this type of stunt again. There is no perfect person including you.

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by PappiG(m): 9:39pm On Apr 01, 2020
Mene Mene Upharsin! The writings are on the walls.
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by pennywys(m): 9:39pm On Apr 01, 2020
primesoccer:
I met my girlfriend about 2yrs ago and we've been doing pretty fine. Before we met, she was in an abusive relationship and she had to quit.

In trying to understand ourselves, we've had to agree and disagree on some things, which I believe is normal. I love her and she loves me too.

I won't say I have the cash, but I'm always there to support her when she has a very pressing issue. Aside that, I take her out, we go shopping, and lots more...

She is this type of lady that if you try to correct her (in a very respectful manner) she will just get angry and may not even talk to you for even 2 days. Anger is a big part of her life. I respect her a lot and have never used abusive words on her.

When we just met, she was kind. She hardly comes to see me without buying something, even if it's N50 corn...a gesture that I appreciate so much. About a year into the relationship, her character changed. She became somewhat stingy. But I didn't take it to mean anything because I hate to even depend on anybody for anything. It didn't stop me from supporting her and doing the much I can for her.

She doesn't ever allow me touch her phone. What she does now is that whenever I'm to see and spend time with her, she turns off her data. She rejects some calls when we are together. As someone who wants peace at all times, I've sat her down to tell her my observations and ask what the matter was. But she told me nothing was the matter.

So, I decided to buy a new SIM card. I started chatting her as a stranger. She chats with me (the stranger) till even 2am. She has opened up everything about herself to the stranger. Her name, where she's from, what she does, where she lives and lots more. I'm just wondering why someone who just chatted you today is already getting to know everything about you.

Now to the reason I opened this thread: she told the stranger guy that she isn't in any relationship. Though, she added that she just met a Guy last week through her friend and they are both trying to work things out. She even sent the picture of the new guy to this stranger.


I'm still wondering why she will do a thing like that. I'm not in her life to waste her time. She is very aware of that. I told her last December that we shall go see her people this year and seal everything, but she told me that we still have time and no need for the rush.

Personally, I had no reasons to suspect her of possibly cheating, but her actions when we are together made me get a new SIM card and started chatting her up anonymously.

On my part, I'm a guy that ladies even open up to me that they like me. They also say I'm very intelligent and all that. I'm very transparent to her. I don't hide nothing from her. I can leave my phone with her without any fear because I don't have anything to hide.

I've never had anything to do with any lady since I met her. I so much believe in keeping your body and soul to just the person you are with...whether relationship or marriage. If you can't do that, why not just tell the person that you are not interested again than going your way to deny the person before another guy.

Ladies and gents, why on earth will a man or woman do this to someone who had dedicated his or her all to you?

I will gladly welcome your contributions, including bashing...

Addition: I am business oriented. To make her depend less on any man for money, I have created a passive income source for her that generates about 20k for her monthly
so now the omens are clear, what do you want us to do? Those good days you were breaking down in between her thighs and enjoy her honey there were you called upon us or you share experiences and testimony with us.

Now use ur head

If you like hit the wall
Bucket or anything, but verily verily I say to you son use ur head

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by holybabayo(m): 9:39pm On Apr 01, 2020
Keep chatting with her. Arrange a date, then meet up. Not in your house ooo. Somewhere neutral.
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by MineBitcoin(m): 9:40pm On Apr 01, 2020
primesoccer:
I will definitely meet her with the evidence. But I still want to continue chatting with her to get more info from her before I make the move.

don't quit with her yet even after u find replacement, keep play along as normal boyfriend and stranger boyfriend,� xo if she don tire u, invite her to a place as strange boyfriend either eatery or nice place and appear as normal boyfriend, con break her heart with big Rock

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Nobody: 9:40pm On Apr 01, 2020
Bros.....Move on o
It once happened to me ,i moved on.

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by tosygno(m): 9:40pm On Apr 01, 2020
Bros...simply move on.

You don't need to confront her. Just try everything possible to get her off your head including not calling or messaging her. It might seem tough if you like her but trust me, it's the only way to get rid of her...

If you can't do the above, then be ready to be the mumu boyfriend because she will continue doing that to you and keep begging you in order to take ur money

Walk away bro

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by tomju(m): 9:41pm On Apr 01, 2020
Obaman12:
Bro! You see?

You goofed up big time by showing her all your cards bro. Relationship these days are like card games. You don't display all your cards to your opponent to avoid being kicked off the game. You play it smartly with your head not with your heart.

Now, you're of no relevance to her again, and there's nothing that you'll do to gain that back from her. To her, she's just using u as a step up plan until she lands her target man.

In otherwords, you're on your own

All, I'll say now is, start searching for another girl that would keep ur hrt occupied at moment, after that dump her and move on. That's d only way to mk her feel d break up, don't let her break ur hrt, break hers first that's how you'll get to win on this bro. Outside it, it'll be an all-round win for her. So be smart and act fast.


Note: all these should be on code. Don't let her notice anysh*t as regarding ur intention towards her. Oya go win this bro grin

I made this same mistake bro, and now am a rebranded person.

Read on miseducation by Ubanja


I will start by disagreeing with you about relationship being like a card game! It is better the shit happens now than later when he is really deep into it, like in marriage.
Why would I date a girl who always rejects her calls when we are together? 1st wrong signal.
Why would I date a girl who turns off her data when we are together? Another wrong signal.
When she always locks her phone, then definitely she is hiding something. Listen, if you cannot pick your girl friends phone and answer her calls, then she is cheating period.
Firstly, a serious relationship her parents should know you or atleast the mom should know there is someone. Except maybe you are dating an underage girl. This takes me to another issue. Relationship should be for adults! Not kids. Adult decisions, adult consequences.
Okay, i give ya'all an assignment. Propose to your girl or boy a game. Phone swap. We switch our phones for a day or two. You pick all my calls, I pick all yours. We read each others text messages. Anyone that has something to hide CAN NEVER agree to this proposal. NEVER.
Several years ago, I was in a very serious relationship. I would never suspect my girl was cheating, because she didn't need to. She had everything she wanted. I mean everything. Story for another day.
Now, I went to Abuja to visit her serving then NYSC. In the night she removed network from Her Blackberry phone before going to bed, you know like airplane mode, you can just click and mobile network is disconnected. As she slept off, I inserted network again, about 12am calls and text messages came in. Several like 7 in total.
Some girls were calling her to come out....and another text threatening her to leave her husband alone? blah blah blah. She work up in the morning looking confused. I said you had several text messages! Reavealing ones at that. She was shocked. Did you read any, I said yes. tThe one that said you should stay away from Mr Nnaji! Mrs Nnaji sent it. She broke down and cried..started apologising and all, but boy! my mind was made up. Long story short, I left.
A week after I left her for good, a lot unfolded. Love is blind init? Anyway, the thing is: be yourself. Don't "play" your relationship as "a game"! It should not be. Its either he/she is worth it or they are not. Imagine if I had married the slut that time? So I will be battling depression et al, or running upandan for paternity tests!
Love your girl/guy for real but be open minded to expect any eventuality. This is the part I had to agree with you on loving with your head, and not with your heart. A good woman is a good woman. Play a game or don't play a game. Some women have values. Norms they can die for.
If a woman or man, is cheating behind your back, and you are not...its just a matter of time, they'll be exposed. You are better off loosing a cheating girlfriend than a cheating wife.
I believe some good girls are still out there. Pray you meet one. Remember the good ones may not come in the right shape! or skin colour...you know what I mean. I wish all faithful men/women the faithful partners of their dreams or atleast be honest about who they are seeing. So you can choose which way to go. Staysafe bro. It will be okay.

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by sammyjo64: 9:41pm On Apr 01, 2020
I believe somehow, that you built the love you have for her that it's now being difficult to let her go, but for an "intelligent" guy like you as you earlier said, you should be able to know that she isn't yours. The more you wait the more difficult it becomes for you. Reading this post, i feel you've been jinxed with a love potion. Move immediately
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by MYHUBBY: 9:41pm On Apr 01, 2020
she played you


guys make this mistake concurrently but I don't know why they do it. why would you allow a lady hijack the relationship Ctrl in your hand?


if you allow her hijack the relationship Ctrl in your hand; you will be weakened, be restless, you will lost your self esteem, she will exploit you financially and emotionally


imagine she doesn't allow you to touch her phone and you don't take it up with her? my guy that's not maturity but stupidity.


you pushed the lady outside with your peaceful acclaimed character that's not necessary in a relationship. you made her to be vulnerable to other guys, 99% of ladies love men/guys with gut


if you're a man/guy and you're reading this, if you don't have gut, your woman will always be someone else bed satisfier no matter how holy she claimed to be

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Viking007(m): 9:41pm On Apr 01, 2020
primesoccer:
You are very correct. Me trying to chat her more is just to get more evidence. She might spill more than she has done already. I don't think it's an act of weakness. I have the picture of the guy she said they're trying to work things out. I saved it immediately she sent it to me (the stranger) knowing fully well that she will do "Delete for All"

You're not wise or probably too young to have a gf. Either way, listen to the person you just replied and do as he said.

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