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Ok by Nobody: 11:01am On Apr 06, 2020 |
Ok 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ok by pyrex23(m): 11:03am On Apr 06, 2020 |
y'all in relationships come n help a brother o.. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Ok by freesoul12: 11:12am On Apr 06, 2020 |
southniyikaye: U gat all those red flag when u were dating her..yet u went ahead to home her. 3 Likes |
Re: Ok by Charleys: 11:15am On Apr 06, 2020 |
G get out from here with all these name dropping. So because she said suit yourself, you come dey look for who go support your thread. You haven't told us if she cheated on you. She's also taking the pressure just like you. Do you know what it means for a married lady to go back to her parents house with kids, while you walk free. You couldn't put your house in order. That's why you're in this mess. Let me give you a secret. She doesn't want to hear your stupid stories, just make things work out 44 Likes |
Re: Ok by Nobody: 11:16am On Apr 06, 2020 |
freesoul12:I overlooked them cos I saw her loyalty, she doesn't cheat, she is a good cook and she never denied me the do anytime I feel like. So I believed I can manage those other things. And sincerely for eight years I was able to control them |
Re: Ok by freesoul12: 11:16am On Apr 06, 2020 |
I was in a similar relationship then.I have to let her go cos i knew this is the kind of thing one wil be facing in the nearest future. Carry your cross my brother.. I know God will surely help u out 4 Likes |
Re: Ok by freesoul12: 11:18am On Apr 06, 2020 |
southniyikaye: Boss,I get your point...Some girls can't cheat on you but their character alone is worse than cheating.Cheating is not the only criteria u look up to if ure to home a girl 8 Likes |
Re: Ok by nwaimoroseyaho: 11:18am On Apr 06, 2020 |
Go to her and have a heart to heart talk. It's too early to conclude that she has abandoned you. She is not happy with your situation but her reaction is wrong dats all. 9 Likes |
Re: Ok by Victornezzar: 11:19am On Apr 06, 2020 |
Wow.... Feeling sorry for Op Man file for a divorce and take custody of your kids... That woman is going to drain you coupled with the financial challenges you're facing now Please for the sake of your health Cc lefulefu 2 Likes |
Re: Ok by pryme(m): 11:20am On Apr 06, 2020 |
you are your own, the sooner you make peace with this the better for you to able to make inform decisions. cheating is not the only thing that can destroy marraige. anybody that smiles with you only when things are rossy is never a reliable person. its time you start keeping your plans to yourself cos in this trying times YOU are all you have. its obvious your wife seem uninterested, then stop engaging her, leave her be. 5 Likes |
Re: Ok by lawpeh: 11:22am On Apr 06, 2020 |
Brother, I'll advice you let her be for now... Focus in how to get back on your feet and meet ur kids needs... Don't focus ur attention on her attitude. Let ur results and achievements convince her. If she's still available when you're okay and wants to come back to u then u can accept her. If she's not available, be the best dad to your kids and find an independent woman who won't leave u should in case you fall again 4 Likes |
Re: Ok by Nobody: 11:23am On Apr 06, 2020 |
inas much you created your own down fall, no redpill can save you at the moment your job now is to develop yourself, it will be hard to cut contact with your wife if you have kids, if you do not have kids, cut contact with her and focus on rebuilding your self esteem, your self esteem is everything now. focus on building rather than things you cant control 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ok by Millenniumlady(f): 11:24am On Apr 06, 2020 |
How on earth she allow you play her up to this level is what i don't understand ![]() 6 Likes |
Re: Ok by Harshreality: 11:26am On Apr 06, 2020 |
Never ignore red flags And also, why isn't she working? Especially now that things aren't Rosy? 1 Like |
Re: Ok by Nobody: 11:28am On Apr 06, 2020 |
So you expect me to read this story book of yours ![]() |
Re: Ok by Harshreality: 11:31am On Apr 06, 2020 |
southniyikaye: I think you also keep in mind that she's also as stressed as you. I think it's better you have a face to face conversation and iron things out with her. Also, she should get something doing no matter how small. It helps in helping someone appreciate money. People tend not to know the value of money until they have worked for it. And at this point you also need help and support. That's what partners are for to bring support to you when you're down not to add more weight. Talk to her. Chats are easy ways to get misunderstood. Not everything can be discussed through chats. You might think she doesn't care but she does. After all what happens next affects both of you. 5 Likes |
Re: Ok by flokii: 11:34am On Apr 06, 2020 |
Guess this saying was true all along.. no romance without finance @OP It's a man's world. Get your acts together and keep going. Maybe or maybe not she will come back. 1 Like |
Re: Ok by freesoul12: 11:35am On Apr 06, 2020 |
Millenniumlady: Well-done real lady.. Keep it up 1 Like |
Re: Ok by bigpicture001: 11:37am On Apr 06, 2020 |
...your biggest problem was that you ignored, the line 8,of this your write up when you guyz where dating....you said sh was very arrogant,stubborn and disrespectful.... That is what is now hunting you... You also said,.. I HV always known sh wanted a falshy lifestyle, stress free and all that... The truth remains,you HV been the only one working your ass off to make this relationship work.... On the break up fear....like av experience b4..it is very very hard to help your mind off it...cuz sh is a wife and not a relationship 3 Likes |
Re: Ok by luwiizy(m): 11:39am On Apr 06, 2020 |
Free that wife of yours for a long time.... If you keep putting pressure on her to come back she will come back putting much more pressure on you.... Brother be wise, the book of proverb spoke alot about things like this.. You saw all this beforehand and you chose to go ahead... You are soft from the heart no doubt.. Men like you makes these world a better place.. Always believing they can manage the unmanageable 2 Likes |
Re: Ok by Cashio(m): 11:40am On Apr 06, 2020 |
Millenniumlady:oh my....WTF!! |
Re: Ok by nitoriolohun(m): 11:50am On Apr 06, 2020 |
Sorry bro for the pain. you have done literally nothing wrong to love your woman n family so much that you provided for them so well when things was going well for you. As a matter of fact u obeyed God's word. Without mincing words for you, you failed to realise that love is never enough to marry. Before settling for a partner think about her economic advantage. Her arrogance, disrespect n stubborness was there when u dated her for two years but because you thought u were either in love or believed she will change or u can endure. See bro ! marriage is partnership n you should not feel bad when u can't carry on with the family responsibilities but yes you ought to feel concerned as a man of honour but u married a woman who has never invested in the marriage so she can choose to act anyway because she feels you will be the looser. The Bible says two are better than one so when one falls the other will help the other to stand. You married a woman who might have asked you countless of times can u take care of me ? a question I detest so much been asked. what is the meaning of she dont want pain she dnt want stress, she wants to live a flashy life style, bro at whose expense ? A woman of economic advantage thinks above all dos bull craps. The deed is done and won't tell you your wife is bad or you shld not fight for her but this is an eye opener. The people u really deserve are the ones that are there when you are in crises. Available for you physically,emotionally n surportive. most women who are flashy are like cancers. Job in the Bible can relate better. They tends to be angels n caring when things are fine but demons n psychopath when things go wrong. uncle my advise for you tho am not married but am a high chief bachelor so u can decide wat to make of my advice. Women tends to get power when you beg them in such situation they see u as a weakling 1.dnt beg her just explain things to her. 2. pray to God for direction n restoration 3. work on your emotions n see her as non existing.4. still keep giving the little u have for your children. 5. if you are a christain and you belong to a church try see your pastor n seek counsel n help. las las if God willing your wife will come back to her senses n know her role in the marriage is to be a help meet n not a liability. she will step up her game and be responsible too but if otherwise bro you know what to do and if you dnt know lemme help u with the golden rule . YOURSELF FIRST. shalom !!! 13 Likes |
Re: Ok by KAYCEEJUNIOR(m): 11:54am On Apr 06, 2020 |
Millenniumlady:Words by an idiot, was she handicap when she said i do? What stop her from learning skills when the going was Rossy, my Dad knew that his wealth won't sustain him, he make sure that he sponsored my Mum through school and when he was broke.... Mumsi was doing well in education sector and taking care of the family without anyone knowing apart from immediate family. You such a millennium Myopic Feminist and it's your type that was sent by Lucifer to wreck homes. Sycophant!! 17 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ok by smatt1711: 12:21pm On Apr 06, 2020 |
This is what you get when you go all out that you want a girl by any means(mistake that most guys make) without checking how much she is really into you too.....pleasing a girl with material things only makes sense to her when she is receiving it from a man and not a baby man, you think you can win a girls hearth with love and care ,sure it matters too but withouth being a man then you are raising a structure on a weak foundation....she will get bored and gets tired.............1st strive to be a man ,ckeck the aura you radiate around your wife ,make sure is that of a full man ,you need to oprate on a higher sense of doing things, dont just be a pleaser husband........To act like a man and to act like a woman is two different things in this world,most guys run away from women who acts like men but gets suprised when a girl drop them for picking the role of women , acting like a man does not mean oppressing your woman, just make her have this sense of being with something that is so freindly yet so supirior to her ,something that is stronger ,wiser ,harder all working in her own favour and not against her , it may take you time but you need to build this , ........i am sure you married a good woman that is why you are still contemplating if she is cheating even at this stage.....any man that counts how nice he was to his woman when explaning the problems from the relationship is still a baby man , work on your self ,work out ,build some muscle that will help radiate your testostone level , it cost less for a man to matain his woman but it cost more for a baby man to matain his woman. Pleas dont mind some grammatical errors 7 Likes |
Re: Ok by SweetCunt97(f): 12:23pm On Apr 06, 2020 |
southniyikaye:Okay I just read yiur story. Mr Man it's best for you to work smart and make things better for your family. Imagine d shame of moving back to her mother's place with kids and you there yarning dust? Women need concrete evidence and not talk. Remember the Bible said a man who cannot care for his family is worse than an infidel. Hope when things get better you'll see reasons to allow her earn money and not solely depend on you. Empower your wife! Don't make her helpless and stranded with ur kids when you no more. P.s It's hard to see a cheerful person in such condition o. So Nwannem je chuba ego 5 Likes |
Re: Ok by Bola146(f): 12:27pm On Apr 06, 2020 |
Go to God in prayers, maybe she too is really fed up with life or she is not happy. Go and see her one on one. 1 Like |
Re: Ok by Unik3030: 1:29pm On Apr 06, 2020 |
Why do I keep having the feeling that this thing will eventually happen to my cousin, anytime d fool starts dating he takes d responsibility of the girls father by spending like a fool even though d girl is really not into her. Guys have to understand that there's definitely a thick line between love m money,money is important but it must b balanced with love.from your write up she wasn't really into u right from d onset cos d way she views things differ from d way u view them but it's like u were trying to tie her down with love money n other shits so when d jazi jazier she's planning to Kawai. Now u have to live with the consequences of your actions because she's your wife n not your girlfriend n if u try divorce what happens to your kids? A bad foundation is leading u to shits now,I pity u bro.... |
Re: Ok by JONNYSPUTE(m): 1:45pm On Apr 06, 2020 |
She was arrogant, stubborn and disrespectful but I was able to keep those attitudes in check. She has since stopped replying my messages and chatting me And I always see her online [/quote]....Go thank your God she was the one that left on her own. Use this opportunity to work harder without distractions.Stsy focused and Hustle the more.Not for her,but for your kids.Dont go beg her Because if you do and she comes back,things will get worst.Make sure you go to see your kids atleast twice a week and act as if she is nothing to you.Be strong bro Don't go and kill your self for any woman. 3 Likes |
Re: Ok by Nobody: 1:53pm On Apr 06, 2020 |
You're trying as much as possible to show the world that you are stupid and brainless but nobody is paying attention cos we have enough lunatics in the world already. Millenniumlady: 9 Likes |
Re: Ok by Starcrest1: 1:54pm On Apr 06, 2020 |
Chai. People make una pray so that you wouldn't end up with a bad spouse. But Op you know say without money in marriage problems must come. It only takes a real G to keep a woman in check without cash. So be a real G. |
Re: Ok by Cholls(m): 2:13pm On Apr 06, 2020 |
my brother from the day she went back to her parents house was the day you lost your Honour as her Husband. I think her attitudes towards you is a sign for you as a Man to work hard to regain your lost Honour...whether you live or die in the process of achieving it doesn't matter...atleast you left a legacy for your children to follow...That is my Father,he died just to make us live a better life. 1 Like |
Re: Ok by egopersonified(f): 2:27pm On Apr 06, 2020 |
If you give more to strangers than yourself, it means you don't like yourself and therefore feel you don't deserve nice things. If you don't love yourself, how can someone else love you for you. They would love you for what you have. Bros, this life is too sweet ooo. Better pick up yourself and focus on you instead of seeking validation from your partner. If you do your best and e no work out, you can marry again. Life goes on. 5 Likes |
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