UnaToto:
UnaToto

Swiitdoll:
Is it normal to have no desire to get married? I’m 24, getting my life together still, in a relationship for abt a year now but I somewhat just don’t see a man in my future. I’ve thought about adopting a kid in about 11-13 years from now when I’m more financially stable to give the kid a loving home. But everyone thinks I’m not normal. I’m also happy to attend my friends wedding as some are already getting married, I just don’t feel it’s for me at all

frankkydee:


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Don't worry, you will be alright

Swiitdoll:
Is it normal to have no desire to get married? I’m 24, getting my life together still, in a relationship for abt a year now but I somewhat just don’t see a man in my future. I’ve thought about adopting a kid in about 11-13 years from now when I’m more financially stable to give the kid a loving home. But everyone thinks I’m not normal. I’m also happy to attend my friends wedding as some are already getting married, I just don’t feel it’s for me at all

Swiitdoll:
Is it normal to have no desire to get married? I’m 24, getting my life together still, in a relationship for abt a year now but I somewhat just don’t see a man in my future. I’ve thought about adopting a kid in about 11-13 years from now when I’m more financially stable to give the kid a loving home. But everyone thinks I’m not normal. I’m also happy to attend my friends wedding as some are already getting married, I just don’t feel it’s for me at all

Oluromantic:

It's a 24 year old symptom. Experiences will change your view when you get to 28+. At that time you will thinking less of yourself and more of what you can do for your spouse.. That's the maturity that lives through marriage.

lilmax:
There's something called reality


Just like the prodigal son, you're comfortable in your thoughts now


You're 24

Women use their brains very well at 27, so chill and watch the magic



No be only "I want to adopt 11 year old and provide a loving home"

Swiitdoll:



Oh I hope so! My aunties are already pressuring me

Swiitdoll:
Is it normal to have no desire to get married? I’m 24, getting my life together still, in a relationship for abt a year now but I somewhat just don’t see a man in my future. I’ve thought about adopting a kid in about 11-13 years from now when I’m more financially stable to give the kid a loving home. But everyone thinks I’m not normal. I’m also happy to attend my friends wedding as some are already getting married, I just don’t feel it’s for me at all

Swiitdoll:
Is it normal to have no desire to get married? I’m 24, getting my life together still, in a relationship for abt a year now but I somewhat just don’t see a man in my future. I’ve thought about adopting a kid in about 11-13 years from now when I’m more financially stable to give the kid a loving home. But everyone thinks I’m not normal. I’m also happy to attend my friends wedding as some are already getting married, I just don’t feel it’s for me at all

GreatResearcher1:
Stop wasting that boy's time and money in the name of relationship. Release him from your cage as soon as possible.

HarunaWest:

Well I guess I have to be blunt again..
I used to be a scholar of your school of thought until one day I realised that Marriage wasn't only about having sex, raising a family and all that. It was more about companionship. It's miserable to grow old without a loyal companion. The other day I stared at my dad, he recently got estranged from my mum, but I could see in his eyes that he wasn't happy. Even if we were to keep him company, it will be et be like my mum's own cos they have history togetherness. Moreover when the going gets tough later in life, even the family you have now and sibling will park you one side cos there is a limit to which they can sacrifice for you. Even the child you intend to adopt and raise would have the best of characters cos I have come to realise that Children from single parents tends to be wayward most times. A child needs a father and mother's love. Trust me dear Marriage is a good thing. If what scares you is the sort of people you meet, then try and look for someone that is more of a friend and not a lover. When best friends Marry, the bond is solid. I don't want you to regret your actions now so start being on the look out for a hubby, you go dey alright las las

Swiitdoll:


Not all relationships end in marriage. Some people date for years and never marry each other anyway so relax!

Happyguy201:



It's funny you said that . But most girls won't take it likely when you tell theme the same thing . They will be like you wasted their time used and dumped them

Swiitdoll:
Is it normal to have no desire to get married? I’m 24, getting my life together still, in a relationship for abt a year now but I somewhat just don’t see a man in my future. I’ve thought about adopting a kid in about 11-13 years from now when I’m more financially stable to give the kid a loving home. But everyone thinks I’m not normal. I’m also happy to attend my friends wedding as some are already getting married, I just don’t feel it’s for me at all

Freelane33:
Are you for real ?

Swiitdoll:


Do I sound like I’m joking?

Freelane33:
Can’t tell ...incase you ain’t joking about this , I have little info for you .

Swiitdoll:



Oh I hope so! My aunties are already pressuring me

Don't let the pressure get to ya.

Swiitdoll:

I wonder why in 2020 nairaland don’t do direct messages instead of allowing people have your email which is even riskier. Well u can reply with what u have to say to me. I bet it’s interesting haha!

Swiitdoll:
Is it normal to have no desire to get married? I’m 24, getting my life together still, in a relationship for abt a year now but I somewhat just don’t see a man in my future. I’ve thought about adopting a kid in about 11-13 years from now when I’m more financially stable to give the kid a loving home. But everyone thinks I’m not normal. I’m also happy to attend my friends wedding as some are already getting married, I just don’t feel it’s for me at all

Swiitdoll:
Is it normal to have no desire to get married? I’m 24, getting my life together still, in a relationship for abt a year now but I somewhat just don’t see a man in my future. I’ve thought about adopting a kid in about 11-13 years from now when I’m more financially stable to give the kid a loving home. But everyone thinks I’m not normal. I’m also happy to attend my friends wedding as some are already getting married, I just don’t feel it’s for me at all

HarunaWest:

Well I guess I have to be blunt again..
I used to be a scholar of your school of thought until one day I realised that Marriage wasn't only about having sex, raising a family and all that. It was more about companionship. It's miserable to grow old without a loyal companion. The other day I stared at my dad, he recently got estranged from my mum, but I could see in his eyes that he wasn't happy. Even if we were to keep him company, it will be et be like my mum's own cos they have history togetherness. Moreover when the going gets tough later in life, even the family you have now and sibling will park you one side cos there is a limit to which they can sacrifice for you. Even the child you intend to adopt and raise would have the best of characters cos I have come to realise that Children from single parents tends to be wayward most times. A child needs a father and mother's love. Trust me dear Marriage is a good thing. If what scares you is the sort of people you meet, then try and look for someone that is more of a friend and not a lover. When best friends Marry, the bond is solid. I don't want you to regret your actions now so start being on the look out for a hubby, you go dey alright las las

unmask:
It is perfectly normal...... marriage is one of society's creation used to define normal. However, it is perfectly normal for anyone not to want to get married or put another way "pressured" to get married.

Look at it this way. Marriage is meant to enhance your life right? But if at any point in time you weigh the pros and cons of marriage and the cons outweigh the pros, then why should you get married or want to get married?

As it stands there are very few people in this country that have been able to rise above the "I must marry" mentality and you being one of them I say congrats.....you have taken charge of one personal choice society always feel they have a right to dictate.