IloveFred:

I have my husband today. He arrived. Our first day together, in Poland

IloveFred:

Welcome everybody. I am still happy. He is nice, cooks, wash plates, help me, we had our interview, our testimonies were the same.

IloveFred:

N.Delta: don't worry. He is not to work only, but he helps me. It is his choice. He is very nice. I want to give him what he wants. His needs are important to me.

adamsrib:

I'm glad your husband is now with you. There have been some really mean, snide, sarcastic and hateful comments in this thread but you still keep coming back to update, that let's me know you are tough. We cannot ask God to bless our lives with a good man and then be too afraid to see where it goes when one shows up. I applaud you for not letting fear get the best of you. The easy thing would have been to say no to him and stay in your "safe zone", but you did not do that. With your tough attitude and resolve you will be okay no matter what happens. More importantly if things don't turn out as you hope at least you can say "I tried." We only get one shot at this life so it is best to live it and have NO REGRETS. All the best to you and yours.

Katy86:

When he can not eat polish food, what he want in Poland?
What he want with a polish woman?

When he need his own food let him cook for himself.

You are not his personal slave.

adamsrib:

People please don't let Katy make this thread about her.

@OP you can find many recipes online. http://www.motherlandnigeria.com/recipes.html This has popular Nigerian recipes. Just do a search and you will find lots of info.

xxcarolxx:

The link you posted, is how i stumbled across nairaland, I still have to master jelloff rice as i keep burning my rice,

Mrs.Chima:

Disclaimer: This is my opinion and if it hurting your feelings.  Tough.

I agree with the parties on both sides of the "debate".  I can see why SOME people would say that African men are marrying Non-African women for papers or a way to feed their hungry families.  Nigerian men aren't the only Africans that are dating or married to Non-African women.  Let keep it real about what is really going on and some people do not want to accept the fact that their African men (speaking to the Non-African women) could be the deceiver and I am not saying it is in your case but the odds are greater especially if they are not documented.

There are women who have created threads on this section complaining about being used simply for papers and resources.  Some of these women are NOT married to Nigerian men and YET paint all Nigerian men FOR WHAT another African man done to them.  Is that fair?  No.  If you can make a decision purely on what you feel is right on your own then you should be prepared to accept EVERYTHING that comes with the decisions you make.  Do not blame others for YOUR decisions.  If the man was good enough to marry and bleep then you should have been good enough to move on and live your life. 

On the defense side, I can see what people are saying about others making snide and mean comments to women who are married or dating the African men.  Why is it a problem for an African man to marry or date a Non-African woman for papers and resources but it is not a problem for the African women that are selling puscy and mouth to white men for chump change?    If you can point fingers at one "vice", you should be able to point fingers at all vices.  Last time I checked, a vice is a vice.  I have seen people on this site are selective who they feel is right or wrong.  I have seen people who have stated some of the most incorrect chit in the HISTORY of humanity and yet get accolades but when someone is telling the truth based on what their African wives or husbands have shared to them they are told to go somewhere else and this is an African site.  Yet they are trying to immigrate FROM their African countries.  [size=18pt]How would you feel if someone in the country you have immigrated tell you to go back home, African booty scratcher?  I thought so.  [/size]

Bottom line, EVERYBODY have skeletons in their closets and while you trying to figure out who is doing what and why YOUR PROBLEMS are still unresolved.  If you are happy and successful it would show.   

RIGHT ON! 

@topic: Some African men are scammers. Some Jamaican men are scammers and some American men are scammers. That is their flaw as INDIVIDUALS they do not represent their entire nationality.

Secondly some African men marry and date NON-African black woman (non Nigerian in this case) and are actually in love with them. So stop trying to discredit those who are loyal to their foreign wives by painting them all as being scammers. It hurts the feelings of some women on this site and men ([b]strange[/b]ly. . .is this a gay thing??  ) to know men from their ethnicity can genuinely care for and love a Non-Nigerian/African woman and they try to feel better about the situation by saying "he's scamming you hehehehee" please. 

it's the same with interracial dating, yes we know some non black women on a LARGE scale are being used by black men, but we cannot forget there are some black men who LOVE their non black woman.

IloveFred:

My husband is honest. I know that. For me it isn't a problem that he wants to eat only his food. There is no problem to adjust. I respect his will and culture. We go for shopping and he tells me what he needs to buy. But it's true that everybody should respect culture of the country they currently live, but they can practise their own customs.
If man respects me I can do everything for him. I am happy when he is happy.
Katy86: Do you really love your boyfriend if you can tell him "come back"? Because of such a silly reason? My family is still against me, my mother still doesn't want to see him, but I will never let them hurt him.

Basseti:

I dont know what premise your marriage to this Nigerian dude is all about, but whateva it is, I wish U the best of luck.

Warning tho:

Dont come here screaming if something goes wrong . And most importantly , dont take it out on all Nigerian men. Take it as one of those many marriages in the Western world that failed.

Once again, enjoy your marriage girl

Mrs.Chima:

She is not in the West. She is in Poland.

Mrs.Chima:

She is not in the West. She is in Poland.