whizqueen:
My friend sent me this thread last night but I had too much to say so here we go.

I (A Nigerian girl living in Canada) will be responding to the OP's points and some other comments I found on the thread.


Are Nigerian Ladies in Canada lonely? Ofcourse we are! Are Nigerian girls in NIGERIA lonely? Hell yeah!!! Are Nigerian girls in other countries lonely? Absolutely!!!!! Being lonely is not a factor of location or person. It's about not finding the right friends/partner you vibe with.


Why did we immigrate? Bros are you kidding me? Canadian govt is paying me $2000 monthly and other benefits for losing income due to covid-19 Is that happening in Naija right now? All the money donated by philanthropist in Nigeria would soon disappear into the thin air without our govt giving explanation of any sort. Ofcourse, it's not bed of roses abroad neither were we expecting a man wrapped in a gift bag but please don't let your sentiments cloud your reasoning as to why people make immigration decisions abeg.


I personally feel attacked I recently posted a video on my YouTube Channel about finding love & online dating in Canada. It's asif this hope saw my video and wanted to attack me


What makes you think we would be interested in you to begin with? Don't pride yourself too much plis dear


If you like let the OP influence your decision and stop you from chasing your immigration dreams, last last it's up to you to decide what you want for your future.


Whilst I would agree with growing together with your partner and building with them. I think it's just shallow minded of anyone in this age and time to ask for women to chase marriage first before career. Marriage is not the ultimate not everyone sees marriage as an achievement. These days, if you crave for sex so much, you can pay someone to do it or get yourself a Love Machine, if you want a child, you can literally just buy a sperm and save yourself lots of stress. Most of us are yet to keep an open mind to these things, however if you want something badly there;s always a way to get it.


Most Nigerian men hate to see it happen, there are laws that protect women here and they would prefer dying single than to see women as their equals. A good number of them are control freaks and would rather their woman be at their beck and call for everything as opposed to having their marriage work as a partnership. Nigerian married man knowing the laws of the land will still go ahead and cheat on his wife with a girl living in the same condo with his wife. Una no even dey fear or respect una madam. If atall you really want to cheat, you cannot travel to Nigeria and secretly mess with girls that fancy IJGB crew or allen avenue. As expected, some women do exploit the situation but if you find yourself a god-fearing person and you do the right thing, no divorce laws or child custody issue would stop y'all from flourishing.


White men dont find us attractive? Laughs is Swahili
On the contrary most men of other races have FETISH for Nigerian girls and Black girls in general. Maybe not long term in all cases tho but they reaaaaaaally fancy us and admire our enthusiasm towards life. Whilst most Nigerian girls would likely not wanna go for the likes of 'Ryan', 'Billy' and co it's not cos we don't find them attractive. Firstly, Naija guys are smart, intelligent and goal oriented. You see the average ones already have plans for their future and working towards it unlike the counterparts who are comfortable with just a high school degree. If a Naija guy is even into technical jobs he would try to be the best at it and work towards starting his own company in the near future. Secondly, coping with someone with a different culture, lifestyle, food, etc is honestly stressful. I was talking with one Persian guy and he said before we can kiss or hold hands, we have to be temporarily married. The other chinese guy is only about 5ft tall, I'm just wondering what he would look like in that department

In Nigeria, when you visit a guy at home, some would expect you to know that's express ticket to get laid with them. But here if you visit a guy at home, you can be almost certain that if you guys have sex it's cos you wanted it, no guy will try to lure or manipulate you to straff them or tell you when you came to my house what were you thinking. They know it's important to ask for your opinion or even avoid the whole situation altogether.

Something the OP failed to address is that the Loneliness spans across both men and women living in Diaspora. Even the white people find it hard getting a partner for themselves much less an immigrant that would probably take some time to fully settle in. The system is built to have everyone mind their business, that togetherness or family-spirit is missing.

All the naija guys and ladies in Toronto have finish dating themselves. It's such a small city, everyone knows eachother thru another person only a matter of time before you find out that; the guy toasting you is ex with your colleagues' friend. Or the guy you matched with on the dating app went on a date with your housemate the day before. Some would be married and they would be on the dating apps lying to other women.

Some of us don't even mind going back home to bring men here, but 'em guys just they find paper. Only few genuinely love and care for you. I kuku know people here already do that as business tho, some ladies/guys now charge up to $30,000 to marry people from home to help them get residency here.

There are tons of Nigerians in Canada groups on WhatsApp and Telegram some are just for singles and you find people of age 35, 40, etc filled with both women and MEN. Some guys eventually resort to going back home to marry the less exposed girls, but guess what happens once they reach YYZ airport? Oh well your guess is as good as mine. Their eyes go open finish.

A good number of Naija guys are single and desperately finding love as well as ladies. Truth is, we all crave for love. And that's not a bad thing to want. Finding a good match or significant other is a honestly a game of chance. Home and Abroad, White or Black race finding a partner is truly difficult and if you got lucky finding that one special person, you better love and cherish them truly.

I rest my case; I am in the comment section waiting for someone to jump on my mention and before you do so just remember: Opinions are like as5holes and everyone is entitled to one. So this is my opinion, I have free time today

Link to Original thread https://www.nairaland.com/5782313/chai-nigerian-girls-canada-lonely

Mstick:
Anybody with a brain knows that thread was created to massage the ego of Nigerian men.

Nigerian men like to praise themselves and make it look like women from other continents are falling over themselves to date them but believe me it's 100% false.

Black men are just the worst honestly, you see them opening threads upon threads insulting and humiliating black women but you would NEVER see men from other races do that. Are their women perfect? NO! but they respect and protect them anyway.

The reason why most of this black men go after white women is because of the standard the white men set for their own women, they built a country and environment where there women can thrive meanwhile our own men are still here debating if we're allowed to serve them garri with one meat.

Ayohbk:


I can assure you the O. P is a beautiful, well packaged, independent lady. One that from your post you can't get. You are a ball-less and spineless man who think bringing down a woman with words would make you better. But the joke is on you. To even think you use another man's picture on your profile says a lot about you.

I'll state clearly without mincing words, the O.P IS WAY OUT OF YOUR LEAGUE. Get of the keypad now, boy and make something out of your miserable misogynistic life

Arsenate:

Gave you a like, boss. Because you said it like a boss, straight from the heart and no bullshitting.

Kenneth10110:





Can one get a loan and be paying back small for masters program?

Shibaraba:
Op simply justified the first thread. Like your gaptooth though

And it made front page. Let me use this opportunity to pass a message .Do you know that when you give you actually receive? People dey hungry for this lock down. Some you go see outside dey laugh but Owu Don blow dem. Please pick your phone, call that your family and friend. This is an opportunity to make people smile. Yes scammers dey...But even if you're scammed while doing good the blessing remains the same. Even if na 1k give. You just might save a life. Hunger bad

(Miss you Hungerbad. Rip)

J111333:
Sister just dey console herself.

I didn't wanna comment on the other thread but I'll be very much active on this one.

In diaspora, naija men are after oyibo woman and naija women are after oyibo men. At the end, oyibo women na dem rush naija men but that's not the case for our naija sisters.

The truth is that they are the cause of their loneliness because average naija men will naturally go after our sisters but the rejection they face by our over ambitious sisters no be here.

By the time, oyibo men men ignore them and they retrace their steps, our brothers have moved on.

...and the reason they reject our brothers? They think our brothers need green card from them which is not always the case.

whizqueen:
If you want you can check out my YouTube Channel, I make videos on Life in Canada and immigrating to Canada, the process, the cost and available pathways

Astark:
that's the same way whites and other races of women find us the least attractive.

A white woman will move to other side of the road when they see a black man coming.

An Asian woman will close her face and go to other side of the seat when they see a black man.

Have you heard of other races putting their women down except black men? White men built their country and treat their white women as queens that's why you lust over them.

We need to do better and treat our women right because no one will

generationz:



It is indeed shameful. They forget their moms and sisters have the same skin color they insult.

tyup:
Reading some few lines i knew the whole message would be senseless n really when that guy said 9ja babes in Canada 're less attractive n not good looking dang i now believe

mehnn Op wor wor ehn Tuueh

Besides only a lonely lady would have such time to reply breaking in messages just like you've done

tyup:
Reading some few lines i knew the whole message would be senseless n really when that guy said 9ja babes in Canada 're less attractive n not good looking dang i now believe

mehnn Op wor wor ehn Tuueh

Besides only a lonely lady would have such time to reply breaking in messages just like you've done

Coolabbie:
Kobe Bryant is a prime example.

His entire wealth gone to the Mexican community.

It's a pity

Akpaamunsi:


Try get sense. See how u r disgracing your fellow man. What makes the O.P Whizqueen beyond his league? In Nigeria, nobody will notice her. Let her go to House on the rock in lekki, Whizqueen can't even clean d shoe of even the ugliest girl in that church. And she even had d guts to call Nigerian based girls unexposed. Does she mean Nigerian girls working in banks and other professional firms are lesser exposed than she is? From her post, I can see why she is yet to be married. Smh

Stop bringing your fellow man down because of a pussy u will never have.

I remain Akpaamunsi Agwu

Jim99:
We don hear

We go still pick white/latinas/asians over una

Nothing change

mikkyangel3:
As a software developer working remotely for a US tech company, I am paid well (circa $5k) and I live in Nigeria. Do I wish to immigrate to Canada? the thought used to cross my mind but since I got my remote job, my people I perished the thought. I even used to watch @whizqueen videos on YT (she used to be my neighbor in Surulere so I know am reach house) but not anymore.

Baba I aint going to any Canada or any foreign country at least permanently. if I want to collect fresh air , I can travel briefly and return or I go on company expense during our yearly retreat which is most times in Europe. Visa issues for me is the only time I hate my nationality and the green passport I carry.
$5k in Nigeria is not beans with $1 == #420 now and likely to increase.
Brethren just keep praying make oil fall on your head and you make it anywhere you are. Clearly Canada isnt heaven. I prefer heat (I can put on my AC) than subzero cold.

To each man his own.

Peace.

ibkayee:

LOL

Which oyibo women are rushing naija men? Jokes aside, please explain

whizqueen:

Thank you!

I’ve been on Nairaland long enough to know how these people reason. None of the responses so far moved me. If I’m confident in my looks enough to go on YouTube, who them be??

MizMyColi:
This is one reason I dislike putting my life out there.
Too much negative energy.

Some people just project their negative lives to you. They are so desperate for it to become your reality as well.

However, the less they know about you, the easier you can live your life and be truly happy.

I get that privacy and publicity has its perks, however, I'd favor a private life any and every time.

pocohantas:


Hmmm. “Foreign women rush Naija men”

rhymz:
Nairaland has become trash walahi.... a lot of jobless guys here who think they are in competition with women.... The lady just put down her thoughts in response to the first thread that alleges that Nigerian women are lonely in Canada, instead of a honest conversation.... dudes are just busy writing like maniacs that have no females in their lives..... many of the guys writing this nonsense obviously can't keep a conversation with a woman.... lol self esteem is very evident in the way many are replying the ladies like loonies..... very disappointed in the men here..... Nairaland has gone to the dogs.... where are the real adult males that use to be here....

Ayohbk:



I can see you feel attacked. That pleases me. I said and I'll say again, the O.P is way out of the league of that spineless and ball-less fellow and from your comment, you too. And I can also affirm that she's more exposed than you and any girl you've ever called your girl.

BTW.... I don't need to bring anybody down, he has already shown from his post that he lives on the floor. I guess you're his neighbor

mikkyangel3:
As a software developer working remotely for a US tech company, I am paid well (circa $5k) and I live in Nigeria. Do I wish to immigrate to Canada? the thought used to cross my mind but since I got my remote job, my people I perished the thought. I even used to watch @whizqueen videos on YT (she used to be my neighbor in Surulere so I know am reach house) but not anymore.

Baba I aint going to any Canada or any foreign country at least permanently. if I want to collect fresh air , I can travel briefly and return or I go on company expense during our yearly retreat which is most times in Europe. Visa issues for me is the only time I hate my nationality and the green passport I carry.
$5k in Nigeria is not beans with $1 == #420 now and likely to increase.
Brethren just keep praying make oil fall on your head and you make it anywhere you are. Clearly Canada isnt heaven. I prefer heat (I can put on my AC) than subzero cold.

To each man his own.

Peace.

whizqueen:
My friend sent me this thread last night but I had too much to say so here we go.

I (A Nigerian girl living in Canada) will be responding to the OP's points and some other comments I found on the thread.


Are Nigerian Ladies in Canada lonely? Ofcourse we are! Are Nigerian girls in NIGERIA lonely? Hell yeah!!! Are Nigerian girls in other countries lonely? Absolutely!!!!! Being lonely is not a factor of location or person. It's about not finding the right friends/partner you vibe with.


Link to Original thread https://www.nairaland.com/5782313/chai-nigerian-girls-canada-lonely

whizqueen:
My friend sent me this thread last night but I had too much to say so here we go.

I (A Nigerian girl living in Canada) will be responding to the OP's points and some other comments I found on the thread.


Are Nigerian Ladies in Canada lonely? Ofcourse we are! Are Nigerian girls in NIGERIA lonely? Hell yeah!!! Are Nigerian girls in other countries lonely? Absolutely!!!!! Being lonely is not a factor of location or person. It's about not finding the right friends/partner you vibe with.


Why did we immigrate? Bros are you kidding me? Canadian govt is paying me $2000 monthly and other benefits for losing income due to covid-19 Is that happening in Naija right now? All the money donated by philanthropist in Nigeria would soon disappear into the thin air without our govt giving explanation of any sort. Ofcourse, it's not bed of roses abroad neither were we expecting a man wrapped in a gift bag but please don't let your sentiments cloud your reasoning as to why people make immigration decisions abeg.


I personally feel attacked I recently posted a video on my YouTube Channel about finding love & online dating in Canada. It's asif this hope saw my video and wanted to attack me


What makes you think we would be interested in you to begin with? Don't pride yourself too much plis dear


If you like let the OP influence your decision and stop you from chasing your immigration dreams, last last it's up to you to decide what you want for your future.


Whilst I would agree with growing together with your partner and building with them. I think it's just shallow minded of anyone in this age and time to ask for women to chase marriage first before career. Marriage is not the ultimate not everyone sees marriage as an achievement. These days, if you crave for sex so much, you can pay someone to do it or get yourself a Love Machine, if you want a child, you can literally just buy a sperm and save yourself lots of stress. Most of us are yet to keep an open mind to these things, however if you want something badly there;s always a way to get it.


Most Nigerian men hate to see it happen, there are laws that protect women here and they would prefer dying single than to see women as their equals. A good number of them are control freaks and would rather their woman be at their beck and call for everything as opposed to having their marriage work as a partnership. Nigerian married man knowing the laws of the land will still go ahead and cheat on his wife with a girl living in the same condo with his wife. Una no even dey fear or respect una madam. If atall you really want to cheat, you cannot travel to Nigeria and secretly mess with girls that fancy IJGB crew or allen avenue. As expected, some women do exploit the situation but if you find yourself a god-fearing person and you do the right thing, no divorce laws or child custody issue would stop y'all from flourishing.


White men dont find us attractive? Laughs is Swahili
On the contrary most men of other races have FETISH for Nigerian girls and Black girls in general. Maybe not long term in all cases tho but they reaaaaaaally fancy us and admire our enthusiasm towards life. Whilst most Nigerian girls would likely not wanna go for the likes of 'Ryan', 'Billy' and co it's not cos we don't find them attractive. Firstly, Naija guys are smart, intelligent and goal oriented. You see the average ones already have plans for their future and working towards it unlike the counterparts who are comfortable with just a high school degree. If a Naija guy is even into technical jobs he would try to be the best at it and work towards starting his own company in the near future. Secondly, coping with someone with a different culture, lifestyle, food, etc is honestly stressful. I was talking with one Persian guy and he said before we can kiss or hold hands, we have to be temporarily married. The other chinese guy is only about 5ft tall, I'm just wondering what he would look like in that department

In Nigeria, when you visit a guy at home, some would expect you to know that's express ticket to get laid with them. But here if you visit a guy at home, you can be almost certain that if you guys have sex it's cos you wanted it, no guy will try to lure or manipulate you to straff them or tell you when you came to my house what were you thinking. They know it's important to ask for your opinion or even avoid the whole situation altogether.

Something the OP failed to address is that the Loneliness spans across both men and women living in Diaspora. Even the white people find it hard getting a partner for themselves much less an immigrant that would probably take some time to fully settle in. The system is built to have everyone mind their business, that togetherness or family-spirit is missing.

All the naija guys and ladies in Toronto have finish dating themselves. It's such a small city, everyone knows eachother thru another person only a matter of time before you find out that; the guy toasting you is ex with your colleagues' friend. Or the guy you matched with on the dating app went on a date with your housemate the day before. Some would be married and they would be on the dating apps lying to other women.

Some of us don't even mind going back home to bring men here, but 'em guys just they find paper. Only few genuinely love and care for you. I kuku know people here already do that as business tho, some ladies/guys now charge up to $30,000 to marry people from home to help them get residency here.

There are tons of Nigerians in Canada groups on WhatsApp and Telegram some are just for singles and you find people of age 35, 40, etc filled with both women and MEN. Some guys eventually resort to going back home to marry the less exposed girls, but guess what happens once they reach YYZ airport? Oh well your guess is as good as mine. Their eyes go open finish.

A good number of Naija guys are single and desperately finding love as well as ladies. Truth is, we all crave for love. And that's not a bad thing to want. Finding a good match or significant other is a honestly a game of chance. Home and Abroad, White or Black race finding a partner is truly difficult and if you got lucky finding that one special person, you better love and cherish them truly.

I rest my case; I am in the comment section waiting for someone to jump on my mention and before you do so just remember: Opinions are like as5holes and everyone is entitled to one. So this is my opinion, I have free time today

Link to Original thread https://www.nairaland.com/5782313/chai-nigerian-girls-canada-lonely

ddshow:




You lot don't like being identified as Nigerians and openly speak ill about the motherland. Other black nations hardly do this. The Kenyans, Rwandans and even Sierra-Ionians I have worked with identify proudly with their nations but hide their discontentment about events back home.