Stats: 3,192,248 members, 7,947,239 topics. Date: Thursday, 12 September 2024 at 02:57 PM |
Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Romance / Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? (12770 Views)
How To Understand Guys Who Want Long Term Relationships / Let's Discuss Why Relationships Break Up. . . / Why Many Relationships Break Up Just Before Christmas? (2) (3) (4)
(1) (2) (3) (4) (Reply) (Go Down)
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by 190: 2:59pm On Jan 04, 2011 |
Most LTR fails cos the guy becomes broke!! and facebook ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by Fostercat(m): 3:13pm On Jan 04, 2011 |
gd answers! ![]() |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by mojounited(m): 3:18pm On Jan 04, 2011 |
sista-jay: Hmm ![]() ![]() |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by alldone(m): 3:28pm On Jan 04, 2011 |
it is basically diminishing return in commitment that will give room for suspitions. |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by Xfactoria: 3:34pm On Jan 04, 2011 |
Johnnny: Spot on! LTR hardly works. I ended one after 4 years and I'm getting married in February to a lady I met barely a year ago. I know a couple of friends' cases too especially those who started dating from the University days whose relationships never made it to the altar. The thing is there are certain things that happen in LTR that if the people involved were married, they would have been able to deal with the circumstances very well. The fact that the partners were not married leaves them with an option to opt out and that option seems very attractive especially when there is increasing temptations to try something else. Sometimes, the excuse can be very flimsy, so very flimsy because of over-familiarity! I advise people not to get into very serious relationships until they are sure that they will be ready for marriage in not more than 2 -3 yrs. |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by Ranoscky(m): 3:41pm On Jan 04, 2011 |
Man shall not live by bread alone! |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by 190: 3:44pm On Jan 04, 2011 |
^^But by egusi and draw soup as well, |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by red100(f): 4:23pm On Jan 04, 2011 |
i show an answer on this topic bad belle people, what belle means? |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by just1(m): 4:37pm On Jan 04, 2011 |
@red100, na wa oooo.u no understand 9ja unofficial lingua franca, belle = 'stomach' |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by red100(f): 4:49pm On Jan 04, 2011 |
just1 nope i don't ![]() |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by queensmith: 5:08pm On Jan 04, 2011 |
You can grow apart, esp if your young as you start maturing our rquirements change and your partner may not be able to fufil it! |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by Johnnny(m): 5:27pm On Jan 04, 2011 |
red100: The word belle(Pidgin English) when used alone means STOMACH or BELLY. But when used jointly with bad and people as in the phrase "bad belle people" means "HATERS". "Bad belle" on its own means 'WICKED", "EVIL'', or ''JEALOUS''. So, @red note: It is not a greeting. |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by dayokanu(m): 5:29pm On Jan 04, 2011 |
Cos your expectations in a spouse changed. At an age you want someone who is just fly, later you want someone who is in School, Later you want someone who has a job, later a guy who is responsible. As these criterias change if the other party cant change and fit in, then Its bound to fail. More over how can you be eating the same soup for a long time |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by ZIMDRILL(m): 5:30pm On Jan 04, 2011 |
whether long or short they still break up |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by Plutarch: 5:34pm On Jan 04, 2011 |
Great questn. Readiness of one party 4 marriage is a factor but not d only reason. |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by bodiaye: 5:48pm On Jan 04, 2011 |
I dated my girlfriend(now my wife) for 9 years and we have been married for 4 years now. |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by red100(f): 6:08pm On Jan 04, 2011 |
@ johnnny thanks, what means though if someone calls someone 'belle' (the only word used)? unless if she wanted to say bad belle and everybody can understand bad, |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by Johnnny(m): 6:17pm On Jan 04, 2011 |
red100: Well in my own opinion, It could probably be used (usually jokingly or mockingly) to address a person if: 1. The person addressed has a pot-bellied type of stomach. and/or 2. The person addressed likes eating food too much. If not any of the above, then the caller must have his personal meaning for calling someone "belle" |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by Holla2: 6:18pm On Jan 04, 2011 |
Most times, partners are exposed to options. They think "only if i've waited a little longer". If already married, options would still come but its no longer a consideration. And remember that emotions of love is at its peak when the relationship is very fresh. ![]() ![]() The long standing partner stands a high a risk of becoming "old skool" and "boring" because of the new excitingly tempting experience. ![]() |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by MeGaStReEt: 7:16pm On Jan 04, 2011 |
maasoap: including 6-12 years old children |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by Holla2: 7:32pm On Jan 04, 2011 |
MeGaStReEt: Come on, this is off limits for 6-12 years-old |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by pareto(m): 7:41pm On Jan 04, 2011 |
-when he/ she feels he/she went into d relatioship too early. - when ur partner has seen everything about u. - when the other person has gotten another option. - believes variety is the spice of life. |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by Nobody: 9:24pm On Jan 04, 2011 |
excess of everything is bad too long relationship= bad bad bad |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by orgasm(m): 9:33pm On Jan 04, 2011 |
Longterm break up just the way Short term break up.Breakups do not follow a particular pattern,so kini big deal? ![]() |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by orgasm(m): 9:50pm On Jan 04, 2011 |
Is about being meant for each other or not. Not about long or short term. So to ans ur question,they break up cos they not meant for each other in the first place. |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by busygirl(f): 10:18pm On Jan 04, 2011 |
orgasm:RIGHT ANSWER! |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by sweetguy10(m): 11:21pm On Jan 04, 2011 |
orgasm: Exactly , ! chai you deserve a kiss , this is the right and true answer . if they are truly meant to be together somehow they will go through whatever life throws at them . So be it long relationship or short relationship no definite pattern , break up na break up , I know lots of people that dated for like 8 years and did not end up with each other and I have seen/heard lots that dated from SS3 and still end up marrying themselves. So it's not about how long the relationship is , whatever that is meant to be will surely be . capische ? |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by Nobody: 2:15am On Jan 05, 2011 |
@Poster 9/10 it is because of financial or commitment issues (cheating). |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by henchmark: 2:47am On Jan 05, 2011 |
op, please whats ur definition of long term relationship? some people see 1 year as long term others 5 years and above, where do you stand? any ways if a girl starts dating a guy in her fist year in school and the guy is in his second year , obviously they are in for a longer term relationship and that could end in calimity, cos it would take him over 5 years to actually become a man i.e 4years in school+ 1 year NYSC+ atleast 2years to secure a job and be a bit comfortable=7years mind you during these period of so called long relationship, a more serious guy, i mean settled( has a good job, a car, a decent apartment,) comes to woo the girlfriend and the supposed boyfriend feels easily intimidated cos he knows he is in trouble most likely and before you know it one friction after another that finally tears the already worn out relationship. now the answer to you question: do you know its more risky to travel by road than by air? the longer the relationship the more premarital test its been subjected to such as infidelity, the guy goes to camp and is starved of what he is been getting from his chick and he quickly searches for alternative, same with the girl and before long the love btw both of them cools off. |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by henchmark: 3:04am On Jan 05, 2011 |
heavenly feeling: i totally disagreee bro. if your statemnt is true then let us all sit in our different houses, the one meant to be will locate us and we shall have no issues in the relationship. who is meant to be and who isnt meant to be is dependent on what both parties are looking out for. the basic reason most relationship crash is some people start dating when they know it will go no where and dont even know what they want. may be for the fun of it i guess. imagine a girl 18 years dating a guy 21, they both havent written JAMB, nor does the guy see himself been independent in any foreseeable future: a girl 100level the guy guy 200 level, solution: girls start dating from 23 years of age, guys 26years and/or can fend for yourself. this age range is naija based please and not for muslim ladies please. experience shows that relationship after or during these ages tend to have more success rates, so why start what you will likely not finish? why sell yourself so cheap, devalue yourself. and so on. its about growing up, matured minds. |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by kanmiariyo(m): 4:19am On Jan 05, 2011 |
Set your priorities right and be focussed,some pple want to eat their cake at the same time have, its not possible.Most long time relationship break up as a result of selfish interests,if u break up because a relationship is long,wat will happen after u r married. I dated my wife for almost five yrs before we got married and we have been happy ever since,just define ur terms n know wat u want 4rm the relationship |
Re: Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up? by san26dy(f): 6:11am On Jan 05, 2011 |
@ Op they become bored, not exciting, then one cheats on the other, |
Nigerian Woman And African American Men / Do You Consider Kissing Someone Else As Cheating? / What Type Of Tradition Is This With No Bra In The Public? (see Crazy Photos)
(Go Up)
Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 39 |