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Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by crackkhaus: 10:14am On Apr 24, 2020 |
queenitee:I like this, I really do. ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by Meenabee(f): 10:22am On Apr 24, 2020 |
No need talking to ur mum, just pray for them both n keep showing both of them love Floryangel8:. |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by Parisian: 10:36am On Apr 24, 2020 |
Dganji you're a good person for speaking up for the girl. God will reward you. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by oghenetega100(f): 10:47am On Apr 24, 2020 |
Two words, "boarding school" (after covid sha). Dganji: 1 Like |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by ozone0801(m): 10:49am On Apr 24, 2020 |
OchoL: Can you take a second to go over what you wrote again? Would you like the same to be said about your mother? Just advice the young man and stop insulting his mother. People like you think they can judge other people, whereas your own character is far worse. Imagine! You're insulting someone's mother on a public forum. You're worse than the mother. You obviously lack home training 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by jornwhite: 10:58am On Apr 24, 2020 |
cococandy: Women ! ALOL !! i wil respond to ur questions in paragraph, that family remains the case study. TBH it jus the bitter truth, n it hurts we men to see our women like that ... emotion over other component. Talking of responsibilities, i believe the integral fraction of responsibilities is financing .. a man can't bring a child into the family n ask the woman to bear the financial burden over that child. in these case OP dad is the breadwinner. LOL ! @ daily routine what could that possible be,we aint talking one room apartment here, e pass morning prayer, washing/cleaning, cooking, everyone going to there respective post & sleep ..how does a 10yr old living in fear disrupt all that. a 10yrs can bath, brush her teeth & dress up .. other tins she can't do for hersef older kids are there to help out ... so !! A woman with kids @ puberty should av no problem raising another @that stage ... madam use ur own children that won"t be a stress as example for the other child, she is watching. Do u know d major step for solution or correction, is accepting there is a problem or acknowledging something is bad without that progress cannot be made ... i will just advice Op to keep up d check & balances what a mother fear the most is losing there children support ... it reset there brain faster than a hubby wuld ![]() ![]() |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by SweetCunt97(f): 11:08am On Apr 24, 2020 |
Edusouls:Abeg times are evil for the girl child biko. I know who such scenerios play out. Nothing but reality |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by jzamani(m): 11:10am On Apr 24, 2020 |
I experience same thing Sha.. Mine my step mom was the bread winner of the house , she always does things that will make my dad to beat me mercilessly, any little mistake I made she would shout and make sure my dad hear and come and do the usual.. Sometimes I do sleep outside when I try to run from the beating ( no be small beating oh that one he they carry anything when he see) Later she would na be doing hypocritical beging whereas she coused everything. There was a time I even hated my dad and my step mom because I believed they love my step bro than me . The only thing that I appreciate her for was the schooling, she put me through But I didn't stay in the house forever I had to live the house, because of how I was treated, to stay with my mom's sis She had only one child for my dad that died few years ago when I heard about his death I cried � Mehn is good to do good to other's oh because you don't know who will be of help to you 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by PeacenLove2: 11:10am On Apr 24, 2020 |
Op, you did the right thing cautioning your mother. It's the silence all these time that has made it come to this level. Sometimes we all need to be checked. This doesn't mean your mom is a bad person, this is a temptation we are liable to fall into if we do not make conscious decision to rise above it. Believe me it's not a woman thing, stop deluding yourselves. How many men care about the next meal of his needy neighbours? It plays out more with women because they are the ones who have to deal directly with the situation. You still need a follow up. This time calmly, discuss with your mother. Appreciate the fact that she is taking care of all of you and the girl. Let her know how you feel when she is treating that girl badly, ask her to try to put herself or any of you in the shoes of the girl. Remind her that no condition is permanent and karma is a respecter of no one. It comes biting back where it will hurt most and it never forgets. So beg her to try harder and have her embrace this child. She is only 10. No child should be away from the love and protection of her parents and where unfortunate, they need that extra attention to be reassured they are worthy. God help you. And please caution your sibling too. He is too young to be having these anger issues, carrying it out on an helpless child. Tell your mom your dad isn't happy too and it won't be nice for the family to be divided over this. Yeah, everyone likes to have a picture perfect family; me, my husband and kids but that's not her reality. There's no perfect situation. We just make the best out of life. If she can't do it because of anyone, wouldn't she do it for God? She has become a guardian, a shepherd chosen by God. It's no accident. I hope she heeds and I pray the girl turns out well. Well done again, OP. You did great! "The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing." "The world will not be destroyed by those who do evil, but by those who watch them without doing anything." 1 Like |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by PeacenLove2: 11:27am On Apr 24, 2020 |
BSomebody: Absolutely abnormal thing. Wicked people are people who do wicked things unfortunately, these are our family members, relatives, friends, colleagues. Sometimes the same people do wonderful things and are considered good but what is important is to be able to check our excesses. Op has finally spoken up and needs to have a follow up conversation with his mom. Like someone mentioned here, maybe mom didn't want the responsibility but like Jonah in the bible, when we are chosen, we must heed. This child is even her husband's niece. Dad should have done more to address the situation too. No one likes to be seen as a bad person. If they keep pointing it to her, she will adjust and hopefully learn to accommodate and enjoy the presence of the child. We have seen adopted children become very successful in life, even becoming star child of the family. It depends how we treat them. What we sow is what we reap. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by PeacenLove2: 11:34am On Apr 24, 2020 |
BuddhaPalm: Wow! Sounds like what men have been doing to women since the time of Adam. ![]() Guy, it's the basic truth. Survival of the fittest! Human beings like animals tend to prey on the weakness of others. Every animal in the jungle on the look out for the weak. Believe me it's not gender specific. It's a general problem that denial will not take away. What can a woman do that is not allowed by their menfolk? We hear all sorts like women maltreated house girl. What is the husband doing? It's either he is also doing it or complicit. Neither absolves him. It's sad and I wish we can do better as human beings. |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by jornwhite: 11:39am On Apr 24, 2020 |
pocohantas: Common sense shuld av told you stepson/stepdaughter is quiet different from the subject matter here, Even as a child if ur mum or dad bring home a stepbro/sis the reaction & reception will be different compared to them adopting a relative, niece or sibling. must you change d narrative to suite ur personality when yu can jus shut d fvckup 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by pooozeee(m): 11:41am On Apr 24, 2020 |
What do have in your mind, I hope u aren't trying to poison ur mum |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by Arsenate(m): 11:44am On Apr 24, 2020 |
PeacenLove2:Are you seriously trying to blame men for the misdeeds of women (who are adults themselves and can differentiate between right and wrong)? Are you basically implying that men should monitor women like they do children? |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by PeacenLove2: 12:04pm On Apr 24, 2020 |
Arsenate: Hey man, stop being obtuse. You're smarter than this. |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by pocohantas(f): 12:05pm On Apr 24, 2020 |
I ignored you the first time, it wasn’t a mistake. Stop trying so hard to get my attention. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by Greatzeus(m): 12:15pm On Apr 24, 2020 |
Slimsly100:I believe you but it's rare. |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by Greatzeus(m): 12:21pm On Apr 24, 2020 |
ChoCho54:Wow She must be a rare gem I pray for a wife like her. I love children, irrespective of their tribes or religion, and I plan to have a foundation to help out of school children and even motherless babies home . I want a woman who will support my dreams and won't see my dreams as wasting of money on " those I don't even know". 1 Like |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by francaofzion: 12:24pm On Apr 24, 2020 |
You are right in your actions though your mum might feel you disrespected her cos of the child and that might make her hatred towards that girl increase. Your mum hates the child's mother and that hatred has been transferred to the little girl, I wonder what will change your mum's attitude towards the girl but you guys who are her children might live to suffer the repercussions of your mother's actions towards that innocent child. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by INDUSTRIALFAN(m): 12:45pm On Apr 24, 2020 |
OchoL: Nah... Its fine... I understand... Shit happens.. |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by majamajic(m): 12:55pm On Apr 24, 2020 |
Sterope: So your suggestion is to move already adopted child back to her mum ? Not minding op saying it's worst 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by Nobody: 1:02pm On Apr 24, 2020 |
BuddhaPalm: And yet he still bashed them, SMH Kindness, compassion and goodness are not gender dependent. Or are you saying they are? Let’s “hear” it. |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by Dum4christ: 1:21pm On Apr 24, 2020 |
I am a Woman! I am so proud of your God given wisdom. God bless you and everything that concerns you abundantly for your godly advice. I will continue to pray for you. Op, God bless you richly for standing up for the truth, regardless of the woman involved being your mum. This is hard for the majority but its the right thing to do.. May God shower you with more boldness, sincerity of heart and above all wisdom. PeacenLove2: 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by BuddhaPalm(m): 1:58pm On Apr 24, 2020 |
merahki: "Reflex women bashing aside..." In all my years, I've never seen or heard of men being vicious and heavy-handed towards maids and house-helps. Perhaps it does happen. But I've just never heard of it. There's just something about having non-filial dependents that brings out womens' basest instincts. Now, this is not an argument for the non-existence of male cruelty. In Nigeria, most looters, kidnappers, armed robbers and SARS operatives are men. But in this regard, women take the cake. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by PeacenLove2: 2:01pm On Apr 24, 2020 |
Dum4christ: Amen! Thank you and God bless you too. ![]() |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by BuddhaPalm(m): 2:17pm On Apr 24, 2020 |
PeacenLove2: Many husbands don't firmly speak up, because they fear their wives will make their home "ungovernable". Last December, a Nairander had this exact problem: https://www.nairaland.com/5591406/wicked-wife-didnt-buy-christmas And his wife accused him of sleeping with their 15 year old house help, and stopped sleeping their room. If you check the OP's profile, you'll see his other two post updates. |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by Sterope(f): 2:21pm On Apr 24, 2020 |
The OP did not say it is worst. Read again. What will he do if the mother refuses to stop? Would you rather the child continue to be maltreated because she was adopted? Please, don't stress me majamajic: |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by majamajic(m): 2:25pm On Apr 24, 2020 |
Sterope: U are the one stressing yourself , u don't wan believe u women can't treat another woman's children like your own , never I have not seen that , if she do , just know the husband is a very mean person and he is watching over her and the girl 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by placeofallure(f): 2:27pm On Apr 24, 2020 |
Dganji: Now I'm soooooo proud of you young man. That's the mark of a man, to stand up against all odds and differ, to say nay when others are saying yay. I feel for the girl, some of us find ourselves in unfortunate situations in life. You can help your cousin make it in life. She'll never forget. You won't always be around in that house so you would do all within your capabilities to ensure your mum treats the girl as her own. Keep talking to your mum. Then as a big brother, put the girl right too about acceptable norms of the society, judging from where she's coming from, she might not know any better. God bless your good heart and please, except it's a last resort, don't send her back. 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by Dganji: 2:28pm On Apr 24, 2020 |
OchoL:u know i did see your first comment but choose to ignore you at first but at this junction ill only hope you get a taste of what your offering maybe you'll understand better how i and others who quoted you felt when we saw that comment. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by Sterope(f): 2:30pm On Apr 24, 2020 |
1. Everyone can be an abuser. People abuse those who are weaker. Abusive behaviour is not a gender issue. Calling it a 'different treatment' is minimising the harm they cause. That was why I quoted you Can you please read before quoting me? majamajic: 1 Like |
Re: I'm Not Happy With My Mom's Behaviour Towards My Adopted Sister by majamajic(m): 2:33pm On Apr 24, 2020 |
Sterope: Nothing to read madam , u women need change una behavior towards people's children |
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