straight to the story.
my wife is from akwa ibom and in her mid twenties . . well, before we got married, i'd rate the sex 90%
but now we married, two kids, i'd rate it 15%
its a "tale" that women from that region always go the extra mile, maybe she did during the relationship
but marriage has been different, and she feels those stuffs done during "single-ship", for lack of a better word
are "b1tchy" [in her own words]
need ur views.

leave her alone, don't you know she's tired taking care of two kids.

semade8076:
straight to the story.
my wife is from akwa ibom and in her mid twenties . . well, before we got married, i'd rate the sex 90%
but now we married, two kids, i'd rate it 15%
its a "tale" that women from that region always go the extra mile, maybe she did during the relationship
but marriage has been different, and she feels those stuffs done during "single-ship", for lack of a better word
are "b1tchy" [in her own words]
need ur views.

Wait, she decided to change the way she sleeps with you after marriage because she thinks it is bltchy?

Why does she think it is bitchy?

That is the first step.

2 kids already, and still in her mid 20s. You want to kill her?

Oghenerobo2002:
2 kids already, and still in her mid 20s. You want to kill her?

its good that way,she will be done with having kids before 30.I envy her

Semade8076, there is nothing new here. You are just another casualty in a long line of married men whose wives reduced the frequency and quantity of sex they get.

Your needs are no longer a priority to your wife because she feels she no longer needs to fulfill them for you to give her what she truly desires: family and children. You were always a means to an end, and now that end has been achieved the tool (you) has been discarded.

Like I said earlier, you aren’t the first husband to go through this, but you gotta flip the script to your advantage.

You need to start:
1. Occupying your time with other activities that don’t include her, particularly self development (hobbies, additional money making skill, gaming). It’s time to add something to yourself and raise your profile to, at least, introduce some mystery to intrigue her.
This is not to say you should never spend time with her, you should but it should be residual time from after your self development activities. Help around the house where necessary only, not doing things that you think will make her want to fûck you: never negotiate for sex.

2. Go out more.

3. Pay attention to and improve your appearance. That means new clothes, shoes, perfume, etc. You must become a new man, but still the same you

4. Get a bloody side chick that will satisfy your sexual urges when they bubble up.
This goes without saying that you must never beg or try to negotiate with your wife for sex. If she’s in the mood oblige her properly. If she refuses you too often reduce the frequency of your attempts at trying to do it with her, that’s why you have a side chick after all.

5. Watch out for cues someone else isn’t giving her the D. Be absolutely sure she gives it to only you. If you catch her cheating you know what to do.

6. If she doesn’t realign after points 1-4, go and meet your grandma to realign your wife’s head for you.

7. Good luck.

- Why do you think she's changed?
- Did she verbally express it to u dt it's bitchy to 'do'?
- How occupied is she daily?
- How much help does she get with the kids&home generally?
- How well do u think she recovered physically&emotionally after d birth of each child?
- Was d change spontaneous or gradual?
- Have you both talked abt this?

On d average, women's sexual response changes after childbirth but with maturity &sensitivity to d other's needs, we try to adjust.
Hopefully ur wife will be mature enough to adjust too if d issue is wif her bt u must also try to meet her halfway.
Ensure u're nt being insensitive to her needs&it's likely you find a way around ur issue if u both rightly answer d above questions &make necessary adjustments.

U mean sey ur calabar wife no dey scream "ekam mmi,eben mi mbok nom monkey style o,eben mi son ubok"..maybe e don tey she chop dog meat.

That's kinda Stereotypical nonsense to say buddy. The fact that she came from a particular region doesn't mean that she must be like that. U even said MAYBE she did go extra mile.. meaning that you were not sure if she was like that or not..

Why not just go to our dear friend called Google. That wonderful oracle will help you revive the decline in your sex lives... It's just a click on a button.. it will answer your questions and how to go about it.

semade8076:
straight to the story.
my wife is from akwa ibom and in her mid twenties . . well, before we got married, i'd rate the sex 90%
but now we married, two kids, i'd rate it 15%
its a "tale" that women from that region always go the extra mile, maybe she did during the relationship
but marriage has been different, and she feels those stuffs done during "single-ship", for lack of a better word
are "b1tchy" [in her own words]
need ur views.

Many women biggest mistakes in marriage.....Changing to something else...


But wait, I hope she isn't undergoing the stress of raising the kids alone?

She is still young to get tired of it.

semade8076:
straight to the story.
my wife is from akwa ibom and in her mid twenties . . well, before we got married, i'd rate the sex 90%
but now we married, two kids, i'd rate it 15%
its a "tale" that women from that region always go the extra mile, maybe she did during the relationship
but marriage has been different, and she feels those stuffs done during "single-ship", for lack of a better word
are "b1tchy" [in her own words]
need ur views.

Many women biggest mistakes in marriage.....Changing to something else...


But wait, I hope she isn't undergoing the stress of raising the kids alone?

She is still young to get tired of it.

Talk to her, one on one, heart to heart talk.

Brace yourself, the situation will only get worse.
So tackle this by improving your sex appeal.

- Be interactive with other ladies.
- Work out your biceps & packs.
- Engage her in dirty talks.
- Be romantic.

Needy19:
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The OP is male or are you homosexual?

Wetin Musa no go see for gate?

This shit is a norm. They wont counsel intending married people. Na to dey tell them to pray. A woman during dating can spend 10 hours on the road to come meet you and give mind blowing sex. But in marriage they wont care anymore due to the stress of chores and all. Last last marriage na scam

Belafonte:
Semade8076, there is nothing new here. You are just another casualty in a long line of married men whose wives reduced the frequency and quantity of sex they get.

Your needs are no longer a priority to your wife because she feels she no longer needs to fulfill them for you to give her what she truly desires: family and children. You were always a means to an end, and now that end has been achieved the tool (you) has been discarded.

Like I said earlier, you aren’t the first husband to go through this, but you gotta flip the script to your advantage.

You need to start:
1. Occupying your time with other activities that don’t include her, particularly self development (hobbies, additional money making skill, gaming). It’s time to add something to yourself and raise your profile to, at least, introduce some mystery to intrigue her.
This is not to say you should never spend time with her, you should but it should be residual time from after your self development activities. Help around the house where necessary only, not doing things that you think will make her want to fûck you: never negotiate for sex.

2. Go out more.

3. Pay attention to and improve your appearance. That means new clothes, shoes, perfume, etc. You must become a new man, but still the same you

4. Get a bloody side chick that will satisfy your sexual urges when they bubble up.
This goes without saying that you must never beg or try to negotiate with your wife for sex. If she’s in the mood oblige her properly. If she refuses you too often reduce the frequency of your attempts at trying to do it with her, that’s why you have a side chick after all.

5. Watch out for cues someone else isn’t giving her the D. Be absolutely sure she gives it to only you. If you catch her cheating you know what to do.

6. If she doesn’t realign after points 1-4, go and meet your grandma to realign your wife’s head for you.

7. Good luck.

Men you are great. You have seen it all. Experience Baba Twale.

Belafonte:
Semade8076, there is nothing new here. You are just another casualty in a long line of married men whose wives reduced the frequency and quantity of sex they get.

Your needs are no longer a priority to your wife because she feels she no longer needs to fulfill them for you to give her what she truly desires: family and children. You were always a means to an end, and now that end has been achieved the tool (you) has been discarded.

Like I said earlier, you aren’t the first husband to go through this, but you gotta flip the script to your advantage.

You need to start:
1. Occupying your time with other activities that don’t include her, particularly self development (hobbies, additional money making skill, gaming). It’s time to add something to yourself and raise your profile to, at least, introduce some mystery to intrigue her.
This is not to say you should never spend time with her, you should but it should be residual time from after your self development activities. Help around the house where necessary only, not doing things that you think will make her want to fûck you: never negotiate for sex.

2. Go out more.

3. Pay attention to and improve your appearance. That means new clothes, shoes, perfume, etc. You must become a new man, but still the same you

4. Get a bloody side chick that will satisfy your sexual urges when they bubble up.
This goes without saying that you must never beg or try to negotiate with your wife for sex. If she’s in the mood oblige her properly. If she refuses you too often reduce the frequency of your attempts at trying to do it with her, that’s why you have a side chick after all.

5. Watch out for cues someone else isn’t giving her the D. Be absolutely sure she gives it to only you. If you catch her cheating you know what to do.

6. If she doesn’t realign after points 1-4, go and meet your grandma to realign your wife’s head for you.

7. Good luck.

Nuff' said...

Needy19:
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May Ogun cut your dick off.
Amen.

It is tasking running a home, taking care of kids and husband and doing chores, cooking round the clock.
.
If you want more sex, help her in the house chores. Do some work together in the house to ease the pressure on her. If she's not so under pressure, she'll be more open to your sexual needs.

Rozz:
its good that way,she will be done with having kids before 30.I envy her

U know, everyone has his/her own time. U surely be happy with urs

Oga take your children to their grandparents for three days and lodge your wife in a hotel for those three days, then come and tell us if she is still calling it bitchy. We need to learn how to refuel, doing the same thing all year long is tiring. Reason people go on vacation. But as always, where is the money? But una don dey vacation for one month now, heaven no fall.

Perhaps she doesn't enjoy sex with you and is tired of doing all the work pleasuring you.
Try and see how you can make her enjoy sex, find out from her what exactly makes her enjoy it. Make sure she climaxes during every encounter with you.
Not all women orgasm with the main act itself.
While dating, the thrill of seeing you, making you happy, getting married and having someone to call your own may overshadow her own sexual needs.
However, marriage brings a new reality that this is how she will remain sexually unfulfilled for life. That's not a good place to be in mentally for anyone.
So discuss with her about why things have changed (it could also be hormonal, stress etc as mentioned by others and these can be resolved too)
Is she open to using some aphrodisiacs? We have some natural ones in tablet forms.

Oghenerobo2002:
2 kids already, and still in her mid 20s. You want to kill her?

she should give birth at 5year interval? some comments sef!

Belafonte:
Semade8076, there is nothing new here. You are just another casualty in a long line of married men whose wives reduced the frequency and quantity of sex they get.

Your needs are no longer a priority to your wife because she feels she no longer needs to fulfill them for you to give her what she truly desires: family and children. You were always a means to an end, and now that end has been achieved the tool (you) has been discarded.

Like I said earlier, you aren’t the first husband to go through this, but you gotta flip the script to your advantage.

You need to start:
1. Occupying your time with other activities that don’t include her, particularly self development (hobbies, additional money making skill, gaming). It’s time to add something to yourself and raise your profile to, at least, introduce some mystery to intrigue her.
This is not to say you should never spend time with her, you should but it should be residual time from after your self development activities. Help around the house where necessary only, not doing things that you think will make her want to fûck you: never negotiate for sex.

2. Go out more.

3. Pay attention to and improve your appearance. That means new clothes, shoes, perfume, etc. You must become a new man, but still the same you

4. Get a bloody side chick that will satisfy your sexual urges when they bubble up.
This goes without saying that you must never beg or try to negotiate with your wife for sex. If she’s in the mood oblige her properly. If she refuses you too often reduce the frequency of your attempts at trying to do it with her, that’s why you have a side chick after all.

5. Watch out for cues someone else isn’t giving her the D. Be absolutely sure she gives it to only you. If you catch her cheating you know what to do.

6. If she doesn’t realign after points 1-4, go and meet your grandma to realign your wife’s head for you.

7. Good luck.

you were making sense till I saw ur no4... adultery no dey ur bible?!

HiFreda:
It is tasking running a home, taking care of kids and husband and doing chores, cooking round the clock.
.
If you want more sex, help her in the house chores. Do some work together in the house to ease the pressure on her. If she's not so under pressure, she'll be more open to your sexual needs.

a "wife" should ask the husband for help if the work is too much for her alone, or better still get a househelp... and not reject sex for the reasons u mentioned. you make it sound as if men just sit around and gbam: baby I need sex!

The b1chy part is the main problem with most women after marriage. While you think she enjoys voyeurs while dating, she might just be doing it to please you and you did not pay attention to her mood swings after each session. Now she wants to take a stand and act responsibly ( based on her reasoning) so it's left for you to make chores easier for her and upgrade too (look more attractive). Remain positive.

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Belafonte:
Semade8076, there is nothing new here. You are just another casualty in a long line of married men whose wives reduced the frequency and quantity of sex they get.

Your needs are no longer a priority to your wife because she feels she no longer needs to fulfill them for you to give her what she truly desires: family and children. You were always a means to an end, and now that end has been achieved the tool (you) has been discarded.

Like I said earlier, you aren’t the first husband to go through this, but you gotta flip the script to your advantage.

You need to start:
1. Occupying your time with other activities that don’t include her, particularly self development (hobbies, additional money making skill, gaming). It’s time to add something to yourself and raise your profile to, at least, introduce some mystery to intrigue her.
This is not to say you should never spend time with her, you should but it should be residual time from after your self development activities. Help around the house where necessary only, not doing things that you think will make her want to fûck you: never negotiate for sex.

2. Go out more.

3. Pay attention to and improve your appearance. That means new clothes, shoes, perfume, etc. You must become a new man, but still the same you

4. Get a bloody side chick that will satisfy your sexual urges when they bubble up.
This goes without saying that you must never beg or try to negotiate with your wife for sex. If she’s in the mood oblige her properly. If she refuses you too often reduce the frequency of your attempts at trying to do it with her, that’s why you have a side chick after all.

5. Watch out for cues someone else isn’t giving her the D. Be absolutely sure she gives it to only you. If you catch her cheating you know what to do.

6. If she doesn’t realign after points 1-4, go and meet your grandma to realign your wife’s head for you.

7. Good luck.

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Selfish and petty!

DaInferno:
a "wife" should ask the husband for help if the work is too much for her alone, or better still get a househelp... and not reject sex for the reasons u mentioned. you make it sound as if men just sit around and gbam: baby I need sex!

I agree that communication is key and one should request help when needed.
However, my post is not to bash "Men".
He can take the initiative to assist around the house. I also said they should do things 'together' as this could serve as a form of bonding and the wife might be more inclined to reveal what the real issues are.
.
Getting a househelp is not the easiest thing in the world or the solution to all problems. It is also a financial burden on the family which we don't know if they can afford.

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