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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by micxwell(m): 8:23am On May 03, 2020 |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Saintinoo(m): 8:28am On May 03, 2020 |
landmark86:If she truely love you then hold on a little bit to see if her love will fade away or otherwise.... If her love remains strong, join her in the fight, if it fades away, find your way and hustle well to prove her father wrong... I wish you all the best. |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by bluebay(m): 8:33am On May 03, 2020 |
elefind:You the fool here listening to the cooked up story . Foolish fool |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Heavenian: 8:34am On May 03, 2020 |
Sometimes you wonder how our parents reason. You don't size someone up because he/she finishes from the Polytechnic and as such he wouldn't amount to much in life. Success in life in all ramifications isn't a function of the tertiary institution attended. It's only here in Nigeria that organisations, establishments, companies disparage between Polytechnics and Universities. Would the father in question prefers her daughter having a good home with rest of mind being married to a hardworking, ambitious and loving individual or allow educational qualification discrepancy to deny her daughter of true love. In as much as parents want their children to be married to suitors who are educated (which I totally subscribe to), the ultimate should be hoping for a good home for them. If a guy is loving, smart, hardworking and ambitious coupled with the fear of God, I will always give my support. This to me is the recipe for outstanding success in life. 3 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Liliantalks: 8:36am On May 03, 2020 |
humilitypays:I know many people who thinks other wise, a lot of people. U speak like as if after one year masters , u can’t also gain work experience. Don’t limit people based on ur own life . U did it that way , doesn’t make it the best way , cheers 1 Like |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by shegzydave(m): 8:37am On May 03, 2020 |
adexpa:embezzled money���� |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by just2endowed: 8:37am On May 03, 2020 |
Op God will see you through |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Jimmyubah2: 8:38am On May 03, 2020 |
tidalstorm:Hmmmmmm u no see plenty people wey no go school but they hammer die? Who BSc epp? This one no be money matter na social affiliation matter. Cus if poor Bsc graduate come d man house, him go give her daughter out for marriage be that. Mumu society. |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by bezimo(m): 8:39am On May 03, 2020 |
jaxxy: Why try to excuse the obvious by justifying his rejection on the basis of poor presentation of himself..when it is clear that he been a polytechnic graduate was the basis of the rejection.If he had B.SC will he be rejected? And you saying presentation..havent you met people before that have strong prejudice regarding certain things..it doesn't matter what you say or how you appear it doesn't change their perspective. ..and your trying to equate the rejection of the guy to that of an orange seller is ridiculous and very lame because the guy in question is educated at least to higher education level unlike an orange seller who will most likely be a high school dropout..probably due to inability of her parents to sponsor her education... He is a supervisor and gainfully employed..suggesting something is going on for him.Please read properly to comprehend the guys plight instead of just saying something for saying sake. 1 Like |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by LordShiva97(m): 8:40am On May 03, 2020 |
baralatie: If the reverse were the case and the man earns #1500000 per annum and the man earns #180000 per month, will the emboldened work? If yes, why? 1 Like |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Saintinoo(m): 8:41am On May 03, 2020 |
Midex88:You dey mind the guy? |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Coolcalmcollect(m): 8:42am On May 03, 2020 |
lol which rich parent will allow her dota marry a nobody from a low class family.....lol |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Liliantalks: 8:44am On May 03, 2020 |
humilitypays:now concerning the lecturing part I don’t even understand your pain, lecturers r doing very well n many people dream to be lecturers. So what’s the blabbing about ? They r inexperienced but they educate the so called experienced ones , like u say ! Please if u are really educated relax b4 replying messages!! 2 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Ohizman73(m): 8:45am On May 03, 2020 |
Well am happy for one of the first timer ever a good response by a majority of these that replied to the guys issue.And the bitter truth has been stated too. There guy has to thread softly and be very cautious.so as not to be trapped in a lifetime ugly situation all in the name of trying to marry the girl at all costs with the obvious red flags abound. Very critical flags, marriage is supposed to be a lively union not a hellish one. Many people who fall victim are the ones who complicated issues in the first place. When they would have simply worked away and not marry the said partner.It is the frustration they saw that made either a husband kill the wife or the opposite as we are seeing the huge cases abound present day. Thank you 1 Like |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by humilitypays(m): 8:45am On May 03, 2020 |
greggng:what kind of nonsense advice are you people even giving this guy ![]() That he should not call it quit but use his probably scarce resources or meagre income to go back to school to upgrade his academic qualification just so he can marry one Babcock graduate, what kind of nonsense is that ![]() ![]() ![]() The op should walk at his own pace, he should not attempt to run in order to satisfy an insensitive man and his daughter which may lead to his crash. He should continue working, saving massively, updating his CV with his work experience, work achievements, job trainings and be applying for jobs in better companies, his current experience will pave way for him to get a better job, and from there a better pay package and he can then enrol for a PGD and maybe Masters if he so wishes to but not to satisfy any lady. He is a man for crying out loud, all he needs is to sort his financial life first not degrees. Once he succeeds financially, he will even start meeting better ladies with better profile than the Babcock graduate he feels is the best for him now. His major challenge now is money not degree, let him sort that out gradually. Many Directors and Managers of companies you see today and envy were not employed as manager, they grew gradually to become that over the years. Let me use my immediate elder brother as an example to encourage the op and other HND holders reading this thread. My brother finished with OND, worked small and went back to finish his HND. After his HND, he went for NYSC and with the experience he had with his OND, he got a job in a factory as Technician. He worked there for 2 years and with the experience and his performance, he got promoted to Production line Supervisor, he upgraded his CV with this new role of a supervisor and got a better job in a bottling company as Line Supervisor but with a better pay package. He worked there for 2 years there and started his PGD, and like 6 months after he finished his PGD while working at the new company, he got another job in a bigger brewery as a Manager earning x4 of his previous salary and he relocated to another state and enrolled for Msc immediately. Before he finished his Msc, he started getting offers from other breweries with better pay pack....he later moved to one big brewery as a manager again, his previous company came back for him again with more packs and offers for him to come back, he went back. Do you know he is getting offers with some IOCs now as a senior manager ![]() He is happily married with kids now, his wife is a Bsc holder from one Nigeria's top unis, who just finished her Msc and they met when he was in his final HND programme while the lady was an undergraduate in a university. He started as an OND holder and gradually walked his way up. I have so many friends who are HND holders working in blue chip firms, some have even relocated to dfiferent countries abroad through their HND certificate. One got a job in Denmark from Nigeria using his HND in Electrical Electronics Engineering. Many of you commenting are still undergraduate, young school leavers and struggling graduates who still think high of your Bsc and Msc, you guys need real life experience. HND is only a challenge for people who want to work in Nigeria's yeye federal and state government owned ministries and parastatals where they only focus on paper degrees and certificates without considering people's experience, skill, performance and contribution to organizational growth, which is why Nigeria is a mess with its leadership and government bodies 10 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by humilitypays(m): 8:48am On May 03, 2020 |
Liliantalks:lecturers are broke people if you don't know lol. How much are they paid ![]() I know most of you commenting are young graduates without experience and undergraduates still seeing lecturers as demigods, they are broke, without being prideful, I can pay 2 lecturers comfortably every month, that is to tell you how broke they are and how vital your PhD is ![]() The only thing that make them seem comfortable is sorting money they collect from students after exam to pass or upgrade them, without those dark money they make through sorting and forcing students to buy poorly written handouts, they are broke. For your info, some of my course mates are now lecturers, so I speak with facts. A HND holder working with NLNG or Mobil or shell will pay 3 lecturers, so get that into your head Lilian ![]() ![]() 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by ashawopikin(m): 8:49am On May 03, 2020 |
landmark86:get her pregnant already
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Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by JayPeeOham: 8:49am On May 03, 2020 |
[quote author=Robisky001 post=89088703]LOL.. Op, the house has harmoniously agreed you settle for your likes to avoid being called a gold digger or an opportunist. [/quote Seconded! OP, we the Ndi Elders of Nairaland hereby go with the above verdict. If you choose to do otherwise, do not come crawling back and crying to us for any effing advice or directions!!! A word is enough for a wise HND Holder!! ![]() |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Liliantalks: 8:52am On May 03, 2020 |
[quote author=humilitypays post=89127927][/quote] LOL take a breath |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by emmaodet: 8:52am On May 03, 2020 |
Kobicove: At the bolded is where you have shot yourself in in the leg. So you agree that the lady is used to a particular comfort she is not to go below which now brings the question - Why do we millions and millions of poor and broke nigerian ladies from poor homes who are used to the system and level of comfort yet running away from their broke boyfriends who are ready to marry them? Where are they running to? Are they not used to that level again? Or do we only use this statement when a poor man is marrying a richer lady? Do you actually think a rich man who overlooks the broke state of a lady and decides to marry her is not compromising on his on comfort for the sake of the So called Fvcking love most people are using to Scam men? Then all of a sudden, Love is no more primary criteria to marry rather it is Money while Love becomes Secondary and when we preach the Redpill that men should wake up and not settle for Most leeches and Parasites parading nigeria street looking for who to Scam with love, most people will start fidgeting. Fvck Love, let's scrap that Motherfvcker and just turn relationship/daring/marriage to business, that way people won't be easily scammed 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Saintinoo(m): 8:55am On May 03, 2020 |
BadLuckonmyGame: BadLuckonmyGame: your writing skill is so poor. I'm sure your spoken English is the same. I don't blame the parents. Your types are the ones giving OND and HND graduates problems. BadLuckonmyGame:Types |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by obyno55(m): 8:56am On May 03, 2020 |
Supported� silento: |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Liliantalks: 8:57am On May 03, 2020 |
humilitypays:you see , we hv different aspirations in life , not everyone wants what u want , broke is relative, broke to you may not be broke to me , and their achievements and personality beats any oil company worker a million times , everybody will not be rich , but people can achieve their dreams, be average, and happy . Is like saying because there is no much money in lawyering people shouldn’t be lawyers any more . 1 Like |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by emmaodet: 9:02am On May 03, 2020 |
humilitypays: It is really really disheartening. See how they call the guy gold digger and should find is level but can't say that to women. They will tell you women are hypergamous in nature. Hypergamous kill them there.... Spits* Who no like beta thing? Is it the man that doesn't like good things? There is nothing like hypergamy, it is normal human nature. If you put down toyota camry 2010 nigeria use and tokunbo, most people will pick the tokunbo. If you place the tokunbo alongside brand new of same brand and year, most will opt for the new. It is not about hypergamy, humans love good things irrespective of the gender yet demonize the male gender and ladies like funmistic.queen and other feminist won't see this as toxic society to men or matriarchy. Put down fried rice with eggs and turkey and another without eggs and turkey and most will opt for the turkey own. People will choose a samsung brand new phone to nigeria used. It is not hypergamy. What the guy did is what any normal human being should do. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Saintinoo(m): 9:04am On May 03, 2020 |
stuffs4me:Look how you are judging your fellow guy... I hope you already have a house and company of your own. 2 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Halo22: 9:05am On May 03, 2020 |
From ur post op, you graduated from the polytechnics. Secondly, u are a factory worker, whether the supervisor or director, it doesn't change much. With these, I can presume u are hustling to make ends meet. Now, juxtapose ur position with that of ur fiancee, who graduated from two of the most expensive schools in the country, u will agree with me that ur social classes are not near equal, hence her Dad's turned down of ur request. However, it depends on ur fiancee and u shaa, but bear in mind that if the father fails to give his consent and blessings, I don't think u both would make headways in ur future union. In conclusion, either u give it time to upgrade ur class academically and financially or you think of someone of ur class, if you are really in haste to settle down. |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by EASTERNPOL: 9:06am On May 03, 2020 |
Their is something more hidden to this, the man is not coming straight, but young man zero your mind, be silent and work on those lapses, by so doing , the same man will be the one to call referring to you as in-law. Two steps to achieving this ; (1) Suspend marriege talks with the girl but keep showing her your undiluted love. (2) Hold unto the Lord for divine direction. |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Xristars(m): 9:11am On May 03, 2020 |
I just read comment and its hilarious. I know not much about relationship that leads to marriage but Oga OP upgrade your standard, give her chance and hustle. Buy land, Build house, open business, then if possible do masters. Finally go back if she is available. 1 Like |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by emmaodet: 9:13am On May 03, 2020 |
meetme01: Sir, please don't let us keep deceiving the younger ones behind us. Don't let us keep beat round the bush and talking with half mouth. Let us say it out BOLDLY that Marriage has never been about Love But Money, Personal and Selfish interests. Please, let us quit the lies and know that there is Nothing called Love. Love is only used and called when a Broke and Poor lady wants to Scam a rich or stable guy into Marriage,, anything outside that is Balderdash 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Mike4S: 9:16am On May 03, 2020 |
If a man holding a Master degree dates a girl that is holding a HND it is okay, but society seems to have a double standard when it is vice versa. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by Exodora: 9:18am On May 03, 2020 |
silento:@op if you truly love her as you claimed then don't take this advice . Some Fathers' are very stubborn , he might still reject you even after pregnanting her. The last thing you will do is not taking the blessings of parents before..... |
Re: Her Parents Rejected Me Because I Am A Polytechnic Graduate by desoul2004(m): 9:19am On May 03, 2020 |
chilet4cici: This is more than prophetic. |
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