TOXIC AFRICAN PARENTS

It is evident given the current low state of Africa, that parenting has been on the poor side. Africans are therefore reaping the consequences by our countries being among the LEAST developing nations and the MOST corrupt ones. However, we have a tendency to blame others for where we find ourselves. We blame our politicians, we blame our civil servants, and we blame our traditional rulers.

Although the quote below is about Nigeria, it applies to every Black African country:
“Nigerians are wont to blame the government….at the same time, many who point fingers at the government, in their private lives, encourage all that is wrong with the society”. (Urenna Ukiwe and Happiness Nleweoha, in “Change: The Responsibility Of The People Or The Government?” The Guardian news)

The key point is this: “…MANY WHO POINT FINGERS AT THE GOVERNMENT, IN THEIR PRIVATE LIVES, ENCOURAGE ALL THAT IS WRONG WITH THE SOCIETY”! This is a typical African home in one sentence, whether rich or poor, educated or uneducated, professing Christian or not. This is why Africa remains corrupt and not developing. We have toxic homes led by toxic parents.

Now, God says that He is looking only for those who are able to worship Him in spirit and in TRUTH (John 4: 24). We must be serious about our eternal souls African Christian, because to be acceptable to a Holy God, truth-seeking and truth-telling must be evident in your life. Truth means all truth: Biblical truth as well as personal truth. So if you are unable to tell yourself the truth or to hear the truth from others, and get angry, you are shutting yourself out of God’s presence.

Toxic parents are those parents who in reality live for SELF. For, if they really cared about their children they would teach them the way of righteousness and disciplined character. Not the way of cheating in exams, not the way of seeing lying as being clever, not the way of dishonesty, not the way of insincerity, and not the way of “African time” keeping, or all those other things that spoil African society.
Furthermore, because toxic parents live for SELF, they will not put themselves out to bring about change in their society. Even change that would benefit their own children.

Like Rev Martin Luther King of blessed memory who was a bright light against corruption in his day and paid the ultimate price, the TRUE Christian has no fear of his own death for he knows that it is God who holds and protects his children, not parents. Thus, the TRUE Christian is able to boldly and fearlessly be light and salt as his Lord Jesus commanded, and teach his children so to be no matter the cost (Matthew 5: 13-16).

Corruption starts from the home then spreads to the school and the rest of society. Africa is corrupt because families are corrupt. If you are a toxic parent, teaching your children dishonesty, and are unwilling to be salt and light in your country by getting involved (not even for your children’s sake), then while you still have life, we urge you to repent and make restitution. Live as one who knows that this world is not your home, and that you have a glorious eternal home to look forward to. Amen.


SOURCE:
Christianity for Africans
https://web.facebook.com/Christianity4Africans/