Illuminated993:

You've been able to whitewash your husband. The next step should be heeding to the advices of the useless women in the comment section, so that you can finally destroy your marriage. When you destroy the marriage, I'll be here to congratulate you for joining the club of the "liberated sisters".

As a kid, I watched my parents quarrel and argue almost all of the time. My dad would throw her boxes out, she would take it back in, my mum would throw crazy abuses at him in her bid to disgrace him publicly and destroy every shred of self-esteem in him, the man would insist on not wanting the marriage anymore, neighbors would start pleading. It was terrifying. But as time went on, they outgrew those toxic traits, they stuck together, they got used to being together in peace and harmony with no more quarrels whatsoever. Marriage is a serious long term project offering profound lessons necessary for being a better human, not the fantasy as depicted in movies.

I know that we men can be controlling and act like bastards sometimes, but no matter how big a bastard a man is, only a woman who respects him makes him act right. If you want that man to get worse with you, try to show him he's not the boss, after all, he contributes almost nothing. My point is, you can make a man be whatever you want him to be, it all depends on the mannerisms you adopt with him.

If you think your husband isn't treating you properly, you don't get him treating you properly by standing up to him. You keep talking calmly to him like a wife married to a king, and quit looking at his failings, because it subconsciously makes you loathe and have no respect for him.

Money will come, keep praying, keep hoping, things will fall in place. In this Nigeria, there are women who are the breadwinners, and they still treat their spouses like he's the one doing everything in the home, and their marriages are thriving.

Wisdom is profitable to direct.

Illuminated993:

You've been able to whitewash your husband. The next step should be heeding to the advices of the useless women in the comment section, so that you can finally destroy your marriage. When you destroy the marriage, I'll be here to congratulate you for joining the club of the "liberated sisters".

As a kid, I watched my parents quarrel and argue almost all of the time. My dad would throw her boxes out, she would take it back in, my mum would throw crazy abuses at him in her bid to disgrace him publicly and destroy every shred of self-esteem in him, the man would insist on not wanting the marriage anymore, neighbors would start pleading. It was terrifying. But as time went on, they outgrew those toxic traits, they stuck together, they got used to being together in peace and harmony with no more quarrels whatsoever. Marriage is a serious long term project offering profound lessons necessary for being a better human, not the fantasy as depicted in movies.

I know that we men can be controlling and act like bastards sometimes, but no matter how big a bastard a man is, only a woman who respects him makes him act right. If you want that man to get worse with you, try to show him he's not the boss, after all, he contributes almost nothing. My point is, you can make a man be whatever you want him to be, it all depends on the mannerisms you adopt with him.

If you think your husband isn't treating you properly, you don't get him treating you properly by standing up to him. You keep talking calmly to him like a wife married to a king, and quit looking at his failings, because it subconsciously makes you loathe and have no respect for him.

Money will come, keep praying, keep hoping, things will fall in place. In this Nigeria, there are women who are the breadwinners, and they still treat their spouses like he's the one doing everything in the home, and their marriages are thriving.

Wisdom is profitable to direct.

Illuminated993:

You've been able to whitewash your husband. The next step should be heeding to the advices of the useless women in the comment section, so that you can finally destroy your marriage. When you destroy the marriage, I'll be here to congratulate you for joining the club of the "liberated sisters".
As a kid, I watched my parents quarrel and argue almost all of the time. My dad would throw her boxes out, she would take it back in, my mum would throw crazy abuses at him in her bid to disgrace him publicly and destroy every shred of self-esteem in him, the man would insist on not wanting the marriage anymore, neighbors would start pleading. It was terrifying. But as time went on, they outgrew those toxic traits, they stuck together, they got used to being together in peace and harmony with no more quarrels whatsoever. Marriage is a serious long term project offering profound lessons necessary for being a better human, not the fantasy as depicted in movies.

I know that we men can be controlling and act like bastards sometimes, but no matter how big a bastard a man is, only a woman who respects him makes him act right. If you want that man to get worse with you, try to show him he's not the boss, after all, he contributes almost nothing. My point is, you can make a man be whatever you want him to be, it all depends on the mannerisms you adopt with him.

If you think your husband isn't treating you properly, you don't get him treating you properly by standing up to him. You keep talking calmly to him like a wife married to a king, and quit looking at his failings, because it subconsciously makes you loathe and have no respect for him.

Money will come, keep praying, keep hoping, things will fall in place. In this Nigeria, there are women who are the breadwinners, and they still treat their spouses like he's the one doing everything in the home, and their marriages are thriving.

Wisdom is profitable to direct.

Kaamisha:


Since your mother fought your father and it led to a long lasting marriage and eventually peace, why don't you tell ladies to do what your mum did?

LilMissFavvy:
If you think that a 21st century working class woman would have time to go through all sorts of rubbish in the name of marriage, then I am sorry to tell you that you are living in a fools paradise.

Never judge a woman who cannot bear a toxic marriage, my question to you is, is it worth it? The answer is a big ''no'', because a woman in a toxic union may end up loosing her life, health, peace of mind, freedom, and even her sanity. If she ends up dying, the worthless man wouldn't even wait for a year before marrying another wife. Times have changed, that's the reality.

Greatzeus:
I didn't comment on that topic,not because I don't have what to say but because I saw that she opened the thread for consolation. She needed to be convinced that her husband is bad. She got it from many females who commented.
I closed the thread on my browser when a female called her husband a motherf Ker and she agreed with her reply.
I know not all marriages will work but I will never ever allow anyone to ridicule the mother of my children especially if we're still married. Never,I don't care about her fault or whatever,that thing that drew me to her and made me marry her will never allow it.

Illuminated993:
I didn't bother reading your writings, I already had a sense how it would look like. I see your feminazi writings on nairaland.

LilMissFavvy:
Mind you, I didn't comment on that thread, but you should be ashamed of this thread which you created. You have been damaged if you see it as a normal thing for a man to keep beating his wife, throwing her boxes outside, causing public drama for neighbours to gather. It is very wrong. I don't know if you would wish such on your daughters, daughters that you spent time, money and affection to groom properly.

Graxie:
This is the circle I am talking about, because you grew up in such a home, you will raise your daughter to be like your mom while treating your wife like your father did.

Illuminated993:

You've been able to whitewash your husband. The next step should be heeding to the advices of the useless women in the comment section, so that you can finally destroy your marriage. When you destroy the marriage, I'll be here to congratulate you for joining the club of the "liberated sisters".

As a kid, I watched my parents quarrel and argue almost all of the time. My dad would throw her boxes out, she would take it back in, my mum would throw crazy abuses at him in her bid to disgrace him publicly and destroy every shred of self-esteem in him, the man would insist on not wanting the marriage anymore, neighbors would start pleading. It was terrifying. But as time went on, they outgrew those toxic traits, they stuck together, they got used to being together in peace and harmony with no more quarrels whatsoever. Marriage is a serious long term project offering profound lessons necessary for being a better human, not the fantasy as depicted in movies.

I know that we men can be controlling and act like bastards sometimes, but no matter how big a bastard a man is, only a woman who respects him makes him act right. If you want that man to get worse with you, try to show him he's not the boss, after all, he contributes almost nothing. My point is, you can make a man be whatever you want him to be, it all depends on the mannerisms you adopt with him.

If you think your husband isn't treating you properly, you don't get him treating you properly by standing up to him. You keep talking calmly to him like a wife married to a king, and quit looking at his failings, because it subconsciously makes you loathe and have no respect for him.

Money will come, keep praying, keep hoping, things will fall in place. In this Nigeria, there are women who are the breadwinners, and they still treat their spouses like he's the one doing everything in the home, and their marriages are thriving.

Wisdom is profitable to direct.

Justbehave:
. Link to her story pls.

Illuminated993:
https://www.nairaland.com/5831212/fellow-married-women-mothers-how

Greatzeus:
I didn't comment on that topic,not because I don't have what to say but because I saw that she opened the thread for consolation. She needed to be convinced that her husband is bad. She got it from many females who commented.
I closed the thread on my browser when a female called her husband a motherf Ker and she agreed with her reply.
I know not all marriages will work but I will never ever allow anyone to ridicule the mother of my children especially if we're still married. Never,I don't care about her fault or whatever,that thing that drew me to her and made me marry her will never allow it.

Illuminated993:
She learnt better methods of getting him to listen to her; she learnt patience and persistence. She learnt to calm down. Now, they both advise younger couples against outright confrontation. Last year, they both were having a laugh about my uncle whose wife always fights him, and in the words of my dad, he said " they are just starting, they think marriage is that easy". That statement was a very profound one.