Greetings fellow Nl'ers,

I have an issue which many people may consider irrelevant at this time as a result of the pandemic causing lots of pain around the world, this I know and I hope things get back to normal soon.

Now, back to my issue. My fiancee and I have been engaged for about 3 months and plan to tie the knot by July hopefully. So we been engaging in romance and kissing, and recently we've been trying to push it further by getting intimate. Here comes the issue; my fiancee is a virgin. In the last few days we have tried to get intimate but she feels so much pains and she is barely wet so I am unable to go through. She once had a near rape experience, and I'm beginning to wonder if it is a psychological issue or it's normal for virgins not to get wet.

NB: I am not a virgin and I have had s3x with just one lady (my ex who wasn't a virgin), so I don't have experience per say.

I'm just very concerned and I need matured counsel. Do we need to go see a doctor, keep trying or try using lubricants?

Your inputs are well appreciated.

You need to find a new one!

You are not attracted.

You dont just rush in there. It will be too painful to be exciting. Get to a pharmacy, get lubricants over the counter that help so much. Even vaseline does wonders. Let her also be ready psychologically. Are you sure she loves you yet, just yet.
Happy homes

Baby cream, Vaseline, and be gentle , with time you will get the job done.be patient

marry her first then teach her

I find it annoying, disgusting and nauseating to see a guy schedule and map out his plans on how to disvirgin a lady before marrying her.

Please marry her first if you really see her worthy to be your wife, take her to a doctor, psychologist or a sex therapist for advice and counseling because of her "Nearly raped experience", before engaging her in sexual activities.

Introducing pre-intimacy and MouthAction while studying her body will help solve your problem perfectly even if she was circumcised.

In the last few days we have tried to get intimate but she feels so much pains and she is barely wet so I am unable to go through. She once had a near rape experience, and I'm beginning to wonder if it is a psychological issue...

Dude, I'll be blunt. Imagine how stuck you'd feel if you were married if not for pre—marital sex??

Anyway, this surely is vaginismus.

You guys should see a certified sex therapist. Otherwise this is not a good start to a marriage.

I had similar experience, the anxiety and near panic attacks when my partner and I decided to get intimate was troubling.

Try and prolong fore-play to really get her in the mood. And also try and be gentle at first cause you don't want to freak her out even further

ikdaddy01:
You dont just rush in there. It will be too painful to be exciting. Get to a pharmacy, get lubricants over the counter that help so much. Even vaseline does wonders. Let her also be ready psychologically. Are you sure she loves you yet, just yet.
Happy homes

I don't think I rush, maybe I will prolong the pre-intimacy and also get the lubs. Thank you.

Go on 4months loan to another league...maybe dat is not ur league.

Wphomie:
Greetings fellow Nl'ers,

I have an issue which many people may consider irrelevant at this time as a result of the pandemic causing lots of pain around the world, this I know and I hope things get back to normal soon.

Now, back to my issue. My fiancee and I have been engaged for about 3 months and plan to tie the knot by July hopefully. So we been engaging in romance and kissing, and recently we've been trying to push it further by getting intimate. Here comes the issue; my fiancee is a virgin. In the last few days we have tried to get intimate but she feels so much pains and she is barely wet so I am unable to go through. She once had a near rape experience, and I'm beginning to wonder if it is a psychological issue or it's normal for virgins not to get wet.

NB: I am not a virgin and I have had s3x with just one lady (my ex who wasn't a virgin), so I don't have experience per say.

I'm just very concerned and I need matured counsel. Do we need to go see a doctor, keep trying or try using lubricants?

Your inputs are well appreciated.

Use anointing oil on ur pussy n on ur dick... Smooth ride

StennyB:
I had similar experience, the anxiety and near panic attacks when my partner and I decided to get intimate was troubling.

Try and prolong fore-play to really get her in the mood. And also try and be gentle at first cause you don't want to freak her out even further

Did you experience the dryness part?

See a therapist for help.

Wphomie:


Did you experience the dryness part?

Yeah I did, that's why fore play kissing, touching and all those stuff comes in handy. D first time wasn't as expected but with time it has improved. And no lube was used.

ProfDview1:


Use anointing oil on ur pussy n on ur dick... Smooth ride

You're absolutely right. I remember those days in university. The anointing oil my gave me to take to school were used to lubricate my dick and there has never been no red sea that has not yielded to my rod. Until i ran out of oil. I could not buy because I know if i did, it would be useless since it wasn't blessed by a man of God. Chai so i started using vaseline. It wasnt as effective as the anointing oil sha.

Wphomie:
Greetings fellow Nl'ers,

I have an issue which many people may consider irrelevant at this time as a result of the pandemic causing lots of pain around the world, this I know and I hope things get back to normal soon.

Now, back to my issue. My fiancee and I have been engaged for about 3 months and plan to tie the knot by July hopefully. So we been engaging in romance and kissing, and recently we've been trying to push it further by getting intimate. Here comes the issue; my fiancee is a virgin. In the last few days we have tried to get intimate but she feels so much pains and she is barely wet so I am unable to go through. She once had a near rape experience, and I'm beginning to wonder if it is a psychological issue or it's normal for virgins not to get wet.

NB: I am not a virgin and I have had s3x with just one lady (my ex who wasn't a virgin), so I don't have experience per say.

I'm just very concerned and I need matured counsel. Do we need to go see a doctor, keep trying or try using lubricants?

Your inputs are well appreciated.

Its supposed to be painful at first though

NextD18:
I find it annoying, disgusting and nauseating to see a guy schedule and map out his plans on how to disvirgin a lady before marrying her.

Please marry her first if you really see her worthy to be your wife, take her to a doctor or psychologist for advice and counseling because of her "Nearly raped experience", before engaging her in sexual activities.

Introducing pre-intimacy and MouthAction while studying her body will help solve your problem perfectly even if she was circumcised.

First time I will agree with you.

So your special, sensible and humane treatment are only reserved for Virgins. Interesting!

Work harder, make more money, buy her gifts and you will see her wet your sheets. Idiot! Only poor men suffer dry vagina experience.

Have extended pre-intimacy. I think you are rushing to action. Prep her for good by doing so. I hope when she's in for it, you don't come with a title [b] Help! I my partner has turned into a stallion[\b]

KY JELLY is ur best bet to make it rain down there.

she is over thinking what she is about to experience that is her first sex.... try and schedule a day just after her monthly menstruation ends, the place should be slightly soft.. get a lubricant some where that she wont see, and start the romance without having her believe you want to penetrate her play with her clitoris and make her have a couple of clitoral orgasm .. then just when she feels she isn't getting the cucumber, bring out your guns, lub it and go for the VJ with more determination and less worry... and always remember a penis can never hurt a vagina because it was designed to eventually expand to fit a babies head and torso

Wphomie:
Greetings fellow Nl'ers,

I have an issue which many people may consider irrelevant at this time as a result of the pandemic causing lots of pain around the world, this I know and I hope things get back to normal soon.

Now, back to my issue. My fiancee and I have been engaged for about 3 months and plan to tie the knot by July hopefully. So we been engaging in romance and kissing, and recently we've been trying to push it further by getting intimate. Here comes the issue; my fiancee is a virgin. In the last few days we have tried to get intimate but she feels so much pains and she is barely wet so I am unable to go through. She once had a near rape experience, and I'm beginning to wonder if it is a psychological issue or it's normal for virgins not to get wet.

NB: I am not a virgin and I have had s3x with just one lady (my ex who wasn't a virgin), so I don't have experience per say.

I'm just very concerned and I need matured counsel. Do we need to go see a doctor, keep trying or try using lubricants?

Your inputs are well appreciated.

Hmmmmmmm.... anyway, getting wet and being a virgin are 2 different things.

Get a lubricant na and ensure u do enough pre-intimacy before u try to "breakthrough".

Although i heard (but not verified o) that if she's been a virgin for a very long time, the "door" can get stronger; hence, breaking it might not be easy. Some people had to do surgery to get it opened!

KY jelly, Baby oil etc will do the trick.

Why not let her be and do this after marriage?

July is just 2 months away.

Get her in the mood/relaxed. pre-intimacy, Lots of pre-intimacy please. Lubricant bro. Vaseline will do it too. Make sure you target your dodo very well in her juicy pot hole while spreading the thing for you. Put your tip (cap) then slide in brother with a little bit pressure to it this time. Viola !!! You don do the do your eyes go clear. Congrats!