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Re: Unmarried Women by cococandy(f): 10:52am On May 15, 2020 |
Arthur2021:Except what you’re saying is not entirely true. Some of it is and to respond to you factually without using blanket phrases such as “made bare for all to see” which really means nothing, I’d have to go sifting through posts for you. You erroneously debunked my stance of some feminists and woke women belittling traditional women or women that choose to marry(even on this forum many ladies call others pick mesha or seeking male validation when they express their opinion). women on this forum belittle others for being married? Are you confusing this for posts that push against women who encourage misogyny and practices that benefit men to the detriment of women? If you find one post that says women who choose to get married are this or that (insert something negative) I’ll be the first to the tell the poster to desist. However it is not the same as when a post that encourages misogyny is pushed against. (No reference to anyone in particular.)
You may be taking on the burden of a post addressed to the general clan of those who hate on feminists. Don’t bear it alone. And you never did state what makes this thread anti-marriage. You know why, It’s because it isn’t 3 Likes |
Re: Unmarried Women by mrblessed(m): 10:52am On May 15, 2020 |
MagpieMonishaa:It is not impossible but do have what it takes to be richer than Donald Trump? Your choice of President Trump is a giveaway, because he inherited his wealth from his late dad. Why not aspire to become our "local" Dangote? At least, there is an element of grass to grace entrepreneurial stint in his story. Again, your choice points to the cardinal message of this post: our uncritical, sheepish obsession with anything and everything Western. |
Re: Unmarried Women by Nobody: 10:53am On May 15, 2020 |
CAPSLOCKED: And you read that post, quoted this and not this ![]() Besides, I see some guys list down what they want in a woman and what they don't. What's stopping them from adding 'broke women' to the list? As a matter of fact, most do not even want to marry women who earn more than they do! What exactly is stopping you from adding those attributes to your list? Or rather who can even stop you or who is already stopping you from adding those to your list? And how does your post contradict from what I said ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Unmarried Women by Arthur2021: 10:54am On May 15, 2020 |
MagpieMonishaa:you were banned? Why? I am not against anyone speaking up against norms. There will always be dissatisfaction in life with a practise or norm,that is why we have movements coming up everyday...its not wrong to fight for a cause(within the confines of the law) My point is that some people depend on society approval before acting. Why die in a marriage you are a punching bag instead of moving out because of norm?work on your self confidence! 1 Like |
Re: Unmarried Women by cococandy(f): 10:54am On May 15, 2020 |
There’s a real cooking tournament? Oooh. ![]() I’ll probably watch. Who dash me representation ![]() LordKO: 4 Likes |
Re: Unmarried Women by MagpieMonishaa: 10:55am On May 15, 2020 |
mrblessed: You missed the point. 2 Likes |
Re: Unmarried Women by MagpieMonishaa: 10:59am On May 15, 2020 |
Arthur2021: By the anti spam bot for posting another example of an unmarried woman. The anti spam bot is a bot, makes mistakes. I agree with many of the points you have raised on this thread and I appreciate your contributions (except for the insults you rained on my lovely fie.rry) and I have been asking myself the same questions over and over again. Part of it is simply our need to belong, be accepted and appreciated. Part of it is fear. Another part lack of resources. Topic for another day. 1 Like |
Re: Unmarried Women by MagpieMonishaa: 11:01am On May 15, 2020 |
cococandy: I am yet to see it too. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Unmarried Women by SweetCunt97(f): 11:02am On May 15, 2020 |
MagpieMonishaa:True 1 Like |
Re: Unmarried Women by sisisioge: 11:05am On May 15, 2020 |
Somehow, as always, we have successfully missed the point about this thread and turned it to a gender war. I think what OP is just trying to say is that women(which is her focus, otherwise, she would have included several single men's profiles as well) should be free to explore the option of singlehood without societal stigmatization. If being married makes you happy, go for it. If staying single makes you happy, go for it. You choice shouldn't stop you from procreating, loving or having a fulfilled life. It's that simple. While people like Bukatyne should be allowed her views without ridicule(sebi na her views), people like the OP should be allowed theirs too. As there are countless failed/unhappy marriages, there would be several failed/unhappy singlehood too...may we just choose right. EOD. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Unmarried Women by cococandy(f): 11:05am On May 15, 2020 |
MagpieMonishaa: Because it doesn’t happen. I mean I’m not everywhere on Nairaland so maybe in some obscure section where I don’t frequent, it happens. So I can’t swear it basically. But some posters are trying to categorize anti-misogyny posts as anti-marriage posts. Two separate things. Unless there’s an underlying message that misogyny is needed for a marriage to be a good and successful one. 2 Likes |
Re: Unmarried Women by Jullima(f): 11:06am On May 15, 2020 |
If you believe women are to blame for a bad spouse because they chose wrongly, then wouldn’t you be all for women remaining single and living their best lives rather than marrying any Ayo, Musa and Obi because they need to get married? You would celebrate these women that refused to compromise and marry any man just so they can be a MRS. Lol women cannot win with you people. FYI this isn’t an anti-marriage thread. A marriage shouldn’t define a woman, wether the woman is married, single or divorced. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Unmarried Women by MagpieMonishaa: 11:08am On May 15, 2020 |
cococandy: Women are not ridiculed for getting married. If that ever happens anywhere it is an extreme exception not the norm but it is the norm and everyday reality for women (and men) to be ridiculed and verbally abused for being single past a certain age. 2 Likes |
Re: Unmarried Women by LordKO(m): 11:12am On May 15, 2020 |
cococandy: We can't afford to go to the tournament without one of our best - participation will be free for all of our best cooks, our magnanimity as a country remains unwavering. So, the "who dash me representation" will not hold water. LOL. Yes, there ought to be a real world cooking tournament next year, but for the COVID-19 wahala. Have a nice day. 2 Likes |
Re: Unmarried Women by MagpieMonishaa: 11:16am On May 15, 2020 |
sisisioge: I am glad it has not escalated (yet) and I acknowledge that some posters are keeping the discussion classy. If anyone goes off the rails, they have themselves to blame. All I wanted to do was show that women can choose or by some circumstance happen to live single and still have a sense of fulfillment and what is more leave a long lasting legacy. I also wanted to give these women a face because they are too often dehumanized on this forum. I think I achieved my goal and much more. I delighted in the celebration of these women and I know that their stories are a source of inspiration, which I didn't seek but found. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Unmarried Women by gowonmaharajah(m): 11:16am On May 15, 2020 |
![]() most of the ladies in support of the op are probably evening newspapers with no hope of getting a man, or lesbians. hahaha 3 Likes |
Re: Unmarried Women by cococandy(f): 11:17am On May 15, 2020 |
MagpieMonishaa:Exactly. Like this guy is doing gowonmaharajah: 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Unmarried Women by MagpieMonishaa: 11:18am On May 15, 2020 |
gowonmaharajah: It pains you? |
Re: Unmarried Women by MagpieMonishaa: 11:19am On May 15, 2020 |
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Re: Unmarried Women by cococandy(f): 11:19am On May 15, 2020 |
There ought to be. It would be very interesting. And in a real worldwide scenario? Na real who dash me. Common stop playing ![]() However.....Thanks for the compliment LordKO: 2 Likes |
Re: Unmarried Women by Arthur2021: 11:21am On May 15, 2020 |
cococandy:go through my post again I didn't say belittle for being married but for being traditional.. What is misogyny?if you are mistaken hatred,contempt or prejudice( for example beating,cheating,marital rape) against women for a lady willfully deciding to submit to her husband or taking traditional roles (like being a housewife) which she loves then we can't agree. Some ladies are angry with just the notion that a lady sees her man as the head,even if she willfully chooses to do so and the couple are living harmoniously . it doesn't have to be when he is beating her black and blue before they belittle her Check out eye.ness post on pickmesha,or various derogatory terms used to describe women that are being traditional. I agree there are not those who call others out for marrying that I know. But they are ladies that have belittled and accused other ladies for their choices or opinions that aren't even misogynistic on this forum(you are more popular on food section and family son you may not notice it as it is prominent in romance section) . one popular feminist said women that aren't feminists are lesbians. I don't want to derail this thread by calling names. what was I supposed to think when the post of yours was knitted closely to mine? Why does hating feminists that belittle other women for their choice(especially radical feminists that want to eschew masculinity and femininity) have to do with hating feminism or having prejudice against women? 2 Likes |
Re: Unmarried Women by MagpieMonishaa: 11:29am On May 15, 2020 |
Arthur2021 There is a difference between being traditional and telling others to be traditional too. |
Re: Unmarried Women by crackland: 11:31am On May 15, 2020 |
Bojack:Unmarried men have NEVER found a need to prove to themselves they are happily single and unmarried. That's some low self-esteem shít. Independent woman Strong woman Single woman Successful woman All different iterations of the same psychological need to show a faux sense of self-esteem. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Unmarried Women by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 11:34am On May 15, 2020 |
IVORY2009:Ok.Good to hear from you. Family and I are fine ![]() Thank you and stay safe ![]() |
Re: Unmarried Women by gowonmaharajah(m): 11:34am On May 15, 2020 |
na western culture go finish us laslas. and if you're a Nigerian that resides in Nigeria and pathetically you're feasting on OP's piece of garbage. your on a long thing and sorry is your case 3 Likes |
Re: Unmarried Women by MagpieMonishaa: 11:35am On May 15, 2020 |
Mary Eliza Mahoney (1845-1926) On March 3, 1878, Mary Mahoney was accepted into New England Hospital’s graduate nursing program. During her training, Mahoney participated in mandatory 16-hour-per-day ward duty, where she oversaw the well-being of six patients at a time. Days not requiring ward duty involved attending day-long lectures while simultaneously devoting time to her studies. Completing the rigorous 16-month program on August 1, 1879, Mahoney was among the three graduates out of the 40 students who began the program and the only African American awarded a diploma. Upon her graduation Mary Mahoney became the first African American graduate nurse. In a 40-year career, Mahoney directed the Howard Orphan Asylum in Long Island, New York, and was a founding member of the group that became the American Nurses Association. After retirement, Mahoney continued to fight for minority rights and in 1920 became one of the first women to register to vote in Boston. Cc: For Merahki and Cococandy (my ladies from the medical field, our heroes in the time of Covid-19) ![]() ![]() 1 Like
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Re: Unmarried Women by Arthur2021: 11:37am On May 15, 2020 |
MagpieMonishaa:OK...if woke women can advise other women to be woke,why can't traditional women have the right to advise other women to be traditional? What do you define as telling? Giving advise based on experience and ones own school of thought or forcing and belittling others to do heed to your ways On this forum many monikers have been dragged for being traditional (I mean talking of their own lives and how it works for them) not just by advising others... 3 Likes |
Re: Unmarried Women by IVORY2009(m): 11:37am On May 15, 2020 |
Ladyhippolyta88: Alright thanks..... 1 Like |
Re: Unmarried Women by cococandy(f): 11:39am On May 15, 2020 |
Arthur2021:mmm okay. What is misogyny?if you are mistaken hatred,contempt or prejudice( for example beating,cheating,marital rape against womenyes that’s misogyny and any man or woman who accepts/minimizes such is a misogynist. I’m not mistaking it for a woman choosing a traditional role. As long as it’s HER CHOICE, I’m down baby. It’s feminist to support other women’s choices. It’s not feminist to look the other way when things such as the above in bold are told to women as stuff they shouldn’t make a big deal of when a man does it. for a lady willfully deciding to submit to her husband or taking traditional roles (like being a housewife) which she loves then we can't agree. Some ladies are angry with just the notion that a lady sees her man as the head,even if she willfully chooses to do so and the couple are living harmoniously . it doesn't have to be when he is beating her black and blue before they belittle herthat’s unusual. Most women don’t care if you call your husband lord. It’s when you tell them that they should do same then it becomes an issue. See the difference? Check out eye.ness post on pickmesha,or various derogatory terms used to describe women that are being traditional.I don’t know that person. However if she’s using that term to describe ladies who are making their own choices without foisting their views as things other women SHOULD do, then she’s wrong. No different from the ones she’s describing I agree there are not those who call others out for marrying that I know But they are ladies that have belittled and accused other ladies for their choices or opinions that aren't even misogynistic on this forum(you are more popular on food section and family son you may not notice it as it is prominent in romance section) . one popular feminist said women that aren't feminists are lesbians. I don't want to derail this thread by calling names.yes!!! at the rest mmm. If you say so. what was I supposed to think when the post of yours was knitted closely to mine?Okay let’s chuck this bit down to miscommunication. |
Re: Unmarried Women by MagpieMonishaa: 11:41am On May 15, 2020 |
Arthur2021: I don't speak for 'woke women', I speak for myself. I can't even stand this terminology 'woke'. Puts me off. To your question: Me opening a thread like this and telling other ladies to live like the ladies I gave examples of. Simple. ![]() Correction: Unsolicited advice. ![]() |
Re: Unmarried Women by Arthur2021: 11:44am On May 15, 2020 |
CAPSLOCKED:remember how they dragged ubunja for starting men should marry ladies between 18-25? They called him a paedophile. Remember how they accuse men of body shaming when they say they want ladies without stretch marks of sagging breasts? Remember how they drag redpillers for emphasizing marriage to virgins only.. Alor of people want to have choices but if a man have his choice he is misogynistic 4 Likes |
Re: Unmarried Women by cococandy(f): 11:44am On May 15, 2020 |
MagpieMonishaa:Thank you ![]() @bold, much hasn’t changed. Instead we usually have 12 hour days. Rarely do we have have 16 hour days. But continuous side education and holding a family together (for some of us) is still part of it . Respect to Mary Mahoney. Respect to merahki. Respect to me . Respect to all of us ![]() 6 Likes 3 Shares |
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