Acmepreneur:

You got it, I'm a feminist, wait till I get rich and powerful, you men in Nigeria that has sworn to suffer women will see pepper. We will make sure we hang you rapists, like that idiot that raped busola dakolo, we will start reviewing 50years old rape cases, molest cases, even if na grandmother tell a story of molest. We would review the case and bring the family to justice.
Giving women unnecessary pressures, making them work like slaves, go through labour, child care and not being responsible. Just wait and see, you will see pepper, continue thrashing women.
God bless all the wonderful men out there, just that they are very few

VictorBode:


Relax. Not interested in breaking your relationship.

You first started off as innocent and blaming your man(which I still agree he has some fault)

Then you started revealing your anti men character.

Has nothing to do with your relationship. I'm just looking at you and how you felt so good to see men down.

It's not hard to see.

DrDax:


You are joking, right?

bmdmixer:
u hate marrying in 26,27,28,29, have u married in those age before.

u simply a nag, he dey show from all ur response.

leofab:
so you can’t even materialise all your wonderful ideas for yourself but you are pushing someone’s son to the wall cos he refused to take your ideas? Can you see you are just nagging ?

AkupeMBANO:

madam feminist, where are you working and how much are you bringing to the table currently? bla bla bla sheep have you any wool? talking rubbish Up and down!!

mandate12:


She's doing 'big ideas' for a living

lalanice:
oga misogynist, backoff I do not know you or owe you any explanation. Go and find a village girl to flex muscles on. Boy bye

Acmepreneur:
Thanks to all commentors.
Edit: i want to use this moment to Thank the ladies, this thread of mine has made me to realize the future of Africa is in the hands of ladies, men are total disgrace, while some are quite inspiring and very helpful, the percentage of men spewing rubbish is quite very high, about 90% while that of female is just 2%. Thank you God for not making me a man.

But please, i want to know the mod that took this to front page?
Una don turn Nairaland to a joke wallahi

Thanks to all commentors, you really made my day and I laughed so hard, especially those that think I have low self esteem and I'm not near intelligence.

It seems that some males on NL are already pained and frustrated about their broke assess and was already ready to any bash girl.

For those that took their time to read all the stories, I wanna say thank you, it means we are bored together as if not lockdown, you no fit see me for NL they ask yeye questions and be reading comedians comments.

For the unbelievers, the story is true,though with some little tweaks, because I don't know if my boyfriend siblings&friends are on NL, so I gave it some tweaks, though I can't vouche for other stories here on NL if they are true or false.

For those that sent me mails, sorry, I don't reply Nairaland emails.
For those that wants to date,lol, I can't date people with account on NL, thats one reason I love my BF, he doesn't fancy NL at all, he thinks its for jobless people or people with so much money that they now have time at their disposal to waste or people severely bored. Yes, I know some people are making money with the help of NL, especially in the business section, bitcoin, cryptocurrency,PayPal, forex trade threads.
And the GRE,IELTS section is also very good, but I still can't date a NL active member especially those active on Romance section.

Final Conclusion, I can never leave my boyfriend, I don't even know why I asked such question

Acmepreneur:
Thanks to all commentors.
Edit: i want to use this moment to Thank the ladies, this thread of mine has made me to realize the future of Africa is in the hands of ladies, men are total disgrace, while some are quite inspiring and very helpful, the percentage of men spewing rubbish is quite very high, about 90% while that of female is just 2%. Thank you God for not making me a man.

But please, i want to know the mod that took this to front page?
Una don turn Nairaland to a joke wallahi

Thanks to all commentors, you really made my day and I laughed so hard, especially those that think I have low self esteem and I'm not near intelligence.

It seems that some males on NL are already pained and frustrated about their broke assess and was already ready to any bash girl.

For those that took their time to read all the stories, I wanna say thank you, it means we are bored together as if not lockdown, you no fit see me for NL they ask yeye questions and be reading comedians comments.

For the unbelievers, the story is true,though with some little tweaks, because I don't know if my boyfriend siblings&friends are on NL, so I gave it some tweaks, though I can't vouche for other stories here on NL if they are true or false.

For those that sent me mails, sorry, I don't reply Nairaland emails.
For those that wants to date,lol, I can't date people with account on NL, thats one reason I love my BF, he doesn't fancy NL at all, he thinks its for jobless people or people with so much money that they now have time at their disposal to waste or people severely bored. Yes, I know some people are making money with the help of NL, especially in the business section, bitcoin, cryptocurrency,PayPal, forex trade threads.
And the GRE,IELTS section is also very good, but I still can't date a NL active member especially those active on Romance section.

Final Conclusion, I can never leave my boyfriend, I don't even know why I asked such question

Myhusband:




you are naive with the ways of life because Grace was around you


for you to have the privilege to sponsored anyone shows you've backbone. I'm talking about someone that have no one, a true hustler need to be inspired and challenge


you sponsored your brother because it's your passion? was it not when you see what others are doing that influence your decision? that's the ginger(inspiration)



I think you should read to understand post before forming jackie chan. no knowledge is isolated, human exploit everyday either by partner or by people around them


go and marry unambitious wife and see how your dream will be outrightly buried

Acmepreneur:

Acmepreneur:
This my guy is not serious at all.

I used to tell myself change is the only permanent thing in life bla bla bla. And I really believe that once you take the right steps, you can be anything you want to be. This made me to be very soft with people....

AkupeMBANO:

wife material ko ni. you think real life experience is by remaining jobless, sound like a feminist and make noise up and down? Maybe you dey her age bracket sha!!

Acmepreneur:
This my guy is not serious at all.

I used to tell myself change is the only permanent thing in life bla bla bla. And I really believe that once you take the right steps, you can be anything you want to be. This made me to be very soft with people.

When I started dating my Boyfriend, I really was not choosy or judgy. I accepted him without a second thought. I'm not the type of lady that actually do all those lady stuff, I'm a very serious person and I don't play games at all.
My BF is very cool, like not bad looking, normal behaviour etc and I like him a lot.

I'm a very ambitious person, with an extremely big dreams, my boyfriend is also hard working, but I'm not seeing any future at all with his career/prospects/life. When I say I'm with big dreams, it's means I'm working on discovering (new innovations), planning big business that would compete with top brands etc. I'm that big in dreams.

My children is also very important to me, I don't plan for their sufferings at all.
I'm an introvert, I find solace in my aspirations, dreams. I have books I work out those formulas (I mean how I would execute my business plans), I research a lot, think a lot etc

Our fight now

Since day 1, I do tell him to do this and that. I really hate company works, so I would tell him to have savings, and be building something sideways where he works. Also, I wanted him to do Masters, since he said he would love to travel out, he's always saying he hates Nigeria bla bla bla. His dad also wanted him to do Masters, but he's in the crew of Masters is a waste of time, and he can't do Masters in Nigeria bla bla bla

Baby try this business, he would say he doesn't have money, he needs 2 million to start a business etc.

Meanwhile, he doesn't have money to travel out of the country to do Masters, nor 2m to start any business. So I would tell him to manage what he has first, and that would propelled him later, but he likes to talk like illiterates that Masters is meaningless.

Meanwhile, while that is true, those things are just like investment, you don't know when you will see an opportunity to use your Masters certificate, and since he studied computer science, I told him that it can even help him get a job outside Nigeria when he leaves, that it can be useful there. I understand the situation of the country, but not having masters doesn't mean you will get a job as well, so why don't you just have it.

My bf would shut me off, and also his dad, the dad even asked him to take job at the federal university where he works, but my bf said he can't work in that place, this is a federal government job o, he would say the salary is too small and people there already knows him, because his dad is in a big office in the university.

So it won't seem like I'm disturbing him, I went quiet, but might chip it in in discussions, but I don't fight him on those things. He works in a small company, and he rose to the position of a Manager, he spent all his time in office, the little time to waste with his friends. It's a good thing but I'm not comfortable with that, the pay is about 90k, which is not enough for his expenses, also he's the first born.

Fast forward to last year, his dad died, it looks like a film trick to him, he now have to take care of his siblings and mum (mum is nurse, but retired long time ago, her pay is little because it wasn't normal retirement). Everything I was telling him finally came to pass.

He rented an apartment with His friends, he later hated it, and said he wants his own, he went to rent an apartment of 600k (he gathered it from different places and he borrowed), which I really hate and we fought on that as well. Because he could have used the money to secure his life in a better way, since his complain when I told him to start a business is that he doesn't have money bla bla bla

He will not apply for better jobs as well
He's practically doing nothing to grow, and would say he hates Nigeria and he would like to leave, but he can't even apply for scholarships or even google schools.

So this 2020, Jan 1, I started fighting him, that I'm not going to continue with him like that, that he should go apply for MSC, start a business or just do something. He now started saying that he has responsibilities which are his siblings, I told him this is the nonsense, he would do till the year ends, we will fight and later resolve it.

He won't even talk about it, or get reminded, he makes me feel Hus boss is using him. I have told him several times how he would be used and dumped, in fact, he makes me say negatives sometimes, and that's because I have seen people that get dumped while working with companies and they fall back to grass, my mum won't even accept him because he works in a company, small company, not cocacola or big companies. My mum hates company works like shits because we've heard and seen people falling to zero due to company jobs.

The problem
1. He says I'm disturbing his life, and not allowing him to rest

2. I'm not happy with him living that way, with no future, no investment, hes not building himself while working, hes not doing courses, not learning any skills, and I think its too risky.
His current salary is not enough for him, not to talk of me collecting part of it. But he gives me money though, has not been more than 1k, 2k and data subscription which I really appreciate.

3. I can't introduce him to my family because I want him respected. Truth is I don't know what he would say to impress my parents because I'm not even impressed with him. And I want him to be superloved and respected. I believe in first impression would last very long. He has introduced me to his family and all friends

4. He never ask me about my own life, aspirations, advice me etc, I'm always the one to do that. Yesterday he had the gut to tell me I'm not caring because of just two days of not showing care

5. Corona has turned his company outside down and he's highly affected. Just like all what I was telling him finally happened, and he has nothing to fall back at. He has a car,

6. I can't marry him or anyone this way, and I'm getting old, though and I want marriage next year. He said he wants too, but I can't marry him like this. And I don't want to get to late twenties, and he breaks up and I start looking for husband, people would be thinking maybe I have a problem that is why I'm yet to marry, they won't know that its him that caused my delay. Plus I have a very high esteem, so I would hate to be desperate for marriage with a man or be the one to be wanting marriage so much in a relationship

7. Right now, we have temporarily break up, so I'm asking if I should break up or make up? Because he was saying rubbish last night

Note: I'm not a fan of dating and rubbish, I love him very much and I don't want to leave him at all. I don't think there's any man I can date as I do not like dishonesty at all and 95% of men are dishonest. My BF is very honest and good I'm every other aspect

Archbishop88:
What an ambitious fellow that met faggy and progress detest fellow. Well, another man's food is another man's poison.
I have MSc and have applied for my PhD in a Nigeria public university... Am a potential scholar with 3 academic papers published in international journals. Another 2 is under review for publication. I have soft skill as well. Am in my early 30s, marriage next year wouldn't be bad. Am not in any relationship for now.
Please can we get to know each other, if we take it to the next level?
Please hit me up on tomisin245@yahoo.com
Thanks.

Acmepreneur:
This my guy is not serious at all.

I used to tell myself change is the only permanent thing in life bla bla bla. And I really believe that once you take the right steps, you can be anything you want to be. This made me to be very soft with people.

When I started dating my Boyfriend, I really was not choosy or judgy. I accepted him without a second thought. I'm not the type of lady that actually do all those lady stuff, I'm a very serious person and I don't play games at all.
My BF is very cool, like not bad looking, normal behaviour etc and I like him a lot.

I'm a very ambitious person, with an extremely big dreams, my boyfriend is also hard working, but I'm not seeing any future at all with his career/prospects/life. When I say I'm with big dreams, it's means I'm working on discovering (new innovations), planning big business that would compete with top brands etc. I'm that big in dreams.

My children is also very important to me, I don't plan for their sufferings at all.
I'm an introvert, I find solace in my aspirations, dreams. I have books I work out those formulas (I mean how I would execute my business plans), I research a lot, think a lot etc

Our fight now

Since day 1, I do tell him to do this and that. I really hate company works, so I would tell him to have savings, and be building something sideways where he works. Also, I wanted him to do Masters, since he said he would love to travel out, he's always saying he hates Nigeria bla bla bla. His dad also wanted him to do Masters, but he's in the crew of Masters is a waste of time, and he can't do Masters in Nigeria bla bla bla

Baby try this business, he would say he doesn't have money, he needs 2 million to start a business etc.

Meanwhile, he doesn't have money to travel out of the country to do Masters, nor 2m to start any business. So I would tell him to manage what he has first, and that would propelled him later, but he likes to talk like illiterates that Masters is meaningless.

Meanwhile, while that is true, those things are just like investment, you don't know when you will see an opportunity to use your Masters certificate, and since he studied computer science, I told him that it can even help him get a job outside Nigeria when he leaves, that it can be useful there. I understand the situation of the country, but not having masters doesn't mean you will get a job as well, so why don't you just have it.

My bf would shut me off, and also his dad, the dad even asked him to take job at the federal university where he works, but my bf said he can't work in that place, this is a federal government job o, he would say the salary is too small and people there already knows him, because his dad is in a big office in the university.

So it won't seem like I'm disturbing him, I went quiet, but might chip it in in discussions, but I don't fight him on those things. He works in a small company, and he rose to the position of a Manager, he spent all his time in office, the little time to waste with his friends. It's a good thing but I'm not comfortable with that, the pay is about 90k, which is not enough for his expenses, also he's the first born.

Fast forward to last year, his dad died, it looks like a film trick to him, he now have to take care of his siblings and mum (mum is nurse, but retired long time ago, her pay is little because it wasn't normal retirement). Everything I was telling him finally came to pass.

He rented an apartment with His friends, he later hated it, and said he wants his own, he went to rent an apartment of 600k (he gathered it from different places and he borrowed), which I really hate and we fought on that as well. Because he could have used the money to secure his life in a better way, since his complain when I told him to start a business is that he doesn't have money bla bla bla

He will not apply for better jobs as well
He's practically doing nothing to grow, and would say he hates Nigeria and he would like to leave, but he can't even apply for scholarships or even google schools.

So this 2020, Jan 1, I started fighting him, that I'm not going to continue with him like that, that he should go apply for MSC, start a business or just do something. He now started saying that he has responsibilities which are his siblings, I told him this is the nonsense, he would do till the year ends, we will fight and later resolve it.

He won't even talk about it, or get reminded, he makes me feel Hus boss is using him. I have told him several times how he would be used and dumped, in fact, he makes me say negatives sometimes, and that's because I have seen people that get dumped while working with companies and they fall back to grass, my mum won't even accept him because he works in a company, small company, not cocacola or big companies. My mum hates company works like shits because we've heard and seen people falling to zero due to company jobs.

The problem
1. He says I'm disturbing his life, and not allowing him to rest

2. I'm not happy with him living that way, with no future, no investment, hes not building himself while working, hes not doing courses, not learning any skills, and I think its too risky.
His current salary is not enough for him, not to talk of me collecting part of it. But he gives me money though, has not been more than 1k, 2k and data subscription which I really appreciate.

3. I can't introduce him to my family because I want him respected. Truth is I don't know what he would say to impress my parents because I'm not even impressed with him. And I want him to be superloved and respected. I believe in first impression would last very long. He has introduced me to his family and all friends

4. He never ask me about my own life, aspirations, advice me etc, I'm always the one to do that. Yesterday he had the gut to tell me I'm not caring because of just two days of not showing care

5. Corona has turned his company outside down and he's highly affected. Just like all what I was telling him finally happened, and he has nothing to fall back at. He has a car,

6. I can't marry him or anyone this way, and I'm getting old, though and I want marriage next year. He said he wants too, but I can't marry him like this. And I don't want to get to late twenties, and he breaks up and I start looking for husband, people would be thinking maybe I have a problem that is why I'm yet to marry, they won't know that its him that caused my delay. Plus I have a very high esteem, so I would hate to be desperate for marriage with a man or be the one to be wanting marriage so much in a relationship

7. Right now, we have temporarily break up, so I'm asking if I should break up or make up? Because he was saying rubbish last night

Note: I'm not a fan of dating and rubbish, I love him very much and I don't want to leave him at all. I don't think there's any man I can date as I do not like dishonesty at all and 95% of men are dishonest. My BF is very honest and good I'm every other aspect

Skepticus:


Simpanzee

Johnnydboy:
Alpha simp like you..... Listing ur qualifications for just woman as if say na job u dey find.........u might be jobless sef... Who knows?....... Be a man for once jare

Millenniumlady:
Better go get a life because you ain't living right.

AkupeMBANO:

Some guy already called you a witch (maybe he's spiritual enough). I give extra offering every Sunday because i ain't the dude that will marry miscreants like you. I pity the weakling who will carry a jobless load of crap like you. Oloshi!!

AristocraticMe:
I hope you read this. You can never get a 100% in anything, there must be a place for compromise.

Like you said he is loving, respectful and caring, so many ladies will kill for those listed qualities.

You can eventually get a guy who has a dream like mount kilimanjaro. But will he be caring, respectful and loving.

You have to choose what matters to you more.
If it is big dreams, drive and big ambition then that is good. Or if it is care, love and understanding between you both.

The choice is yours.

Remember you cannot have both, not in a real world.

nnamdiosu:


I so wish I could send you a voice note, becos wat I wanna say is much and heavy packed. I'll make do with this though.

Before I say wat I wanna say, I have to ask you to remove sentiments and be very neutral. Then youll see the truth in what I'm about to say. Also screen shot my reply, in less than a year, you'll see prophecies I'm saying here coning to pass at least 50%.


1. Trust me, I know 100% you love your bf. And I know he is a good person. Trust me, I feel it deep inside. But trust me again, this relationship won't exceed 2020.

2.you belong to that tiny percent of people that love planning ahead, like projecting for the future and strategically planning for what its. Unfortunately, your bf, as good as he is, is the opposite. He lives just for the present. He believes tomorrow will take care of itself. This is seriously against your mindset.

3. Becos of no 2 above, its clear you two are on different mindset. Different wave length. Can two people walk/plan together except they agree?

4. Becos of no 3 above, you two will always be on logger heads. Issues are normally in relationships, but this isnt a normal issue. This are destiny/life time matters. You both decision will even affect your kids.

5. Funny enough, you both are actual correct in your own way. But his mindset was a mindset that worked in Nigeria years ago. Not now.



Based on your topic for this thread, I smiled after reading . because I discovered you're an introvert, a special one that forecasts ahead to get results. You are the type of woman every man needs.

Youre the true definition of a help mate. Logical, analytic and careful observation are your strong points. I rarely praise ladies on this platform, but one with a mindset like yours, needs to be celebrated.

That means you already know the answer to your thread.

You already know what to do.

But, I'll just leave you with a clue.

Ask yourself this question.
When I look back at his general view in this aspect, do I feel at peace and assured it will be all right? Your answer will determine what you should do.

Don't forget, the best friend of an introvert is their peace of mind, every time.
I wish you the best in life friend.

VictorBode:


With the way feminism now is, an intelligent person can't be a feminist because it's a hate movement.

You think men dont have men and daughters? They dont support feminism because even though they have a "goal" their way of approach is wrong.

And no one wants to be a part of it.

Why do people like human rights activists? Because their actions are usually fair and reasonable.

Humanity is their cause not men or women.

Picking a side has the ability to affect you and make you bitter without you even realising it.

Acmepreneur:

Thanks for this, that's just the truth. My best friend is my peace of mind,my plans, aspirations, things I plan doing when I retire. Even though I know life can't be predicted so many times, it pleasurizes me to know where I am going and what are my exact focus and working towards achieving them.
I don't believe in tomorrow will fix itself at all, I'm a person of ''action and response'', even though things might not work, I still like to do the right things and strive so much even if I won't achieve anything at the end. I will show my boyfriend your response, I want him to understand me and change. Truth is,he's very loving, kind,nice,hardworking and intelligent. Leaving him is not an option, I can't have feelings for anyone else, my mind is very stiff to fall/have feelings, I couldn't have feelings for anyone until I met him. I just hope he changes for the best

Johnnydboy:
Confused fellow.......