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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by queenitee(f): 8:24pm On May 24, 2020
Psady:
yes they can, if there's a complain pertaining the transaction from any of the party be it the sender or the receiver they decide without you knowing ,sending the money back to the original sender.though mine happened with a telecom provider,so I think banks do with same logic from what the op stated in his write up.
Oh, okay. Thank you. I asked someone who works in a bank, he said it's possible but only within 48 hours and anything after isn't possible.
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by chigoizie7(m): 8:25pm On May 24, 2020
Her loss.

Whose life will being poor affect? Hers.

So if she no do business, make I die?

You are trying to help someone better her life and she thinks she is doing you a favor.

This nonsense sense of entitlement amongst our Nigeria girls is so bad.
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by enex200: 8:28pm On May 24, 2020
You're at fault a little patience is required if I may ask

Which bank ??
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by masqot(m): 8:31pm On May 24, 2020
The lady didn't receive the money. You relied solely on your own side of the story and you want her to pretend she has seen the money. You ignored her for wrong reason and took her matter to the police. Yet you want her to be your "friend" with bright smiles and open arms. Just like that? If I were the lady, I would take my time.

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Makefav(m): 8:48pm On May 24, 2020
Renida:
Women like men looking stupeed. Don't give up. Look for her friends or families and speak to them. Do not speak to her directly, it won't work. Plus give her two weeks or more to reflect like 4 weeks.


Next time separate money from early days of relationships
So so so simple, go to her physically, let her no how bank failed you, apologized to her, play with her for some hours, stay with her and help her to do some stuff, do it repeatedly

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by jmichael259(m): 9:03pm On May 24, 2020
stormborn28:
you a caveman devoid after letters.. Did you not read where OP said the bank statement shows the lady received the money?
It is what OP brought forward I'm looking at.. You need education





Throughout that day she claimed not to have gotten the money. Then throughout the next day same story so the third day I went to the bank to receive the statement of account. lo and behold her name was boldly written and the bank people told me she has gotten it. I got very angry and sent it to her but I didn't tell her anything I just ignored her call.


Take caution. THE BANK PEOPLE TOLD HIM. What the statement only does is state the account name and number you made a transaction to or from. A debit alert was received yes but in this kinda case it's the recipient's statement that is needed but the dumbass didn't go for that. From your words you could have been more primitive if you were in his shoes.
WHEN THE BANK DEBITS YOU AND DOESN'T REFLECT TO THE POS DO YOU EXPECT THEM TO PAY YOU?
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by stormborn28(m): 9:07pm On May 24, 2020
jmichael259:


Take caution. THE BANK PEOPLE TOLD HIM. What the statement only does is state the account name and number you made a transaction to or from. A debit alert was received yes but in this kinda case it's the recipient's statement that is needed but the dumbass didn't go for that. From your words you could have been more primitive if you were in his shoes.
WHEN THE BANK DEBITS YOU AND DOESN'T REFLECT TO THE POS DO YOU EXPECT THEM TO PAY YOU?
it is like you cannot read and digest a statement... Again this is what OP brought forward .I expected the lady to counter OP with her bank statement.. This is not new to me... Someone once sent money and claimed that she had sent it... Yes the money came in but was immediately
withdrawn again. I have to visit ATM to confirm yet, it was my former balance... For days, the sender and I kept arguing.. So I took it upon myself and visited my bank and got the printed statement of my account. I was about sending it to this very person before she agreed that the money was reversed.. And blamed her bank.. My point is, the lady should have acted



Throughout that day she claimed not to have gotten the money. Then throughout the next day same story so the third day I went to the bank to receive the statement of account. lo and behold her name was boldly written and the bank people told me she has gotten it. I got very angry and sent it to her but I didn't tell her anything I just ignored her call.
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Slimsly100(f): 9:10pm On May 24, 2020
Bros abeg na ur bad character spoil your package. Nor blame bank tongue tongue grin
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Slimsly100(f): 9:15pm On May 24, 2020
Sisioge chop knuckles jare.
Abi na cool




sisisioge:


I will be, but my first reaction will be to put the evidence in her face. Let her refute or confirm it. I won't just ghost the person.

Is it today that you go to ATM, it will count money without expelling, debit you and even eat your card. You get debited. You may be lucky to get reversal without logging complaint... You may also not get reversal until you complain.

Money has always been a biatch though.

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by govomotors: 9:33pm On May 24, 2020
lefulefu:
i just hope this lady u were transfering money to was a business associate and not some chick who was begging u for chop money and u now sent her some chop money out of the kindness of ur heart

Are you a seer? I was actually just trying to help her.
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Nobody: 9:36pm On May 24, 2020
govomotors:


Are you a seer? I was actually just trying to help her.
seriously?? cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy grin
and she still had the mind to be rude to u wen she didnt get the money
on top ur money oo grin grin grin
well u try sha
if na me that will be the last help she will get from me and i will also stop talking to her
some girls and their mumu entitlement issues

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by nnaemmy(m): 9:39pm On May 24, 2020
Next time, after getting your statement of account, also tell the beneficiary to get his/her own statement of account to enable both parties cross-check it before getting emotional about it. Most times it's NIBSS that delays fund transfers and not even banks.

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by kikelomojessy(f): 11:32pm On May 24, 2020
OP, u said the bank ruined Ur relationship, how?

You sent her money and she said she didn't get it, what u would have done after getting Ur statement is to send it to her and then she can go check her own bank.

I have a related issue but I had to be calmed about it cos it was from my client. I needed to make some outfit for someone and she made adv payment into my acct, but I dnt receive alert always and I need to see the money before I start. I called her after 2 days that I haven't seen her transfer and she told me she has sent it. I just went to the bank to print out statement. I realise that same day she sent the money I also transferred to some1 else and what I had as extra to my balance was less than what she was suppose to send so I concluded she didn't send it.

So everyone makes mistakes. How would u even allowed security to threaten her. Who would want that type of serious wahala with finance from beginning of relationship.

Pls next time always confront issues by communication instead of keeping mute.
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by ghettochild(m): 11:52pm On May 24, 2020
If she had received it.. How ws the bank able to reverse it..
Well she's telling the truth.. The money never got to her even when d bank debited u..
The problem is your bank
U owe the young lady a big apology
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by athorello(m): 12:02am On May 25, 2020
Statement of account (where you went to the bank or checked your app) does not show if a transaction is successful or not. If a transaction isn't reversed within 24 hours, only a query on the particular transaction after some time (could be days) will tell whether or not it went through.
So, Mr. man you went too far because you lack either patience or knowledge of Nigerian bank transactions.
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Kfed4ril(m): 12:04am On May 25, 2020
Agbagbaregoo:

Put yourself in my shoes. How would you feel if they told you at the bank the person you sent money to has received it and is only playing pranks won't you be madd. Mstcheew

It’s not a matter of putting any shoe, you didn’t give a her benefit of doubt and you ghosted her, I’m guessing if the bank never revised the money you would have broken up with her. So now that everything has turn on you you don’t want her to go?

Oga Fr͏e͏e that young girl for someone else who will believe her, or at least give her that first benefit of doubt.

Your reaction killed everything, instead of ghosting her you should have spoken to her(even if you didn’t believe her) try to get her to also get her statement too.
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by ImaIma1(f): 12:22am On May 25, 2020
Agbagbaregoo:

Put yourself in my shoes. How would you feel if they told you at the bank the person you sent money to has received it and is only playing pranks won't you be madd. Mstcheew


You should have asked her to request her statement for both of you to confirm so that you can know where the issue is from instead of concluding immediately and believing the worst.

See how you already showed yourself in that simple test. She's probably thinking that if it's a more serious matter, delete and block her and her whole kindred.

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Kfed4ril(m): 12:24am On May 25, 2020
MrBrownJay1:


but what the babe is indirectly insinuating is that he is a fraudster... while she already received the money (for whatever he was buying + wooing money). would you still want to be lovey dovey with the babe (which is what the dude was hoping for)?

Is like she didn’t read the story.
Go back and read it and then come drop your comment.


First he did a transfer, the money left his account but didn’t get to her account,
Second no where did she insist on the the OP being a fraudster.
The OPs mistake was ghosting her.
He had the opportunity to prove himself to show that yes he actually sent her the money, but he didn’t give her the opportunity to prove to him that she didn’t receive the money.
So if anybody was accused of being a fraud, it’s the girl that was being accused indirectly.
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Kfed4ril(m): 12:33am On May 25, 2020
sisisioge:


Ok then...aunty being irrational then. It showed that you sent it and got debited...if she didn't receive then she should contact her bank. Simple! It is well jare...move on and take a learning from this. Money issue is always dicey in relationships.

He sent her his bank statement and after then refused to pick her call, what if she had gotten her bank statement and was calling for him to come see it?.
He just concluded she was lying
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by instinct57vm(m): 12:39am On May 25, 2020
Agbagbaregoo:

Put yourself in my shoes. How would you feel if they told you at the bank the person you sent money to has received it and is only playing pranks won't you be madd. Mstcheew

Next time you should call her own bank to ensure the money is sitting in her account or make her call her bank stylishly in your presence in a calm manner so she can get a a
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by instinct57vm(m): 12:40am On May 25, 2020
Agbagbaregoo:

Put yourself in my shoes. How would you feel if they told you at the bank the person you sent money to has received it and is only playing pranks won't you be madd. Mstcheew

Next time you should call her own bank to ensure the money is sitting in her account or make her call her bank stylishly in your presence in a calm manner so she can get a sense of you genuinely trying to figure things out.
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Candoit: 1:18am On May 25, 2020
You even had to involve a policeman to question her.
As what?

Just imagine the level of distrust!

The girl did the right thing any sensible woman would do.
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Denko2721987(m): 1:29am On May 25, 2020
Agbagbaregoo:
I just met this lady and everything seems to be clicking. she just started a business after I gingered her and I had to patronize her. in the course I transferred some money to her to patronize her far more money than she was selling the Stuff so as to encourage her. The bank debited me and I told her I sent it.

Throughout that day she claimed not to have gotten the money. Then throughout the next day same story so the third day I went to the bank to receive the statement of account. lo and behold her name was boldly written and the bank people told me she has gotten it. I got very angry and sent it to her but I didn't tell her anything I just ignored her call.

A policeman asked for her number at the bank that he will question her. throughout these period I ignored her and I was just imagining how a beautiful light skin tender looking babe will behave like this. Then lo and behold today the bank reversed the money. I can't explain the feeling of disappointment.

Now she said she doesn't want to have anything to do with me again that she doesn't want wahala for her life. She finally picked after many trials of calling and she insisted on me leaving her life.she even said she's not doing business again. I don't know what to do.

Let me guess the bank! First bank, lolz.. I may be wrong though..
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by JAYUK(m): 1:51am On May 25, 2020
Guys are funny,learn to separate business from relationship,not communicating with her over a little issue like failed NIP transaction which was later reversed shows sign of immaturity ,she is way more psychologically stable than you, and has asked for an eternal breathing space. Blame yourself and not the bank.

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by manmade(m): 1:57am On May 25, 2020
Midadeola:
OoooMmmmGggggg
Yeah, the action is a negligence act of some of the staffs of the bank and the bank is vicariously liable especially when they maintained that the money got to the recipient (which never did) and the proposed recipient was upon this failed transaction wrongly accused and humiliated by a police officer serving with the bank, all these invariably led to a situation that made the OP to loose a good relationship with his girlfriend or fiancee - a wrong has been established and where there is a wrong there is definitely a remedy,(Ubi jus ibi remedium').
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by luvyaself95(m): 5:59am On May 25, 2020
Your niceness ruin your relationship not bank.
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by phalexnaps(m): 7:59am On May 25, 2020
My brother just know u are not meant for eachoda ... Free eachoda and move on with life. If u listen to this it will save u but if u continue to force things, nhmmmmmmm ....U will thank me later
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by MrDoGood(m): 8:56am On May 25, 2020
Agbagbaregoo:

Put yourself in my shoes. How would you feel if they told you at the bank the person you sent money to has received it and is only playing pranks won't you be madd. Mstcheew

Bros as far as she no be stranger, no need to be mad. Just let her know say na COVID 19 dey cause am. Cos truly, my bank alerted me before the lockdown that online transactions will be delayed just in case of fraud. Sometime around this period, I sent money to my girl and it about 2days before she got it. I even did airtime for her, mumu Gtb held it then I did it again, it still didn't work. Then I used my VFD bank and it worked. Only for her to get credit from the previous two. Everything amounting to 3,000 naira airtime.

Our banks foolish
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by JoseRaji(m): 9:06am On May 25, 2020
Agbagbaregoo:
I just met this lady and everything seems to be clicking. she just started a business after I gingered her and I had to patronize her. in the course I transferred some money to her to patronize her far more money than she was selling the Stuff so as to encourage her. The bank debited me and I told her I sent it.

Throughout that day she claimed not to have gotten the money. Then throughout the next day same story so the third day I went to the bank to receive the statement of account. lo and behold her name was boldly written and the bank people told me she has gotten it. I got very angry and sent it to her but I didn't tell her anything I just ignored her call.

A policeman asked for her number at the bank that he will question her. throughout these period I ignored her and I was just imagining how a beautiful light skin tender looking babe will behave like this. Then lo and behold today the bank reversed the money. I can't explain the feeling of disappointment.

Now she said she doesn't want to have anything to do with me again that she doesn't want wahala for her life. She finally picked after many trials of calling and she insisted on me leaving her life.she even said she's not doing business again. I don't know what to do.
She's not upset because she didn't get the money. She's upset because she put hopes in you and you acted like a child. This kind of transfer issue is very common. The reasonable thing to do was to get your statement, then get hers, then Lodge a complaint about it at your bank... You claim you were in a relationship, but you believed the strangers at the bank over your woman.
Guy, take your "L" and go. Make sure you do better when you get another opportunity.
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by JoseRaji(m): 9:09am On May 25, 2020
andycom:


Ignoring her wasn't her only problem, he also gave her number to a policeman. Who knows how the man must have questioned her?

Bros abeg leave the young girl alone

That part annoyed me aswear... Can you imagine? It's even possible that this guy went to cast the story for everyone to hear and add their own input. The babe dodged a bullet abeg. Give her some rest.
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by otomatic(m): 9:21am On May 25, 2020
Agbagbaregoo:

Put yourself in my shoes. How would you feel if they told you at the bank the person you sent money to has received it and is only playing pranks won't you be madd. Mstcheew

At that point why didn't you show her your statement and ask her to print her own?

I think you don't give people benefit of doubt. You even allowed a policeman question her whilst you refused to talk to her.
It shows how you will easily believe an outsider against her. You don't deserve her.

In any relationship, always trust but verify.

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