^^^Lol.



@poster, you've had two serious relationship at the age of 21? (not been judgemental)

And now your looking to go for a third one? oh well!
what i'd say is live young and live good. (just two words).

Am 21 also and can imagine how u feel.
Rule 1. let things happen as their own pace. dont do what u dont really like cos your peers are doing it.
Rule 2. 70% of what your peers Say are lies.
be careful cos i know girls attach a lot of emotions to things, take life easy. else BOYS wud hurt You real bad.

MOBO444:

^^^ Dont talk trash, go and tell your South Africa ladies that,ok.

Mrs, Chima:

I am sure you can get sex anywhere.  The men will hunch on anything nowadays.  But, I only asked because I know younger girls are vulnerable and having a boyfriend fill that "lonely void". 

What do u mean by younger girls filling the lonely void? 21 is young to have a boyfriend? Wouldn't i marry someday?

Jenifa_:



2 serious relationships by 21? jeez. I think you shouldn't jump into relationships for the sake of it. wait for the right guy otherwise you're soon going to be out of the r/s and looking for another one in a minute. unless you are ok with that.

I'm sure you have friends that are single. you probably are just focusing on the ones in r/s and feeling self conscious. Find your single friends (or make some new ones) and start hanging out with them more and doing things together. single life is fun too esp. if you have friends who are also single.

what's the rush to be in a r/s anyway, when eventually, you are going to be in one for the rest of your life. and by then, you will have times when you'll wish you were still young and single again. 
better enjoy your freedom while you still have it.

i quite agree with you but eventually you would still feel it as time goes by and more of your friends are getting hooked.

Mygoldie:

^^^Lol.



@poster, you've had two serious relationship at the age of 21? (not been judgemental)

And now your looking to go for a third one? oh well!
what i'd say is live young and live good. (just two words).

Yes I have had 2 serious relationships

iice:

Peer pressure is a hard thing to withstand.
Even when you try to get people to be logical. . .it's like they don't actually want to not succumb to peer pressure.

exactly, really hard most times.

tpia*:

^so you're saying you want the teenage dayokanu to be my third husband.


let his nl wifey/s catch you sha.

Tope kini mo se fun e now? Se crime ni wipe mo feran e ni

Temitope Ololufe wa sun simi laya.

u lack self control. try to control your emotions, don't let it control you.

OP what u are experiencing is peer pressure. I think you should be more concerned at having good grades in school now than looking for a boy friend. Dear set ur priorities right if you know what I mean.

Goodluck jonathan to you

Maybe she no fine or she no get wetin boiz want, shikinah

I don't condemn people but i would suggest you try and get closer to GOD to make u a better person, b4 u cause havoc to yourself.

Reflection is d best way 2 acquire wisdom, @ dis point u really need 2 take a break and reconcile wit urself & also spell out wat u want frm life. Life is 2 precious 2 make alot of mistakes dat wil affect us negatively.

Ah!  Well said is an understatement.
Wonders will never end.

tlops:

OP what u are experiencing is peer pressure. I think you should be more concerned at having good grades in school now than looking for a boy friend. Dear [b]set your priorities right [/b]if you know what I mean.

Goodluck jonathan to you

i cant help but laugh here

Pressure here pressure there,we all experience pressure at some point in life,which is normal.What matter is the way we handle the pressure when it comes.I will like you to look inward and give it a serious thought on what you really want,if what you want is what will give happiness and peace of mind,then go for it.
All that Glitters is not Gold.

OP i understand exactly how you feel. I mean it's very easy to say don't give in to peer pressure but when you actually face it it's a different thing entirely. I'm younger than you are,but i've been there/still am there sometimes. It's like wherever you look,everyone's paired up and you feel this powerful urge to be part of that unit called a couple. I totally know how that feels like,but another thing i also know is that peer pressure is surmountable. I think the fact that you've been in two serious r/ships already is kinda disturbing(but that's just me). You have to figure out whether you're ready for a r/ship now or not. It shouldn't be because you want to fit in or because you wanna say 'oh there's my boyfriend'. You need to figure out what you want,and you need to be convinced about it. Convinction/truly believeing in what you're doing is very important,IMO. If you're convinced that staying single is the best thing for you right now,then dealing with peer pressure will be much easier. If you're convinced that you're ready to be with someone,then go for it. The point is,you have to know what you want/need,and you have to do what's best for you.

Before me right now is a table of good food, drinks, fruits and desert.
I am very hungry.
But I am under tremendous pressure from my hosts to eat.

Hahaha this one no get work na boyfriend dey make u feel bad, hissss, u no get problem

You simply do not have responsibility so you can be thinking of peer pressure to have a boyfriend and not something useful to your life.

c'mon, dont let peer pressure weight on you
just put your priorities in place and do what is best for you
believe me, trying to be like your friend is the beginning of failure
its what we call "lost in best practice" in business process modelling.

please am on my knees begging you 98percent of nigerian youth have one form of sexually transmitted disease or the other starting from hiv hepatitis virus human papiloma virus which causes cervical cancer fucos on your education graduate get a job build yourself and get married forget about boyfriend

Rarestar:

i quite agree with you but eventually you would still feel it as time goes by and more of your friends are getting hooked.

Yes I have had 2 serious relationships

I also find some of my friends getting hooked but I also find more who are breaking up or who are single. It's all a matter of what you choose to focus on and the types of friends you have.
my advice is for you to go and work on your self esteem issues.  learn to love yourself. you seem like one of those girls who need a guy in her life in order to validate her self worth.
but if it makes you happier or less depressed, then get a boyfriend. what's stopping you? 

iice:

Get a new boyfriend so you can tell them you have one.

best answer so far!! succinct and to the point.

Why don't you have a boyfriend? Are you hideous?

Mobinga:

Why don't you have a boyfriend? Are you hideous?

Yep not only hideous but highly disfigured!

Jenifa_:


I also find some of my friends getting hooked but I also find more who are breaking up or who are single. It's all a matter of what you choose to focus on and the types of friends you have.
my advice is for you to go and work on your self esteem issues.  learn to love yourself. you seem like one of those girls who need a guy in her life in order to validate her self worth.
but if it makes you happier or less depressed, then get a boyfriend. what's stopping you? 

best answer so far!! succinct and to the point.

Nothing is stopping from having one, there are a lot of guys out there. My post here was signifying being pressured to just have one regardless of anything instead of taking my time and chill. The pressure.

Pharoh:

You simply do not have responsibility so you can be thinking of peer pressure to have a boyfriend and not something useful to your life.

.

Atreides:

OP i understand exactly how you feel. I mean it's very easy to say don't give in to peer pressure but when you actually face it it's a different thing entirely. I'm younger than you are,but i've been there/still am there sometimes. It's like wherever you look,everyone's paired up and you feel this powerful urge to be part of that unit called a couple. I totally know how that feels like,but another thing i also know is that peer pressure is surmountable. I think the fact that you've been in two serious r/ships already is kinda disturbing(but that's just me). You have to figure out whether you're ready for a r/ship now or not. It shouldn't be because you want to fit in or because you wanna say 'oh there's my boyfriend'. You need to figure out what you want,and you need to be convinced about it. Convinction/truly believeing in what you're doing is very important,IMO. If you're convinced that staying single is the best thing for you right now,then dealing with peer pressure will be much easier. If you're convinced that you're ready to be with someone,then go for it. The point is,you have to know what you want/need,and you have to do what's best for you.

thanks for understanding and the advice.

rafiky:

Pressure here pressure there,we all experience pressure at some point in life,which is normal.What matter is the way we handle the pressure when it comes.I will like you to look inward and give it a serious thought on what you really want,if what you want is what will give happiness and peace of mind,then go for it.
All that Glitters is not Gold.      

thanks.

tlops:

OP what u are experiencing is peer pressure. I think you should be more concerned at having good grades in school now than looking for a boy friend. Dear set your priorities right if you know what I mean.

Goodluck jonathan to you

done with school

Rarestar:

Nothing is stopping from having one, there are a lot of guys out there. My post here was signifying being pressured to just have one regardless of anything instead of taking my time and chill. The pressure.

oh i see.
so, pressure aside, do you genuinely want a boyfriend?
if yes, get one. if no,make new friends. trust me, there are many single girls your age out there. i'm not lying. lol

MY ADVICE

Have a boyfriend but don't have sex with him.

Rarestar:

Yep not only hideous but highly disfigured!

Well, I guess that's where the problem is from.
Why are you highly disfigured
Ugly parents?

Stop comparing your friend life to yours.wait for the right time

@poster,
you are trying to see how you can fill a void in your heart but i tell you, only Jesus can fill it. Embrace Jesus in your life and live for his own pleasure and you will see how satisfed life will be for you. May God help you.

LMAO. go get bf babe. remember, u r @ ur productive age and shld be thinking of settling down soon, I mean, before 25.

Why can't people follow simple instructions?

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2 serious relationships by 21? jeez. I think you shouldn't jump into relationships for the sake of it. wait for the right guy otherwise you're soon going to be out of the r/s and looking for another one in a minute. unless you are ok with that.

I'm sure you have friends that are single. you probably are just focusing on the ones in r/s and feeling self conscious. Find your single friends (or make some new ones) and start hanging out with them more and doing things together. single life is fun too esp. if you have friends who are also single.

what's the rush to be in a r/s anyway, when eventually, you are going to be in one for the rest of your life. and by then, you will have times when you'll wish you were still young and single again. Undecided
better enjoy your freedom while you still have it.

Even wrong women want right guys. Na waoh! I SAW THE POSTER CORRECTING SOMEONE WHEN HER POST IS FULL OF TAUTOLOGIES. HAVE ANOTHER BF, AGAIN, LOOKING AROUND ME, WHAT'RE THOSE?