Ingriid:

Oh! U men really brought out d right words out of my mouth.
I tell u what, finance plays a very big role in a successful marriage. To my friends, sisters and ladies around me I tell them it’s good to be a wife, infact very good, to be a mother is one of d blessings in d world, d tot of bringing a baby to this world tickles my fancy. Trust me that is not just enough for a woman. A woman should not and never be comfortable to just be a mother or a wife.

I will forever use women like omotola, Beyoncé, Ngozi Okonkwo-Iwela and d late Dora Akunyili(RIP) as my role models. God created us for a purpose and we should strive to fill it.

To d men also, why be in a hurry to get married when u are not settled financially, by been settled, I’m not saying u should have millions in ur account but just be settled enough to take care of ur family. ( we both should do exploits in our marriage)

Going forward, men men should bring

God, give me sumbody like ingrid

Righteousness89:


1. I am Married

2. If you are Privileged to Hear GOD for your Spouse, you will understand what it Means to Live Strugglessly and Stresslessly.

Hearing From God in Marriage does not mean you may not see Challenges.. Challenges may come Put HE will lead you out of it. You will Enjoy Divine Solutions in your Home..

You may not even know how but you will see things Be Solved ..

GOD is not Committed to where he did not Send you!

What I put out is From my Personal Experience...

So those who succumbed to the challenges, never heard from God?

crackkhaus:

Ahh, even you?

I'm just saying what I feel sometimes, what's so terrible about that?

canDy4eva:



It's only a FOOL that says in his heart "there is no God"...

u hav no right 2 call him a fool. Dats his opinion. am a xtian too

FGonline:
Hahahahaha


God bless u 4bn honest
Imagine If he was not libral?

I would have been a divorcee by now, no doubt!

bethyz:
Marriage is sweet when you marry someone you love. Not just on your side you guys just have a relationship friendship that keeps the thing going. You see him every morning and still attracted to him or her. You see him outside just coming from a far distance and within you you are proud this is my husband/wife

Marriage has its challenges but dont take things too seriously. Loosen up. Open your heart to love. Play tease each other . Be each others companion. Marry who you love. If you love chubby lady or man go for them. If you love fair guys go for them if you like them short good. Dont marry someone with others preference. Marry what you will look at for the rest of your life and still be happy you made the right decision. Even when they wrong you . You still want to stick around and make it work. You dont suddenly wake up and you feel irritated with there presence. When love is one sided its bad. That is what causes breakup. One person is fed up the other is trying to make it work at the end they work out. But if love is mutual . You just work it out together.

I dont no what eles keep marriage but 4 years counting still inlove with my spouse.

Have you considered that people's preference do change?

How are you sure you will keep loving what you claim to like about a person in future.

Idyat...

Marriage itself is against human nature. How can u stick with one person forever

FatCock:
Idyat...

zeb04:
At one point in marriage, the hot sex and mushy mushy disappears what is left is Respect and Friendship.

I use to worry about this word FRIENDSHIP. I wanted to force it on my husband coz I heard a lot a out it.

In my head friendship is talking and laughing 24/7. But my husband is "fluent in silence" content in just laying down and saying nothing.So I felt we didn't have friendship. But now I know better.

2ndly I believed only a Christian man can give you a good marriage. By Christian i mean going to church 2/3 times a week, participating in church activities, doing morning devotion and all,

A man with a good moral compass and also give you a good home. Don't force all of that on your partner. I still do devotions with my kids but go to church every Sunday (with my husband but I don't force him for this one. Secretly I think he is doing it as family bonding time not really for anything else. I will take it)

your marriage must not be like everyone else. I and my husband separated for 6 months when we hit our rough paths(every one said, in marriage you must stick together to work it out blah blah blah. ) how can yoh work it out in the same situation that is choking you. Even at work they give you leave days.


You cannot work it out in that situation. You need to take a break and look at it from the outside. If not you will completely get irritated and start to hold a grudge.

Nawaoo ,see how you just described both my early marriage expectations and present situation.
Looks like we both married two different men but with the same personality
The church going part got me laughing, seriously I only realized that it is some sort of family bonding time for my husband about two years ago. He may not be religious, but he is Godly.
This year is our 10th year anniversary.

duality:


So those who succumbed to the challenges, never heard from God?

Nobody will Naturally Succum !

There is what u enjoy when you go by Divine Direction...

You can't even Explain it! But you see it !

I have been married for 14+ years and would like to share the following without long epistel. I am very happy in my marriage, the danger is your response during the low season.

- Listen to your spouse, it's not about you alone, even if they sound unreasonable. Negotiate with fun

- During fights or disagreement watch what you say, it is never forgotten. Avoid roforofo fight, you are family

- Temperament and communication is key. I am tired, sorry I don't feel like talking, do you mind if I sleep early? Show care. Bad day at work, remove it before you get home and communicate it to your partner so he leaves you alone or can understand if you snap.

- Always ask yourself will I like this?

- Turn arguments to joke: If my wife say something's I just say, I be your mate? I no get power for fight this night, I don declare you winner, I no you sturbborn pass me, ok no vex my wife, e be like your eye de shook this night make I leave you.

- Accept changes. wife may not be very experimental again, negotiate once in a while make extra effort to get her aroused. She probably have peaked and the man is still peaking.
A certain day I went to a concert with my wife (2 face, davido, asa, KSA, etc) middle of it she says, what am I doing here, mother of 3, out by past 11pm thinking about her children instead of fun.
Outing like bar etc, does not enjoy it again, the younger girls in skimpgy get disapproving looks and caution my spending infront my friends, so I try to find a reason to go with my friends n bring her package home.

Bottom line, respect, care, patience, help tour wife (kitchen, career etc) , apologies even when wrong for peace n peace of mind, listen, be truthful, earn her trust, angry? call her inside n tell her your mind, no de shout, you de yeye yourself, remove third parties, you are both adults, manage your affairs. Finance, no hide, show her and this is what you want to spend. And pray. Even the maddest woman go calm, if you no wan fight.

15years by November. It requires work. Just make up your mind that is for life.

You and your spouse will change. Change with change.
For instance I was very slim, now I look pregnant. Hubby also has a pouch.
I loved traveling now a home body.
Plenty sex vs whenever.
I used to call a lot whenever we are apart, now I can go a full day without any contact and I am not worried because I know who I am with.

So long there is no abuse, work with God and flow along. Communication and trust is key.

Every marriage is different, pay attention and find what works for you.

Love is not enough. Commitment is key. Even when you heard from God, if you don't work on it, the marriage can fail.

You will argue, have shouting matches, not agree on every decision, there will be challenges, there will be poke nosing from external parties , but if you have it at the back of your mind that this a union for life you will prevail.

Hathor5:


Teacher is very ok.
Wish I had a teacher like you back in the day.

What was wrong with the one you had?

It will end in tears

Marriage is sweet when you marry a reasonable partner who is always there for you, come rain, come sun shine!

I have been married for over 5 years with kids & still balling, looking forward to many more years with my partner.

Life itself isn't bed of roses , but what you make out of every situations' matters a lot. Yes, we disagree & argue at times but we never allowed all that to change or define us!

I tell the young folks, it's best to fall in love with both of your head/sense & heart. Sadly, most people fall in love today with just their heart. So, When your heart is leading you south 'cos you blinded with love, your head can call you back home.

Have it in mind, love alone is not sufficient to make marriage works. There many other essential factors aside love like compatibility, truthfulness, compassionate, compromising & the likes. Above all the fear of God.

I see based on your write up, your are having this "fear of unknown" of what might happen between you two in the nearest future. I will say focus on the bright-side. Remember, Today is the tomorrow we worried about yesterday.

Dyt:
What is Before, In Between and After?

Yeah we all know marriage is an institution between 2 persons with the aim to have offspring and companionship, but is this all we see and make of it?

I am a person that believes in relationship/marriage and tries to go far in making it work well except when it starts to affect my mental health (i cant go mad all in the name of i want it to work)

Some say marriage is easy while some say its a hard work, we all have different opinions..
I for one been married before, it didnt work not because i couldnt try but (my choice anyway)

I am considering going into another and all the things that we do that counts now may not in few years, I mean the sexiness, the kamasutra and all, well ofcourse i am not just gonna be offering just sex, we both got more to keep us going for a 100years to come (my favourite part is the friendship and companionship)...

I am scared sometimes waking up to him every other day and same way it excites me

How has it been with those married for 5years and counting? the joy, feeling, the tears, the arguments, the sex, I mean all of it....

KoolBigk:
Marriage is sweet when you marry a reasonable partner who is always there for you, come rain, come sun shine!

I have been married for over 5 years with kids & still balling, looking forward to many more years with my partner.

Life itself isn't bed of roses , but what you make out of every situations' matters a lot. Yes, we disagree & argue at times but we never allowed all that to change or define us!

I tell the young folks, it's best to fall in love with both of your head/sense & heart. Sadly, most people fall in love today with just their heart. So, When your heart is leading you south 'cos you blinded with love, your head can call you back home.

Have it in mind, love alone is not sufficient to make marriage works. There many other essential factors aside love like compatibility, truthfulness, compassionate, compromising & the likes. Above all the fear of God.

I see based on your write up, your are having this "fear of unknown" of what might happen between you two in the nearest future. I will say focus on the bright-side. Remember, Today is the tomorrow we worried about yesterday.

Thanks for sharing
I will also keep in mind the last paragraph

Ire ooo

sisisioge:
Hmmmm....definitely sounds scary and fun at the same time. If he's truly your friend, it would be more fun than scary. I know two people who got married as besties....they are still going strong now even though they've had their share of struggles.

Do it baby!

This marry your bestie crap, that's not a guarantee your marriage will last.

franugo:


What was wrong with the one you had?

Nothing. I had many great teachers.
I am most grateful to them.

See thread opened from a positive place.
This is how it is done.

I think the expectations of life can be hard on a marriage. Thought I married my best friend, until we actually got married and he changed. Always hooking up with his exs, finds it hard staying at home, drinks a lot. He told me on our wedding night that he never thought he will marry a girl like me( meaning he could have done better). Our marriage has never been the same since then. He claims its because he has not been stable financially and I'm always the one paying the bills. I have not complained cos I know how much he hustling. Now 8 years and I'm thinking of calling it quits. I'm always feeling sad, depressed and resentment.

Liposure:
u hav no right 2 call him a fool. Dats his opinion. am a xtian too

Hello...

I never called him a fool!

I only quoted a part of the Bible.

If it fits his description, then SO BE IT!

AM A CHRISTIAN TOO.

Dyt:

Sometimes we all need sense Don't you think you need more?

na question d person ask.

being married for 6yrs & counting
with marriage comes experience

cutechioma1:
I think the expectations of life can be hard on a marriage. Thought I married my best friend, until we actually got married and he changed. Always hooking up with his exs, finds it hard staying at home, drinks a lot. He told me on our wedding night that he never thought he will marry a girl like me( meaning he could have done better). Our marriage has never been the same since then. He claims its because he has not been stable financially and I'm always the one paying the bills. I have not complained cos I know how much he hustling. Now 8 years and I'm thinking of calling it quits. I'm always feeling sad, depressed and resentment.

I feel it's kinda hard for you sharing this
But I keen on knowing how YOU have been able to manage your mental health

Rahym001:

na question d person ask.


being married for 6yrs & counting

with marriage comes experience

Please choose to answer with your experience

We are waiting

Liposure:
Y should we seek him when he gave us freewill? And how is sex sinful

Like a prodigal son, freewill has doomed so many and is still destroying many. If God in his infinite mercy has gifted us with freewill, WHY NOT CHOOSE WISELY!


My Bible tells me that MARRIAGE IS HONORABLE WITH THE BED UNDEFILED.

PREMARITAL SEX IS AND WILL CONTINUE TO BE A SIN. I DON'T CARE HOW THE WORLD SEES IT! THE WORD OF CHRIST IS MY STANDARD.

Carchoice:
get out of my head!!!

If am on your head, trust me you wouldn't say a word

canDy4eva:


Hello...
I never called him a fool!
I only quoted a part of the Bible.
If it fits his description, then SO BE IT!
AM A CHRISTIAN TOO.

alrite. Take care

canDy4eva:



Like a prodigal son, freewill has doomed so many and is still destroying many. If God in his infinite mercy has gifted us with freewill, WHY NOT CHOOSE WISELY!


My Bible tells me that MARRIAGE IS HONORABLE WITH THE BED UNDEFILED.

PREMARITAL SEX IS AND WILL CONTINUE TO BE A SIN. I DON'T CARE HOW THE WORLD SEES IT! THE WORD OF CHRIST IS MY STANDARD.

if its a sin, why do we develop sex hormones so early.

Nnaabros:


In class under this COVID situation? Where's that?

this is a fat lie from her hahahha

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