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Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by Hightser: 10:08am On May 28, 2020 |
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be joining the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos. Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village. My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet) So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year) But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands. My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her. But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon. Please I need advice and contributions. 77 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by Kobicove(m): 10:10am On May 28, 2020 |
Hightser: If you do not have plans of marrying her then don't cage her in your house. Let her use the opportunity of NYSC to meet other guys so she can weigh her options objectively. As for you, at this stage in your life you don't need any encumbrance to tie you down...you need to sort out your finances first! 736 Likes 41 Shares |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by Caramelskin(f): 10:10am On May 28, 2020 |
There is no point since the disadvantages of accommodating her outweighs the advantages. Do not make decisions that will lead to had I known. Just do what you think it’s best for you. 195 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by donbachi(m): 10:13am On May 28, 2020 |
To live with pregnant woman don dey hungry u. 412 Likes 18 Shares |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by NettyNelly(m): 10:14am On May 28, 2020 |
The question is are you ready to father a child now. If you are then go ahead and be ready to marry her if she gets pregnant. Well it's a beautiful day, Do you need a well designed attractive Logo?, check my signature Have a great day ahead 14 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by Geeksamir(m): 10:14am On May 28, 2020 |
Hmmm Just kukuma tell us that u want free kpekus 233 Likes 14 Shares
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Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by Sinzumarv: 10:14am On May 28, 2020 |
Be a nice guy and just allow her come stay with you. Congratulations daddy Femi 208 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by Davash222(m): 10:16am On May 28, 2020 |
Hmmmmm.. Egungun be careful. Staying with a Nigerian girlfriend is like staying with the devil. 25 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by javaguru: 10:17am On May 28, 2020 |
na ur money go talk, are u financially balanced 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by Nobody: 10:18am On May 28, 2020 |
Hightser: At 29, u wanna escape all these. Even immortal angels cant escape these if they stay with a woman in same house 65 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by Ningen(m): 10:18am On May 28, 2020 |
“Self contain” is meant to contain one person. Inviting her under your roof implies she's your responsibility but you're too broke to carry that burden. Don't start something you can't finish. 144 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by Toluwashe778: 10:20am On May 28, 2020 |
Candid advice Pls pray well about it especially if u are a Christian because there is more to living together than pregnancy (anyway the probability of that happening is high). What if she fall sick? What if anything happens her. 26 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by Sammy07: 10:22am On May 28, 2020 |
Kobicove: I seconded this comment 20 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by collinsfhk(m): 10:38am On May 28, 2020 |
Toluwashe778: Are you for real? As a Christian, he should pray whether to stay with girlfriend or not? What kind of Christianity are you practicing? Please repent. Thank you 319 Likes 12 Shares |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by paulolee(m): 10:40am On May 28, 2020 |
you spoke lyk who have already made his choice bt need online advise to put the blame on when things go wrong....all i can say is that since you aint married its wrong to stay with your bea azin to be staying with your bea because the many disadvantages outweigh the few sweet advantages especially when you have plans to wife her....try and convince her that its wrong bt if u still want to allow her stay just make sure that you are ready for what the outcome would be because i know say na free and endless samankwe de influence your decision...just follow ur heart bt use ur head and avoid any idea from dt little boi behind ur legs bcoz dremo say "konjinaba" n i wish u well my guy n try to de play safe always if she ends up stayin with u even if its almost impossible dad always say "that thing wey u de do for secret in the night go surely show face for morning oo".... 21 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by SqueezedPant: 10:47am On May 28, 2020 |
Hightser: are you on Twitter ? I can recommend |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by Ladikwa(m): 10:47am On May 28, 2020 |
collinsfhk: Lol 3 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by Bola146(f): 11:03am On May 28, 2020 |
Explain to her, she should understand living together with a man that has not married you is very bad and risky. 31 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by Ablyz(m): 11:04am On May 28, 2020 |
Hightser: Hightser:But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands i love that agreement and also agree not to have sex until u are finacially stable :PBut if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands i love that agreement and also agree not to have sex until u are finacially stable 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by Clinghton: 11:21am On May 28, 2020 |
Don't, hustle first, make the money see if she is still with you before investing and marring her. 7 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by Toluwashe778: 11:25am On May 28, 2020 |
collinsfhk: bros, to the ops, he is trying to render assistance (i hope u get that) the reasons why i suggested he should pray is that if his faith did not condemn it and if he is sure there will not be problem afterward then it is fine. or did ur bible not tell u about helping others? He has a good intention towards her but the risk is also high 6 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by Hightser: 11:27am On May 28, 2020 |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by Hightser: 11:30am On May 28, 2020 |
Kobicove: Baba everything is not marriage, she is just 22 and going for NYSC, no career yet and that's why I want to help her find her feet, I'm not interested in marrying someone without a job or career, except my money becomes long. 14 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by chukwunweikeemi(m): 11:31am On May 28, 2020 |
My brother,co-habitation is a sin.If you love this girl and would like to marry her,then let her remain with her parents/guardians until you come and take ger hand in marriage.Then the both of you can live together.Runaway from premarital sex and don't put yourself in comprosing situations and God will bless you as you obey him. 42 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by Hightser: 11:31am On May 28, 2020 |
Ablyz: If she doesn't come to stay with me, sex will still happen, we are not doing it in exchange for money. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by Hightser: 11:33am On May 28, 2020 |
chukwunweikeemi: For now, sex with my gf is the only sin I can't run away from. 7 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by alizma: 11:33am On May 28, 2020 |
Hightser:Help her if you can, not as your girlfriend but as someone with good heart who you think deserves better. Success 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by Hightser: 11:35am On May 28, 2020 |
Geeksamir: Lol, been getting the free kpekus or whatever for as long as I recall, it's not new, I'm talking about something serious helping her find her feet on something tangible. 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by Hightser: 11:37am On May 28, 2020 |
Kobicove:so going to serve in one village in katsina is where she will find her husband? Don't you think she will find a suitable person in Lagos than a village? And who told you I don't have plans to marry her? After NYSC the next thing you are suggesting for her is marriage, after you all will be clamouring for independent girls for marriage, what do you all really want sef. 7 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by PoliticallyInco: 11:50am On May 28, 2020 |
She either works it to Lagos or she doesnt. When she comes to Lagos, she either stays with you or she doesn't. If you are worried about all these, but you feel you want to help her come to Lagos, then do so and tell her your place is not comfortable.Inform her that she will/must have to look for her own place. Let her know you are more interested in the prospects and opportunities that abound for her and you are not bringing her here to become a live-in lover. She also should be focusing on her career and financial independence. A relationship should be secondary. Who even told you that when she comes to Lagos she won't see another guy and move on? Listen to me, your life is first to yourself. Yourself first. Live for yourself first and not for anyone else. If you feel it will be stressful living with her and the risks are much then avoid it at all cost. A Chinese Proverbs says "IT IS FOOLISHNESS TO PUT OUT THE CANDLE EARLY AT NIGHT TO SAVE IT, IF IT WILL TO LEAD TO TWINS". These are your options. Simple and clear. Worrying only makes one ignore the facts and logic in the matter. 13 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by mrblessed(m): 12:14pm On May 28, 2020 |
Why start something you can't handle or finish? Living together is bound throw up many issues, including getting her pregnant. Since your financial standing isn't strong enough and you have plans to bring your sister to come stay with you, why not make your girl look for accommodation in her PPA, or better still, she can rent a low-cost apartment since you want her to be close to where you are. Alternatively, you can allow things to work the way it should, by not influencing her posting to a choice location. I say/write this because more, than anything else, you need to ensure that you build your finance to a reasonably strong height and that fact that marriage isn't on the to-do list yet, is another reason not to unnecessarily overstretched yourself. 7 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Girlfriend To Come Stay With Me? by Elimon(m): 12:17pm On May 28, 2020 |
My brother...all these advice is not necessary, ull still follow ur mind..to me,ur mind is to bring the girl to ur house...ur 29...get a child nigga even if u no wan marry...no wait till u be 50 and ur child is just 5...it is always shameful to see But las las do ur thing. Keeping the girl with you might be the best thing u will ever do...or most regretful thing..ur choice not ours 17 Likes 1 Share |
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