QUESTION OF THE DAY

Why do guys tend to lose interest when a lady acts interested in them?

Imagine that mating is a "game". Every person is "rated", in terms of countless factors (physical attractiveness, intellectual ability, personality, earning potential, ...), on a scale of, say, 100. The objective (or "winning" is to find the highest-rated mate possible.

There's a catch: you don't exactly know anyone's rating, including your own. Of course, you can try to ascertain your own rating; if you attended some prestigious college or are routinely complemented on your looks, it's probably true that you're at the higher end rather than the lower end. However, it's still very much unclear what your precise rating is within plus or minus 10, especially since others may value certain traits more than others.

As a result, one way to narrow down your rating is to see how many people are interested in you. If you have tons of people interested in you, that probably means that your rating is rather high. On the flip side, if you find many people attractive but none of them reciprocate your interest, it probably means your rating is on the low side.

Getting back to the question: why do we then lose interest in those interested in us? This is because if someone is interested in us without us being first interested in them, there is a pretty good chance that their rating is lower than ours. Consequently, it's to our evolutionary advantage to seek someone better.

As a corollary, this also helps explain why some people, to the contrary, actually become interested in another when that person shows interest. At a certain point (different times for different people) we realize that it's either too tiring or too time-consuming to seek the absolute highest rated person we can possibly achieve. Then, the goal becomes finding someone that is reasonably well-matched to our rating. It may be the case that when, say, Adam shows interest in Eve, Eve considers Adam as a potential mate for the first time, and recognizes that their ratings may be suitably compatible. At this point, interest in Adam blossoms for Eve.

Thank GOD u call am "acts" meaning she aint real at first.

donbachi:
Thank GOD u call am "acts" meaning she aint real at first.

Leezah:

Is that your number?

I only lose interest after i pipe her.