Buddies, Lately I have been contemplating on the aforementioned clause. Below are the thoughts that have deluged my little mind. What makes a woman to be in a man's class or vice - versa? Is it education, wealth, power affluence etc. Now I have come to a facile conclusion that it would amount to thoughtlessness, superciliousness and hoity toity attitude to write people off with the words not in my class, simply because they aren't educated to your level or not from a rich family. Also is the fact that the inability to have a good education per se is not usually the fault of the victim but mere lack of the privilege either because of financial constraints on the part of the parents or otherwise. Furthermore, since we were'nt consulted at creation, we had not option to choose which family to belong to hence the need not to snub people or look down on them, saying that they are not your class. Finally, the fact that you are privileged enough to have come from a rich family, to have had a good education is not in anyway your own making but the blessing of the Lord. So it would amount to callousness to despise others. Please, don't be imperious, help those that you think you are better than. Kindly give ya lovely opinion. Thank u. Tak kia. Shalom!

Social interactions do not readily lend themselves to theory or formula formation. What makes us stick to our 'social strata' is not usually a single attribute but a gestalt.
For example am not going to consider marrying a girl fresh from the village why? Because I don't see us thinking alike, having compatible goals, running our home with similar attitudes and so on. Some of the forgone are based on education and environment. While this example might be glaring it serves to highlight my point that even where I do not look down on any man I can not always agree with everyone either.
However it can't be underscored that there are selfish people who see life through (class, wealth, intellect, etc) tinted glasses. Such folks jaded opinions will always reflect social division.
For me relationship, marriage and otherwise, should be based on character not changeable physical conditions.

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I agree with you alot reed but at the same time i disagree. The same way you see a village girl is the same way I will see an uneducated man or an educated man from a less distinguished background. Or the way I will look at a security guard on 30k as opposed to a store manager on 20k. I dont think I will have anything in common with a security guard or someone that went to south bank, we wont enjoy the same hobbies or listen to the same music. Certainly wont have the same goals and will disagree on the number of children we want to have or how we want to raise them. So in a way your physical conditions will reflect on your character!
Its not selfish to want to chose from a particular class or educational background, as long as you know how you want your life to be, your going to know who will fit in it!

@queensmith
Hmmm going by your analogy I won't be so quick to write off the guard or the manager because you find graduates and masters holders in those positions. They just maybe down today and up tomorrow. I once read that Mike Adenuga drove cabs for a living, so you put down someone like that today how stupid do you look tomorrow?
It's selfish to be jaded, to look at everything in terms of how different our relative positions material wise, are and not give people a chance. My village girl is not being considered based on her whole gestalt not simply on her education. If she was someone working to improve herself it would be different case.

^^ thats the whole point! its the choice of lifestyle! There are security guards and traffic wardens that earn more than most graduatess here. But its nothing to do with money, there are plenty of governors that drove cabs in London. It doesnt fit into the life I want so I cant go for it., the same with education. Not wanting to date an uneducated man has nothing to do with being selfish, there is a better chance of me being compatible with someone whose lifestyle and educational background is similar to mine.

money can't buy you class. Being a classy person is something you are raised with you dont even have to be rich to have class

@omega
You are correct. This is one aspect of which I want to show to queensmith. Present physical situation are not enough to judge people by. I've met people who are so cultured you won't believe their conditions not because they where pretending but because they where not born with silverspoons but still bettered themselves as individuals not letting physical lack to hold them down.
queensmith am not saying that to seek a better life is wrong but to look down on others because their present condition is not the better life is. So to have met the soon to be governor when he was struggling and pass him up based on his condition at the time shows shortsightedness/jaded sight.

your looking at it differently, just because he became governor doesnt all of a sudden make him my type- . Its not looking down, its just knowing that he wont be suitable!

@queensmith
Question is based on what criteria was he not suitable?