Did you know, no one truly knows a person except those who grew up in the same house or environment with them? A lot of times, one would portray being all shades of nice, portrays the vibes of being well behaved outside inorder, to have good reviews from outsiders, and to be seen in a good light by those outside his/her nuclear family, and friends.


In the euphoria of most Romantic Relationships, in which both partners are so madly in love, in which they see no wrong done by their fiance/fiancee at that moment, in which they are spotless/blameless Princess, and the Prince in shining armor is all handsome, in which either partner are all shades of sweet, nice, kind, loving, understanding, and a whole lot more at that moment. To you, they are like the most important and most accurate being, and without a second thought, you want to spend the rest of your life with them, and what have you.



In my opinion, before taking it to the next phase called Marriage or tieing the knots in Holy Matrimony, it's very very essential that both partners try as much as possible to have a good and healthy relationship with their intending spouse's siblings or their friends without no pretense or forcing the chemistry. But allowing it to flow as naturally as possible. This way, one tends to get the full dose of everything about your intending spouse behaviours you are yet to uncover yourself. Most times, the remarks might be good and some times bad.


The reason/s for being friends or being close to ones intending spouse's siblings and friends is because most humans, have this psychologically makeup of pretending to be something different, as long as it's a means to an end in which they can get want they want, on either the short/long run under the guise of pretense. And afterwards, they start displaying their real characters to their partners, after they might have been joined together in Holy Matrimony.



For instance, you'd see the man who was so sweet and even smiles sheepishly when his partner makes silly jokes of calling him Bighead, now suddenly taking offense by that. Or a situation, where a lady who was so understanding when her partner doesn't meet up to few of her needs , she starts throwing tantrums at him and banging the doors, and yelling at anyone in sight simply because he cannot meet up to her needs at that moment.


That's why one would often hear stuffs like he/she changed immediately we got married. I didn't know why I was so blind to this side of him/her. Well, the spouse's siblings and friends would have indirectly opened your eyes to few/some strengths and shortcomings of your partner.


With all the above being said, most of the time, it's somewhat difficult to inflitrate into a particular circle of ones intending spouse's siblings and friends. And a lot of times, most families, siblings, or friends are somewhat difficult to relate with, but  there's always away around anyone. It depends on the approach one uses to get in or to breakthrough.


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