It is the privacy some of you people are chanting that has brought the world to where it is now.

I don't hesitate to know as much as possible about my staff when the the opportunity presents itself as those inconsequential things could eventually affect the business or something worse?

What if someone close to the OP eventually marries the girl?

Well, she may have a dysfunctional or zero upbringing for her life to be as wrecked as that and God has a reason to make you find out.

Now, you may look the other way as you long as it doesn't affect your business.

But something more than money is at stake here; a destiny is being ruined and she may eventually lose her life at the abortion table.

OP, don't let her be directly aware that you know as the will not be able to bear the shame. Instead you and your wife should get more involved in her life. If she refuses to change or separates from you, as the hymn goes: so that of me it may be said, he has done what he could.

eni4real:
Employee think she is in her sitting room, took office phone has chats with her numerous boyfriends and discussing abortion events there??
That Chameleon Sister Mary should be sacked!!

She will spread her chameleon personality to the OP's business very soon

Is that why your wife changes subject whenever you brought her topic home? Because she could hear the passion and emotion in your voice?

And you proved her right when you had to click into someone's else's inbox. You should be fired as oga for having such lack of control...but you are taken with the girl. Rein in your emotions and go professional.

safarigirl:


LOL

You don't know there are STI's that can lead to sterility for men? A man can become sterile from contracting an Infection, as well.

There are risks for every gender when they have unprotected sex. Guy, rest.

Stop shouting up and down as if you don't go about having sex with women. Will you tell your wife about the women you have had sex with?

You guys all look ridiculous when you say these things. Your hypocrisy is smelling.

There is no price on the man's head!!
A man pay for whoever he choose to marry!!

The lady must act responsible, else wedding will be cancelled, once secret is leaked!!!

Nothing is hidden anymore

Did you just compare abortion in irresponsible ladies with STI in randy men?

Are you saying STI is strictly for men?? Ladies have higher risk of STI than men for your information

Men don't have wombs or tubes that can be damaged by Abortion!!

Ladies should keep themselves for their future husband!!

They should not waste the bride price

I am appalled by many of the responses I have read so far on this thread. It is a sad testimony of how bad the societies of the world have gone astray. How far the Devil has taken a stranglehold of the conscience of many.

I dare say that many of the people who said this man should mind his business and not open up to this poor girl are themselves guilty of promiscuity. They have nothing to offer. Their lives are totally dominated by the Devil and foul demons.

That said, my dear OritaIbadan brother, please politely ask to see this lady in private. And I hope your own life is one that is exemplary. If your own life is not, sorry, you have nothing to offer. Christians today forget that we are the Bible that unbelievers and sinners read. It is not enough to just preach the Word, you have to live it.

If your own life is exemplary, and you have some genuine iota of compassion left in you, then call aside this poor lost lady and tell her what you did. Tell her you want her to know that you love and care about her future and that's why you took that bold step. Apologize for going through her phone and Facebook account but that now that the deed is done and you have seen what you shouldn't, you are now going to try to advise her as a father and brother. She's already living a fake christian life anyway. So, there's a basic christian doctrine and teachings she must know. Take time to let her know the dangers of ending up in the Lake of Fire (I am assuming you are a genuine Christian). Let her know how her life is precious and how Jesus would gladly take her back if she repents of her evil ways. You can pray to God for direction and help to see this poor soul restored.

Remember, the Devil came for these reasons: To steal, kill and destroy. Christ came to set Man free.

God bless you.

Fearlez:
Is that why your wife changes subject whenever you brought her topic home? Because she could hear the passion and emotion in your voice?

And you proved her right when you had to click into someone's else's inbox. You should be fired as oga for having such lack of control...but you are taken with the girl. Rein in your emotions and go professional.

"Passion and emotion in your voice"?? Were you there??

A Sister Mary having 5 different sex mates and commiting criminal abortion , is spared by your psychology logic..

Your psychology is flawed on this!!

How come she has the audacity to use the office phone for such a dirty private life??

Op, that girl does not respect what your business represent!!

Sack her immediately!!

Let's see if Mr Psychology will put food on her table

safarigirl:


LOL.

So, bride price that you paid, means you should get one clean, untouched babe, abi?

Are you clean and untouched? Is it not Nigerian men that go extra miles, to convince women they are unmarried to, to sleep with them? Then, the same Nigerian men, think they can decide how many women the girl sleeps with

If you are not a virgin, take several seats abeg.

Thank God no be only una dey this world. As long as you are not the person that will marry her, face your front and save your sympathy for yourself, because you don't even know what you will use your bride price money to bring to your house

your never-ceasing mumu is till on turbocharger. Go cure your man-maladjustment and stop ranting all over the place. You're not the only girl men have discarded like a street litter.

Stop being an unpolished spiteful man-hating woman.

ono:
I am appalled by many of the responses I have read so far on this thread. It is a sad testimony of how bad the societies of the world have gone astray. How far the Devil has taken a stranglehold of the conscience of many.

I dare say that many of the people who said this man should mind his business and not open up to this poor girl are themselves guilty of promiscuity. They have nothing to offer. Their lives are totally dominated by the Devil and foul demons.

That said, my dear OritaIbadan brother, please politely ask to see this lady in private. And I hope your own life is one that is exemplary. If your own life is not, sorry, you have nothing to offer. Christians today forget that we are the Bible that unbelievers and sinners read. It is not enough to just preach the Word, you have to live it.

If your own life is exemplary, and you have some genuine iota of compassion left in you, then call aside this poor lost lady and tell her what you did. Tell her you want her to know that you love and care about her future and that's why you took that bold step. Apologize for going through her phone and Facebook account but that now that the deed is done and you have seen what you shouldn't, you are now going to try to advise her as a father and brother. She's already living a fake christian life anyway. So, there's a basic christian doctrine and teachings she must know. Take time to let her know the dangers of ending up in the Lake of Fire (I am assuming you are a genuine Christian). Let her know how her life is precious and how Jesus would gladly take her back if she repents of her evil ways. You can pray to God for direction and help to see this poor soul restored.

Remember, the Devil came for these reasons: To steal, kill and destroy. Christ came to set Man free.

God bless you.

Thank you.

Ariza:
Haa!

Why evils? On a Sunday morning nitori olorun .

I was on my own oo, trouble sleep yanga go wake am.

eni4real:
"Passion and emotion in your voice"?? Were you there??

A Sister Mary having 5 different sex mates and commiting criminal abortion , is spared by your psychology logic..

Your psychology is flawed on this!!

How come she has the audacity to use the office phone for such a dirty private life??

Op, that girl does not respect what your business represent!!

Sack her immediately!!

Let's see if Mr Psychology will put food on her table

phone got missing/stolen. You gave her office phone to use with internet data connected. So that explains that.

But what were you looking for inside her private life in her inbox? Now your heart is broken and you're reacting as a jilted virgin.

Your wife knows you better than most people. If she changes topic whenever you're bellowing like some love-stonned cururo talking about this girl, it's because she's your wife who knows you have NEVER PRAISED ANYONE IN YOUR LIFE LIKE THAT. PROLLY EVEN YOUR SISTS.

Fearlez:
phone got missing/stolen. You gave her office phone to use with internet data connected. So that explains that.

But what were you looking for inside her private life in her inbox? Now your heart is broken and you're reacting as a jilted virgin.

Your wife knows you better than most people. If she changes topic whenever you're bellowing like like some love-stonned cururo talking about this girl, it's because she's your wife who knows you have NEVER PRAISED ANYONE IN YOUR LIFE LIKE THAT. PROLLY EVEN YOUR SISTS.

You don't know anything about OP's moral fibre!!

Your textbook psychology knowledge is limited on this case!!!

Grandmeister:

You're the dumb one..and obviously you(and many others here) suck at comprehension..that phone is NOT the girl's private phone! It's an office phone bought by the owner of the business...why doesn't he have the right to peruse the very phone he bought for his office use? Is it his fault that the girl didn't log out her profile? Is that even the crux of the matter here?

he actually went into her Facebook n started veiwing messages and clicking on stuffs , u all disgusting thinking it’s okay, or even thinking he has a right to tell her shit

eni4real:
You don't know anything about OP's moral fibre!!

Your textbook psychology knowledge is limited on this case!!!

I know more about the OP/you than I know about the girl.

She's hypocrite and dick-magnet. But productive at work. Full stop.

You/OP are a proven illustration of an oga without self-control.

A total inebriated snoop who doesn't value anyone's privacy, even that of his staff.

Someone who can't tell the big gulf of difference between an employee's productive output and competence from her personal life .

You're considering firing her when she hadn't broken any rule of engagement, so you're going to look for one or lie your way through to get one.

Plus you/OP have a depleted moral /professional base to determine between moral wrongs and crime.

Too bad. Should I go on?

And why shouldn’t he be bothered as a father!
I believe this incident happened here in Nigeria. In this country we don’t ‘mind our business’ like in Europe or elsewhere, and it has helped us sometimes as a people.
The issue here is not legality or right-to-privacy. The deed has been done, he has seen the Facebook contents of his staff and he is concerned. He has every right to be concerned if you are not!
My opinion dear op is that since you have always been nice to her and even showers her with gifts, then strike a friendly conversation with her, saying that you have noticed she is acting unusual lately. You can even go as far as asking her if she was pregnant because you noticed some things. This may not be entirely truthful but you are working towards getting something out of her. Watch her disposition closely as you ask the questions, and if she isn’t such a street tough girl she may break and capitulate. At this point, you can ask what the problem really is. She may open up to you. If she does, then you can give the advice and guidance. But please involve your wife in the aftermath of your discussion with the girl. And should she not open up to you on her worries or challenges then go all out and spill the bean that you happened upon her Facebook page and out of temptation or curiousity you peeped in and saw what you shouldn’t have. And if she is then forced to open up then follow the same advice/counseling track. Above all, get your wife closely involved.
I don’t think you should abandon her and mind your business. This is Nigeria, we don’t do that! She could be your sister, or even your daughter!
Wishing you all the best!

Dobson43:
Quick points here:

You were supposed to mind your business.

You crossed a line poking your nose in her personal affairs.

Being her Boss doesn't give you the right to judge her. She is under contract to serve you in a certain capacity. Stick to that capacity.

If her atitude to work affects your business in anyway, then you can let her off.

Why should you be bothered as a father? What's the point of drinking paracetamol on another man's headache?

If you had used this amount of time in snooping around in pushing your business forward, you would actually enjoy better patronage.


You should draw a line as regards your relationship between yourself and your workers.


It appears you have feelings for this lady thus your uneasiness that she has underperformed in your own estimation. Kill that feeling. It's her life, let her define it how it suits her

This time actually do mind your business.

Women! at the end will always blame men.
how come no one is seeing the part where she's trying to accuse and put the pregnancy on who's not actually responsible.

no one is seeing the part that state that all the guys takes her to be faithful,

forming innocent yet dating and having unprotected sex with 5 different guys. but they are quick to call men cheat

yeye people. this wicked Idiot too go call men rape apologist.

Grandmeister:

They are waiting for the girl to die on the quack's table so they can carry placards and accuse the Op of raping his sales girl and giving her money for an abortion...morally bankrupt generation!

May God help us!

Fearlez:
I know more about the OP/you than I know about the girl.

She's hypocrite and dick-magnet. But productive at work. Full stop.

You/OP are a proven illustration of an oga without self-control.

A total inebriated snoop who doesn't value anyone's privacy, even that of his staff.

Someone who can't tell the big gulf of difference between an employee's productive output and competence from her personal life .

You're considering firing her when she hadn't broken any rule of engagement, so you're going to look for one or lie your way through to get one.

Plus you/OP have a depleted moral /professional base to determine between moral wrongs and crime.

Too bad. Should I go on?

Your textbook psychology knowledge is written by Whites who don't know anything about how the moral fibres of black men work!!!
All those Hypocrite that drink and eat infidelity and divorce think they can explain how the mind of every humans work including those that are well trained by their parents... Value which most of them never had in their liberal countries!!!

Once OP sack that Chameleon Sister Mary, let's see if your psychology knowledge will put food to her table

Flawed Psychology

Liliantalks:
mr busy body , learn to mind ur business, what she does with her life is non of ur business, face ur life and ur kids , who may even be worse . Frame him that what, u all come up with abstract bullshit to affirm that poking nose in people’s business is justified. Oga face it kids and ur life .

Show me ur comment and I will the kind of person u are..some people without brain. Hope u wish that for ur unborn children, sisters and so
Certainly her life can't b my business....we r only interested she gets counsel, at d end of d day...d choice is hers.

Sillywag...I won't bother to reply to low life people like u here again.

Thank you so much for holding this position. Indeed you are an example of ‘love your neighbour as yourself.’ This is empathy and love in display. This what I would expect any caring person to say. God bless you and all the best.

ono:
I am appalled by many of the responses I have read so far on this thread. It is a sad testimony of how bad the societies of the world have gone astray. How far the Devil has taken a stranglehold of the conscience of many.

I dare say that many of the people who said this man should mind his business and not open up to this poor girl are themselves guilty of promiscuity. They have nothing to offer. Their lives are totally dominated by the Devil and foul demons.

That said, my dear OritaIbadan brother, please politely ask to see this lady in private. And I hope your own life is one that is exemplary. If your own life is not, sorry, you have nothing to offer. Christians today forget that we are the Bible that unbelievers and sinners read. It is not enough to just preach the Word, you have to live it.

If your own life is exemplary, and you have some genuine iota of compassion left in you, then call aside this poor lost lady and tell her what you did. Tell her you want her to know that you love and care about her future and that's why you took that bold step. Apologize for going through her phone and Facebook account but that now that the deed is done and you have seen what you shouldn't, you are now going to try to advise her as a father and brother. She's already living a fake christian life anyway. So, there's a basic christian doctrine and teachings she must know. Take time to let her know the dangers of ending up in the Lake of Fire (I am assuming you are a genuine Christian). Let her know how her life is precious and how Jesus would gladly take her back if she repents of her evil ways. You can pray to God for direction and help to see this poor soul restored.

Remember, the Devil came for these reasons: To steal, kill and destroy. Christ came to set Man free.

God bless you.

eni4real:
Your textbook psychology knowledge is written by Whites who don't know anything about how the moral fibres of black men work!!!
All those Hypocrite that drink and eat infidelity and divorce think they can explain how the mind of every humans work including those that are well trained by their parents... Value which most of them never had in their liberal countries!!!

Once OP sack that Chameleon Sister Mary, let's see if your psychology knowledge will put food to her table

Flawed Psychology

now he's hiding under psychology, white/black and avoiding the crux of the matter

You didn't even pretend to answer the question.

Fearlez:
now he's hiding under psychology, white/black and avoiding the crux of the matter

You didn't even pretend to answer the question.

Crux of the matter that was explained to you through some white Psychology textbook??

Be Original, next time

I N T E R E S T

Do whatever you have to do to help her. She needs help. Please help this poor girl.

OP, please talk to the girl maturely. Truly you have invaded her privacy but it is on your office phone not hers.
Don't mind those asking you to mind your business.

You might be a God sent to safe her life.

HAHAHA...U MEAN A #WURUWURUBORNAAGAINXTN?U SHULDNT BE SURPRISED!LET HER KNOW AND WARN HER AGAINST SUCH ACTS!

HAHAHA...U MEAN A #FAKE?U SHULDNT BE SURPRISED!LET HER KNOW AND WARN HER AGAINST SUCH ACTS!

BEYOND COMMENTS!

Fearlez:
your never-ceasing mumu is till on turbocharger. Go cure your man-maladjustment and stop ranting all over the place. You're not the only girl men have discarded like a street litter.

Stop being an unpolished spiteful man-hating woman.

Nobody has ever discarded me, and no one will ever discard me.

You will most likely marry a discarded woman sha, because you are discarded yourself and you attract your likes.

I don't hate men, I hate idiots like you.

eni4real:
There is no price on the man's head!!
A man pay for whoever he choose to marry!!

The lady must act responsible, else wedding will be cancelled, once secret is leaked!!!

Nothing is hidden anymore

Did you just compare abortion in irresponsible ladies with STI in randy men?

Are you saying STI is strictly for men?? Ladies have higher risk of STI than men for your information

Men don't have wombs or tubes that can be damaged by Abortion!!

Ladies should keep themselves for their future husband!!

They should not waste the bride price

You have had sex with someone's future wife.

Sit down and stop shouting

safarigirl:


You have had sex with someone's future wife.

Sit down and stop shouting

How sure are you??

You goofed

eni4real:
How sure are you??

You goofed

Indeed

If you are not a virgin, sha don't expect a virgin.

And, if you are a virgin, you should also demand purity from other men, not just women. If you did not think of women as property, you would not be shouting about 5 naira bride price up and down.

Your words are very telling. Have a good day.

safarigirl:


You have had sex with someone's future wife.

Sit down and stop shouting

See ehee.Nobody is stopping you from fucking every tom dick and Harry ok? You ve been spewing trash on this thread since. Enough of your stupidity.SMH

Nezzjnr:
You guys are saying OP should mind his business... For what exactly??
Didn't you see where OP stated that he's like a Fatherly figure to her and she's different from the others

This girl is still a minor working as a sales rep... If something bad happens to her... All fingers will be pointing towards OP.

wrong! The op should mind his business, because he employed her for business (sales girl) not as a guardian or house maid, the only reason the OP can take any disciplinary actions is if it's affecting his business negatively. You should stick to the terms and contract when employing someone. It's actually her private life, and she's an adult. The op grossly violated her privacy and in saner clines can sue the op for that, like right now the op has brought up someone's private life in a public forum( although names are not mentioned) but she can be reading this and know very well it's about her. She never seeked any advise or whatsoever from op concerning her life so why is the op loosing sleep for her case? I strongly believe that the OP is having feelings for this girl that's why he's so engrossed in her life..