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How I Bought My Bride by aloyemeka1: 1:09am On Jan 23, 2011 |
Re: How I Bought My Bride by ifyalways(f): 3:24pm On Jan 23, 2011 |
The writers objective is not very clear to me;is it abt cows he gave his in-laws or celebration of his marriage?Btwn,beautiful bride he got.If u cant deal with anyone's culture,Please stick to your own. |
Re: How I Bought My Bride by Obiagu1(m): 6:43pm On Jan 23, 2011 |
The title is very demeaning to say the least. If I were a member of that family, after reading this article, I'd pay back the dowry and annul the marriage. He can't even show respect to other people's tradition. |
Re: How I Bought My Bride by tpia6: 8:03pm On Jan 23, 2011 |
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Re: How I Bought My Bride by ezeagu(m): 10:44pm On Jan 23, 2011 |
tpia*: If he can marry anybody, that's his business, but if he's marrying into this culture then he must pay. Why must there be different rules for 'white men'? Anyway, I'm that many Nigerian cultures only require change for dowry's now. |
Re: How I Bought My Bride by tpia6: 11:04pm On Jan 23, 2011 |
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Re: How I Bought My Bride by MOBO444(f): 11:07pm On Jan 23, 2011 |
^^^ So you ran away, you really need a man tonight, something big and strong with lasting power, you have to really search tonight. |
Re: How I Bought My Bride by ezeagu(m): 11:08pm On Jan 23, 2011 |
tpia*: In most of Africa when you marry a bride you're also marrying the family. If an African marries an English person he would be required to buy gold, silver or diamond rings that cost hundreds to thousands (and sometimes millions), what is the difference with buying cows? |
Re: How I Bought My Bride by tpia6: 11:15pm On Jan 23, 2011 |
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Re: How I Bought My Bride by aloyemeka1: 11:19pm On Jan 23, 2011 |
[img]http://news.bbcimg.co.uk/media/images/50895000/jpg/_50895587_chris+kutdance2.jpg[/img] Isn't she worth all the cows?. He looks like David Beckham and she looks like Brandy See mega gbadun after the dowry payment. |
Re: How I Bought My Bride by africhika(f): 12:10am On Jan 24, 2011 |
all this criticism, man! i thought it was a beautiful story and it's easy to see the happiness in the couple's faces. obviously this guy loves the lady if he was willing to do all that. nice story. |
Re: How I Bought My Bride by ezeagu(m): 1:29am On Jan 24, 2011 |
tpia*: So Sosotho men must buy gold rings for their wife or is it his own culture? Just drop it. |
Re: How I Bought My Bride by tpia6: 3:53am On Jan 24, 2011 |
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Re: How I Bought My Bride by Nobody: 10:55am On Jan 24, 2011 |
tpia*: I'm sorry, I don't quite get you! So if a man were marrying from a tribe that's not his, then then the culture doesn't apply to him? Like if a yoruba were marrying an igbo then he doesn't have to do the ime ego, igba nkwu and other igbo cultural marriage rites |
Re: How I Bought My Bride by aloyemeka1: 12:14pm On Jan 24, 2011 |
tpia*: Engagement and wedding rings are not general. A western culture adopted by Africans in addition to the ones they already have. |
Re: How I Bought My Bride by ezeagu(m): 1:22pm On Jan 24, 2011 |
tpia*: Rings are not required by Sosotho customs, so how does it count? If it was a Sosotho man being urged by a white family to buy rings you'd say nothing because of a cultural and racial complex. Sorry, I don't see Western culture as the norm that we all most follow. What on earth does rigidity mean? Africans continuing their culture is 'counter-productive'? |
Re: How I Bought My Bride by tpia6: 10:05pm On Jan 24, 2011 |
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Re: How I Bought My Bride by tpia6: 10:09pm On Jan 24, 2011 |
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Re: How I Bought My Bride by ezeagu(m): 10:28pm On Jan 24, 2011 |
tpia*: That's the whole thing, there's no where in the story that he said he was required to buy rings. Rings can sometimes cost more than cows so it is relevant in comparing Sosotho culture and Western culture. If it was a Sosotho man marrying a British person, he would be required to buy expensive rings which would be equivalent to the cows, among other things and MOST UK weddings cost over 5000. tpia*: What does that even mean? Since when do rings in marriages indicate modernism? Many marriages involve rings, but it isn't a requirement in Sosotho marriages. So if a man buys rings when marrying a Western woman, he will buy cows when marrying a Sosotho woman, no matter if he is a precious white man that can "marry anybody he likes". If he wants to buy rings and do a white wedding then that's not the Sosotho people's business because they didn't ask him to. |
Re: How I Bought My Bride by aloyemeka1: 4:12am On Jan 26, 2011 |
tpia*: Why should Africans be required to adjust their culture to what the man is accustomed to but the westerners don't care about what we are accustomed to whenever we want to marry their daughters?. Buying cows in my opinion makes more sense than buying a tiny piece of shiny stone for thousands of dollars. But it is their company and no African is saying they should ban it rather, our women are copying the culture and imposing it on their suitors. |
Re: How I Bought My Bride by aloyemeka1: 1:03am On Jan 27, 2011 |
ezeagu: GbaM. |
Re: How I Bought My Bride by tpia6: 1:25am On Jan 27, 2011 |
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Re: How I Bought My Bride by Jenifa1: 2:21am On Jan 27, 2011 |
I'm sure if he objected to the traditions, he wouldn't have agree to it. He probably even liked it. I know how some oyinbo ppl are all about experiencing african culture and whatnot. |
Re: How I Bought My Bride by dayokanu(m): 9:29pm On Jan 27, 2011 |
Most Oyinbos buy their brides rings that can buy a whole village of cows, Guess he bought his wife also when he bought the ring |
Re: How I Bought My Bride by tpia6: 10:32pm On Jan 27, 2011 |
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Re: How I Bought My Bride by dayokanu(m): 10:40pm On Jan 27, 2011 |
Does it matter who he gives the ring to? What matters is that he took money out of his pocket and spent it to get married. If a culture demands you buy Gold dust and throw it into the air, Does it matter if you didnt give to someone? Bottom line, He took his money to buy something to enable him get married so he is indirectly "BUYING" the bride |
Re: How I Bought My Bride by tpia6: 10:57pm On Jan 27, 2011 |
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Re: How I Bought My Bride by dayokanu(m): 10:59pm On Jan 27, 2011 |
tpia*: How many people marry without the ring in his culture? Probably equal to number of people who marry without the cow In her culture |
Re: How I Bought My Bride by ezeagu(m): 11:05pm On Jan 27, 2011 |
tpia*: Some brides (and grooms) would disagree. |
Re: How I Bought My Bride by dayokanu(m): 11:07pm On Jan 27, 2011 |
^^ trtue, Thats why the saying and song "PU A RING ON IT" is popular in Some cultures |
Re: How I Bought My Bride by ifyalways(f): 5:58pm On Jan 28, 2011 |
^Baba agba when wud u put a ring on her? |
Re: How I Bought My Bride by dayokanu(m): 6:29pm On Jan 28, 2011 |
^^ Bring her from where you hid her first so i can put a ring on her |
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