We’ve all been there… someone did something bad to us, and we’re mad. Steaming mad! But here’s how to forgive someone who has hurt you.
For some reason, forgiveness seems to be one of the most difficult things for a human being to do. It’s almost like people think that if they hold on to the resentment and dwell in the negativity, that somehow it will undo the past. Well, let me tell you what you already know… it won’t. If you really want to hold on to your sanity, you need to know how to forgive someone.

As Buddha once said, “Holding on to resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” While that might sound ridiculous, think about it for a second. It’s true! What good does it do to hold on to the anger? You might think it’s doing some good like punishing the other person, but trust me, it’s not.

Why it’s so difficult to learn how to forgive someone

Why, oh why, is it so hard for us humans to forgive? Well, there are many reasons. But one of them is that we have expectations. Yes, you heard me. Expectations of other people’s behavior. And when those expectations are violated, then we feel hurt and offended.

I’m not saying that other people don’t do a lot of crappy things. They do. And they vary in degrees of seriousness. So, don’t think that I’m trying to tell you to stick around in an abusive relationship – I’m not. In situations like that, you just need to remove yourself.

But if the wrongdoing is not of gargantuan proportions, and it’s relatively mundane in the grand scheme of things, then you need to learn to let go and forgive.

Tips for learning how to forgive someone

I don’t have a magic wand that I can hand you for you to suddenly become a master at forgiveness like Mother Teresa. But, I do have some tips for how to forgive someone that will definitely help you move on and find happiness again.

#1 Think of them as a child. When a child does something wrong, we usually have the attitude of, “Well, I don’t like it, but they’re still learning so they’re doing the best they can.”

I hate to break it to you, but some adults aren’t very wise or mature. So, they are probably performing on the level of a child. That’s why you should think of them as someone who doesn’t know any better. That doesn’t mean you have to condone the negative behavior, however.

#2 Think of the grand scheme of things. Are you angry because your live-in love never does the laundry? Or your best friend didn’t call you the moment she read your Facebook status update? Get over it.

Stuff like that is not a big deal in the greater scheme of life. Talk to them, and move past it. Holding on to anger over petty things doesn’t help anyone – especially you.

#3 Talk to them. Some people just fester in silence. What good does that do? Maybe the person who you’re angry with doesn’t even know they did something wrong! So, you have to talk to them about it. And I don’t mean fight… I mean TALK. Talk rationally. Only then can you come to some sort of resolution. It’s the first step in learning how to forgive someone.

#4 Take responsibility for your part. I know you don’t want to hear it, but sometimes, it’s not entirely the other person’s fault. Many times, we had a part to play. So, do some self-reflection and be mature enough to admit if you did or said something that contributed to this situation.

#5 Be kind. When people are angry, it’s difficult for them to be kind. But if you have everyone’s best interest in mind, and you want to let go of the resentment, then speak and act kindly to the person who wronged you. “An eye for an eye” is just bull. It never solves anything. So, put on your kindness cap and approach the situation with love.

#6 Think good thoughts. When we’re so caught up in anger and resentment, sometimes it’s hard to think of anything good. But, you need to try. The future isn’t a disaster. Things will get better. Be an optimist and things will turn out a whole lot better that way.

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