Hello Everyone, I met this girl about a month ago (same day her phone got missing) and we started talking etc...

She usually calls me every morning, afternoon and night (and I would call her back too) using her senior sister's phone... I would get her anything she wants, treated her well.... We would talk and I noticed how she was behaving and thought she'd be straight with me, so I told her I would get her the phone by month end...

Not that I couldn't get her the phone the next day but I just purposely delayed it (3 weeks) and when month end came I added extra week to see how she reacts and then I got her the phone but since I got her the phone she just changed and stopped doing all she used to do, I noticed and played along to see where she's heading to...

It's more than a week since I got her the phone and I noticed she hasn't changed... I thought about giving her a second chance and then she did something that annoyed me. I sent a very angry voice note and some messages but she didn't reply for about a day and I thought of it and noticed she was playing a game, so I said I would play along too...

So I acted dumb and called her to apologize that I said what I said out of anger (To me I really mean it) and explained to her that I listened to the notes and didn't find it interesting (I never did), so what I am doing now is I want to get what I gave her back because noticed a very big change and again because she might be telling her friends that I don chop this guy (which I don't like hearing), so after our argument, I already predicted that she'd want to ask me for something after two days and truly she asked me this morning for money to buy slippers of 4k... I didn't want to show any signs that I am aware of what she's doing.. so I told her.. let's be looking sha (which means I will get it)...

So I planned to play along and take her out of our environment to somewhere that's calm, so I would then collect the phone back from her and give her her sim card.

P.s. I predicted it might play out like this but wanted to test her to see... Could have gotten her an iPhone.

I would really appreciate you guys input �

I don't think any smart guy would ever be in your shoes bro

How much is the phone ? And u done chop her ?

Bro..
Like you said invite her over and collect your phone, use force if possible.

She's already seeing you like "maga ".


Guys, don't show love to Nigerian girls, they are evil and heartless.
Treat them like thrash and they. will love you more
I'm taking from experience.

obviously.

It is well with you. I fear she won't shout rape while you are about to collect the phone and before you know what is happening, you are already in either general hospital or police cell.

Texti65:
Bro..
Like you said invite her over and collect your phone, use force if possible.

She's already seeing you like "maga ".


Guys, don't show love to Nigerian girls, they are evil and heartless.
Treat them like thrash and they. will love you more
I'm taking from experience.

Thanks

xperiencelove:
It is well with you.

Amen!

xperiencelove:
It is well with you. I fear she won't shout rape while you are about to collect the phone and before you know what is happening, you are already in either general hospital or police cell.

It's going to be in a public space... You have a point bro.

That guy above they para!
This your story is somehow, she was calling all day now she don' stop as you buy am phone now you wan collect d phone.

Advice: Do your mind.

have you slept with her? it depends on the level of irritated the change in her behaviour has made you feel.
personally i don't like taking back a gift i have given out. though i could change mind if i'm pushed to the wall.

goodysb:
Hello Everyone, I met this girl about a month ago (same day her phone got missing) and we started talking etc... She usually calls me every morning, afternoon and night(and I would call her back too) using her senior sister's phone... I would get her anything she wants, treated her well.... We would talk and I noticed how she was behaving and thought she'd be straight with me, so I told her I would get her the phone by month end... Not that I couldn't get her the phone the next day but I just purposely delayed it(3 weeks) and when month end came I added extra week to see how she reacts and then I got her the phone but since I got her the phone she just changed and stopped doing all she used to do, I noticed and played along to see where she's heading to... It's more than a week since I got her the phone and I noticed she hasn't changed... I thought about giving her a second chance and then she did something that annoyed me... I sent a very angry voice note and some messages but she didn't reply for about a day and I thought of it and noticed she was playing a game, so I said I would play along too... So I acted dumb and called her to apologize that I said what I said out of anger(To me I really mean it) and explained to her that I listened to the notes and didn't find it interesting (I never did), so what I am doing now is I want to get what I gave her back because noticed a very big change and again because she might be telling her friends that I don chop this guy(which I don't like hearing), so after our argument, I already predicted that she'd want to ask me for something after two days and truly she asked me this morning for money to buy slippers of 4k... I didn't want to show any signs that I am aware of what she's doing.. so I told her.. let's be looking sha (which means I will get it)... So I planned to play along and take her out of our environment to somewhere that's calm, so I would then collect the phone back from her and give her her sim card.

P.s. I predicted it might play out like this but wanted to test her to see... Could have gotten her an iPhone.


I would really appreciate you guys input �

The worst thing anyone can do is to give people gift because you are in a relationship with them and not because they worth it, and if things goes sour you then want your gift back.

First thing first, you gave her the phone as a gift, let it be, the most immature thing you can do is for you to collect it back.

She owes you nothing for buying her a phone and don’t expect she behaves like the way you wanted.

Next time don’t act angry if she misbehaves, it only shows your immaturity and high level of frustration. If a girl finds out their actions frustrates you then you are done for. Act angry only when she is trying to play with your intelligence or don’t keep to what she promised or when she does something physical to you. Other games of silent and not answering calls shouldn’t make you act angry even if you are truely angry. If e too pain just simply state it to her in a calm tone once and leave it.

She asked you for something and the worst reply you gave her in this context is that let’s see. I call it timid. Simply tell her you don’t have the money or you can‘t get it now and don’t promise her any date. Giving a girl is your decision and purely your decision don’t let anyone push you.

Now she has the guts to ask you for phones and slippers, mirror same energy and guts and ask her exactly what you want, if you want a relationship, be bold and brazen. Ask her! If she don’t want to agree to your terms then fine you too act lackadaisical to her own terms too.

Stop feeling low and ashamed your are been played, if she is telling her friends what you think then let it be. Once bitten twice shy.

From now stop putting her only in your basket, be open minded and seek any other female available.

Please give her just the same attention she gives you. If she start showing 40% readiness, then you too 40%. Just ensure you sometimes take the lead in doing thing and wait for her to reciprocate before another one.

Please please leave the phone for her. Next time she does something obviously wrong, I mean obviously wrong which doesn’t warrant a physical reaction just jejely call her and tell her without any show of anger in your face. Then forget it. Only in cases where issues are severe you should act angrily. E.g she cheat on you or lie to you or steal from you or implicate you. Aside this moment don’t act angrily in front of a girl it gives her a sense of Unnecessary importance And shows your frustration.

Next time don’t ever give people something in-expectation that they would behave nicely, the best moment to give someone a gift is when you realized they need it, either because you noticed it or they inform you about it. At all cost avoid giving people things that are not necessary especially when it come to a girl that thinks you admire her. And your giving should be based on your own agreement not out of persuasion.

Girl are complicated

goodysb:
Hello Everyone, I met this girl about a month ago (same day her phone got missing) and we started talking etc... She usually calls me every morning, afternoon and night(and I would call her back too) using her senior sister's phone... I would get her anything she wants, treated her well.... We would talk and I noticed how she was behaving and thought she'd be straight with me, so I told her I would get her the phone by month end... Not that I couldn't get her the phone the next day but I just purposely delayed it(3 weeks) and when month end came I added extra week to see how she reacts and then I got her the phone but since I got her the phone she just changed and stopped doing all she used to do, I noticed and played along to see where she's heading to... It's more than a week since I got her the phone and I noticed she hasn't changed... I thought about giving her a second chance and then she did something that annoyed me... I sent a very angry voice note and some messages but she didn't reply for about a day and I thought of it and noticed she was playing a game, so I said I would play along too... So I acted dumb and called her to apologize that I said what I said out of anger(To me I really mean it) and explained to her that I listened to the notes and didn't find it interesting (I never did), so what I am doing now is I want to get what I gave her back because noticed a very big change and again because she might be telling her friends that I don chop this guy(which I don't like hearing), so after our argument, I already predicted that she'd want to ask me for something after two days and truly she asked me this morning for money to buy slippers of 4k... I didn't want to show any signs that I am aware of what she's doing.. so I told her.. let's be looking sha (which means I will get it)... So I planned to play along and take her out of our environment to somewhere that's calm, so I would then collect the phone back from her and give her her sim card.

P.s. I predicted it might play out like this but wanted to test her to see... Could have gotten her an iPhone.


I would really appreciate you guys input �

she's already taking you for a ride brother.

Don't loose guard.

If you have deep freezer in your house place her on top and fvck her real good before you collect the phone, if no deep freezer find a desk or table but make sure it doesn't have a large surface, she has to be struggling with taking the D and and not falling off the freezer/table simultaneously
Good luck.

One of my friends from college dated a girl for a few years. He was rich and he suspected the girlfriend was a gold digger. People believed that she had actually dumped her previous boyfriend when she found this current one - because the current boyfriend was richer.

So he tried a few things (not all of them were designed to test her but some were):

(1) He stopped taking her to expensive restaurants and took her to “dhabas” or just regular restaurants instead. This was in India, many years ago. A “dhaba” is a roadside restaurant with seats in the open. Not the most upscale place. The guy personally did not mind eating at regular places. He wasn't a typical show-off. He liked doing a lot of regular stuff. She had a major problem with this.

(2) He took her to a cheap circus show.

(3) He took her on a backpacking trip to Europe. Earlier he always made her stay at the best and most expensive hotels. This time, they stayed at inexpensive hostels. This wasn't really a test. The guy actually liked backpacking trips where he could stay at hostels and meet a lot of “real” people.

(4) She always demanded that he buy business class tickets for them. He started buying economy. He personally didn't mind flying economy so much. But the girl got very agitated with the idea of having to fly economy and not having lounge access.

(5) He used to give her very expensive presents earlier. He'd already bought her a car and the latest cell phone (this was in the era before smartphones). He gradually shifted to gifts that were more “personalized” and less expensive - collages of their photos together, poetry that he'd written for her etc. She didnt care for those things.

(6) She used him to further her career. She'd ask him to make a referral to all the companies where he had great contacts. She'd get in to these companies without much of an interview (the boy’s dad who was very well-connected usually pulled strings to make this happen….he was a super generous guy). The girl always left the jobs within a few months. She just wouldn't last anywhere. The guy stopped making those referrals. The girl threw a huge fit.

(7) The last thing he did was the truest test. He told her he doesn't want his father’s wealth and he wants to build his own career without his dad’s assistance. He won't accept anything from his father. The guy was actually pretty good at his studies and in my opinion, was capable of building a career of his own. But quite obviously, she didn't want to take that chance. She didn't have the patience to wait around till he built his career from scratch. She left him a few days after he told her this.

The guy is now very happy and is married to a very sensible and self-made young lady.

Texti65:
Bro..
Like you said invite her over and collect your phone, use force if possible.

She's already seeing you like "maga ".


Guys, don't show love to Nigerian girls, they are evil and heartless.
Treat them like thrash and they. will love you more
I'm taking from experience.

Stop this mentality. Because you met the bad eggs doesn’t justify to advise people to act same. You should have learnt better from your experience, next time treat anyone whether girl or boy with same amount of seriousness they treat you like.

MASTERCHIEF0847:
If you have deep freezer in your house place her on top and fvck her real good before you collect the phone, if no deep freezer find a desk or table but make sure it doesn't have a large surface, she has to be struggling with taking the D and and not falling off the freezer/table simultaneously
Good luck.

bad guy...you wicked shaaa...

To hell with "maturity" being emphasized by some monikers above.

Maturity doesn't really count in this case. At some point in every man's life, you have to put maturity in confinement and act like a mad man. (mad man in the context of not accepting shits)

Be wise. Advices are the easiest to give on a faceless forum most esp from people who would definitely do worse and won't even bother to seek public approval before collecting back.

This is what practically happens when men allow love to becloud their brain too fast.
You and Emotional trauma would definitely be 5/6 for months everytime you remember you don fall mugu. Girl legit use you catch Cruise.






Whatever decision you take at the end kindly make sure it doesn't portend any physical harm.

bro forget what anyone tells you, as long as it's a phone above 10k, collect it back else you're a big f00l... you're not in America and she's not a classic girl.. if you see a classic girl you will know... collect back your phone or forever remain a big fool.

The sweetest feeling on earth is collecting back what you gave your cheater.... that way no one loses... i remember when i collected back x10 of a cheater girlfriend and all the good things I gave her... i felt very even... collect back your phone bro and reward any female friend you know that has been nice and hard working... don't be a f00l.. you haven't even gain anything from this girl yet you're buying her a phone Jesus! in fact falsely get accused of stealing that same phone you bought for her guys will burn you to death and she'll laugh at you because you are a fool....

To any guy reading this, collect back the phone, car, etc you gave to a cheater as long as the deal (relationship either sexual/not etc) does not favor you.. can you let your fellow nigga cheat you? you will carry gun but you let a female use your head..... collect it back... you can trick her the same way she tricked you to buy the phone.. just tell her the police is doing an investigation of the phone from where you bought it from that you need to use it to verify.. remove the sim and give her...

Quote me and tell me how it went when you finish collecting back your phone from the girl..

Your phone don go ooo. Man don't spend any dime on her ?

Take the phone back if it will make you feel better. If it won't, just leave it for her and move on like a boss (this I recommend).

I personally hate people who toy around with others emotions.

goodysb:
Hello Everyone, I met this girl about a month ago (same day her phone got missing) and we started talking etc... She usually calls me every morning, afternoon and night(and I would which means I will get it)... So I planned to play along and take her out of our environment to somewhere that's calm, so I would then collect the phone back from her and give her her sim card.

P.s. I predicted it might play out like this but wanted to test her to see... Could have gotten her an iPhone.


I would really appreciate you guys input �

I sooo much hate it when ppu try to play smart on me! It's a stupid thing to do when you pick on people's intelligence. For this babe's mind now, she's smart and don get mugu.

Bro what to do?? Just call her and make sure you have a privacy, how I wish you are good with using words to lash people! Let her know you were aware of all she was trying using u and u just decide to play along. Fvck her head with words! Let her hate herself, let her cry her eyes out till she starts begging!!

If you feel you are bigger than the phone you can let go, otherwise collect it at the spot abeg, and see if she won't come back sober later and mind you, please DUMP HER ASS!

callmeRichie:



I sooo much hate it when ppu try to play smart on me! It's a stupid thing to do when you pick on people's intelligence. For this babe's mind now, she's smart and don get mugu.

Bro what to do?? Just call her and make sure you have a privacy, how I wish you are good with using words to lash people! Let her know you were aware of all she was trying using u and u just decide to play along. Fvck her head with words! Let her hate herself, let her cry her eyes out till she starts begging!!

If you feel you are bigger than the phone you can let go, otherwise collect it at the spot abeg, and see if she won't come back sober later and mind you, please DUMB HER ASS!

lol bro nothing like bigger than... they're genuine hardworking good people that need that phone... collect back your phone and give a young girl that is hardworking and straightforward and see how God will bless you this year.. or forever remain a fool...

Hey guys, update on the matter, I asked her to go out with me and she said she's not going. She's playing smart.

callmeRichie:



I sooo much hate it when ppu try to play smart on me! It's a stupid thing to do when you pick on people's intelligence. For this babe's mind now, she's smart and don get mugu.

Bro what to do?? Just call her and make sure you have a privacy, how I wish you are good with using words to lash people! Let her know you were aware of all she was trying using u and u just decide to play along. Fvck her head with words! Let her hate herself, let her cry her eyes out till she starts begging!!

If you feel you are bigger than the phone you can let go, otherwise collect it at the spot abeg, and see if she won't come back sober later and mind you, please DUMB HER ASS!

Good point. Can I talk with you privately bro?

Guys, I always tell my friends and other guys around me that giving when it comes to ladies you have interest in should be willing. Giving to ladies ( even if you are a cheerful giver) should not be to impress or thinking you can win her heart with that because its set some tunes to ladies especially the materialistic ones.


Every guy seeking a relationship owes no lady any dime. The only lady a guy is responsible for is his wife not any girlfriend. Helping a girlfriend should be at the guys discretion and free will.

I as a person can never tolerate a girl with this ENTITLEMENT MENTALITY, thinking once you show interest in them or keen on a relationship, they are now your responsibility, No! Until you are married, you and your parents/guardian should be responsible for yourself.

Its time guys wake up and stop promoting this mentality in majority of our ladies and stop polluting the society.

Asking a lady out is the expected norms in our society which I am against and of the opinion that since emotion does not choose gender before setting in place ( the guy can be attracted first or the lady first) both parties should be able to express freely without any discrimination from the society.

Since a relationship involves both parties benefiting, the ladies should please stop giving the impression of doing the guy a favour by dating him therefore manipulating his feelings by providing for their needs.

Ask a lady out and she is not interested, take a walk. Before you get down the road you will meet more ladies. Don't be desperate so as to avoid stories that touch or giving them an excuse for exploiting you.

Guys please stop. Once she is telling you there are guys out there willingly to do whatever she asks for, have a second thought because she is planing on manipulating you, getting control of the relationship and making you see her as a trophy. I once asked a lady of this thought " can you date yourself" she was quite dumb for a while and started saying nonsense.



Ladies you are not doing us a favour by dating us. We are both doing each other favours which should be mutual.

Mind you, most of this material girls offers nothing in the relationship except sex, nothing else and they expect you to show them you love them buy giving money and buying things they can't afford. Sex for money is an illegal profession which shouldn't be incorporated into our relationships.

goodysb:
Hey guys, update on the matter, I asked her to go out with me and she said she's not going. She's playing smart.

Chai
She's wicked o. How can she turn you down?. Women are heartless.

goodysb:
Hey guys, update on the matter, I asked her to go out with me and she said she's not going. She's playing smart.

Lols maybe she saw this post

Zico4real:

Lols maybe she saw this post

She's not here.

* A girl who is with you only for money is not your girlfriend.
* You don’t love her desperately but fear that you will never get someone as good as her, if not better.

Few other points

-There is no such thing as unconditional love. Every friendship or love has at least 20% selfishness to begin with. In Fact we start with almost 80% selfishness. You want to Bleep that beautiful girl and she want to enjoy your company, status, knowledge or maybe money.
-True love takes time. It takes lot of sincere small moments of tender love and care for anyone to become your soulmate. But yes if that girl is gold digger even after a long time (maybe six months), then you must also treat her like a LovePeddler.

Remedy

Just leave that girl for 30 days. Your time starts now. Be brave. Tell her that you think it not working and you want to rethink about relationship. Tell her that you want to be her friend always.

Watch her reaction. Analyse her social media activities, see whether she contacts you ever on her own (on any pretext). Try to find whether she has any grain of love for you.

If she become sa bit restless, a bit unorganised, a bit off balance, you got your answer. If not, you can convince yourself to leave her forever.

Most Important Rule : You are not going to contact her ever in this 1 month rule, neither directly nor indirectly. You are only allowed to respond briefly in a ‘friendly’ way.

Sometimes people do love us but don’t realise themselves. They only value us when they lose us completely. Tests are designed to check love. Don’t get obsessed and start using her emotions. Mind games are like games. They are not war. You never kill in a game, in a war, yes you do.

Everything is fair in love and war but war is not fair in love.