Niniolahabby:
Its nt easy to see a video of ur man with another babe,i know he cheat but i dnt let it dusturb me ,am after my wrk and business ,nd son.After i saw d video i had to tink abt it all yrs of marriage d maltreatment insult no respect ,i got married at early twenties and i have neva had 5months happyness in marriage ,i just had to make a decision and move on ,i just need to pour it to some1 dats y am here discussing abt it.

Niniolahabby:
I shuld have left him during d domestic violence days but i still stayed in it ,its nt bcis of the video because i know abt the relationship with him and d babes i know all his gfrd because he talk to them in my present at times i just dont care ,have had enough.i was depressed last year after i got to know he was having sex with my neighbour i confronted him he denial it till i sent d audio record wen he used my fone to call her in to the apartment ,he beat me dat day ,family got involve dey pleaded i forgive right now am tired of his drama.

Manpoly:



I know it is not easy..u just have to b strong as a woman, don't let it weigh u down at all...pls try to get over it and pls do things that u know makes u Happy, even if it is going out with ur son, or ur friend's place or something ...just do things that will make u Happy and won't make u think about d man pls...and u did the right by bringing it here,.just look for an opinion that suit u well and follow it

Niniolahabby:
Tanks for contributing to ma matter cant even tell my story to pple around me ,i feel better discussing it ,just need to let go with all the tinking ..

Manpoly:



I know it is not easy..u just have to b strong as a woman, don't let it weigh u down at all...pls try to get over it and pls do things that u know makes u Happy, even if it is going out with ur son, or ur friend's place or something ...just do things that will make u Happy and won't make u think about d man pls...and u did the right by bringing it here,.just look for an opinion that suit u well and follow it

Manpoly:


are u sure u guys communicate well?
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if u do...pls find a way...if it is in d midnight.. ask him y he is maltreating u and doing this things to u,that he is hurting u alot...pour ur mind...cry to him and if he doesn't feel remorseful or doesn't change.. pls leave him alone... stop giving him attention....and don't av any sex with him to avoid any form of sexual transmitting disease....pls take it easy

Manpoly:



Sure..u are welcome...pls get better soon and stay alright pls

Niniolahabby:
Hello house had to create another user ,am really depressed,sad,right now a marriage of 5 yrs full of maltreatment but i just decided to endure all ,am very aware my man cheat but i didnt let it disturb me or let it affect me,nt until i saw a video of him having sex with a disgusting lady,he even paid for her flight to naija,and he was the one doing the video....i just need to talk to someone right now...

Niniolahabby:
I shuld have left him during d domestic violence days but i still stayed in it ,its nt bcis of the video because i know abt the relationship with him and d babes i know all his gfrd because he talk to them in my present at times i just dont care ,have had enough.i was depressed last year after i got to know he was having sex with my neighbour i confronted him he denial it till i sent d audio record wen he used my fone to call her in to the apartment ,he beat me dat day ,family got involve dey pleaded i forgive right now am tired of his drama.

Niniolahabby:
My dear my tears dnt mean anytin to him anymore ,i feel its his nature to maltreat pple ,feels hes better dan everybody and u have to beg him even if hes wrong ,all 5yrs of my life i was tinking he doesnt know wat hes doing or dere something spiritual abt his behaviour do u know yesterday wen he called me i got to know he is doing everything purposely ,he said it by him sef dat he knows he usually curse me ,nd i have been patient no woman can ever be patient and he knows he neva said sorry rada i say sorry he usually take d pissed most times ,while me was tinking dere is a demon some where disturbing my marriage,very funny .

Niniolahabby:
Hello house had to create another user ,am really depressed,sad,right now a marriage of 5 yrs full of maltreatment but i just decided to endure all ,am very aware my man cheat but i didnt let it disturb me or let it affect me,nt until i saw a video of him having sex with a disgusting lady,he even paid for her flight to naija,and he was the one doing the video....i just need to talk to someone right now...

Ningen:
Use the video as evidence and seek for divorce.

Niniolahabby:
Hello house had to create another user ,am really depressed,sad,right now a marriage of 5 yrs full of maltreatment but i just decided to endure all ,am very aware my man cheat but i didnt let it disturb me or let it affect me,nt until i saw a video of him having sex with a disgusting lady,he even paid for her flight to naija,and he was the one doing the video....i just need to talk to someone right now...

Niniolahabby:
I shuld have left him during d domestic violence days but i still stayed in it ,its nt bcis of the video because i know abt the relationship with him and d babes i know all his gfrd because he talk to them in my present at times i just dont care ,have had enough.i was depressed last year after i got to know he was having sex with my neighbour i confronted him he denial it till i sent d audio record wen he used my fone to call her in to the apartment ,he beat me dat day ,family got involve dey pleaded i forgive right now am tired of his drama.

debayun:
First I really wanna apologise for that sorry misguided excuse for a man. You must really be in pains and for that I'm deeply sorry. I really pray that you find joy deep within you and not from your external environment Amen.

poshestmina:
Pray for him ,love him ,always wear RED PANTS AND BRAS to remain attractive to him , keep forgiving and make sure you pound yam with fresh soup everyday ..





...till you end up a DEAD ,MAGGOT INFESTED CORPSE >:

Give yourself some break biko ...if you don't have anywhere to go ,squat with a friend or family for a while till you know if he's changing or you like the toxicity ,slaps and Diseases.


Good luck

Onlinefarmstore:
Dear Op, I know how it hurts, believe me it could be fustrating to put in more efforts and at the end of the day, husbby isn't reciprocating, while marriage is a collective responsibility from both parties, I see no reason while you should let it consume you. Judging from your remarks of being five years in marriage you shouldn't be more than thirty five or fourty years in age. You still have a long way to go. By building your life and career, believe me men then to do things more when they see that it pains the opposite sex, pick the pieces of your life, am not saying you should breakup your marriage but stand it to your marriage responsibility for example, while posting it here isn't all bad, but have to laid it on the alter of prayer, have you command the spiritual... Let me tell you this is a satanic manipulation, (believe it or leave it), watch closely, if you have a child your husband might be avaioding your child(ren) no care, stop crying and pick the pieces of your life!!!!! Command your marriage the way you want it. Bibble saying:Have I not said I will perfect all that concernth you?
Bring God's word back to him.... Also ask your self what made your husband to cheat, what kind of wife are you? Cheating is one thing, but another is bringing another woman from another part of this world to Nigeria for sex!!! What is going wrong!!! Are you an Instagram wife, or what does your husband want, believe me this story is one sided, but God will take charge only of you invite him.... Time to behave like a wounded and hungry lioness.....
Am available if you need more guidances.


What do I know, just strawberry and raspberries farming.

Acme45:
my dear, no marriage Today is made in heaven. I understand your plight and you need to pray very hard before you take any decision. God will comfort you and your child. Again no marriage is perfect. The unmarried should look very well before jumping into marriage. Because Jumping into marriage is very easy but, jumping out is much more difficult. Am not saying you shouldn't get married , many are having a happy Home ,while some regret the day they ever made that decision. Look very well, as a man if you know you cannot tolerate the woman, don't even think of marrying her. As woman if you know that you can't control your mouth and respect a man, that means you are not ready for marriage. Husband love your wife, wife submit yourself to the authority of your husband ( not as slave, but be an helper). Man if you know that you cannot control your Anger then you are not ready for marriage, because your wife is not a punching bag. Control your Libido as man to have a great and happy home. Woman l pray God will comfort you and give you direction and if you know that you can no longer bear with him anymore pls move to your parents house to avoid long story.stay safe and God bless

EVILFOREST:

In as much as I detest RUBBISH from Ladies....
I can't imagine the reality of what you said.
I Find it hard believing LADIES......
Hope what you told us is the Truth...?
Are you really sure of what you said..?

IF it's true, I am DEEPLY SORRY....
That's too BAD...
Did you do anything terrible to him...may be in the Past....??
My WIFE did something terrible to me but I forgave her and moved on because she has really sacrificed a lot for me too, but since then she harbors fears in her that I may retaliate in future.

Nwabundo38:


Your husband is a narcissist. You need to leave for your own mental health. Advice him to go for a therapy. Mind you that once you leave, he will start begging and acting all nice. Don't you make the mistake of giving him another chance. He will never change. They never change.

Niniolahabby:
He cant beat me up,funny part is dat hes nt based here,wen hes in naija dats wen he treat me like this

Openbusiness:
Oga madam this is the source of your problems, long distance relationship or marriage don't work. Devil must surely enta d mata, only a matter of time. But I like your attitude and maturity. You can still save your marriage and still change him to the man you fell in love with and still love. But the first step to achieve that is both of you must find a way to live together. So either he must relocate back to Nigeria (won't advise this since 9ja is a shit hole), or you relocate to be with him. But before you relocate, make sure you have some personal money with you and also try get a job or find a business and do to have saying for yourself in case things get damaged beyond repair. But as it is now, you can still save your marriage.

Niniolahabby:
Distance is not even the issue of the marriage,why is dat when hes around for 2weeks or a month he always misbehave when hes with me aswell.

Niniolahabby:
I shuld have left him during d domestic violence days but i still stayed in it ,its nt bcis of the video because i know abt the relationship with him and d babes i know all his gfrd because he talk to them in my present at times i just dont care ,have had enough.i was depressed last year after i got to know he was having sex with my neighbour i confronted him he denial it till i sent d audio record wen he used my fone to call her in to the apartment ,he beat me dat day ,family got involve dey pleaded i forgive right now am tired of his drama.