ledaman:
If it going to be boring then you can woo her, did she complained to you? Do you know the level of a spiritual connection with her God? Stupid assumption from an slowpoke.

Mvici:
1992 pikin still be child maybe na the way I take reason the matter.

Thanks anyway.

obinoral1179:
Iost my dad 26 years ago and my mum make sure we all got graduated and recently she is starting to find love with another man and she calls the man ADEMI, we the boys alway tease her of her new found love and we are happy for her as long she is happy..... May you find a suitable hubby for mummy...

eRex:


A very childish comment that can never end without an insult meanwhile talking about spiritual connection with God.

Well I will waste no time on u

doggedfighter:
People want women to spend all their lives mourning the dead while men remarry after few months.

Mvici:
I Lost Confidence In My Girlfriend The Moment She Asked Me To Marry For My Mother.

I had a girlfriend some few months back before the covid 19 outbreak, that was after we went home from school due to the strike and the pandemic, we both are in the same school which is IBB university lapai, in our final.

So at home this faithful day, I put a call through! We both were talking, laughing on phone, so she ask about my mum, I said she was fine and she now ask abt her loneliness because no one at home, I told her but I'm still here with her, she ask what if school resume and what if we should go for our service next year, she now told me to marry another man for my mum.... lol... telling me who knows" that my mum might like the idea if I should table it with her. Gosh! I actually laughed about it then on phone with her but inside me, it wasn't funny at all.

The next day, what she told me was still bordering me, so many things were just running on my mind...so even if by mistake I wife her in future and the Lord decide to take me when we have a grown up child like me, who is planning on becoming a graduate this year and have even spent 30 years in marriage already....she won't even mourn me for long before accepting another man's proposal or bleeping with another man or probably her one time ex.

I decided to ask my mum with play, mum be sincere to me, you and my dad have been married since far back 1986... U both were in marriage for about 30 yrs before he past away few years ago, may his soul rest in peace..this is 5yrs now are you considering on marrying any one or having any kind of body movement or even can stand the presence of another man in your life?

Guess what her reply was....
Mum said my dad was the only man she know in her life and that's how it going to remain by God grace, period! and I shouldn't ask her such again with cry/smiles on her face because she has me and I will give her groundchil........

Seriously I don't know why I brought this here but pls tell me, any girl that can ask a 52 Year old woman to re_marry even after she has a child, isn't it clear that she can't stay without having sex to anyone as long as her husband is on a peace keeping mission or even travel abroad?

Thanks everyone.

Mvici:
them no go understand Sha, na me been wear the shoe that day hear wetin she talk, maybe na out of ignorance she take talk amm but seriously from my side which I won't mention..... family members will think u were never loyal throughout those long period....haba! over 30 with a son
No be say hungry dey worry u or ur husband family ain't accommodating.... She might not even be the type cause no one knows tomorrow....it all depends on an individual mindset though.
I broke up with her not even because of that.....that one is a personal matter but the issue of my mum getting another man was really confusing so I wanted to hear more, explore and learn more about marriage which is all about sacrifice.

Foodqueen:
The truth is sometimes when some girls don't av any reasonable thing to say, they spew rubbish. It's in their DNA.

NECO1998:
I must commend the young man for this write up. Also, I want to use this opportunity to tell him to maintain what ever decision he chose to take irrespective of the condemnation from some Nairalanders. Again, it goes to show the writer has something 'upstairs' Vis a vis the type of wife he wants. Young man I salute your courage! At 52 years, I don't think a widow should be encouraged to remarry except if she chooses to remarry. After all, she has seen all in marriage. What was the business of that young girl telling the young man to persuade his mother to remarry? Is she not too young for that? Can't she control her tongue? What does she know about marriage? There is the saying that when your neighbour's house is on fire,you put yourself in your neighbour's situation. What I could decipher from the young girl statement is that: 1. She may not be able to endure the 'heat' in marriage 2.She is too talkative 3. She does not mind her business 4. She is not a wife material for a serious minded person.
The reason for the high rate of divorce today is because very many young men refused to think properly like the young man. They think love is what that matters in marriage. At last, break up. Men should look before they leap.

Mvici:

people's tradition sometimes matters, am just talking about after 30yrs in marriage, already have a child....what next will she be looking for when her child can still give her ground children, people's body and soul are different anyway especially when the man she marry was the only person that has gone down with her and maybe tradition and religion and what people will say

ledaman:
Truth is bitter!

Omeji:
From my own understanding, what she meant to say is that she will like to be your mother's companion since she is lonely. Thats why she told you to marry a man for your mother. That man is SHE.

gunners160:

shey u dey mind that small boy? I wonder how comes he happens to b dating such an intelligent lady? She only made a suggestion and he took it 2 heart like a kid. Too bad he attends a university where I graduated from long time ago

makydebbie:


Oh the misogyny stinks!
Sisssssssssssss let's drink the male tears in this thread. I love when women rebel.

mabea:
Young man you are too selfish. You also reason like a kid. Your gf is more mature than you.

eRex:
r

Kindly highlight your supposed "Truth".

I shared a firsthand experience and you call me a slowpoke.

I reserve my comment.

franugo:


He reasons like someone in junior secondary school...it's like people don't understand dt loneliness can actually kill.

makydebbie:


Oh the misogyny stinks!
Sisssssssssssss let's drink the male tears in this thread. I love when women rebel.

franchasng:
[s]Your girlfriend is one of the modern Nigerian feminists trying to copy American lifestyle, discard her, let her go and marry men of her kind; Hushpuppi or Hushpapa aka Buhari



Modern feminists love sex and dick more than anything. They maybe pretending to love their job or career, behind that fake love for career or job, is a wild lady who will break any man's dick in the oza room



All that runs through the minds of a modern Nigerian feminist is sex, which big dick to ride, which fine boy to crush on. Which successful guys dick to click next, and how to continue looking like old mama youngie even at 60yrs so that they can keep getting small fvckboys to demolish their shrinked pussy[/s]

iwinnie:



Don't mind the poster, as if his mom is not a human being.
if its a man now he would have remarried since.
this life
.
.
poster don't judge your girl because of what she suggested, you should be good now because of your moms response.

franchasng:
Your girlfriend is one of the modern Nigerian feminists trying to copy American lifestyle, discard her, let her go and marry men of her kind; Hushpuppi or Hushpapa aka Buhari



Modern feminists love sex and dick more than anything. They maybe pretending to love their job or career, behind that fake love for career or job, is a wild lady who will break any man's dick in the oza room



All that runs through the minds of a modern Nigerian feminist is sex, which big dick to ride, which fine boy to crush on. Which successful guys dick to click next, and how to continue looking like old mama youngie even at 60yrs so that they can keep getting small fvckboys demolish their shrinked pussy

Mvici:

people's tradition sometimes matters, am just talking about after 30yrs in marriage, already have a child....what next will she be looking for when her child can still give her ground children, people's body and soul are different anyway especially when the man she marry was the only person that has gone down with her and maybe tradition and religion and what people will say

chinchonglee:
U re definitely a child.

Ur GF was only suggesting something, since ur mom told you her opinion let the matter die already... Stop assuming nonsense

Mvici:
I am a man and it is written that men are polygamous in nature and can marry as many as they like even in the old testament we see great men that marry more than one....but I tell u with the way I love that girl before, eventually had it been we later marry...and we had a son, we even spent 30yrs which I know by then i would be probably 60somthing.... seriously I won't really think much of another woman

Mvici:
I Lost Confidence In My Girlfriend The Moment She Asked Me To Marry For My Mother.

I had a girlfriend some few months back before the covid 19 outbreak, that was after we went home from school due to the strike and the pandemic, we both are in the same school which is IBB university lapai, in our final.

So at home this faithful day, I put a call through! We both were talking, laughing on phone, so she ask about my mum, I said she was fine and she now ask abt her loneliness because no one at home, I told her but I'm still here with her, she ask what if school resume and what if we should go for our service next year, she now told me to marry another man for my mum.... lol... telling me who knows" that my mum might like the idea if I should table it with her. Gosh! I actually laughed about it then on phone with her but inside me, it wasn't funny at all.

The next day, what she told me was still bordering me, so many things were just running on my mind...so even if by mistake I wife her in future and the Lord decide to take me when we have a grown up child like me, who is planning on becoming a graduate this year and have even spent 30 years in marriage already....she won't even mourn me for long before accepting another man's proposal or bleeping with another man or probably her one time ex.

I decided to ask my mum with play, mum be sincere to me, you and my dad have been married since far back 1986... U both were in marriage for about 30 yrs before he past away few years ago, may his soul rest in peace..this is 5yrs now are you considering on marrying any one or having any kind of body movement or even can stand the presence of another man in your life?

Guess what her reply was....
Mum said my dad was the only man she know in her life and that's how it going to remain by God grace, period! and I shouldn't ask her such again with cry/smiles on her face because she has me and I will give her groundchil........

Seriously I don't know why I brought this here but pls tell me, any girl that can ask a 52 Year old woman to re_marry even after she has a child, isn't it clear that she can't stay without having sex to anyone as long as her husband is on a peace keeping mission or even travel abroad?

Thanks everyone.

Ningen:
Sorry to say, but the dead are dead.
And the world moves on.

It's okay for a 52yr old widow to seek for a man.
It's not all about pleasure but companionship.
Social interaction is key to mental health.

You shouldn't lose trust in your girlfriend.
She said nothing wrong.

In her own way, she cares about your mum.