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I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by Stargurl20(f): 9:18pm On Jul 05, 2020 |
I've a very low self esteem, that everytime I'm being scolded about it, I always wish for death. My low self esteem is killing me, and I feel this lack of confidence of mine, began from childhood when people would criticise my appearance. I hide my face from the world. Something happened today that made my mum opened up to me that she isn't happy with me. We attended an event( more like a compulsory one for me otherwise I would have avoid going), and I hid in a coner throughout the party that the entire family was wondering the kind of person I'm. I know some thought I'm arrogant which is wrong. I've cried severally today, that I wish for death.... I'm just a very young lady of 21year old. This lack of self confidence also makes me avoid guys. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by jeff35(m): 9:20pm On Jul 05, 2020 |
Do u have anything u do that makes u happy? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by Stargurl20(f): 9:23pm On Jul 05, 2020 |
jeff35:Nothing really. Although I prefer being at school busy with lectures and other academic activities.- it dvert my attention. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by jeff35(m): 9:28pm On Jul 05, 2020 |
Stargurl20:now that's a big lie!!! i know u write! 1 Like |
Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by Travellerslodge: 9:30pm On Jul 05, 2020 |
I can help you if you don’t mind . Stargurl20: 1 Like |
Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by Stargurl20(f): 9:32pm On Jul 05, 2020 |
jeff35:I do.... But I gat more time for that only on holidays. Hence, I didn't include it. |
Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by Stargurl20(f): 9:32pm On Jul 05, 2020 |
Travellerslodge:I wouldn't. 1 Like |
Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by Righteousness89(m): 9:33pm On Jul 05, 2020 |
Listen dear, the Problem began with you and it could also end with you. According to you , you looked down on yourself when People began to say this or that about you.. As long as you wanna do things based on what people will say, you are gonna keep having a problem.. You need to get out from what people think about you, and live according to what God Almighty says about you. He says you are created in His Image and likeness.. He Says you are wonderfully and Beautifully made.. He says, you can do all things through HIM.. Stop living according to what people say or what people will say! That's the Solution and it is with you and in you.. 13 Likes |
Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by Stargurl20(f): 9:36pm On Jul 05, 2020 |
Righteousness89: Hm... |
Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by jeff35(m): 9:39pm On Jul 05, 2020 |
Stargurl20:well my advice is that, in terms of low self esteem, a good thing to do is to play to your strenghts and accept ur weakness, look 4 what u can do passionately and develop a sense of pride and confidence in it n please drop that suicidal thought!, it aint sounding sane |
Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by HiFreda(f): 9:42pm On Jul 05, 2020 |
Stargurl20: It's a phase and it will pass. This is a time of self discovery for you. In time, you will fully understand and accept who you are, and the opinion of others wouldn't make you cower. Believe me, confidence will come from self awareness. For now, work on yourself. Develop skills to help you be independent. Work jobs, earn your own money and plan a future for yourself. Every other thing will fall in place. 2 Likes |
Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by Stargurl20(f): 9:42pm On Jul 05, 2020 |
jeff35: I can't even commit suicide. If I wanted I would've done that long...ago. But I'm really scared of the eternal punishment of Allah that comes with it ![]() ![]() |
Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by yvelchstores(f): 9:42pm On Jul 05, 2020 |
It's funny how you think you have it bad. Your life is like butter and the world is like rough stones, and yet you already feel so much pressure... From what exactly?? Your mother even OPENED UP TO YOU TO TELL YOU SHE ISN'T HAPPY WITH YOU. My mother was so careless with words while growing, she busted out in countless episodes of raging bitterness, hurling terrible words still, we managed with little effort. It wasn't a BIG issue. Ultimately, you need the Holy Spirit to restructure your mind and thinking process. A whole lot more will come against you and you must fight to the finish so brace up, and quit this self esteem issues of yours. 3 Likes |
Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by Alooone: 9:43pm On Jul 05, 2020 |
Are u fat? 2 Likes |
Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by Stargurl20(f): 9:47pm On Jul 05, 2020 |
yvelchstores:Hmm |
Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by Stargurl20(f): 9:48pm On Jul 05, 2020 |
Alooone:No. I'm very tall... And people talk and stare at me that I feel like shrinking at times 1 Like |
Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by Adesina12: 10:03pm On Jul 05, 2020 |
Dear stargurl20 I can correctly say you an introvert, and being an introvert is not a disease You’re a version of yourself and no one can be you likewise you can’t be someone else Try as much as possible to always display your version for yourself in all you do and not for anyone There is nothing you do in life that will not generate either praise or criticism Until you have confidence in yourself and command respect for yourself you will remain like this Come out of that bad shell that’s shielding you and depriving you of your confidence You’re beautifully made by Allah SWT...it is well with you You can reach me for heart to heart talk via 08033724663 Sweet popcorn for you dear |
Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by Stargurl20(f): 10:07pm On Jul 05, 2020 |
Adesina12:You're right to an extent. Thanks for the soothing words 2 Likes |
Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by VirginFinder: 10:39pm On Jul 05, 2020 |
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Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by culf: 10:50pm On Jul 05, 2020 |
get involved with a good social group like rotaract. be active, take elective position if possible. Mingle more with people, talk more, hang around with good friends that you're very comfortable with and you tend to talk more when you're with them. gradually, you will change. I use to be very quiet (though not low self esteem), some people said I'm snubbish, others said I'm proud. Now.... 1 Like |
Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by Stargurl20(f): 11:02pm On Jul 05, 2020 |
culf: I wouldn't describe my self as the complete reticent type.....because I talk with few friends and course mates at sch. I just don't go out or have friends at home....If I'm not indoor, then I'm at my mum's shop. 1 Like |
Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by Nobody: 11:35pm On Jul 05, 2020 |
However you look, you have to appreciate and make the most of it. You are very tall & you could even be a model. You don't have to be facially good looking to venture in modelling. One thing you should know is that beauty is a gift, for some they have it all through their lives. Others they loose it as they grow old. A lot of ladies that seem to be ugly in Uni days but they are super good looking now and some that looked lovely are just average, fat and lost shape. So sometimes you never know. I'm not trying to console you, this is just the reality. It's hard but don't tie your self esteem to how you look, focus on your other qualities. |
Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by culf: 11:40pm On Jul 05, 2020 |
Stargurl20: you need more than talking with few friends. you need friends you can easily make noise and talk loud, expressing yourself around them. you also need platform that gives you opportunity to talk in public, that is why I suggested one. if you know other good ones, you can join them. |
Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by DonBenny77(m): 6:48am On Jul 06, 2020 |
If you do masturbate, stop. 2 Likes |
Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by bukatyne(f): 7:37am On Jul 06, 2020 |
Stargurl20: Why do you lack confidence in your self? Why do you think lowly of yourself? Let's start with that. 2 Likes |
Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by bukatyne(f): 7:37am On Jul 06, 2020 |
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Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by Phenomenal16(f): 7:43am On Jul 06, 2020 |
Stargurl20:......can u pls describe ur physique U know this low self esteem can lead to chronic depression Bf u know it....u r thinking of committing suicide |
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Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by Stargurl20(f): 8:10am On Jul 06, 2020 |
Phenomenal16:To be frank. If not for the fear of eternal punishment attached to suicide, I would have done it long... ago. Who am I to withstand Allah's punishment? This life is just full of ups and downs. To be sincere at times I wish I was never born. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by Stargurl20(f): 8:14am On Jul 06, 2020 |
Phenomenal16:I'm tall, not so dark skinned or lets say chocolate. I think that's all I can describe about my physical features. 1 Like |
Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by Stargurl20(f): 8:16am On Jul 06, 2020 |
bukatyne:Negative words being said about me since I was a child. I was really bullied as a child not just by my peers alone, but also the adults 2 Likes |
Re: I Have A Very Low Sellf Esteem. by Adesina12: 12:11pm On Jul 06, 2020 |
Stargurl20: You are welcome dear ... I made mistake with the number 0803 371 4663 It is well In sha Allah |
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