Many have suffered parental neglect and abuse that most dads (and moms) didn't understand that their always 'all-night quarrelsome' attitude caused. A home without love is not sth one prays for. If it's not dad quarrelling even at the most trivial matters, he's beating mom. Ever had such experiences? Yes, many experienced this. Take up courage, we say no to #IncompetentFakeDads . Narrate your escapades surviving with such dad.

I thank God my late dad neither drank nor smoked while alive.

I thank God really... May his gentle soul continue to rest in the bosom of our Lord and savior Jesus Christ. Amen

Alhamdulilah, no issue like that for my family.

Can't judge him

RoyalRoy, Dominque, Lalasticlala fp for a vast audience

MoonWater:
Can't judge him

Sure but we have to tell ourselves the truth; we didn't deserve those treatments.

When I was younger his favourite brands were Gulder, Star and Heineken.
Eventually dumped Gulder and settled for Heineken. Did whisky as well. I doubt I can call him just a social drinker. he'll drive out after work or he'll have the fridge stocked up. Then his favorite whisky in the bedroom. He generally had a nice time when he's inebriated plus he is very funny person so expect a lot of comedy moments.

I ran alot of errands buying him drinks. He has a very heightened smell - I dont know how or where he learnt that. There was this time he smelt alomo I was drinking in my room just by passing the corridor. He warned me sternly to only I repeat ONLY drink beer. Ironical
There were days he'll bandy me along to bars with his friend and expect me to drink as well but I never felt well drinking beer at the same table with my dad.
Plus I was expected to drive him. Most times when he isnt back we'll panic knowing he is drinking and still expected to drive.
Most times I'll have to locate where he was so I'll drive or bring him home.
There was this day he was at a neighbour's place and it was eating into the night. Bottles were def involved. I legit walked to their gate, entered the house and into their presence and asked that we leave. He just laughed, said "my son has spoken", greeted them and left with me

He lost his job in 2006. I was barely out of secondary school. The intoxication increased. But we all understood and supported him especially me. There were quarrels many nights but tranquility the morning after. He never kept grudges, hell he doesnt even know how to be angry.
He'll get mad at you this minute and next minute acting like nothing happened.
But with the drinks, I'll support him sometimes to his bed. My mom would get embarrassed, nag, shout and get irritated when he drinks even at social functions you know how women are, but never me! Never! I was never embarrased. I was always happy to be around and support him during these periods sef. I realised at a young age that no one is perfect! Not you, not me, not him. So i stopped feeling shame!

He was my superman. My Alpha Male. My role model, though he drank or smoke (something he always wanted to quit) this man spared nothing to support, provide and keep our family together. Ensured all I repeat all were trained. I alone was a handful but he was always there. Always fuckin there! When I behaved badly, he was there! Performed excellently, he was! Even when I was bed ridden guess who was there? HIM! although he'll find time to take a few at intervals. He was NEVER NOT THERE!

So despite the alcohol and the cigarettes. AND INCLUDING THE ALCOHOL AND CIGARETTES, MY DAD CAN DO ME NO WRONG!
He is quite elderly now so the drinking has toned down to with his age. But he is still perfect to me!

Op share your own story.

Una go de open thread to read people story and una no go share first.

Aproko people them.

You are a great son.

annex1:
When I was younger his favourite brands were Gulder, Star and Heineken.
Eventually dumped Gulder and settled for Heineken. Did whisky as well. I doubt I can call him just a social drinker. he'll drive out after work or he'll have the fridge stocked up. Then his favorite whisky in the bedroom. He generally had a nice time when he's inebriated plus he is very funny person so expect a lot of comedy moments.

I ran alot of errands buying him drinks. He has a very heightened smell - I dont know how or where he learnt that. There was this time he smelt alomo I was drinking in my room just by passing the corridor. He warned me sternly to only I repeat ONLY drink beer. Ironical
There were days he'll bandy me along to bars with his friend and expect me to drink as well but I never felt well drinking beer at the same table with my dad.
Plus I was expected to drive him. Most times when he isnt back we'll panic knowing he is drinking and still expected to drive.
Most times I'll have to locate where he was so I'll drive or bring him home.
There was this day he was at a neighbour's place and it was eating into the night. Bottles were def involved. I legit walked to their gate, entered the house and into their presence and asked that we leave. He just laughed, said "my son has spoken", greeted them and left with me

He lost his job in 2006. I was barely out of secondary school. The intoxication increased. But we all understood and supported him especially me. There were quarrels many nights but tranquility the morning after. He never kept grudges, hell he doesnt even know how to be angry.
He'll get mad at you this minute and next minute acting like nothing happened.
But with the drinks, I'll support him sometimes to his bed. My mom would get embarrassed, nag, shout and get irritated when he drinks even at social functions you know how women are, but never me! Never! I was never embarrased. I was always happy to be around and support him during these periods sef. I realised at a young age that no one is perfect! Not you, not me, not him. So i stopped feeling shame!

He was my superman. My Alpha Male. My role model, though he drank or smoke (something he always wanted to quit) this man spared nothing to support, provide and keep our family together. Ensured all I repeat all were trained. I alone was a handful but he was always there. Always fuckin there! When I behaved badly, he was there! Performed excellently, he was! Even when I was bed ridden guess who was there? HIM! although he'll find time to take a few at intervals. He was NEVER NOT THERE!

So despite the alcohol and the cigarettes. AND INCLUDING THE ALCOHOL AND CIGARETTES, MY DAD CAN DO ME NO WRONG!
He is quite elderly now so the drinking has toned down to with his age. But he is still perfect to me!

Leave your Dad alone, he has lived his life, probably made some mistakes but don't come here to malign him.

You will soon be a father, focus on being a good one.

CsRockefeller:
Leave your Dad alone, he has lived his life, probably made some mistakes but don't come here to malign him.

You will soon be a father, focus on being a good one.

Maybe someone needs to talk here to get it off their chest and find people who share this experience. Don't try to silence them. It's an anonymous forum so it does no more harm to the alcoholic parent but may help someone to talk.

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Klass99:
@ Annex1

I like your dad already , he genuinely sounds like a good man and I like the fact that in all his drinking, he still did right by his family.

He reminds me of my pa, my pa didn't drink like yours but I will forever hold him dear to my heart, for his sense of responsibility towards family and how he never shied away from or slacked off on it.

Your narrative made me smile while I was reading and the part where he said my son has spoken then he got up and left with you, just did me in, with hysterical laughter.

A standing ovation for wonderful fathers like ours.

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Klass99:
Lol, this person above me will die on top of my matter very soon. Pls someone should help him.

He said he is hid in Christ with God and Jesus is the only way to God. But the true followers of the Jesus I know don't do the Lord's work this way oh!

Or is there a new Christianity movement I am not aware of?

The Pharisees and Sadducees, have got nothing on this one - he is Jesus baby, doing the Lord's work or so he thinks in his twisted mind.

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annex1:
When I was younger his favourite brands were Gulder, Star and Heineken.
Eventually dumped Gulder and settled for Heineken. Did whisky as well. I doubt I can call him just a social drinker. he'll drive out after work or he'll have the fridge stocked up. Then his favorite whisky in the bedroom. He generally had a nice time when he's inebriated plus he is very funny person so expect a lot of comedy moments.

I ran alot of errands buying him drinks. He has a very heightened smell - I dont know how or where he learnt that. There was this time he smelt alomo I was drinking in my room just by passing the corridor. He warned me sternly to only I repeat ONLY drink beer. Ironical
There were days he'll bandy me along to bars with his friend and expect me to drink as well but I never felt well drinking beer at the same table with my dad.
Plus I was expected to drive him. Most times when he isnt back we'll panic knowing he is drinking and still expected to drive.
Most times I'll have to locate where he was so I'll drive or bring him home.
There was this day he was at a neighbour's place and it was eating into the night. Bottles were def involved. I legit walked to their gate, entered the house and into their presence and asked that we leave. He just laughed, said "my son has spoken", greeted them and left with me

He lost his job in 2006. I was barely out of secondary school. The intoxication increased. But we all understood and supported him especially me. There were quarrels many nights but tranquility the morning after. He never kept grudges, hell he doesnt even know how to be angry.
He'll get mad at you this minute and next minute acting like nothing happened.
But with the drinks, I'll support him sometimes to his bed. My mom would get embarrassed, nag, shout and get irritated when he drinks even at social functions you know how women are, but never me! Never! I was never embarrased. I was always happy to be around and support him during these periods sef. I realised at a young age that no one is perfect! Not you, not me, not him. So i stopped feeling shame!

He was my superman. My Alpha Male. My role model, though he drank or smoke (something he always wanted to quit) this man spared nothing to support, provide and keep our family together. Ensured all I repeat all were trained. I alone was a handful but he was always there. Always fuckin there! When I behaved badly, he was there! Performed excellently, he was! Even when I was bed ridden guess who was there? HIM! although he'll find time to take a few at intervals. He was NEVER NOT THERE!

So despite the alcohol and the cigarettes. AND INCLUDING THE ALCOHOL AND CIGARETTES, MY DAD CAN DO ME NO WRONG!
He is quite elderly now so the drinking has toned down to with his age. But he is still perfect to me!

You're a good son.