blinkz4real:


Maybe u just have 2 change the kind of girls u meet. My advice is that u try not 2 conclude on a people because of the mistake of some few. Naija gurls re not all bad, their a whole lot of good ones just check ur cycle.

thats why i said if she likes u genuinly she wont make a statement like care u take care of me.she would be more concerened about weda u care for her not weda u can spend on her.They only make such a statement when they are not attracted to the guy and the main reason for the dating is the money they can flex from the guy .so guy if ur gf has already asked u if u can take care of her and u already doing the spending then search well..she is cheating on you for sure.

XshegzzyeeiX:
Good morning. Romancelanders.
Welcome to midweek.

So I'm of the opinion that in a relationship, a man and a woman ought to care for one another. But some women feel so entitled that they only expect a man to take care of them without reciprocating the gestures.

It's very wrong for a woman to bring that statement of "can you take care of me?" when I ask her out. I brandish her a red card immediately she makes such statement.

I detest selfish women, and I believe so many others do.

Only simps welcome such waywardness.

PS: I've braced up for your criticisms, insults and cuss words.

Feminists, waddaya have to say.
Alpha males, what's your take on this matter.
White Knights, let's hear you out.

Is it right or totally wrong for a woman to pop that question "can you take care of me" when you ask her out?

Don't get the question twisted my brother, u ask her what she meant by that statement before concluding. Moreover, it's our duty as a MAn to take care of them within our power and not by force you do things to make her happy at your own detriment.

If her father who should love her more than you can't cater for her needs then who are you to do so?

SweetCunt97:
Yes. People need to have tact. But from observation, such ladies who ask such questions got many guys disturbing them and wouldn't wanna waste their time being with someone who will end up taking from her or draining her emotionally and psychologically. Personal observation is key.

Now I gat wat I are saying. U are right though. Love doesn't buy bread na money

MrBrownJay1:


thats the whole problem here, and women fully well know that...so they go straight to the point and are telling these men:"if you dont take care of me then dont come near me" and these mumus will unwillingly start paying these undercover oloshos, until a dude with more money will take interest in the babe, thats when the initial dude will realize he was dating his own self all along.

this is just auction of toto to the highest bidder...

reminds me of one story i read where this dude trained a girl in school then also trained the younger sister in nursing school and at the end of the day the girl dumped him for one guy based in malaysia and the jilted dude got so pissed that he was laying down ancestral curses as if that would work .i bet when the girl asked him if he could take care of her he never knew what that statement really meant

THUNDAR:
Seriously guys! things are not Really what they seems on the first date, just because she asked "can you take care of me" on the first date does not mean Jack, there are smart and intelligent ladies Who would purposely say annoying things on first date to see How you react, and may turn up to be independent women. just the way you keep checklists and tick Which she fails and passes so some of them do too. But some of them (a lot actually) na Akamu they say it as they feel!

The question in itself is condescending and quite belittling. I wouldn't take any lady that ask me such question seriously - its clue of her character and personality as a person. And like the op to me its an absolute deal breaker. Am not sure an intelligent lady will be this asinine.

lefulefu:
reminds me of one story i read where this dude trained a girl in school then also trained the younger sister in nursing school and at the end of the day the girl dumped him for one guy based in malaysia and the jilted dude got so pissed that he was laying down ancestral curses as if that would work .i bet when the girl asked him if he could take care of her he never knew what that statement really meant

i would understand a man trying to do everything to better the life of his WIFE, but all these women in r/ship (with the attention span of a 2yr old), thats all a waste effort. i guess to each their own misery.

here is the most silly thing: if you tell that babe that you cant help her because you are already helping your OWN sibling and your OWN parents, this babe will now try to make you feel that her needs are more important than that of your own family (or she will tell oga mumu to go hustle harder), lol!

This question is not only condescending but also totally disrespectful. Its like a man asking his wife/gf "can you satisfy me"

The backbone of any healthy romantic relationship is respect - lack of it result to more BS questions and attitudes worse than this

My friend had an encounter like this, this is how it goes
Girl: can you take care of me
Guy: what do you mean by that
Girl: like buy me things, take me out on exotic dinners, go out shopping
Guy: ok and after all this what do I get in return
Girl: good sex and support
Guy: he laughed... what sort of support
Girl: emotional, spiritual support
Me: laughed
Guy: you know what you just said defines a sugar daddy
Girl: it's not like that nau guys are supposed to spend money on their GF isn't that how they care for them
Guy: (laughed) and left
I know all this cause I was there, anyways the girl still texts him and I forgot what the point of this was

Girls keep asking this question because of the favorable response they keep getting. When a girl asks the question, can you take care of me? 95 percent of guys will answer, why not.

MrBrownJay1:

i would understand a man trying to do everything to better the life of his WIFE, but all these women in r/ship (with the attention span of a 2yr old), thats all a waste effort. i guess to each their own misery.

here is the most silly thing: if you tell that babe that you cant help her because you are already helping your OWN sibling and your OWN parents, this babe will now try to make you feel that her needs are more important than that of your own family (or she will tell oga mumu to go hustle harder), lol!

lol most men who are very generous to women tend to be very stingy to their immediate families.some u will their mom starving or hustling under the scorching sun to make ends meet yet child might be well off but just that a bulk of the son"s money is spent on women.when a woman sees that u spend money on her foolishly but ur mom and ur immediate siblings u very stingy to them why wont she dump such a guy when she has her fill

lefulefu:
lol most men who are very generous to women tend to be very stingy to their immediate families.some u will their mom starving or hustling under the scorching sun to make ends meet yet child might be well off but just that a bulk of the son"s money is spent on women.when a woman sees that u spend money on her foolishly but ur mom and ur immediate siblings u very stingy to them why wont she dump such a guy when she has her fill

these mumus deserve everything they get from putting a girl (they just met)'s need above his direct family needs... sadly, the coochie is a powerful tool used to turn men into goat pepper soup, all over the world.

kai....if their mother/siblings are going through hardship, while they spend thousands on a babe's need (in order to get unrestricted access to her toto), may the good lord of konji punish their whole destiny.

MATURELION:
Men in this 21st century should open thier eyes and regect this fvckers called hoes, remember if will Smith can get cheated on any man can get cheated on as well no matter how cute and wealthy you are, there are plenty of hoes on the street you can pick up for a night and go your way or if you are the avoidant type FVCKING subscribe to porn hub and satisfy your sexual instinct. all these women that are claiming feminism go hear am if only men and some pvssy niggas open thier eyes

And also I don't get why a man who is suffering to make ends meet will want to add extra burden on himself by dating a girl who's only offer on the table is stinking pvssy cos even girls that earn money still chop from thier boyfriend pocket, be a king and manage your goddamm life women are meant to be helpers and not recivers of help....get sense

baba your the best to ever do it.

XshegzzyeeiX:
Good morning. Romancelanders.
Welcome to midweek.

So I'm of the opinion that in a relationship, a man and a woman ought to care for one another. But some women feel so entitled that they only expect a man to take care of them without reciprocating the gestures.

It's very wrong for a woman to bring that statement of "can you take care of me?" when I ask her out. I brandish her a red card immediately she makes such statement.

I detest selfish women, and I believe so many others do.

Only simps welcome such waywardness.

PS: I've braced up for your criticisms, insults and cuss words.

Feminists, waddaya have to say.
Alpha males, what's your take on this matter.
White Knights, let's hear you out.

Is it right or totally wrong for a woman to pop that question "can you take care of me" when you ask her out?

Take care of her, na me be her PAPA?

Just Hukha,Walkha Nukha then walk away...If you know u know

MrBrownJay1:


these mumus deserve everything they get from putting a girl (they just met)'s need above his direct family needs... sadly, the coochie is a powerful tool used to turn men into goat pepper soup, all over the world.

kai....if their mother/siblings are going through hardship, while they spend thousands on a babe's need (in order to get unrestricted access to her toto), may the good lord of konji punish their whole destiny.

thats why i always say when a man spends foolishly on a woman and he gets dumped if u search thoroughly u would see he probably deserves it.If a man gives a woman anything she wants and neglects his immediate siblings he"s not being nice but being wicked.

Lucrativress:

Look at your words Sir
If you keep generalizing like this you'd be surprised what life would throw at you in a dirty package, could be a gem in a rough pack, just stop generalizing, values and morales are known through actions not always word's

Forget the mistake in his words and see what he meant. You fool

Twoclans:
Big boys are never bothered about the money they spend on their women.How much can a woman spend sef?

Babes/women hustle ohhh so that broke boys wont use you to crate threads. It is actually easier to make your own money as a woman than to depend on any man.

its create not crate , illiterate

ElasticStone:
You are very correct my G

Can you take care of me in a typical nigerian girl's language actually means "will you buy me iphones, card, take me for shopping, give me money to fix hair and nails whenever I need?"

Modified#
This is in response to some comments by some very myopic ladies (i suppose) on this thread.

Look at this scenario:
- I have a very good job that pays very well (nigerian standard)
- i hired a cook and a cleaner to take my laundry bimonthly and maintain my appartment.
- i can get s*x whereever and whenever I want. I mean it literally. I get advances even from married women in my estate.

The question now is, what exactly could a typical nigerian girl offer me. State one good reason why I should take care of her?

ElasticStone:
You are very correct my G

Can you take care of me in a typical nigerian girl's language actually means "will you buy me iphones, card, take me for shopping, give me money to fix hair and nails whenever I need?"

Modified#
This is in response to some comments by some very myopic ladies (i suppose) on this thread.

Look at this scenario:
- I have a very good job that pays very well (nigerian standard)
- i hired a cook and a cleaner to take my laundry bimonthly and maintain my appartment.
- i can get s*x whereever and whenever I want. I mean it literally. I get advances even from married women in my estate.

The question now is, what exactly could a typical nigerian girl offer me. State one good reason why I should take care of her?

THUNDAR:
Seriously guys! things are not Really what they seems on the first date, just because she asked "can you take care of me" on the first date does not mean Jack, there are smart and intelligent ladies Who would purposely say annoying things on first date to see How you react, and may turn up to be independent women. just the way you keep checklists and tick Which she fails and passes so some of them do too. But some of them (a lot actually) na Akamu they say it as they feel!

no woman with self dignity will say that bro, its a trash that can't be patched by any sugar coated excuse.
Matured and elitic women will never voice this, if u continue with such babe and she meets richer dude, she will jilt you.

And they don't realise that undermine them. useless ppl

SweetCunt97:
You crybabies should go listen to Bill Withers song "Lean On Me" and be wise. Generation on mature responsible men is fast eroding unfortunately.

generation of women dependence is going into oblivion.

SweetCunt97:
Don't be a crybaby. Abi una wan carry Placard?

We don't know each other personally, and might never. But coming to an open forum to call guys cry-cry babies over a serious issue like this shows how unserious you are with life.

NOTE: I have some serious stuff here, so I might not be replying to you again.

XshegzzyeeiX:


Nope, I would not Nah, I shall not Nay, never will I Negative!!! I ought not

NADA, I CAN'T CAN'T..

Most plan to enter a relationship without plan to uplift the man or relationship.whyyyyyyy?

Guys why Una dey fear like this? So sombiri can not ask question in peace �

jojothaiv:

NADA, I CAN'T CAN'T..

Ochuksbaba:

Always resist the urge to shalaye

I don give up already.

Happyguy201:



Forget the mistake in his words and see what he meant. You fool

Happyguy are you sure you're happy like this?
You better calm down

Love scam..

Dating a Nigerian lady is likely to be taking care of an orphan. Even a pig that will eventually go back to the mud.

Once had an encounter with one haunty...always in need of one thing or the other. You must provide everything for her. Always telling me she is my liability, even to the extent of wanting to know my monthly earnings.

In fact, most of these ladies with such entitlement mentality are from poor homes.

Rubbish!

lefulefu:

over 7 million
bro do u know u can use such money to sponsor yourself to some european countries and begin a phd programme

my brother you re right. By His grace, other professional cerficates that I have cost me more that amount and are worth more than 10 Ph.Ds both within and outside the country. Am a certified seaman and I know what it takes to to igrade when necessary

Relationship is now a career, even after break up , our shameless girls go still ask of pension. Life nor balance �


Girls oooooooo
relationship is not a poverty alleviation scheme


guys pls run away