Hi evryone,

This is a common question, but I believe it needs to be addressed because i had a personal experience. Here's my story.

I met this girl in camp, far north, we talked and i felt we had a lot in common.We became close and were most times in the company of one another. On the last day of the orientation,I told her how i felt about her. She actually said she felt the same way too. After the posting, we lost contact for a little while. We finally got talking again when she came home for the 2wks break. She gave me directions to visit her in her place of pry assignment ,of which i did. She was glad 2 see me and really hosted me well. All this while she didnt know my age, but i knew she was 2yrs older than I was. But that did not deter me. I called her every single day during the christmas break, sent her txt messages, telling her how much she meant to me. Finally on the 31st of December,2006, I wanted to know my stand, so I asked her out. She was hessitant at first, asked me my age, I told her, Asked me if I was aware she was older than I was, I said yes and i dont think it means a thing as long as u love the person, of which she agreed, then she asked me "if I had plans for her", I told her I did but the reality of those plans depended on the both of us though she expressed fears that her mother would object her dating or marrying a younger guy.
After the holidays we lost touch because there was no service at her place. A month later, I rmb we were having our clearance and i was seriously ill, she sent me a txt reading: "Sorry, I think it we should just be friends, I'm really sorry".

The reason I got to know later was because[b] I was younger than her[/b] and her mother would totally object. Since then I still de search.

Please I need ur responses

well, i dont think its about age. it should be about maturity. believe me i have met really old guys who are just so unbelievably immature. i used to have the same views as ur girl until i actually dated a younger guy (2uears younger) and i never fro a minute felt older than him cos he was so mature in his ways even sometimes annoyingly so. on the other hand though, i guess it depends on how many years and how both parties look physically. i dont want to end up with a guy who looks like my son!

Thanks angel101, not bragging, I know I'm mature and many girls have said that, But whats d big FUSS about this age thing. I just dont understand.

Hmm, it's a bit tricky, I'm older than my partner. I'm living in fear he will leave me for a younger woman. He reassures me he loves me. He treats me so well,but, will he still love me tomorrow when the wrinkles starts to show? I'm ten years older than him. We love each other so much, my family love him.

hell no!!!

You met a good and sincere girl, i have also had this experience. I met a girl, she was my course met then in the Uni and we became friends and started dating in 300 level.
well, after two years of relationship, i realized she was older than me but one and half years. Though i thought i was older than her by six months, she hid her true age until i came across her birth certificate in her house. I was furious, she was my first date and i have indirectly presented her to my family.
To cut the long story shut, we broke up and she is married now and has a son for a guy that is older than her with five years. She still calls me and has apologized for hiding her age since i was actually all that she wants.

@ topic: Naa!

bubblegum:

hell no!!!

Heaven no nko?!

Moyola:

@ topic: Naa!

Heaven no nko?!

hell no plus heaven no
lol

My aunt is 5 years older than her husband so I guess for me its ok.

gabry which part of asia are you?

I can date and marry a lady older than i am provided it doesnt tell on our physical appearance.the age difference should not be much.
The guy who want to kill himself because of older lady becarefull.you may not no how much you love a gal untill you start sleeping together i tell you.most of us guys mistake sexual urge for love.the two are different.ladies will want to play safe.
first study her character before you can assure her of love.it will be heart breaking if after you have had a round of sex or two with her and wasted her time you now say you no longer have interest.this goes a long way to affect their emotion and indirectly affects the nation.so lets treat ladies well because they are mothers of the nation.GBAM!

no

kemisuga:

no

aha u cant just say no, what r the mitigating factors

YES.

ovince:

All this while she didnt know my age, but i knew she was 2yrs older than I was.

Only 2years!? You're still in the same age bracket.

i hate it wen ladies use dat age of a thing as a yardstick to choosing a guy.

For me it a no. I would never be able ro trully respect a guy Im older than

age is no excuse as long as there's maturity and good sense in what u are doing - younger or older

OYINBOGOJU:

gabry which part of asia are you?

Malaysia

@OP

It depends on the girl as you've seen from the posts. A couple of years back, i met a girl who became my friend later on. On a certain day, i asked her if she could go out with a guy or even get married to a guy she's older than. She said she could only if he can act like he was older. The answer really surprised me, and i respected her for it.

debest1:

aha u cant just say no, what r the mitigating factors

Typical debest1 . What's goan? I thought you were supposed to send me your email addy.

iice:

Hmmm, maturity is what is important to me not really the age. Some people can be immature at an older age, others can be mature at a young age. So long as the gap is not too much i could date one. If na like 8 years gap, chaiiii that one go hard oo!

Twice you've surprised me today. Are you sure this is not a cloned iice?

Surprised me by your comments. When am expecting a normal hard response from you, you go ahead and give a very mild one . Like in this case, i never thought that'd be your feelings

I don't know you enough. . .am still learning

Really? Well that;s nice to hear cus u can be real sweet when you're mellow, ya know that?

So u remembered that one? Wow! I'm speechless

Yes yes i know. What i was tryna say is, u could be, but you'd rather not, cus why? U're afraid to be for reasons known to you so u prefer to be a real hard a** b*ch!

Na everything you dey expect?

Don't you think people draw their own conclusions from the impressions you give them.

I'm sure you get some sort of satisfaction when they've shown their innermost suspicions

@post

i date someone im older dan or younger dan depends on d persons maturity.

Am lyk 2months older than my bf n i tease him about it all the time but i still give him d respect he deserves, its no big deal

NEI NEI NEI (no in HINDU LANGUAGE) REASON-I am quite young mysef,cant imagine dating sum1 younger cos i kud be naughty and stubborn atimes,need sum1 to put me in order.wdnt want sum1 younger to do that.i ve always dated guys 3-5 yrs older than i am.