In situations of discovery of massive Paternity frauds, uncontrollable cheating and adultery and series of attempted murder by a partner, is Divorce the way out or Separation?

One of my Sunday School sessions sometime ago said Divorce is not the way out even if a partner made several attempts to kill you through various means in your house and that it's better to separate. Another group opined that since you are both married you are not expected to leave the house. That by leaving you are giving room for the enemy to take over your home.

Most Churches are also of the view that Divorce is no solution as it is held scripturally that God hates divorce. And I read that divorce is permitted if one partner have been sexually unfaithful. But such permission is due to our wicked hearts. But I still find it difficult to comprehend why some of our religious leaders in religious gathering still won't opt for a divorce and neither a separation in a case where paternity, maternity fraud and adultery which have been kept secret for years were later found to be discovered.

Same but English is the difference

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if the victim decides to forgive his/her partner, then the union can go on provided the abuser desists from the act. otherwise, the victim should get a divorce if he/she wishes to.

Which way?

bnahab

Annulment is the right way.

massive Paternity frauds, uncontrollable cheating and adultery and series of attempted murder by a partner...


Haba do you want to die first before you decide?

Take a bolt pls

Better to divorce than to live a life of hate and regret.

If it's violent, get out. Don't die in the union. That's all I'm gonna say.

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The Bible was written based on happening back in the days although with hindsight of the future. What this means is that it is not exhaustive and there are question marks with contemporary happenings since there are so many laws and guides that are not explicit to fit into modern day.

For instance, there is rarely or NO record of paternity fraud back in the days. I have heard stories of churches, dissolving marriages based on partners lying to each other (before marriage) e.g the man not disclosing his impotence before getting married. There are also instances where marriages are dissolved (after marriage) because of issues as paternity fraud.

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Probably the mantra...that States " for better or worse"

Prefer separation because you can still come back to b together and u can still keep your property n moni intact without losing half of ur property

Just look at the crimes you listed up there:

massive Paternity frauds, uncontrollable cheating and adultery and series of attempted murder by a partner

and you're still asking if its divorce or separation. My brother I have a third and better option for you: Annulment. It means to wipe out the marriage as if it never existed. The only reason I would even advise you to 'manage' divorce is if any of the children involved is yours.

Why divorce when you can easily separate and entangle

Violence - - - - separate asap
Unrepentant infidelity.... Separate, do a risk assessment, go for counselling, reappraise current behaviour against his /her good points vis a vis your list of complete no-nos

Set your likelihood scales with 2nd + 3rd scenarios.

Only then take a step with timed interventions


Sounds mechanical but sure helps guide the process.

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I think seperation is still better but in a serious case I'll opt for divorce.



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I think separation is the best as the other party can repent his/her wicked way and come together.

It baffles me.. Why should 2 persons get married when dey are not faithful to each other and later get divorced?

Jesus said some situations u need to dust ur feet and leave . Marriage is not a do or die affair . Some partner are the devil and one day Dey kill u if u stay

Separation is highly recommended especially in cases where there’s a threat to life of one of the partners. You can always come back after issues are resolved.

Okay! Playing with semantics! I'm watching..!

you wan die inside married wey no gree work?

That group saying a partner should remain in an abusive marriage even at the sight death is wrong. If abuse has gotten to that height, then its advisable to " separate " for sometime while the problem is being resolved. Don't stay there and die!

All that said, don't marry outside the faith to avoid all these brouhaha. Of course a real Christian marriage will not experience this kind of abuse/domestic violence especially to the point of killing each other. Only those who marry "pretending Christians" will likely experience such. That's why there's need to take time and pray before jumping into marriage with any bro or sis cos most of them are not genuine.

Shalom.

Better b divorced than to end up in the grave.... Stop suffering and smiling... The way things were when the Bible was written isn't the same now