Why does his family hate me ?

After years of marriage they still cant accept that there son, brother ect. is happily married.
Tried by best, always been friendly and showed respect, fullfilled all there wishes (gifts,money).

Must say, only the girls have a problem with me, any male in his family likes me.
My husband says i should not bother, it is not my faults but still whats the problem ?

Ps. Im white.

Nottheone:

Why does his family hate me ?

After years of marriage they still cant accept that there son, brother ect. is happily married.
Tried by best, always been friendly and showed respect, fullfilled all there wishes (gifts,money).

Must say, only the girls have a problem with me, any male in his family likes me.
My husband says i should not bother, it is not my faults but still whats the problem ?

Ps. Im white.

thats why

thank you, that was so helpfull :-x

@Nottheone

Maybe you being white has nothing to do with it. MAYBE. This is just a universal thing. Haven't you heard things like this in your country as well? We can't please everybody in this world. Just let things the way they are without going overboard to impress all and sundry. Your post shows you have an understanding, supportive husband and that is what matters at the end of the day.

What do you mean by fufilled all their wishes for money and gifts? So they call you and ask you for money and gifts and you just send it?

Focus on ur husband and no one else.

My mom experienced the same, and she is black and my dad is black.
Don't let it get to you. focus on your husband.

With time, they realized they were being retardedly childish after it was clear no one paid them any mind.

well the most important person (your husband) said you shouldnt bother,then let it alone.
Do not try to out-doyourself to please them.Just continue to be yourself,nice,respectful and still firm.

Are you in good terms with his parents?If you are,good for.If not,work on developing your relationship with them.

I always like to give but its gone to the extreme that now they only call when they need something.
I do have a good relationship with his mum, we allways talk on the phone (actually she was the one
who told her son to go for a white girl as he had a hard time back home) but any other female in
the family dislikes me.

Thank you for the replies, its really the best to concentrate on my husband only, by the end
i have to live with him and not with them.

When only the females in the family dont like you , than its because they are jealous!


Exspecially when you are a beautiful white woman these women can be so jealous and stupid!

I dont know what is wrong with this kind of people just ignore it and live your life but dont send money or gifts again! Dont allow them to use you like this!

They dont have any moral? They can take gifts from a person who they dont like?!

Ignore them, they will come round soon. Just keep on doing the way you are doing.

My dear u just ve to ignore them like u ve been told by several person hère.
It clear that u cant plz everyone in thé family.

What Will it change if all of them had liked u? If u ré complaining about ur husband not loving u anymore,
i Will be sad for u, but it's not thé case.

Kindly behave as if u dont even notice them, they Will start coming around.
I advice u stop giving them money, as they may think u ré doing it to buy their heart.

I used to ve semilar problem with my inlaws initially, i also ve same thinking as u because they voiced it out that they were scared that as a black girl i may hurt their son and return bk to m'y Country.
But as Time goes on, it was not what they thought. My hubby played a very intelligent rôle, today we are all happy.

@poster, the fact that you want to please your husband's family shows you are a nice person. Just keep up the good work & remain very friendly. I advise you continue to give gifts. That way nobody can have any cause to critise you. And continue to please your husband's mother & all who are friendly. On the long run the sisters will retrace their steps & be friendly. The most important thing is that your husband loves you. I want to add that with prayers, your husband's sisters will soon come flocking around you. Good luck.

Nottheone:

Why does his family hate me ?

After years of marriage they still cant accept that there son, brother ect. is happily married.
Tried by best, always been friendly and showed respect, fullfilled all there wishes (gifts,money).

Must say, only the girls have a problem with me, any male in his family likes me.
My husband says i should not bother, it is not my faults but still whats the problem ?

Ps. Im white.

dont bother much dear as long your are doing what seen by other people as good those speak on your behalf and see the good in you