usj:
Masturbation and porn go hand in hand!
One of the side effects of it is premature ejaculation and bonding with virtual naked women instead of the wife.

Please:
1. Get him to see a doctor to run some medical test, you just have to be more persuasive since he had previously Said no, let him know it's for his own good as it could be related to cardiovascular disease.

2. Let him do more physical exercise that he loves, and kegel excercis for men too.

3. Is he hypertensive? That too can be a factor.

4. Pressure from you can also affect him sexually. If he is constantly thinking about how to satisfy you or you constantly reminding him about the sex lasting for only 5 seconds, that too can affect him.

5. Is he under stress? If he is then do something about the stressor if you can.

6. Tell him to relax during sex, no need rushing it. Use doggy style or ride him gently yourself, that will reduce sensitive of his penis and make him last a little longer.

7. Communicate with him during sex and let him learn how to use his fingers to excite the clitoris during pre sex, sex is not all about thrusting, let him learn how to suck the breast, the clitories and bite the ears gently. That itself can even make you sing a new song.

To number 4: NO.
5: NO
7: that is the main ish women enjoy. pre-intimacy. He doesn't believe in it.
6: he comes alot faster when I ride him
3: no
2: okay, I will suggest that.
1: I will also discuss that with him.

Thank you for your input and suggestions.

Amopeekun:
With all you wrote up there, pls get your own stuff and do the do in his presence now.

Buy your s£x stuff and get into your birthday suit or some damn sexy looking lingerie and get down to business right there while he is on his own thing. He is your husband, so no shame. Anytime you feel like getting down and he is not interested, get into the wash room, pamper your body with some nice body oils and get down to business. Let him hear and know.

Abeg no let the kids hear or know o. All the best

thank you

RTSC:
I honestly don't know what to say.

Your husband has to admit there is a problem.
The ball is in his court.

That is what is going on everywhere in Abuja.
Sex starved wives on rampage.

I would have recommended intimacy gadgets but I know it won't be as satisfying when you have already tasted the real thing.

Too bad.
May God help you sha.

Why are Abuja husbands starving their wives of sex?

This is serious.

True I want the real thing.

Amopeekun:
He is interested in porn
And she is getting frustrated
He doesn't see anything wrong in depriving her
She can always start from somewhere to relieve herself and pass a message across.
He might understand. After all, she said it all started this January

If I start Masturbation in his presence, it become worse.

BLUELemon:
It depends on your location. Get Aya also called tiger nut( I think the Yoruba people call it imu mu), dry ginger, and Labidun... I don't know the English name of labidun
Blend the tiger nut, dry ginger and the labidun to form a juice... Make sure there is a higher quantity of tiger nut in the ingredients compared to the others.

Oh yes, make sure the paste is thick. Be giving him to drink and you will see changes

Also feed him Groundnut 1hr or 30minutes before the show.

Stop feeding him indomie and all these funny food. Feed him solid food like eba or well prepared semo.

Thank you. We are in Kogi state.

FinewineNg:


Why are Abuja husbands starving their wives of sex?

This is serious.

True I want the real thing.

Their husbands are big men.
They don't have time. Business and politics.

The women go for young guys in their 20s and 30s with a lot of time and stamina.

I don't know how to advise you.
You may need to opt for intimacy gadgets at the end and manage it like that.

It's more of a psychological issue then, the issue is 1 he has always been a porn addict and you both were enjoying it at some point, 2. If I get U correctly he use drug has stimulant. 3 he's not into pre-intimacy... To tackle this you guys need to sit down and discuss things, he needs to detoxify his body( Stay off drugs and drink tons of water and natural fruit juice). Spice up things and let him know he needs to go down on you and vice versa. Just up your bed games but not with drugs or stuff. Another option is get delay spray for him, it actually works too.

FinewineNg:


Yes, he has always been a lover of porn.

We used to have a healthy sexual life and when such happened in the past, he got drugs himself which he used and they worked. But this time, he just doesn't want to make efforts to find solution.

Thanks for the suggestion on the fruits. I will be getting them.
No, I don't deny him sex at night or anytime.
Another thing is the lack of pre-intimacy. That is what I enjoy most and that is what he says its too much work.

FinewineNg:


Thank you. Reporting to his family or anyone is completely out of the picture as it will be seen as "shaming my husband".
At least with nairaland, I am completely anonymous and I know I can get some help here.

Regarding the porn thing, sadly for me, I am not into Masturbation thingy. I don't enjoy it. I like to be worked on by a man.

Oyo is my case for now

You can't remain like that forever

With time you will develop interest in it

Well, you know your husband best...pray you get the solution you seek sis. It is well.

FinewineNg:


If I start Masturbation in his presence, it become worse.

Get a sideboo, maám.

Theyoungmatron:
Get a sideboo, maám.

You guys are not sexually compatible. Simple!

Your husband's problem is the porn he's watching. so he seems more sexually attached and attracted to those characters than you. It's also said that masturbation affects a man's sexual life, so you might want to look into that. Like when you see him doing that you can join and offer to help him so you guys can bond again otherwise you'll gradually lose him to that dirty act.

Didnt you discuss your sex life before tying the knot? Hmm.. it is well with you

Once he acknowledged that he has a problem then the solution is near, since he’s a porn addict, it might be hard and if he’s very stubborn it could be a big problem. Pray and talk to him when he’s very happy. It’s a serious case. Beg the mods to help move the topic to front page, maybe someone might help. Good herbs works a lot, but a person that doesn’t understand that he has a problem would be difficult to give it’s solution. Pray his heart softens and he realizes that he has a problem you are not comfortable with. Meanwhile ,


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Surprised no one mentioned the weed.
Number one culprit in premature ejaculation in men. Especially those addicted to it.

Porn or masturbation is hardly the problem.
He needs help to quit excessive weed smoking or he’ll never make it past a minute into the act.

Chronic male weed smokers are a joke in bed

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FinewineNg:
Please ooo help. What is the tested and trusted solution to Premature ejaculation? My husband doesn't last 5 secs during sex. Immediately he penetrates me, he just cums just like that when I am preparing to enjoy the show. This have been going on for months and he isn't bothered.
The other time his di#&k was inside me and it went flaccid.

He says there is nothing wrong with him.

He doesn't kiss, he is not the romantic type, even to play with my nipples is a big job for him.

I am frustrated to the point I am always Hot 247. My v. Jay is always wet. I need to be made good love to. For 2 months now, no sex, he just masturbates in the middle of the night while watching p@rn on his phone (he is a porn addict and heavy hemp smoker).

I told him we should see our family Doctor but he insisted there is nothing wrong with him.

I have a healthy sexua l libido and I enjoy pre-intimacy nd se x alot but here I am, starved, frustrated, constantly dripping and hungry for it. We have 4 kids and my libido increased after child bearing. I'm in my middle thirties and he is is his mid forties.

I am a 100% clean woman and I maintain very healthy oral and general body hygiene so its not a case of me being a dirty woman.


[/b]Nairalanders please what healthy treatment options are available, where can we get it?[b]

Help me. I can't sleep with another man.

Thank you for your suggestions.

There's only one person that can help your husband 100% on nairaland if you want.

Klass99:


Lol, how do you know this?

scientific research

FinewineNg:


For a very long time. As far back as January this year.

It's not about issues in his mind. He is feeling he doesn't owe me sexual satisfaction.

Is this feeling recent or did he always feel this way and unfortunately, your libido increased?

What is your husband like outside sex?

He can ReBoost his sexual Wellness Naturally.

First he need to stop watching porn and masturbating.

Then he should be taking a simple recipe..

➡️➡️onions mixed with garlic and honey

Check out this particular thread for more enlightenment

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https://www.nairaland.com/6121559/many-men-cant-last-long

FinewineNg:
Please ooo help. What is the tested and trusted solution to Premature ejaculation? My husband doesn't last 5 secs during sex. Immediately he penetrates me, he just cums just like that when I am preparing to enjoy the show. This have been going on for months and he isn't bothered.
The other time his di#&k was inside me and it went flaccid.

He says there is nothing wrong with him.

He doesn't kiss, he is not the romantic type, even to play with my nipples is a big job for him.

I am frustrated to the point I am always Hot 247. My v. Jay is always wet. I need to be made good love to. For 2 months now, no sex, he just masturbates in the middle of the night while watching p@rn on his phone (he is a porn addict and heavy hemp smoker).

I told him we should see our family Doctor but he insisted there is nothing wrong with him.

I have a healthy sexua l libido and I enjoy pre-intimacy nd se x alot but here I am, starved, frustrated, constantly dripping and hungry for it. We have 4 kids and my libido increased after child bearing. I'm in my middle thirties and he is is his mid forties.

I am a 100% clean woman and I maintain very healthy oral and general body hygiene so its not a case of me being a dirty woman.


[/b]Nairalanders please what healthy treatment options are available, where can we get it?[b]

Help me. I can't sleep with another man.

Thank you for your suggestions.

Masturbation is the major cause of his poor erection and pride won't allow him to accept it

Get a drug enhancer and put just a little portion on his meal and be the one to take the ride because he will definitely get erection use it that period and watch his reaction if he will notice anything

Just because he can Masturbate and you guys are done with kids, he believes he is done with sexual satisfaction

Assuming it happens at the early stage of your marriage that means he may not be able to pregnant you and won't accept its his fault

This are one of the secret pains women goes through yet they expect you to be happy

FinewineNg:
Please ooo help. What is the tested and trusted solution to Premature ejaculation? My husband doesn't last 5 secs during sex. Immediately he penetrates me, he just cums just like that when I am preparing to enjoy the show. This have been going on for months and he isn't bothered.
The other time his di#&k was inside me and it went flaccid.

He says there is nothing wrong with him.

He doesn't kiss, he is not the romantic type, even to play with my nipples is a big job for him.

I am frustrated to the point I am always Hot 247. My v. Jay is always wet. I need to be made good love to. For 2 months now, no sex, he just masturbates in the middle of the night while watching p@rn on his phone (he is a porn addict and heavy hemp smoker).

I told him we should see our family Doctor but he insisted there is nothing wrong with him.

I have a healthy sexua l libido and I enjoy pre-intimacy nd se x alot but here I am, starved, frustrated, constantly dripping and hungry for it. We have 4 kids and my libido increased after child bearing. I'm in my middle thirties and he is is his mid forties.

I am a 100% clean woman and I maintain very healthy oral and general body hygiene so its not a case of me being a dirty woman.


[/b]Nairalanders please what healthy treatment options are available, where can we get it?[b]

Help me. I can't sleep with another man.

Thank you for your suggestions.

I hate hearing this kind of stories from married women. Why would some men starve their wife's of sex? It's annoying.
Op I feel sorry about what u are going through.

cococandy:
Surprised no one mentioned the weed.
Number one culprit in premature ejaculation in men. Especially those addicted to it.

Porn or masturbation is hardly the problem.
He needs help to quit excessive weed smoking or he’ll never make it past a minute into the act.

Chronic male weed smokers are a joke in bed

Speaking from experience?