Mumben:
Gd morning nlders, this is a family issue.
In a family where one amongst all is more privileged than the others as a result of exposure to opportunities, is it adviceable to not show your siblings the way for fear they might become rude and ungrateful in the long run?
Worthy of note is that this privileged one doesn't Dole out money anyhow whether to siblings or parents and even gets angry when his not so buoyant junior does things that involves money for d family. He sees d gesture as trying to compete with him.
Pls nlders, what is ur take on this? Honest replys

blackpanthar:


Let us first know what your position is in this family.

blackpanthar:


Let us first know what your position is in this family.

Mumben:
Gd morning nlders, this is a family issue.
In a family where one amongst all is more privileged than the others as a result of exposure to opportunities, is it adviceable to not show your siblings the way for fear they might become rude and ungrateful in the long run?
Worthy of note is that this privileged one doesn't Dole out money anyhow whether to siblings or parents and even gets angry when his not so buoyant junior does things that involves money for d family. He sees d gesture as trying to compete with him.
Pls nlders, what is ur take on this? Honest replys

Unnerve:

A witch is not just someone who flies at night using plantain leaf for aerodynamics or transforms into a bird for the culture, a witch is also this person in your post. He/she should be related with only after wearing safety gloves and goggles.

Mumben:
He sees d gesture as trying to compete with him.

pocohantas:




A wizard please. Leave we witches out of this, he is not one of us. Thank you...

Mumben:
Gd morning nlders, this is a family issue.
In a family where one amongst all is more privileged than the others as a result of exposure to opportunities, is it adviceable to not show your siblings the way for fear they might become rude and ungrateful in the long run?
Worthy of note is that this privileged one doesn't Dole out money anyhow whether to siblings or parents and even gets angry when his not so buoyant junior does things that involves money for d family. He sees d gesture as trying to compete with him.
Pls nlders, what is ur take on this? Honest replys

fykes:
Op. What u saying happens in many Ibo families especially with 1st born who happens to be richer. I am not saying its peculiar to first born but I have seen it in many of them.
It's a character flaw of greed and selfishness expressing itself in the person's insecurities. It happens everywhere and it's a painful thing because no one knows tomorrow and nobody should play god over another.
I also see it as a sign of weakness and immaturity for a grown up man to be so openly insecure to the point of trying to dictate to other men or run their lives and affairs.

Ishilove:

I don't know what kind of mentality this is, some families like mine compete to pamper and spoil our parents and anyone slacking gets tongue lashed by the eldest. See, let whoever is capable contribute his own quota and ignore the agbaya big brother. Don't wait for him to show you the way; make your own way.

Mumben:
I am one of d siblings, I am neither d privileged one nor the junior one with a generous heart. I don't want to be biased, I want to know if d privileged one is right by his assumptions.

fykes:
Op. What u saying happens in many Ibo families especially with 1st born who happens to be richer. I am not saying its peculiar to first born but I have seen it in many of them.
It's a character flaw of greed and selfishness expressing itself in the person's insecurities. It happens everywhere and it's a painful thing because no one knows tomorrow and nobody should play god over another.
I also see it as a sign of weakness and immaturity for a grown up man to be so openly insecure to the point of trying to dictate to other men or run their lives and affairs.

Ishilove:

Lmao

pocohantas:

A wizard please. Leave we witches out of this, he is not one of us. Thank you...

fykes:
Op. What u saying happens in many Ibo families especially with 1st born who happens to be richer. I am not saying its peculiar to first born but I have seen it in many of them.
It's a character flaw of greed and selfishness expressing itself in the person's insecurities. It happens everywhere and it's a painful thing because no one knows tomorrow and nobody should play god over another.
I also see it as a sign of weakness and immaturity for a grown up man to be so openly insecure to the point of trying to dictate to other men or run their lives and affairs.

LordKO:





You're a typical tribalistic and chauvinistic element, "Ibo" this, Ibo that - you can't be a bona fide Igbo man, so don't come back to tell me you're one, or stop projecting your useless family on others. Personally, my eldest brother is one of the most selfless human beings I've ever known, and I'm certain majority of other bona fide Igbo sons and daughters will honestly say the same about their eldest siblings, covertly or overtly. So, it amounts to foolishness for a bumpkin like you to mete out campaign of calumny against the Igbos in this regard.

Do yourself good and direct your mention to the fools who brought you into this world, or the ones who may urge you on here, because I won't dignify you with a reply. This thread isn't about Igbos.

@OP

I hope you haven't mistaken your unsubjuagble well-to-do brother for a stingy person; I have always seen this happen. Also, I hope you have not mistaken his informally non-transferable knowledge means of success as unwillingness to show others the way to amass riches. More so, make sure you haven't overestimated his wealth. It's always easy to cast aspersions on others, especially when coming from the receiving end. In fact, I won't be surprised if it's established that you're the self-absorbing one, because self-absorbing people and insatiableness and hypocrisy are inseparable. Stay resourceful.

All the same, I don't hold brief your eldest brother.

pocohantas:




A wizard please. Leave we witches out of this, he is not one of us. Thank you...

Mumben:
My goodness, you sure understand the scenario perfectly, yes he is the diopkara and wants to play 'god'. My thoughts is if u don't want to be of help to others, you shouldn't feel bad if your far younger and generous junior does it with joy. I want to advise d junior to henceforth do things without his knowledge so as to avoid problems. I hate bitterness amongst siblings.

pocohantas:




A wizard please. Leave we witches out of this, he is not one of us. Thank you...

Mumben:
Gd morning nlders, this is a family issue.
In a family where one amongst all is more privileged than the others as a result of exposure to opportunities, is it adviceable to not show your siblings the way for fear they might become rude and ungrateful in the long run?
Worthy of note is that this privileged one doesn't Dole out money anyhow whether to siblings or parents and even gets angry when his not so buoyant junior does things that involves money for d family. He sees d gesture as trying to compete with him.
Pls nlders, what is ur take on this? Honest replys

LordKO:





You're a typical tribalistic and chauvinistic element, "Ibo" this, Ibo that - you can't be a bona fide Igbo man, so don't come back to tell me you're one, or stop projecting your useless family on others. Personally, my eldest brother is one of the most selfless human beings I've ever known, and I'm certain majority of other bona fide Igbo sons and daughters will honestly say the same about their eldest siblings, covertly or overtly. So, it amounts to foolishness for a bumpkin like you to mete out campaign of calumny against the Igbos in this regard.

Do yourself good and direct your mention to the fools who brought you into this world, or the ones who may urge you on here, because I won't dignify you with a reply. This thread isn't about Igbos.

@OP

I hope you haven't mistaken your unconquerable well-to-do brother for a stingy person; I have always seen this happen. Also, I hope you have not mistaken his informally non-transferable knowledge means of success as unwillingness to show others the way to amass riches. More so, make sure you haven't overestimated his wealth. It's always easy to cast aspersions on others, especially when coming from the receiving end. In fact, I won't be surprised if it's established that you're the self-absorbing one, because self-absorbing people and insatiableness and hypocrisy are inseparable. Stay resourceful.

All the same, I don't hold brief your eldest or well-to-do brother.

Mumben:
My goodness, you sure understand the scenario perfectly, yes he is the diopkara and wants to play 'god'. My thoughts is if u don't want to be of help to others, you shouldn't feel bad if your far younger and generous junior does it with joy. I want to advise d junior to henceforth do things without his knowledge so as to avoid problems. I hate bitterness amongst siblings.

pocohantas:




A wizard please. Leave we witches out of this, he is not one of us. Thank you...

TransAtlanticEx:
I can guess you people are from Imo state with this kind of backward thinking.Very childish,timid and poor people especially the mbaise ones
I too like my people abeg.Anambra is for family progress.
You can see this level of fuckery only with Imo people.
You shouldn't be surprised na una way

Igbaf:
I stand to be corrected,I'm from Anambra,n married to Anambra. My late dad was the diokpara and carried all his siblings along and made sure they stood their feet. My brother too carries everyone along. I'm married to a diokpara too who is very selfless. So it's a matter of the individual involved. He doesn't know God and is quite selfish. If not he'll know that all he has is a privilege from God. Imagine extending his stinginess to his own mother.

TransAtlanticEx:
I can guess you people are from Imo state with this kind of backward thinking.Very childish,timid and poor people especially the mbaise ones
I too like my people abeg.Anambra is for family progress.
You can see this level of fuckery only with Imo people.
You shouldn't be surprised na una way