story is definitely not clear, there has to be more to it. The daily mail isnt known for its accuracy!

First things first, if there was legitimate fear for the child in the hands of his parents, since he is underage he would have been taken away by social services. There would never have been any sort of court order to begin with!
secondly its against the law to forcefully send your child away in the UK-british citizen or not, thats why the forced marriage laws protect them. While it might not specifically be for forced marriage, the child is still being sent away against his/her will and subject to torture and so on.
thirdly it sounds to me the judge is more annoyed that the woman refused to listen to the courts, rather than because she sent her child to nigeria

the boy has to be some kind of idiot sha, knowing very well his parents are tryna send him back why will he agree to go nigeria in the first place??

read detail of the whole saga
http://www.saharareporters.com/press-release/edirin-onojeta-idogun-case-judicial-terrorism-uk

Sagamite:

Now let me go on the other more plausible summarisation of what appears to be going on:

* The boy is constantly in fights in school.
* The boy is being into drinks and drugs, just like a lot of youths in UK that Nigerian parents dread their kids to be like.
* The boy socialises all night till 4am, just like a lot of youths in UK that Nigerian parents dread their kids to be like.
* The boy claimed a practice that does not exist in his culture, more so when he has educated parents.
* The boy is going to do "Business and Media", typical subject choice for academically underperforming black kids that UK universities frown on.
* The boy was sent to a fine school in Nigeria immediately he arrived.

He has all the wrong trademarks.

All the evidence point to the fact that the most plausible happening is that it is the same dejavu of another Nigerian child raised in the West turned wide and the Nigerian parents are trying to reclip the wing before he becomes another statistic of failure/crime/knife victim like alot on Nigerian UK-based kids of recent. But, in this case, it is too late, this child is worse than most and even more cunning than they envisaged.

All this has arisen from your imagination, yu have made up all sorts of conclusions about a case you have little facts about and concluded about imaginary scenarios based on your own prejudices.
Morals are not being judged here but adherence to the laws of a country in which an individual 'willingly' chose to be resident.

If you believe you can't properly raise a child in the west then don't take them there. There are a thousand and one other Nigerians who have no problems raising up their children there and are still raising up their childrent over there without any problems.

^^^

Sagamite is taking the press release by Mrs Erhire's Legal team or support group on Sahara reporters as fact. Click on the link below to read it.
http://www.saharareporters.com/press-release/edirin-onojeta-idogun-case-judicial-terrorism-uk



However the link below is the press release from Edirin's Legal team
http://www.dawsoncornwell.co.uk/en/documents/press_release_Onojeta-Idogun.pdf


I think in order to be objective one has to read both and or at least wait to read the court transcripts before making a judgement.

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this spoiled sagamite dude thinks UK is like nigeria where there parents have stolen all the money, and are above the law. keep dreaming

agitator:

this spoiled sagamite dude thinks UK is like nigeria where there parents have stolen all the money, and are above the law. keep dreaming

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@Angiefan

How do you know the boy is gay?

Hmmmm, see as Oyinbo dey mess up the life of Nigerians who have themselves, exposed themselves first!
"If the wall did not crack, how can a lizard enter there-in"?
This is what divorce causes.
Think before you send that your husband packing, the repercussions might take long to come but when they come, you'll be on your own.

^^
@Lastpage

Excellent breakdown, although I do disagree with one or two things but won't go into that now.

However, in regards to this:

And what would happen to Madam, if after the jail term is served and the young man is still unavailable in U.K?

Mum will receive a lifetime criminal record which she will have to declare each time she goes for a job and there could even be a risk of deportation if she doesn't already have a British passport. It may also have and effect on her should she will to go to America in future.

I think the forced/arranged marriage is a long term view and not something that the family want to happen right away. They just want him to be in Nigeria where they believe he can be purged of his homosexual tendencies, finish his education and probably get married by the age of 21.

The family may succeed by keeping the son in Nigeria but he will forever remain a homosexual and so they need to ask themselves if it will be better for him to be gay in Nigeria or in the UK where views on such lifestyles are more liberal. I would hate to hear of Edirin been beaten to death because of his sexual orientation.

I notice that the UK media and the UK lawyer's press release have both been very careful not to mention the name of the Trust that Edirin approached. However the name of Trust was printed fully in the press release on Sahara Reporters and I feel that could probably do a lot more harm than good. One of the commentators on Sahara Reporters even threatened to kill Edirin for being gay - I conclude that Nigeria is not a safe place for a young openly gay teen to be and he should be brought back before the beatings go too far or some other drastic thing happens.

@Lastpage: Why did you edit your post?

Kennedy Emetulu has potentially put the boy's life in danger by mentioning the charity involved. if only there is some reporting restriction so he can be done for contempt.
For someone who claim to be a lawyer, his press release is a disgrace.  Below is the Full text of Edirin lawyers press release which makes more sense than the rubbish statement from Kennedy Emetulu and his RNC gang.
Nigerians always let emotions rule their head.

http://www.dawsoncornwell.co.uk/en/d, eta-Idogun.pdf
__________________________________________________ _________________________
Media Release
Dated: 15 February 2011
Embargo: None
Media Release: Edirin Onojeta-Idogun
__________________________________________________ _________________________
1. Edirin Onojeta-Idogun was born on 10 March 1993 he is now aged 17. He is represented by
Anne-Marie Hutchinson of Dawson Cornwell as his solicitor and next friend. He is a ward of
court. His exact whereabouts are unknown.

2. His mother is Lydia Erhire she lived until recently at an address in Newham, London which
had been the family home for a number of years.

3. His father is John IDOGUN he is a special adviser to the Governor of Delta state and resides
in, Okwa, Asaba Nigeria.

4. Edirin has lived in London for over seven years. He has been granted indefinite leave to
remain in the United Kingdom. Up until he was taken to Nigeria in July 2010 his home was in
Newham London. He studied for his GCSEs at a local school and had recently arranged to
transfer to B6 College Hackney to study Business and Media with a view to developing a
career in business management here in the UK.

5. During the summer of 2010 Edirin approached an organisation which assists young people.
They provided him with practical and emotional assistance as Edirin was fearful that he
would be removed from his home and taken to Nigeria.

6. The organisation also assisted him in obtaining a Forced Marriage Protection Order from the
Principal Registry of the Family Division on 8 July 2010 as EDIRIN feared he may be taken to
Nigeria and forced to marry against his will.

7. Edirin last attended school on 12 July 2010. He was removed by his mother and taken to
Nigeria against his will on or about 16 July 2010. Mother denies this. His mother
subsequently returned to the United Kingdom on 16 October 2010 leaving Edirin in Nigeria.

8. The organisation through their links in Nigeria was able to arrange for Edirin to be placed in a
"safe house" between 29 August 2010 and 6 September 2010. During this period he was
able to telephone the organisation and reported that;

    * a. He had been subjected to quasi religious ceremonies or exorcisms to purge him of
    * his resistance to getting married.
    * b. He does not wish to get married.
    * c. He wished to return "home" to the United Kingdom.
    * d. That he had been beaten by various members of his family.

9. On 6 September 2010 his whereabouts were discovered by his family. The family with the
assistance of the police placed him with a family member. He was then placed in a boarding
school – The Life Forte International School.

10. The mother arranged for Edirin to swear an affidavit asking for the court proceedings in
London to be stopped. The court and various professionals have also received documents
reportedly from Edirin asking for the court proceedings to be discontinued and recording
that he is content to remain in Nigeria. The mother also produced a DVD recording in which
Edirin can be seen asking for the English court proceedings to be stopped.

11. The organisation is worried that the affidavit, letters, DVD and the telephone calls may not
accurately reflect his wishes and feelings and were not freely made.

12. Edirin's case before the Family Division in London has been conducted by Ms Anne-Marie
Hutchinson OBE of Dawson Cornwell solicitors acting as his legal next friend. In proceedings
before the Federal High Court Abuja in Nigeria his case has been conducted by a senior
human rights lawyer Carol Ajie C.N AJIE & CO.

13. As a consequence of cooperation between the English and Nigerian lawyers and of the
Nigerian High Court Edirin was collected from Life Forte International boarding school in
Ibadan, Oyo State Nigeria, which his mother had placed him in on Sunday 30 January 2011.
He was transported to an hotel where he stayed on Sunday night.

14. During the course of Sunday he was able to telephone Anne-Marie Hutchinson and told her
how happy he was that he would be returning to London on Tuesday. He subsequently emailed
her expressing his thanks.

15. On Monday, 31 January 2011 Edirin was provided with the necessary emergency travel
documents to allow him to travel home to England. His passport had been taken from him
by a family member, and despite court orders, his aunt refuses to return it to him.

16. On Tuesday, 1 February 2011 Edirin went to Abuja airport to board a British Airways flight to
London scheduled to depart 10 AM Nigerian time. He went through passport control and
was about to board the plane when he was arrested by immigration officials. It is not clear
why he was detained but he was prevented from leaving Nigeria.

17. The Nigerian press reported his arrest and subsequent detention.

18. The High Court sitting in London has indicated that on the evidence presented to it that;

    * a. Edirin was habitually resident in England before his removal and remains so
    * b. his removal from England was contrary to the Forced Marriage Protection Order
    * made on 8.7.10
    * c. Edirin is at significant risk whilst in Nigeria and requires the taking of immediate
    * steps to protect his current position and secure his immediate return to England
    * d. Edirin’s welfare and best interests would be best served by him being returned to
    * England forthwith

19. The court has made orders directing Lydia Erhire and John IDOGUN to return EDIRIN to
England immediately. These orders have been registered in the Federal High Court Holden at
Abuja Nigeria on 3 December 2010.

20. On 3 February 2011 the court found that Lydia Erhire was in breach of a High Court Order
but adjourned sentencing until February 14th 2011. She was directed to sign various
documents to assist in the repatriation of Edirin from Nigeria by midday on 4 February. She
was warned that if she did not co-operate a bench warrant would be issued for her
immediate arrest.

21. The mother failed to sign the documentation. On 4 February seeking a bench warrant
seeking her arrest which was granted but suspended until 5.30 pm that same day to give
mother a further chance to comply with the court’s order.

22. The mother attended the committal hearing listed 14th February 2011 at the Royal Courts of
Justice. She was sentenced to serve an 8 month custodial sentence at Holloway Prison and is
the first person in the UK to be jailed for breaking laws on forced marriage. Several members
of the same Urhobo tribe as Edirin were present at the hearing, which was held in open
court. Mrs Justice Macur said, in sentencing Lydia Erhire, that Erhire had lied and that she
was not satisfied that she was “truly remorseful for the imperilment of Edirin’s welfare”.

23. Edirin’s solicitor Anne-Marie Hutchinson has said as follows: “I am extremely anxious about
Edirin’s welfare. He said that he has been beaten and has been subjected to procedures
which aim to exorcise him of his disobedience to his parents in terms of his desire not to be
married. He has told me that he wants to return ‘home’ to England. I do not know where he
is. After all that has happened I could not be satisfied that any telephone call or written
communication from him represents his true wishes and that he is able to communicate
freely. He must now return to England so that he can speak to the court directly.”

24. Anyone with information in respect of the whereabouts or wellbeing of Edirin Onojeta-
Idogun, or information that could assist the court in this matter is requested to contact
Anne-Marie Hutchinson of Dawson Cornwell Solicitors at 15 Red Lion Square, London WC1R
4QT (Tel: 0207 242 2556).
__________________________________________________ _________________________
Anne-Marie Hutchinson OBE
Dawson Cornwell
15 Red Lion Square
London WC1R 4QT
Tel: +44(0)20 7242 2556
amh@dawsoncornwell.com

its not as easy as u imagine,

well, i've heard of forced marriages but never actually seen any?

and the one i heard of was from decades ago [like the 60s or something] involving a girl who wanted to marry her boyfriend but instead was betrothed to someone else. She ran away but was brought back.

very sad story but i doubt the same still happens these days. Definitely not the norm anyway, so i seriously doubt this current tale. And in the rare instances where it does happen, it often involves the girl being forced, not the boy.

the mother should appeal.

lord have mercy.

My dear people,

How many Nigerian boys of 17years, south of the Niger, have been forced to marry in the last 200 years? NONE!
This is just a story cooked up to give this case a bite, and to punish the mother of the boy.
The boy is gay, his mother is awed, she wants to send him back home to be disciplined and straightened up. boy doesnt know what to do, he contacts gay friends, they advise him, the advice didnt work; so he lies that he is about to be forced into marriage. mother is jailed for sending him home and not letting him come back.

Please whoever is holding this boy, give him 100 strokes of bulala (sharia style) every day his mother remains incarcerated. And when you are done, please design some tribal marks on his face (ogbomosho style) let him know that he is a true Nigerian! Nonesense!

Please we need pictures of the boy. Let us spit on him, piss on him anywhere we see him! By jailing the mother, the UK has shown us how protective and "tolerant" of silly practices they can be. We, as Nigerians, should also show the world how resilient we are in pursuing good home training and better future for our children.

If the UK makes an example of the woman, let Nigerians make an example of the boy too! After all he is still bearing Urhobo name and not Jack John Stone or some other funny English names.

http://www.saharareporters.com/press-release/edirin-onojeta-idogun-case-judicial-terrorism-uk

If it is indeed true that he was showing homosexual tendencies and his mother sent him to Nigeria to be straightened out then it is safe to say that he needs to be sent back to the UK where he will not be abused. I believe the forced marriage allegation especially if you people are saying he might be gay. I am sure that people are ignorant enough to think that if they force him to marry he will all of sudden see the light

It is clear after reading most of the comments here, that many of the people on Nairaland have never lived in Nigeria before nor even visited this country. How a person who has ever lived in Nigeria will say that there is a possibility of forced marriage for a male child of 17 is beyond reason. Am shocked that people that call themselves Nigerians can actually make such assertions and it goes to show the level we will go in order to justify whatever the Oyibo people say about us.

For the avoidance of doubt, there is no way, I repeat, no way, a 17 year of MAN can be forced to marry in Nigeria, be he gay, hermaphrodite or whatever. The boy's father is a special adviser in Udaghan's government. The boy is presently schooling in a private secondary school (one of the most expensive in Nigeria) in Lagos. To date we have not seen the girl (maybe a 14 year old) he was being forced to marry. He has not also mentioned the name of any such girl. Or maybe they are still sourcing for the 14 year old? Will he also be forced to get an erection and sleep with the girl?

We should not let objectivity be thrown out of the window just because we want to patronize our oyibo masters.

^^^
It really does not matter if the boy was lying or not ( infact I suspect he was misbehaving at home hence the mama taking him to Nigeria and the boy or his lawyer just made up the forced marriage story, No enlightened parent marries off a 17 year old boy!)  but the instant the court granted the protection order, it was very silly of the mother to take the boy out of the country. How hard is that to understand .

UK might not be the best place in the world but one thing you can't fault them on, is the fact that they take their child protection rights very seriously

We all understand the woman's pain but the law is the law, I do feel for her but again the law is the law. E ma gbe ise yin wo ilu elomiran.

The only advice I can give the woman is after the jail sentence, if she insists on not bringing the boy back, she should move back to Nigeria. It is a shame sha, the relationship between mother and son might be forever ruined.

I still cant believe that we (Nigerians) are still sleeping.

Can somebody tell us what "Dua national" means?

Is there any evidence that shows that the boy was sent to Nigerian for force marriage?

What is the Nigerian government doing on this case? or are they just folding their arms while the mother case was in court?

If the woman has British and Nigeria passport, dont let us forget that both the governments should know about this case before the judge make the final decision.

Do both governments (British and Nigeria) have copy of the case before the court date?

There are so many things we need to look into if a person is a citizen of a country.

My advice to some people on here - If you dont know much about a particular country, dont come here and run your mouth like a tap water.

This is a devilish society. That woman is great. She made a sacrifice for her sons future that an oyinbo would never understand. For those of u who think once gay always gay, I know a guy who was very gay when growing up but now he is straight. The woman has a right to protect her child from all this evil influences. Homosexualism is a wrong choice ppl get to make and get addicted to, but with help they can change. God bless his mama! Let him stay in 9ja, u would see a diff cos he won't meet brainwashers here.

*Sigh*

I wish people would at least apply a bit of common sense before wearing their patrirotism cloak and crying victimg. There facts are there and clear as day.

The boy with his own free will approached a gay organisation for help. They didn't seek him out

This gay organisation regularly deals with young teens who have come out of the closet, especially those from families with strong cultural values who may consider having  a gay son an embarassment.

This gay organisation regularly deals with gay men from all cultures and ethnic groups who fear that they may be made to get married in order to cure their homosexual afflictions.

This organisation normally aids the trouble individuals to file court orders to protect their human rights.

Given those fact, Edirin's story, whether he is pretending to be gay or not is not unrealistic to these people and they would have given him the benefit of the doubt.

This organisation has probably heard the same story before as may the Judge in question. The article below states that there have been a rise in forced marriage orders for gay men - including those with African backgrounds so there is a clear precedence in this case.

http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2010/jul/01/gay-men-forced-marriage

The Judge is not going to waste time investigating whether gay men are forced to marry in Nigeria. Their only concern is Edirin's human rights and Mrs Erhire was implicat in breaching the order in place.

http://www.hmcourts-service.gov.uk/cms/14490.htm
to prevent a forced marriage from occurring
to hand over passports
to stop intimidation and violence
to reveal the whereabouts of a person
to stop someone from being taken abroad

Dream chaser:

This is a devilish society. That woman is great. She made a sacrifice for her sons future that an oyinbo would never understand. For those of u who think once gay always gay, I know a guy who was very gay when growing up but now he is straight. The woman has a right to protect her child from all this evil influences. Homosexualism is a wrong choice ppl get to make and get addicted to, but with help they can change. God bless his mama! Let him stay in 9ja, u would see a diff cos he won't meet brainwashers here.

That's disgusting! What woman in her right mind would lay down with a man that has been exploring another man's backside!

Once a gay always a gay. Gay's may get married and pretend they are straight but then they probably having discreet homosexual liaisons on the side. Definetly not worth it.

Besides Nigeria is not a safe place for a gay man

this is so sad, after the jail term then what?

@Angie Fan

@Lastpage: Why did you edit your post?

That was very "quick' of you!
I took the issue "too personal" but on second thought, l felt "our people" dont really like the TRUTH (as in the hard truth).

I feel for the parents. Its sad when you remember that "tiny tot" in your hands, when he was barely one week old, and what he now turns out to be!
WHAT A WASTE?

I hope ma people will learn one or two "salient things" from this wahala:
Does the "lone parent" upbringing have anything to do with the boy's eventual turn-out in life?
Two Good Heads are better than one!
Parents should stick together, at least for the sake of their children.
NOT WHEN ITS TOO LATE

vanitty:

^^^
It really does not matter if the boy was lying or not ( infact I suspect he was misbehaving at home hence the mama taking him to Nigeria and the boy or his lawyer just made up the forced marriage story, No enlightened parent marries off a 17 year old boy!)  but the instant the court granted the protection order, it was very silly of the mother to take the boy out of the country. How hard is that to understand .

UK might not be the best place in the world but one thing you can't fault them on, is the fact that they take their child protection rights very seriously

We all understand the woman's pain but the law is the law, I do feel for her but again the law is the law. E ma gbe ise yin wo ilu elomiran.

The only advice I can give the woman is after the jail sentence, if she insists on not bringing the boy back, she should move back to Nigeria. It is a shame sha, the relationship between mother and son might be forever ruined.

GBAM!

When the boy is 18, under both Nigerian and UK law he is no more the ward of anybody and can do whatever he wants to do with his life.

lacidi:

It is clear after reading most of the comments here, that many of the people on Nairaland have never lived in Nigeria before nor even visited this country. How a person who has ever lived in Nigeria will say that there is a possibility of forced marriage for a male child of 17 is beyond reason. Am shocked that people that call themselves Nigerians can actually make such assertions and it goes to show the level we will go in order to justify whatever the Oyibo people say about us.

For the avoidance of doubt, there is no way, I repeat, no way, a 17 year of MAN can be forced to marry in Nigeria, be he gay, hermaphrodite or whatever. The boy's father is a special adviser in Udaghan's government. The boy is presently schooling in a private secondary school (one of the most expensive in Nigeria) in Lagos. To date we have not seen the girl (maybe a 14 year old) he was being forced to marry. He has not also mentioned the name of any such girl. Or maybe they are still sourcing for the 14 year old? Will he also be forced to get an erection and sleep with the girl?

We should not let objectivity be thrown out of the window just because we want to patronize our oyibo masters.

Thank you.

It is RIDICULOUS to say a 17 year old MALE will be forced into marriage in Southern Nigeria where they do not practice forced marriage.

You are right some people probably have never lived in Nigeria and go by the stereotype that the western media feeds them. I would not be surprised if some think most people in Nigeria are starving and live on UN food aid since some Africans are like that.

seyibrown:

Forced marriages DEFINITELY happen in  Southern Nigeria but not involve 10 -13 year olds!  I had a 17 year old friend while in secondary school whose Father adamant she had to marry her Quranic teacher despite it being known to all that she had plans to marry an older boy who attends the same Quranic school. She left home, moved in with the boy and had a child within the space of a year!

Even older educated Nigerians are forced to marry those they don't want to by their parents! FORCED MARRIAGES DO HAPPEN IN SOUTHERN NIGERIA!

How can it be forced marriage when she eventually married the boy she wanted to marry?

Try and understand the difference between pressured arranged marriage and forced marriage.

Someone saying "I am your father and you should respect my wishes of who I want you to marry otherwise I will disown you" is different from "I will kill/beat you if you refuse to marry this person. You have no choice, you are dead if you marry any other person or run away and your marriage is taking place in one month" with possibly the person is even locked in a place and forced to go with the process.

Gemma11:

*Sigh*

I wish people would at least apply a bit of common sense before wearing their patrirotism cloak and crying victimg. There facts are there and clear as day.

The boy with his own free will approached a gay organisation for help. They didn't seek him out

This gay organisation regularly deals with young teens who have come out of the closet, especially those from families with strong cultural values who may consider having  a gay son an embarassment.

This gay organisation regularly deals with gay men from all cultures and ethnic groups who fear that they may be made to get married in order to cure their homosexual afflictions.

This organisation normally aids the trouble individuals to file court orders to protect their human rights.

Given those fact, Edirin's story, whether he is pretending to be gay or not is not unrealistic to these people and they would have given him the benefit of the doubt.

This organisation has probably heard the same story before as may the Judge in question. The article below states that there have been a rise in forced marriage orders for gay men - including those with African backgrounds so there is a clear precedence in this case.

http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2010/jul/01/gay-men-forced-marriage

The Judge is not going to waste time investigating whether gay men are forced to marry in Nigeria. Their only concern is Edirin's human rights and Mrs Erhire was implicat in breaching the order in place.

This is probably the best thing you have said on the issue so far.

Now read you own Guardian article and notice 3 things:

1) The emphasis on the Asian (Indian) sub-continent, not Africa. That sub-continent is where the act of forced marriage is prevalent and why I kept on saying Ughelli is not Pakistan.

2) The emphasis on GIRLS. It is pretty much quite hard to force even boys in those Asian sub-continent countries to marry, hence it is usually girls.

3) Furthermore, note the article did not say which African country. Now from the way you apply dialectics and your position on this issue, I am pretty sure most likely your formative years was in the West and most likely you are still in your formative years. So let me tell you, Africa is a BIG place with a wide range of COMPLETELY DIFFERENT people with DIFFERENT ways. When they say Africa in their ignorant bundling, it does not necessarily mean Nigeria. When they said in the article lazily that forced marriage happened in Africa without specifying which country, they might have meant in places like Somalia, Sudan or Mauritania, that does not mean it is weighty evidence it happened or can happen in Nigeria, ESPECIALLY in a SOUTHERN Nigeria tribe that is not even Islamic. Just like when they lazily said forced marriage also happened in Eastern Europe, I can GUARANTEE you it did not happen in Poland, Croatia, Czech Rep etc, it must be places like Azerbaijan, Albania or Turkey. So when anyone makes such claim to you about a 17 year old MALE being forced into marriage in Southern Nigeria, I would expect you in the future to really say "Bullshit", the possibility is virtually ZERO!

@Gemma11, sadly, I can see you are one of the brain washed ones. Too bad you don't believe in redemption. Atleast, you must have met some bisexual men right?

Dream chaser:

@Gemma11, sadly, I can see you are one of the brain washed ones. Too bad you don't believe in redemption. Atleast, you must have met some bisexual men right?

So you are sayign that you would willingly and knowingly marry a man that was previously a homosexual or would have no problems betrothing your daughter to such a man??

I wouldn't.

@Sagamite

I didn't read all you said but I got the gist of it.

In English law 17 year old Edirin's wishes take precedence over his mothers. The facts are that Edirin is still in contact with his British lawyers and has made his wishes very clear; He doesn't want to be in Nigeria and doesnt want to go to school in Nigeria. Edirin also states that he is being beaten and made to go through exorcisms and wants to come back to England where he has a place at college to do his A'levels.

If Mrs Erhire refuses to comply with the law of the land she chose to live in then she should go back to Nigeria. Simple as ABC!

As for Edririn, he will be 18 in a few weeks and so no doubt he will be be back in England with the help of the British Embassy unless he is unlawfully arrested by Nigerian immigration again.

strange

@Gemma11, yes I would. because I do not have a problem with homosexuals but with homosexual activity. Love is not about which dick gets into what hole or which hole a dick gets into, unfortunately love is more complicated than that.

@Dreamchaser

I also have no problem with homosexuals otherwise I wouldn't be here defending Edirin's choices. However sleeping with a man who has indulged in homosexual activity and who is likely to continue to do so undercover while in sham relationships with women is extremely risky healthwise.

It was only the other day I was watching a show on Oprah where a lady had contracted HIV from her husband who had been sleeping with men on the downlow while being married to her. There are many ladies who have the same story to tell and many have also died from AIDS.

Just in case you didn't know the risk of getting HIV is significantly higher between homosexual men than they are in heterosexual relationships between a man and a woman.

Loving someone else is one thing but you should love yourself more not to put yourself at risk. Given what I know, Ii would never put myself or loved ones at risk of being married to a man like that because I don't believe that they can change and even if they tell you they have then they are probably doing it behind closed doors.

http://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/Why-Bridget-Sued-Her-Husband-for-12-Million-Dollars

Also google Eddie Long and Ted Haggard.

I am not judging these men but I don't think they should live a lie at the risk of hurting others.