Mistake Number 1
Making the First Move

Never make the first move
You may think that there is nothing wrong if you walk up to a man you admire and express your feelings to him.

You may have the opinion that a woman should go all out for what she wants. Going all out for what you want is true in the world of business where no one is likely to give you what you want provided that the rights of others are not violated.

In the world of relationship with men, things are different. If you want a truly caring relationship with mutual reciprocation of love, do not make the first move. If you want a mutually fulfilling and complimentary relationship, never make the first move.

When a woman makes the first move, many men think she is too cheap and desperately looking for a man. They think she is loose and can easily run off with any man who smiles at her.

Many men will accept her proposal but only to abuse her and to dump her. They will exploit her sexually and financially and drop her. When a woman makes the first move, she will be the one striving to please the man rather than the other way around.

A woman who makes the first move indicates that she has a weak character and lacks control over her emotions. Many men will not respect such a woman. They may accept to date her for the purpose of having access to her body but when it comes to commitment to marry, they will take off.

Do not listen to the women liberation movement who tells you to make the first move to approach a man. In the Western countries where the women make the first move, the divorce rates are higher.

Remember that the Bible says that he who finds a wife finds a good thing. It's the man who has to do the finding and has to make the first move.