Good evening people please I need your advice regards to this, I got separated from my ex girlfriend last year because she told me her travel plans abroad I was a bit sceptic About the nature of job she’ll do there, she’s the type that’s ready and willing to do anything to help her family.

After everything I told her not to embark on the journey that she should be patient with me, once my business picked up I’ll care for her and her family, she refused and traveled last year, few months before she left she gave me some money to add to my business I wouldn’t want to state the actual amount but a bit huge. Of recent her family really suffering because my ex had issue with the person that took her abroad so she’s passing through difficult time though she’s hiding some info from me since she’s not able to make money, she called me of recent that I should please do anything to help her family.

Now I’ve got a new girlfriend I told my new girlfriend about the issue but she said I shouldn’t give my ex family any money, because we ain’t together anymore that if I do she’ll leave me

Please people help me what should I do? My mind is really disturbing me and I still love my ex I wish I’ve a way to bring her back to Nigeria so we can start a family I don’t care the type of job she went there to do and I don’t mind what she has been through. She did so much for me, she made sacrifice that this my new girl won’t do, I don’t even know if my new girlfriend loves me or because of my money.

Though I love my new girlfriend but part of me is with my ex I don’t know if she’ll will be willing to return though I’ve not discussed it with her. And now my new girlfriend threatening to leave me if I assist or give back the money my ex gave me as support for my business before she travelled to her family I’ve been down for days thinking so much.

Deep down you already know what you should do.

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Truthlord12:
please I quoted you because you’re the first to comment on this thread I’ve done the needful help me to copy the message below and edit your first post to tell others I’ve done the needful I’m tired of many insults on my mentions thank you. I can’t edit my original post I would’ve done so myself


“”” I’ve done the needful I couldn’t go to my office today just to settle my ex girlfriend family.

I even gave them more than enough Thank you all for your advice. Though my relationship with my current girlfriend just ended Few hours ago, she left because I insisted on helping my ex’s girlfriend’s family.

I just got to know this afternoon my girlfriend had personal issues with my ex girlfriend, I found out they were in same faculty, because we all graduated from same university but I never knew they both know each other and had personal issues. I was surprised today my girlfriend made a vow that if I give the money to my ex family she’ll cut contacts with me and she did because I actually did what’s right for my mind to be at peace.

I don’t like the way some people here been raining insults on me but why? Some people are so quick to judge it’s not even up to four days my ex called me to help her family and I was not planning to hide anything from my current girlfriend I even had intentions of marrying her this year anyway now I’ve lost both.

How could I not help my ex girlfriend family? I’m not wicked, from my writeup you all could see I loved her.


At least my mind is free now thank you’ll for the insults and advice. “””

You know what to do.
Do it!

You better give that lady her money if u don't want thunder to fire u there.why is that it usually difficult for some men to return any money give to them dere ex

Make i no talk my mind

Firstly, that your current GF no be better woman, if you continue seeing her, she go drive away every of love ones.

Secondly, help your ex family with immediate effect.

Oga go and drop her money and move on with your life.


You better don't collect 1k to pay 10k....

Confused wailers everywhere.....
Well-done sir..
Op hope you are not day dreaming or something, Someone help you out when she was about to leave the country, the money she ought to have given to her family she sacrifice it for you. Bussiness has started booming now she requested for your help you are there saying trash my girl this my girl that.
Why didn't you tell your girl friend the amount of money she gave you when she was leaving? Since you can't keep your mouth shut and do what ought to be done. My friend will go and help her family.

SIMPISM is a disease whose cure is a dose of REDPILL 3 times a day 24/7.

Emancipate yourself from simpish.

Lol, I'll leave this one to NL females.

I'd really love to read what they have to advise regarding this situation.

Kemimarch16:
You better give that lady her money if u don't want thunder to fire u there.why is that it usually difficult for some men to return any money give to them dere ex

please no need for insult. Should I assist my ex’s family and lose my new girlfriend? What if my ex don’t want to come back to the country I’ll lose two of em. Please give me a reasonable advice not insults

Truthlord12:
please no need for insult. Should I assist my ex’s family and lose my new girlfriend? What of if my ex don’t want to come back to the country I’ll lose two of em. Please give me a reasonable advice not insults

So jux cos you want to help your ex family, you had to open your big mouth to spill to your girlfriend..Who made some men this stupid for god sake? .... Something you should have given her family without thinking about it, you had the temerity to announce it on NL.... I pity your type dude, your disloyalty won't make you go far.

Truthlord12:
please no need for insult. Should I assist my ex’s family and lose my new girlfriend? What of if my ex don’t want to come back to the country I’ll lose two of em. Please give me a reasonable advice not insults

Just think within yourself how u will feel if u are the one in the position of your ex

Kemimarch16:
You better give that lady her money if u don't want thunder to fire u there.why is that it usually difficult for some men to return any money give to them dere ex

Why is it difficult for girls to returnall the money their ex spent on them after breakup?

Back to op, the girl gave you money which you tagged "a bit huge" to support your business. You don't need anyone to tell you the right thing to do. Oga help her family. If i may ask, what has this your new girl friend contributed to your life that she will tell you not to help someone who contributed to your life?

First 3 comments made were from girls because money is involved, even encouraging him

Do you really have to create a thread for this?

Well my humble submission is that you should know that your current girlfriend is just flowing with the current tide, (if you know what I mean).

About your ex, she was and still is your soul mate , her actions towards you only spoke one word(true love).
Please uncle help that family, they really do need it at the moment, their daughter saw the future, hence she invested in a fertile land (you)...

So pls do the right thing and wait for things to unfold naturally..
All the best

Truthlord12:
Good evening people please I need your advice regards to this, I got separated from my ex girlfriend last year because she told me her travel plans abroad I was a bit sceptic About the nature of job she’ll do there, she’s the type that’s ready and willing to do anything to help her family.

After everything I told her not to embark on the journey that she should be patient with me, once my business picked up I’ll care for her and her family, she refused and traveled last year, few months before she left she gave me some money to add to my business I wouldn’t want to state the actual amount but a bit huge. Of recent her family really suffering because my ex had issue with the person that took her abroad so she’s passing through difficult time though she’s hiding some info from me since she’s not able to make money, she called me of recent that I should please do anything to help her family.

Now I’ve got a new girlfriend I told my new girlfriend about the issue but she said I shouldn’t give my ex family any money, because we ain’t together anymore that if I do she’ll leave me

Please people help me what should I do? My mind is really disturbing me and I still love my ex I wish I’ve a way to bring her back to Nigeria so we can start a family I don’t care the type of job she went there to do and I don’t mind what she has been through. She did so much for me, she made sacrifice that this my new girl won’t do, I don’t even know if my new girlfriend loves me or because of my money.

Though I love my new girlfriend but part of me is with my ex I don’t know if she’ll will be willing to return though I’ve not discussed it with her. And now my new girlfriend treating to leave me if I assist or give back the money my ex gave me as support for my business before she travelled to her family I’ve been down for days thinking so much.


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Thinking of helping the family of your ex who dropped huge sum of money to support your business is out of place biko. Just go ahead and render more than help to them quickly.

Truthlord12:
please no need for insult. Should I assist my ex’s family and lose my new girlfriend? What of if my ex don’t want to come back to the country I’ll lose two of em. Please give me a reasonable advice not insults

How much has this new girlfriend dropped in ur life? It's obvious she's wicked and selfish! How does any of this got any anything to do with helping a family?

Must u tell d so called girlfriend u helped ur ex family? Weak nigga

Truthlord12:
please no need for insult. Should I assist my ex’s family and lose my new girlfriend? What of if my ex don’t want to come back to the country I’ll lose two of em. Please give me a reasonable advice not insults

Just shut it and go help that family.

Truthlord12:
please no need for insult. Should I assist my ex’s family and lose my new girlfriend? What of if my ex don’t want to come back to the country I’ll lose two of em. Please give me a reasonable advice not insults

lol lol lol

Don't be an ingrate, help her family. Why did you even tell your current gf in the first place?

Truthlord12:
please no need for insult. Should I assist my ex’s family and lose my new girlfriend? What of if my ex don’t want to come back to the country I’ll lose two of em. Please give me a reasonable advice not insults

She's not your wife to tell you who to help or not to help.
What is your heart telling you?

Girl friend ooo
Not a wife,
Let her go, if she desires.
Or you signed a contract girl friend with her in the law court

the best way to go about this is PRE - TRUTHS

tell your current girl you helped your ex family and you kinda owe ( or like a thank you) to them considering your ex helped your business in which she (current girl) is also enjoying.

Her reaction would give you an insight to the kind of person she is

if she ends up being cool with it then it a win win

But if she stops you from lending a helping hand then she is a ....***&&(you said no insults)

That you're questioning whether to help someone who helped you (gave you a large amount of money for your business) is appalling.

Truthlord12:
please no need for insult. Should I assist my ex’s family and lose my new girlfriend? What of if my ex don’t want to come back to the country I’ll lose two of em. Please give me a reasonable advice not insults

If you don't help her family, well, you have just confirmed the notion that ladies should never invest in men they are not married to. Not one kobo!

Some one that gave you money. Guy you get mind ohh. You are supposed to help without asking our opinion

There are sumthinz better left unsaid, y on earth would u tell ur girlfriend u wana help ur ex. Help d girl' family if u want to and stop making it look complicated

@OP
This matter is straightforward.
There is nothing to think here.
Please call the girl and her family and ask how you can help, and help them fast.

You see, there is one thing men do not play with; loyalty.
This lady has been loyal to you, shown commitment to your success, made sacrifices to see you succeed.
It will be so wrong for you to be aware that her family is passing through difficult times and you fail to act, even if she did not tell you.
If you are capable and she is willing, try and "extract" her from where she is.

True friends are proved in rough weather.
That girl has "proved" herself to you, and you know it.
Never allow anybody to outdo you in good deeds.

As for your present girlfriend that is giving you ultimatum on money she does not know how it was made, I just want to say that is a very red flag you should not ignore.
She appears to be extremely selfish and incapable of supporting you to make the right calls. Such has brought the many men to ruins. Beware!

Be loyal, Bro. See this favor that girl (let’s not call her your ex girlfriend) did you in the past? Pay it forward.

You’re enjoying the benefits from the huge capital she gave you; let her family feel a bit of it. Employ one of her brothers or sisters if she has one. Please do not just send a lump sum to them as it wouldn’t help in the long run.

Your new girlfriend can leave. Has she sent you money yet? Nah? Brother, when they said love is never enough, they actually never factored a financially useless girlfriend in the equation.

What I don't understand is why you needed the new lady's permission.