*RAISING A GENERATION OF WEAK CHILDREN*

It's your fault. You started this. You started it long time ago when you resolved that your children would not pass through the difficulties you went through. Your love for them made them weak.

Your parents prepared you for the challenges ahead. They allowed you to solve many of your problems. They only guarded and guided. They allowed you to go to WAEC office to check your WASSCE result. You even travelled to Ikoyi to check UME and PCE results. But you consider your children too young and inexperienced to do anything for themselves. The same children that you put in school at age 2 have suddenly become too young.

You rushed them through childhood thinking cognitive achievements would see them through. They can't even keep their own records. When they register for exams, you keep photo cards and slips. You will keep result checkers too. When results are out, you rush to cafes to check and print them. You followed them everywhere and show them everything as if they were blind. You follow them to register for JAMB, your phone number is on the registration form, you stayed in the car on the exam day, immediately after exam, you zoom them home.

They never get the chance to socialize. They can't even discuss contents and conduct of the exam with fellow candidates. You won't let them stay back a second but you stayed back on the day of your own exam. You made new friends and all of you, strangers to one another, went to buy snacks together. You were all talking and smiling as if you had known one another for years but your children can't do this. "What else are you waiting for?" is the question from your raised voice.

When results are out, you will receive the notification. You will be the one to go and print the result and start thinking of how to get admission processed. Finally when admission is secured, you will still be the one to go to banks and pay all fees. You will also travel down to look for their accommodation. Unfortunately, you can't follow them to campus, you would have preferred to attend every lecture with them. You inevitably, relax the apron string at this stage and allow them to face life by themselves for the first time.

They now have to, for the first time in their entire life, do things by themselves and for themselves. There's no more mom and dad to think, act, predict, assume and foresee events any more. Then the vicissitudes of life come knocking. They fail eight four courses out of nine in 100 level but struggle to move on. When it happens again in 200L and 300L, they consider all the hardships of the last two years, the suffering is magnified in their weak minds, they find no one to talk to, they blame themselves and you for creating the hardship, thus they resolve to opt out of life.

Dear parents, allow your children to grow up. Allow them make their mistakes, build a level of dependence on themselves and chart their own course. I know you are quite rich, but allow them experience a level of hardship. You should even induce a degree of hardwork around the home to check how they can survive outside the canopy of your feathers. Stop raising weak children because the world out there is for the strong.

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Well written. side effect of helicopter parenting.

Why the blame start? It takes God to let your children be.Some parents don't want their children to go through the hell,they went through.Its all for love and not to damage the child.

give dem waec and jamb special center's

This is why we have more children in adult bodies: adults who whine and cannot take responsibility for their choices or adults who do not realize that every action has its consequences.

When they leave the coverage of their parents, they rely on the government, media, church, mosque, friends, etc. To continue thinking for them.

It is why depression is on the rise: they cannot endure a little detour from the mapped up plan which is what makes life life.

Well said. Many parents did not allow their children grow up in the name of love. Some even go as far as buying results and jobs for the kids and when the realities set in and such children faces a challenge/set back, they feel that is the end of the world.

JaneYave:
Why the blame start? It takes God to let your children be.Some parents don't want their children to go through the hell,they went through.Its all for love and not to damage the child.

Hmmmmmm

I am not sure you read through Ma

In doing that, you raise weak children and in turn adults who can not do anything for themselves



A typical example

I am presently dealing with a parent who have been processing his child’s application to begin her masters at age guess

19

Not bad you would say

But I have never spoken to this girl

I personally wrote the personal statement

I don’t want to start talking about other things here

But when you finally release these children into the ‘wild’

What you see is what you get

Any real life experiences


Let’s share

So others can learn

cassidy1996:
give dem waec and jamb special center's

This is now the norm in Nigeria

GboyegaD:
Well said. Many parents did not allow their children grow up in the name of love. Some even go as far as buying results and jobs for the kids and when the realities set in and such children faces a challenge/set back, they feel that is the end of the world.

And then they reach out to Snipper

bukatyne:
This is why we have more children in adult bodies: adults who whine and cannot take responsibility for their choices or adults who do not realize that every action has its consequences.

When they leave the coverage of their parents, they rely on the government, media, church, mosque, friends, etc. To continue thinking for them.

It is why depression is on the rise: they cannot endure a little detour from the mapped up plan which is what makes life life.

Enter into a relationship with them


You have opened adult education extension

At least 30-40 percent childhood independence is essential for the growth and development of a child into a man

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Enter into a relationship with them


You have opened adult education extension

Hahahaha @Adult Education Extension.

You can't blame parents, Mistakes these days are too costly. Back then they are allowed to grow,make mistake and learn, these days one may not live to learn. It was a safer world then. However I believe in moderation,yes parents should sometimes allow children make decisions but under close or invisible watch.

Palema007:
You can't blame parents, Mistakes these days are too costly. Back then they are allowed to grow,make mistake and learn, these days one may not live to learn. It was a safer world then. However I believe in moderation,yes parents should sometimes allow children make decisions but under close or invisible watch.

Gbam