Too many guys whine about girls who refuse to have sex with them, take them as just friends or are vain. But lest we forget, in the majority of these blokes, the girls or ladies never went to them, they were the ones who chased, courted and even begged for the attention of these women to date or marry them.

In most cases the women are not to blame for the disappointments, frustrations and failures of the men in relationships, because the men often do not tell the women what they actually wanted.

To save yourself from wasting your precious  time and resources, it would be smart and wise to tell her what you are really after. A platonic or erotic relationship. Don't ask her to be your friend and then later harass her for sex. Be bold and tell her the truth. If you want her to have a sexual relationship with you, please mister, say so without beating about the bush.

The earlier she knows your true intentions, the better for both of you. You don't ask for ordinary handshake and then demand a hug. Excuse me, it is not by force or deceit. Do not assume a relationship when it is only friendship. Even if she holds your hand, don't jump to conclusion that she wants you when she is only being nice. Tell her what you really want from her. She has the right to accept it or reject it.  When you play the Smart Guy to lay a girl, do not whine about her problems later.

AMEN!!! Put it out there first- either she is with it or not. Most men will be surprised!

@poster, Tell them o! Some guys dnt take NO for an answer!

no wahala! hey dear sweetie pie, i find it difficult to express myself when my balls are about to explode. would mind going on a raunch with me. i guess this one will work.

@op and supporters, you are not being fair to guys. even the ladies are at fault in this. when you come forward with your want they tend to ask you to be a friend first.

orikinla dat what we mean by END OF DISCUSS.
JUST TELL, BABY I WANT U 2 BE MY FU-CKING MATE?
BABY JUST SAY YESSSSSS!!!!!!

@orinlinka: i like des word of urs . Many guys fail to define their reletionship. Well done.

orikinla dat what we mean by END OF DISCUSS.
JUST TELL, BABY I WANT U 2 BE MY FU-CKING MATE?
BABY JUST SAY YESSSSSS!!!!!!

if thats what you want, you re so damn right to say it. its her decision to either insult u or agree or diagree.

i know some guys that will ask straight away. i dont want anything serious just a night thing just define the relationship first so you don't hurt someone at the end of the day

joyblinks u dot have 2 worry i will ask 4 it in a good manner.
Even when i will ask u, u will say yes with a sweet smile on ur face.

joyblinks u dot have 2 worry i will ask 4 it in a good manner.
Even when i will ask u, u will say yes with a sweet smile on your face.

sorry i dont do 10yrs old. so try the next bustop.

joyblinks am not 10yrs am 20yrs, will u doing pls!!!!!
Am on my knees.

20yrs, from your pik, u look 10. still check the next stop sha

joyblinks have u seen my new profile pic, check it out.
It waz changed becos of u.

I prefer to lay the cards on the table. She knows what I want right away.

OP.
Ok sir!!!

@poster,I quite agree with u on dis. Defining the objective of a relationship from the outset is often times the best way.

bullshit!!!!!!!
it never works!!!!!!!!
how many girls wanna bleep on first sight,
sometimes it takes some getting used to, some liking and some mad chemistry to get it on,
all of this takes some time,
even if i no won lie,
i no fit just put am out gbam like dat now

Mr Orikinla,

This your approach would only work if you have already 'complexed' the girl with your 'levels'. Maybe your reputation precedes you: you are one of the rich hot boys in the neighbourhood; you are very good in bed as she has heard; your handsomeness/dress sense/charm/or whatever is a topic on the lips of her friends, neighbours, sisters or whatever. Or otherwise you are a desirable celebrity like some Tuface or Don Jazzy or whatever, or a 'chairman' who drives a posh ride and oozes wealth - and by implication, supreme confidence. Otherwise, NO GIRL would say "ok, I agree" when you walk up to her and say "Hi, my name is Orikinla. I like you, nothing serious though. I just want us to be f*u#k buddies. Just a one night stand, ok?" Get real my man.

Some things are better insinuated or hinted rather than said directly. True, you must hint that you want sex as soon as possible, otherwise she'd unconsciously assume you're not 'bad' enough and thus put you in the useless platonic zone. But trust me, if it is more than a hint (on the first day you 'toast' her), and if you are not some rich and super-desirable dude, she'd walk out on you or delete your number as soon as possible.

I tried it 15yrs ago with a naija babe and all I got was a laugh in my face.

I begin dey lie for am and that was actually when I got what I wanted.

some naija girls even think youre referring to them as sluts when you pull out a condom

Next.

kokoye:

I tried it 15yrs ago with a naija babe and all I got was a laugh in my face.

I begin dey lie for am and that was actually when I got what I wanted.

some naija girls even think youre referring to them as sluts when you pull out a condom


Next.

And I find this very puzzling. Infact I currently have one new catch that has twice refused to allow me penetrate because I refused to penetrate without a condom! She says me using a condom makes it look like she's a slut or that I don't take her seriously. Can you imagine that? Abi na set up?

@op not posible.

I tried it 15yrs ago with a naija babe and all I got was a laugh in my face.

I begin dey lie for am and that was actually when I got what I wanted.

some naija girls even think youre referring to them as sluts when you pull out a condom

Next.

y lie to her? if u no wire her u go die?

na she be the only girl wey dey nigeria?

if she says she dosent want to play, carry ur prik go find another babe wey go wan play

y lie to her? if u no wire her u go die?

na she be the only girl wey dey nigeria?

if she says she dosent want to play, carry your prik go find another babe wey go wan play

@joyblinks thats the very point!!!!!!!!
y shuldnt he lie to her or to be more correct y tell her the truth
the world of love and lust isnt fair, kind or ethical
we all play the game to our individual advantages
women want one thing, men want another thing thats most times diametrically opposed to each other
y shuld either sex get what he/she wants??
because its right or fair?
nah it dont work that way
nobody plays fair, even u women will use any means at ur disposal to get what u want
this game will always be about the survival of the fittest
and i m definitely gonna get mine,
even if i have to lie that the sky is falling down!!!!!!

@joyblinks thats the very point!!!!!!!!
y shuldnt he lie to her or to be more correct y tell her the truth
the world of love and lust isnt fair, kind or ethical
we all play the game to our individual advantages
women want one thing, men want another thing thats most times diametrically opposed to each other
y shuld either sex get what he/she wants??
because its right or fair?
nah it dont work that way
nobody plays fair, even u women will use any means at your disposal to get what u want
this game will always be about the survival of the fittest
and i m definitely gonna get mine,
even if i have to lie that the sky is falling down!!!!!!

Ok. na continue playing. u go meet ur type preety soon.

**seriously thinking about what to do wif this early morning hardon**

em, well Orikinala bravah, you've got a point there no doubt. But lil'boys don't try it at home o!!
You'll get a hot deafening slap! . . .hot enough to boil a cup of coffee!
"Hello gurl, I just wanna 4k you" indeeed!!

@ poster that ur theory will only work with girls that grew in this part of the world
any while be a no go zone for our naija ladies,and i believe you no why,but case
you don't know hw many naija chics you go tell say u just wan bleep am wey no
go first give u better slap,she go yarn u say make you go meet ya mama say na
ya mama be bleep and waka,what am trying to say is we naija's and african in
general never advance reach dat level wey you could just walk up to a chic and
yarn am frankly say wetin u want from am na just one night bleep or ongoinng
bleeping wey no go almost slap u for real,that will work for the kinda of people
with the status wey dat other poster mention(tuface,donjazzy)celebrities of big
boys in general,but when that king strategy go dey work well na when naija don
legalisze porn industry and people no send to the act porn movies wey everybody
go watch freely,but till then we can dream on for all i care.

Ok. na continue playing. u go meet your type preety soon

@joyblinks
na my type me i dey look for o,
no need for long thing at alll