Ladycewhy:
you are not truthful. the absence of alimony and child support has made it easy for Nigerian men to get away with being dead beats to crown it all ,our tradition of the bride's father collection bride price further enables this nasty behavior . All a Nigerian man has to do is varnish and wait for the day his children will come and look for him to collect bride price .

That's why I love my country o

jidamsel43:
Nigerian men are tired of wedding

Strange things happening in Nigeria these days

Men nowadays preferred to be baby daddies with no responsibility or emotional burden.

Imagine, you pay school fees, house rent, food allowance, wardrobe allowance, in-laws demands and other utility allowances only to find out that your wife is seeing another man. what a trauma and catastrophe

If u are a baby daddy u still pay rent, sch fees, wardrobe, utilities, car etc...

The down side is in all of thus the child still belongs to the woman's father

my sincere opinion. from what i know women are the most excited when it comes to marriages n weddings, but for this lady to gather the courage to make sure a difficult decision, i bet its a matter of life or death. marriage is good, but not when it involves ur life.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
Me sef fear marriage pass hell. The way men and women in marriage behave today is scary. The man will be sleeping with anything female while the woman will be sleeping with every available dick. Then they will fight and even kill each other over things lower animals will settle without stress.
This life eh, if you know what makes you happy, do it provides you don't deliberately hurt others. Marriage is a personal decision. Don't marry to make your parents happy or because your friends are getting married.
I only blame her for not tell the man earlier.

This is the only sensible thing any lady on this thread has said

Ladycewhy:
Isn't that what society wants? From cultural beliefs to religious beliefs ,it all geared towards staying in marriage at all cost even if you have to fake it, society will call the woman virtuous and the man responsible .

Is Divorce a better option. ?

sapphiere:
Most women would rather die single than marry most Nigerian men.

Babe, calm down...I know you’re doing this cos of the attitude of guys here on NL. But be careful so you don’t appear bitter like majority of those boys who make negative comments about ladies...

lielbree:

If u are a baby daddy u still pay rent, sch fees, wardrobe, utilities, car etc...

The down side is in all of thus the child still belongs to the woman's father

Wash

Ladycewhy:
Isn't that what society wants? From cultural beliefs to religious beliefs ,it all geared towards staying in marriage at all cost even if you have to fake it, society will call the woman virtuous and the man responsible .

If virtuousness means ruining the lives of the kids produced in a marriage, then it's not virtuousness. It's a pity

DragonFire433:


Is Divorce a better option. ?

Yes. Better divorced, than be unhappy. No woman go kill me for this life. Any woman wey gimme stress, I go japa

sapphiere:
Most women would rather die single than marry most Nigerian men.

The reason no pass money. Most nigerian ladies are oliver twixt. Dem want make we provide everything while they relax and enjoy. Economy no come smile so how we go do am na?

lielbree:

If u are a baby daddy u still pay rent, sch fees, wardrobe, utilities, car etc...

The down side is in all of thus the child still belongs to the woman's father

Does that child bear the name of the woman’s father. ?

Bros your pikin na your pikin. Forget that their stupid traditions. When the pikin grow up, he go find the Papa.

Especially when he has been a good father to that child even though he never married the mother.

So every baby daddy, take care of your responsibility and forget about useless and outdated traditions.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
So I o remain for papa house? I no go go out go find my destiny? Say person no marry no mean say she must remain for papa house. You know how Nigerian parents can carry marriage for head nah. If you are with them and single, na your name go be prayer point morning and night. They go even try to hook you up. Lol

it is a joy to them... But do you know this thing is natural instinct for parents to behave that way? Wait until you assume the role, you will find yourself doing same...

Ladycewhy:
Ask your mother,your grandmother even your female ancestors , they will tell you they stayed in their marriage because of their children. Apart from children ,there has never been use for Nigerian men ,go figure.


I challenge you to go take a survey yourself. It has never been because Nigerian men are all that, culture and religion is what has made the Nigerian woman put up with Nigerian men.

The only reason a man gets married is because of children and the commandements of God. You actually think any sensible that wants his peace of mind would ever want to live with you for the rest of his life?

What do you guys bring into a mans life sef? You come into Hus life and distance him from his friends and famillies because you want all attention and time for yourself. Then you bring loads of financial responsibilities to him too. No rest of mind for the man again. I can post my chats with several Nigerian ladies and friends. Its mostly about love, relationship and marriage. Nothing else is in your head. You always look for a man to tie down and destroy. You preach falling in love here and there. Any body that tries to talk bad about marriage, its always you womej that will attack him. But here you are living in denial and deliberately lieing to yourself to feel good like Nigerian men needs you? GTFOH.

We are better off with just sex. Every man just wants to have sex and move on. You want to tie him down. Now who needs who

Ladycewhy:
Ask your mother,your grandmother even your female ancestors , they will tell you they stayed in their marriage because of their children. Apart from children ,there has never been use for Nigerian men ,go figure.


I challenge you to go take a survey yourself. It has never been because Nigerian men are all that, culture and religion is what has made the Nigerian woman put up with Nigerian men.

So your father was so undesirable that your mom had to put up with him and according to you your mom was also so ugly that she stayed in marriage cos of children

ityP:



Yes. Better divorced, than be unhappy. No woman go kill me for this life. Any woman wey gimme stress, I go japa

I don’t agree with that.
And you would not meet a woman that would give you stress.

Shine your eyes, the signs are always there before marriage.

DragonFire433:


I don’t agree with that.
And you would not meet a woman that would give you stress.

Shine your eyes, the signs are always there before marriage.

Amen bro

ume1000:
So your father was so undesirable that your mom had to put up with him and according to you your mom was also so ugly that she stayed in marriage cos of children

I think same goes for your mother. it will be delusional fo you to think your mother is different.

ume1000:
So your father was so undesirable that your mom had to put up with him and according to you your mom was also so ugly that she stayed in marriage cos of children

ume1000:
So your father was so undesirable that your mom had to put up with him and according to you your mom was also so ugly that she stayed in marriage cos of children

Same goes for your mother. it will be delusional of you to think your mother is different.

tunjilana:



She probably has no stake in the expenses

That's just the logical conclusion.

Fourwinds:
it is a joy to them... But do you know this thing is natural instinct for parents to behave that way? Wait until you assume the role, you will find yourself doing same...

Gbamsolutely and Gbamxactly

Ladycewhy:
Ask your mother,your grandmother even your female ancestors , they will tell you they stayed in their marriage because of their children. Apart from children ,there has never been use for Nigerian men ,go figure.


I challenge you to go take a survey yourself. It has never been because Nigerian men are all that, culture and religion is what has made the Nigerian woman put up with Nigerian men.

Lies! Which woman stayed because of children?

They stayed due to the fear of poverty!

izzy4shizzy:


a wise man once said 'you don't live long enough to learn everything by experience, you also have to learn by other people's experiences' , now I didn't say all ladies, but the fact you are still biting into what I said is just a simple fact that the truth I speak affects you, cos in truth, if it doesn't, you would have understood what I meant,

for you not to acknowledge that a great number of women are the way, and attacking me for mentioning it proves you are one of them.

in any case, it's not your fault, it's part of the female DNA,

Yes, all that you have said affects me. It gets to me each time "boys" like you judge women wrongly. There is nothing to understand in all that you have said. It is not my fault that "boys" around you are all in dysfunctional relationships (or out of it). Do you 'boys" go about this woman hunt in brothels or what? Real men are out here acing it with good women. Let the scales of stereotypic ignorance fall off your eyes so you can enjoy this fate too

But then again, I have overflogged this issue with you, farewell! I totally forgot this is nairaland, where there exists a biased stereotype amongst women, a stereotype promoted by enthusiastic teenagers and boys.



Don't bother to air your opinion on this again. I will not reply.

Fourwinds:
it is a joy to them... But do you know this thing is natural instinct for parents to behave that way? Wait until you assume the role, you will find yourself doing same...

I know there are things we complain our parents do but we will do them even worst when we get to their stage. I was opporuned to have my grandma and my great grandma (that's grandma's mother) in the same house for one whole year. Granny will be complaining that her mom is stubborn while she's two times more stubborn than her mom.

That girl should be arrested for allowing him spend all to date only to embarrass him knowing fully well she's not going to marry him all along

Emaprince:
The only reason a man gets married is because of children and the commandements of God. You actually think any sensible that wants his peace of mind would ever want to live with you for the rest of his life?

What do you guys bring into a mans life sef? You come into Hus life and distance him from his friends and famillies because you want all attention and time for yourself. Then you bring loads of financial responsibilities to him too. No rest of mind for the man again. I can post my chats with several Nigerian ladies and friends. Its mostly about love, relationship and marriage. Nothing else is in your head. You always look for a man to tie down and destroy. You preach falling in love here and there. Any body that tries to talk bad about marriage, its always you womej that will attack him. But here you are living in denial and deliberately lieing to yourself to feel good like Nigerian men needs you? GTFOH.

We are better off with just sex. Every man just wants to have sex and move on. You want to tie him down. Now who needs who

I really don't know why ladies here are denying this. Men gain absolutely nothing from marriage but kids. The only reason a Nigerian man would stay put in a marriage is because of his kids. Apart from having kids, why the Bleep would I consider marriage?

ityP:



This is the only sensible thing any lady on this thread has said

Lol.

Emaprince:
The only reason a man gets married is because of children and the commandements of God. You actually think any sensible that wants his peace of mind would ever want to live with you for the rest of his life?

What do you guys bring into a mans life sef? You come into Hus life and distance him from his friends and famillies because you want all attention and time for yourself. Then you bring loads of financial responsibilities to him too. No rest of mind for the man again. I can post my chats with several Nigerian ladies and friends. Its mostly about love, relationship and marriage. Nothing else is in your head. You always look for a man to tie down and destroy. You preach falling in love here and there. Any body that tries to talk bad about marriage, its always you womej that will attack him. But here you are living in denial and deliberately lieing to yourself to feel good like Nigerian men needs you? GTFOH.

We are better off with just sex. Every man just wants to have sex and move on. You want to tie him down. Now who needs who

Men are just a means to an end.

You used the word "destroy" ,I am tempted to ask if this is born from personal issues. Let's hear your story .


Actually , Nigerian men are not my forte,they are the lowest of creatures out there,I am not living in denial. I have seen men from other races and creed ,the quality interms of enlightenment and refinement is low in that country called Nigeria.

chibuzorAbia:


Lies! Which woman stayed because of children?

They stayed due to the fear of poverty!

lol, says the inhabitant of the poverty capital of the world. Or you have not seen women who take care of their kids themselves? You have not seen women who despite being married are the breadwinners of their family ? You have not seen women who share bills with their husbands?

Olosho, oloshi