Most times when a marriage is in trouble, people tend to see their Marriage as a mistake rather than seeing the mistakes they are making in their marriage. At this point they regret marrying their wife or husband, begin to think of a new partner, imagine marrying their ex or fantasizing a marrriage without issues.

Some even divorce or remarry and later wish they had remained with their first Spouse, as they find greater trouble in the new spouse. This is because the first marriage was not a mistake, and the mistake has not been discovered yet.

So you can remarry as many times as you like, you will still experience problems in marrriage until you discover the mistakes you are making in your marrriage and correct them.

So divorce or separation is not a solution to consider when you are having problems with your marrriage.

When your car has a flat tyre, you do not abandon it, but change the tyre and move on.

When we have a headache, no matter how excruciating, we do not cut off the head but take care of the headache.

When a bulb blows out in the room we do not change the room or the house, we replace the bulb and light up the room.

When we have challenges at work, we do not refuse to go to work, we go there to solve the problems.

So when marriage has an issue, we don't have to try to change the spouse instead of changing the attitude that is creating the problem.

Most times when we see some couples enjoying their marriages and enjoying each other to the fullest, we admire and cherish them, but the opposite is seen in our own marriage. The reason is that some people have worked on their marriage by paying the necessary price and that is why they are enjoying the fruits of their labour. It is said, “The way you make your bed is the way you will lie on it”.

Your marriage is as good or as sweet as you make it. Some couples, because of the negative things they are seeing in their marriage, accuse each other of being responsible. They point accusing fingers at each other for being responsible. Some even say many bad things about their spouse, even calling him or her names; some think that marrying that man or that woman was a mistake.

It is not so, your marriage was not a mistake, but you are the mistake.

Your habit is the mistake
Your character is the mistake
Your manner, anger, unforgiveness, laziness, lack of love, lack of affection, lack of attention, impatience, bitterness, selfishness, ignorance, stinginess, not being considerate, infidelity and lovelessness are the mistakes.

Talking about bitterness. Some still dream of a marriage with their ex seeing your spouse as a stumbling block. Wake up to the smell of coffee. Be content with your spouse. That behavior is your mistake.

So get up now and build your marriage because it is not a mistake.
Divorce or separation are never options.....https://allsinglesandmarried..com/2020/09/if-your-woman-has-these-4-qualities-you.html

Comparing marriage with a car is a joke, as we all know there are many failed marriages out there... Many people get married due to factors such as MONEY or PRESSURE (family, religious or social) or DESPERATION (body clock etc) thus no matter how you try fixing these marriage, when they fail, you won't be able to, because THE FOUNDATIONS ARE FUKCED UP....and the best option is to divorce. Unless you have the proper foundation in marriage, there is no point in trying to fix any Union.

- If someone married you for money, and you ain't got money any longer, then there is NOTHING that can be fixed.
- if someone married you because they wanted to copy-copy the Joneses, and realized you were an evil abuser, then there is NOTHING that can be fixed
- if someone married you because of their pastors, but soon realized you are an untrustworthy/disrespectful/unfaithful/deceitful person, then there is NOTHING that can be fixed

Sadly, it's better to be alone than miserable in marriage, with an evil monster as a spouse. better for you (and your possible kids) to free yourself. People who stay married to these evil monsters are just desperate to hang on to nonsense image of happiness that isn't there, while implanting the wrong values into their children's brain... so that these kids can learn the wrong life values and continue the vicious failed circle.

MrBrownJay1:
Comparing marriage with a car is a joke, as we all know there are many failed marriages out there... Many people get married due to factors such as MONEY or PRESSURE (family, religious or social) or DESPERATION (body clock etc) thus no matter how you try fixing these marriage, when they fail, you won't be able to, because THE FOUNDATIONS ARE FUKCED UP....and the best option is to divorce. Unless you have the proper foundation in marriage, there is no point in trying to fix any Union.

- If someone married you for money, and you ain't got money any longer, then there is NOTHING that can be fixed.
- if someone married you because they wanted to copy-copy the Joneses, and realized you were an evil abuser, then there is NOTHING that can be fixed
- if someone married you because of their pastors, but soon realized you are an untrustworthy/disrespectful/unfaithful/deceitful person, then there is NOTHING that can be fixed

Sadly, it's better to be alone than miserable in marriage, with an evil monster as a spouse. better for you (and your possible kids) to free yourself. People who stay married to these evil monsters are just desperate to hang on to nonsense image of happiness that isn't there, while implanting the wrong values into their children's brain... so that these kids can learn the wrong life values and continue the vicious failed circle.

On point